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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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warmer weather, school holidays approaching are people more likely to meet with kids at home or does swinging take a back burner??
i have noticed more messages from men that arent bothered my daughters at home. personally im against the idea.
are _iews changing on this or is it still a no no for the majority? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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usually from the posts during the school holidays wishing them away so as to let them get back to meeting, I think a lot don't meet during the off times.
they may not be happy about it, I do remember a complaint after just 2 days of the holidays.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely not.
In my _iew (and others are quite welcome to theirs) inviting strangers into your home for sex whilst children are sleep upstairs is morally and socially reprehensible.
Each to their own - I just wouldn't want to have any part of it. |
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I have met with one guy with my lad in bed. BUT I had met with him previously and we had more of an FB thing going on. My boys in a cot still tho and wouldn't be able to walk in and he never stayed the night. He also has kids so understood that if my lad woke ill or anything he'd have to go.
I get a lot of messages from people too who wouldn't be bothered by it. But there's no way id let a stranger in my house with my son here x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll confess, I did meet a lady at her home while the kids were sleeping.
I found I was on edge and unable to relax fully while I was there, so from then on it has to be a kiddy free play zone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely no way I'd have someone round when the kids are home. Only my bloke has been here once and I was home alone. I'm not that desperate for a shag with a stranger that I'd bring someone back to my kid's home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely not, I'd never meet anyone while their kids were about and I never meet while mine are about. I have had several potential meets say it doesn't bother them, but it bothers me so I don't meet them simples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends in the age of the kids I think and also what the kids like. Would they come downstairs if something was wrong or would they just shout down? I don't think there's anything wrong with meeting when kids are in bed Aslong as the parents think it'll be ok. As they know what there kids are like they are the only ones who could make an informed decision |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its not for me but if your kids are babies, then its up to the individual they arent going to get out of the cot and disturb you and if they wake up then you can go sort them out. Most people would be decent enough to leave if their was a problem id hope |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its not for me but if your kids are babies, then its up to the individual they arent going to get out of the cot and disturb you and if they wake up then you can go sort them out. Most people would be decent enough to leave if their was a problem id hope"
meant to say mine are adults, one has left home, one still here so if i was single wouldnt anyway |
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Got to say we have done it depends on which kids are at home . 2 eldest were out so we had a couple over for a social. Listening to music and chatting down stairs and the 2 youngest came downstairs wanting to watch a film(in our house watching a film means full surround sound the lot so has to be downstairs  ) any way so i said to the kids we're only listening to music and having a drink so we will get out the way and go up stairs. They didn't and wouldn't bother us and fun was had behind locked door  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I wouldn't
Even if doors can be locked, kids could still hear things!
How many times as a kid did you hear ur parents and they never knew as you never said anything?
Also strangers.. No thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A definite no from us. It's the reason we don't accomodate, youngest still being at home, and other so local likely to pop in at any time.
Wouldn't play with anyone with kids in the house, bad enough them finding mum and dad at it, but finding their parents with others would surely scar them for life  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No for a first meet, but if its a regular thing and you aren't getting your dungeon equipment out I think it'd be OK.
Does depend in the age of the kids too. |
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Huge no!!!!!! Sex is sex and if im that frustrated ill get myself off but my kids are paramount in my life!!! They r my first priority and I love having them around. Thy have "dad" access every other w/end so I have time for me then, but 12 days out of 14 meets r a nono.
I also wouldnt meet if others had kids there.
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For me personally the age of the children doesn't matter. Mine are 21 and 25 but I'm a hypocrite. I've raised my daughters to be "good girls", therefore having a succession of men heading in the direction of my bedroom would change my daughters perception of me...and I'm not going to do anything to cause that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't have anyone in my home where my kids are but guys do ask and don't seem to be bothered.....wont take a back burner cause of the hols but will as im working loads x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't have anyone in my home where my kids are but guys do ask and don't seem to be bothered.....wont take a back burner cause of the hols but will as im working loads x |
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I have met a couple of times when people's kids have been in. Sometimes I knew this beforehand and sometimes I found out afterwards.
To be honest the ones where I knew we're uncomfortable meets as I couldn't let go and be myself, I was listening out for noises etc and the one where I didn't know till after scared the life out of me!!
So now I wouldn't meet someone with their kids at home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Massive big no. I won't even accommodate from my family home never mind have a meet while my son is actually home. Won't make a difference to me during the school holidays as I'll be at work mostly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The parents will know if their children will be disturbed or not and we will trust their judgment. We have meet a couple of couples who's kids have been asleep upstairs one we repeatedly meet and have never been disturbed once.
It's actually a good reassurance to us to know that when it comes to our time to have kids it doesn't mean our sex lives need to stop |
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Def never meet when my daughter is at home and even during the day when she's at her dads I don't meet as he lives nearby!! It does make life difficult and often very frustrating especially with light nights too but she is always my priority!!
I think the only expection would be if a child was still in a cot and I was meeting a regular fb that I knew very well other than that its a complete no zone for me!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to meet with my kids at home... Now don't but only because my children are older now and can not guarantee that they would be asleep..
