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"I found someone hanging...What got me through that was I knew he was in a better place....He only exsisted he never lived life... I felt relief for him that he no longer had to deal with the daily life of being a drug addict... "luckily ive never came across a death through horrific trauma. people ive encountered are end of life/palliative care so are peacefull and pain free at the end. a friend of mine a few months found her husband had hung himself. blood everywhere as he had self harmed first she was screaming and hysterical.. was awful to witness that. will haunt her forever im sure  | |||
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"I found someone hanging...What got me through that was I knew he was in a better place....He only exsisted he never lived life... I felt relief for him that he no longer had to deal with the daily life of being a drug addict...
luckily ive never came across a death through horrific trauma. people ive encountered are end of life/palliative care so are peacefull and pain free at the end.
a friend of mine a few months found her husband had hung himself. blood everywhere as he had self harmed first she was screaming and hysterical.. was awful to witness that. will haunt her forever im sure "Thats awful!! I am lucky that I am able to detach myself from death in my profession..Its hard but I have to protect myself. I feel so sorry for your friend though.. | |||
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"I got too attached to a handful of terminally ill individuals, and when they eventually died, I was very upset. I moved away from working with the terminally ill afterwards. "Sorry but I'm curious why you moved away from this work when you helped so much with these persons last breaths of life. I learned "Detachment" & thought of it as I am honoured to help release a soul from this life into their next life. I left because of politics but I still work with releasing souls. | |||
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"I cannot look someone in his/her eyes and say "you will soon get better" etc., when deep down I know he/she will die, eventually. "If you had looked at it possibly in a different light, then you may have thought & felt differently about their death. Very complex subject. I'll leave it at that & wish the OP & everyone else a great day | |||
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"I believe in our society we don't talk about death enough, it's still a very taboo subject. It shouldn't be, it is one of the few guarantees in life. I found talking about the dead person helps. Remembering the good times, as well as the bad. I still think of those I have lost daily, I will never forget them, many of the played a part in the person I am today. Certainly my maternal Grandparents. I have pictures of them on my wall, but I've forgotten their voices, that makes me a little sad." When I have lost people I love I have found that remembering the good times has really helped as it can put a smile on my face...sometimes through the tears. As crazy as it may sound, the buffet after my Gran's funeral helped me massively as the people there were talking about things she had done (some from when she was much younger and some of the things she used to do that made us giggle) and it gave me something much nicer to think about than her passing. I do still get upset now, but try to focus on something good and it reminds me of her life not her death. As for detaching from death in work, I think you have to be able to if it is part of your job. I know I couldn't do it but I have a lot of respect for those that do x | |||
"My dad passed away recently then my grandad a week later, I don't think anything helps you through it. You find the strength from somewhere. My dads death hasn't hit me yet and I know it will one day, probably like a train. " Possibly not... 
My father had a good and long life and was very ill towards the end... His death was a small blessing, for him.... And twelve years on it has never "hit" me....  | |||
"a work collegue just experienced her first one and is really upset. i remember my first dead body and too found it difficult to deal with at the time. i have never lost a close family member and am dreading the time i do. when my grandma lost her first husband people would avoid talking to her and she said it made life harder to deal with as people were treading on eggshells. i too am never 100% sure what to say to family members and feel guilty for laughing about things for the rest of the day. i do care for the people i look after naturally but its different to losing a loved one. im now wondering if im cold because i can detach myself and not feel anything.. meh if you have experienced death of someone close what 'helped' if anything? Know exactly what your grandma feels.....I'm still here, I'm still alive,, I still me..... " | |||
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"I have seen death professionally and personally. I find the death of babies and children harder to deal with than those that have lived their life. It is the one given so treat others as you would like to be treated." I am completely with you on this.  | |||
"I have seen death professionally and personally. I find the death of babies and children harder to deal with than those that have lived their life. It is the one given so treat others as you would like to be treated.I am completely with you on this. "I also use Kubler-Ross for all change management. | |||
"I have seen death professionally and personally. I find the death of babies and children harder to deal with than those that have lived their life. It is the one given so treat others as you would like to be treated.I am completely with you on this.
I also use Kubler-Ross for all change management."Me, too - also in forming and reforming a team etc. So many quite practical applications in the "normal" world. And many people are so surprised to find that they are not the only ones going through some of the emotions, that the emotions do not neceesarily relate to loss through bereavement but also in situations like loss of a job through redundancy etc. | |||
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"I have seen death professionally and personally. I find the death of babies and children harder to deal with than those that have lived their life. It is the one given so treat others as you would like to be treated." Not everyone has lived their lives to a total fulfilment .even adults as young as 21 and 17 die young and their deaths to those who are important to them ate just as hard as a child or a baby as they struggle to Coe to terms with the injustice and loss of their life.i think back to when I lost my dad who never had the privilege of getting to the age of retirement before he died and got told by a professional at least he lived hits life .sometimes it's the journey you go on before the death and the illness that is the hardest whether that's for a child or an adult .i too deal with death in a professional and personal capacity but would never ever say this to some one . Knowing how it made me feel at the time when it was said to me.i think it's a very emotive subject and one that you can never find the right words to say to everyone.each person,each loss is different and the way it effects the individual is also very different .i think we should all remember that .i agree you should treat others as you would want to be treated .its a very differ cult subject indeed to put justice to on here and this forum .i sorry for everyone's loss who's posted on here .poppyxx | |||
"Death is something I deal with regularly in a professional capacity. I've had to tell people that they're going to die and inform families of a loved ones passing. I do try to make the effort to be with each of my patients when they die as I feel a little familiarity helps them and their family. Also, as a former serviceman, I've been responsible for the loss of lives in the line of duty. It was something that I never really thought about and still don't, with the exception of one..."  I take my hat off to you and I bet not many people considered this angle of loss.it was your duty and I don't know what else to say but I think as your post shows you are a very caring individual and although we all hope for peace it sometimes seems an impossible dream that we all hope could be a reality in the perfect world but it's not a reality at the moment and all we can do is hope it becomes one in the future .hope that doesn't sound too condescending as its not meant that way at all .its meant with all my heart .xx | |||
That's his way of coping with loss. | |||
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"I saw my mom in chapel of rest at the hospital and several times at visitation at the funeral home also saw my nan at the funeral home, wish I hadn't seen my husband at visitation as he looked awful. Was very shocked and was not happy at the funeral home for how he was presented (Law suit followed) " . Horrible seeing them in the funeral home ...all you want to do is shake them awake,,,the only thing they did wrong was his hair but he was in a coma and never got cut...I ended up doin it myself though the tears..... | |||
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