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Do they work? What are people's experiences?
I, that is, my friend matched with someone on Bumble because her location was reasonably nearby.
But then she moved back to her native Argentina and we're stuck texting and video calling.
It's pretty rare that I find someone worth the effort, and even rarer someone thinks that I am. But I just can't see this being a fulfilling relationship for either of us. |
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As ex military and offen away for up to 6 months at a time I can vouch they most definitely can work
You both have to want to try and there are many ways to stay connected.
I used to letter write. So much nicer to do and to receive than a text or an email.
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I certainly wouldn't initiate a long distance arrangement.
If there's an established relationship and it's a temporary distance I'd be willing to give it a try in the interim for someone special.
But I'm a very tactile and present minded person. I would definitely struggle 💜 |
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I had a relationship with a Norwegian woman I met on holiday in Turkey.
She came over a few times and I went over there for a fortnight.
But not seeing each other for sometimes 3 months at a time was difficult. I never fucked around while we were an item.
That was really hard work, even though when we did see each other the sex was amazing.
In the end we had to call it quits but are still really good friends and video call each other a couple of times a week. |
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My late partner lived quite away from me but I saw him every week so no problem.
Couldn't be in a relationship where I didn't see someone for weeks on end No matter how wonderful they where it just wouldn't have worked for me.
Did know a married couple where he lived here and she lived in America and it worked for them |
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It can… I was seeing a guy who lived in America… and it went pretty well, he’d come over for a week or two, go home… come and stay for a bit…. Until he stopped wanting to go home and it all went to shit 😂
But if the dedication and want to see each other is there, it can very much work” |
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From personal experience I have found that it actually works a lot better if it’s an open relationship.
By this I obviously mean that both parties are aware and fully on board with having other sexual partners when you’re not together (and possibly when you are!)
This can help lessen the frustration that both of you can feel, especially if you’re able to openly discuss your adventures with each other |
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By *edSirenWoman 5 weeks ago
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Long distance relationships can work if you both are willing to make the effort. I was in one for 2 years. Eventually moved down here to be with him… it was only afterrrrrr I moved in with him it didn’t work 😂 but that took another year or 2 for us to figure out 🙈 |
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I wouldn't mind another long distance relationship, seeing each other most weekends.
Quality time together.
During the week, with life/work/household chores i find it hard to meet someone most evenings and I'm not looking to move in with someone.
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By *ucka39Man 5 weeks ago
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They can work it's all down to how much each other wants it to work and effort made. One of my relationship wasn't as far as yours but was in Scotland and ended up moving up lasted 5 years would've lasted longer but that was down to her drinking etc |
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They can definitely work but it can be difficult to cope with the lack of balance - the all or nothing.
My ex husband and I were both serving and we made it work. We stayed together through numerous deployments including him doing 2 years of 3 months at sea/a month at home.
S and I see each other most weeks. We manage the tough bit in between with regular video calls and by making plans to look forward to. Good communication helps too. |
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Nowadays some people actually get married and live in different countries. They visit each other and the (sometimes very long distance) doesn’t seem to be a problem.
My husband and I had a 2 year LTR in the early 2000s. It was a 12-hr flight if we wanted to see each other. We used to chat on ICQ or videocall on MSN Messenger and he’d read Harry Potter or Lord of The Rings to Me  but after a while we decided to get married, a relationship so far away wasn’t sustainable long term. The sorting out of visas etc was an absolute nightmare and the weather could be better but it’s been an okay 22 years for me in this here green and pleasant land.  |
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I’ve done it and it can be difficult when things are stressful and you just want to be there for each other, the key is keeping regular contact and with technology now it’s easy
Also made the time together better with the build up etc and appreciated each others company more
Don’t regret mine and I’d do it all again every time
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The only long distance relationship I had was when I was 18 and moved away for college leaving my boyfriend (who couldn't understand why I needed to go to college at all, clue to potential success of relationship right there 🤔) behind. It lasted two months I think.
We were young and it wouldn't have lasted anyway but I think if both people are serious about making it work and given the ease of communication nowadays it's possible. It wouldn't be for me though I like a partner to be physically present as well as emotionally and I think that's something to consider quite carefully |
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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I thought I was about to read about a couple separated by a 3 hour drive, not a UK/Argentina divide 😬
I've had long-distance relationships where we saw each other once a fortnight. It's tough at times, but manageable. I wouldn't be able to cope with less contact than that.
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A long distance relationship wouldn't be preferable but you can't help who you fall for. With a fwb I'm happy to wait longer to see people, but if I'm in a relationship I'd need once a month physical contact as a minimum I think. Anything less would be really hard and I'm not sure how happy I would be. |
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I remember having an important (at the time) relationship with someone in Milan. Then I would can could write letters up to three times a day. It filed an emotional hole or need in me at the time. Three decades later I have a close bond with someone abroad but not a closed relationship as it was then. For me, it cannot work. |
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By (user no longer on site) 5 weeks ago
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Most definitely can work.
If both people are willing there is no reason as to why it won't work.
If things were going great I'd even consider relocating..... |
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"Do they work? What are people's experiences?
I, that is, my friend matched with someone on Bumble because her location was reasonably nearby.
But then she moved back to her native Argentina and we're stuck texting and video calling.
It's pretty rare that I find someone worth the effort, and even rarer someone thinks that I am. But I just can't see this being a fulfilling relationship for either of us."
160 miles between us, we're together once a month, both have challenging careers, and family with health challenges. Add in each others respective hobbies, it can take a bit of working out.
Coming up for our 4 year anniversary and going strong.
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