I however even before when I did have them over in the evenings, would only have people I knew well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a daughter of 22 and is home fro uni in a few wks and even at her age I still wont meet at home with her being here, I don't want her knowing what mummy is up to when she isn't around.
is that stupid |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely not!My eldest son once walked in on myself and my ex husband having sex and scribbled all the details in his school diary including diagrams.Extremely red faces all round!  |
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"Got to say we have done it depends on which kids are at home . 2 eldest were out so we had a couple over for a social. Listening to music and chatting down stairs and the 2 youngest came downstairs wanting to watch a film(in our house watching a film means full surround sound the lot so has to be downstairs ) any way so i said to the kids we're only listening to music and having a drink so we will get out the way and go up stairs. They didn't and wouldn't bother us and fun was had behind locked door "
Each to their own but ...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't feel comfortable going to someone's house where the little un's were in the house - regardless of age and how well they sleep. I don't want the night of my visit to be the one where timmy wets the bed and comes downstairs to find me at it with Daddy (or even Mummy & Daddy!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't feel comfortable going to someone's house where the little un's were in the house - regardless of age and how well they sleep. I don't want the night of my visit to be the one where timmy wets the bed and comes downstairs to find me at it with Daddy (or even Mummy & Daddy!) "
when I did do it my room is downstairs and locked.. and my children don't wake up.. as they have sleep disorders and are on medication... However now I have my 15 year old having old moved in with me I stopped as she isn't asleep till after 9.. and doesn't sleep through.
So not had anyone here now for a long time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Got to say we have done it depends on which kids are at home . 2 eldest were out so we had a couple over for a social. Listening to music and chatting down stairs and the 2 youngest came downstairs wanting to watch a film(in our house watching a film means full surround sound the lot so has to be downstairs ) any way so i said to the kids we're only listening to music and having a drink so we will get out the way and go up stairs. They didn't and wouldn't bother us and fun was had behind locked door
Each to their own but ... "
 Must admit that that was my thoughts too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had arranged to meet a guy at his place a few days in advance. on the day I asked him if he would make it easier for me and come to mine. After a few excuses and prying on my part it turned out his child would have been in bed whilst we played. Lucky escape for me |
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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago
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We wont meet if the kids are there but the amount of people that dont tell us is crazy its not till we get there and they say we need to keep the noise down the kids are in bed or if we are lucky they tell us we cant meet till after 9pm as little ......... will be asleep by then. Sorry i dont want some random child walking in on us doing adult things we wont meet if we know this and if we turn up and are then told we then walk no matter what. Its a good reason for meeting in clubs mainly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We were talking to a couple once who couldn't understand why we wouldn't meet for a drink with their kids in tow... 
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Good god, couldn't even think about doing a social with my kids in tow let alone anything else!!!! |
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ive met a couple who's young kids we're at home...i arrived after 10pm kids all sound asleep and they had bedroom in the attic with own bathroom etc..door at bottom of stairs and another at top so did feel quite relaxed and able to play x think it all depends on kids and circumstances x |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"Absolutely not.
In my _iew (and others are quite welcome to theirs) inviting strangers into your home for sex whilst children are sleep upstairs is morally and socially reprehensible.
Each to their own - I just wouldn't want to have any part of it."
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"I have a daughter of 22 and is home fro uni in a few wks and even at her age I still wont meet at home with her being here, I don't want her knowing what mummy is up to when she isn't around.
is that stupid"
No, as I'm the same! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I wouldn't. When I have my little man that's my time to be in dad mode. I would hate for him to see or hear something he shouldn't. At the moment its irrelevant as I either have him at mine (i live in a shared house) or I stay at his. |
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I am frequently telling men on here that I am NOT willing to 'just suck them off' downstairs whilst the kids are in bed. I also tell some that I am never free on a weekday evening yet they ask, and ask, and ask.... block button comes in way handy.
My partner of 18 months does come here when the kids are in bed but they know him. Even so, we are very cautious, my room is on the top floor or if it's only an hour or so after they've gone to bed we will stay downstairs. I will even escort him to the bathroom to make sure no one else tries to go at same time. Although they do know him I still don't want them walking in on him in the bathroom lol. |
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"I am frequently telling men on here that I am NOT willing to 'just suck them off' downstairs whilst the kids are in bed. I also tell some that I am never free on a weekday evening yet they ask, and ask, and ask.... block button comes in way handy.
My partner of 18 months does come here when the kids are in bed but they know him. Even so, we are very cautious, my room is on the top floor or if it's only an hour or so after they've gone to bed we will stay downstairs. I will even escort him to the bathroom to make sure no one else tries to go at same time. Although they do know him I still don't want them walking in on him in the bathroom lol."
A lock maybe? (higher than they can reach) |
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"It would be a no from me
I wouldn't meet if there were any other adults in the house let alone kids"
One man thought I was strange because I didn't want to meet him in his home as he shared with four other men who would be there! |
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"And those that do shame on you "
having children does not stop you having fun at home whether it is on your own or having some friends over as long as you know your kids are safe and sound asleep or won't bother you at all.
We know some people and not swingers that don't even have sex when the kids are about in case they are heard let alone get caught in the action. we have on just a couple of occasions had people round while the kids are in bed or even watching a film down stairs. But until you know the circumstances .what the kids are like how big the house is . If the kids are gonna bother you or not as we don't have needy kids there not knocking on our door every 5 minutes. We can go to bed in an afternoon and happily tell the kids we're off for a lie down bye won't hear a peep . As they love watching films playing on the xbox etc and love being in control of the tv remote.
Don't rant much but hey till you guys know the circumstances don't kid your selves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have played with kids in house before and i must say it just makes you uncomfortable and unable to perform  ....i have fb that come round but i have known them for years ect....so kids in house a big no no with strangers x |
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Of coarse every scenario is different and at the top of the list is making sure your kids are safe and not going to walk in on some thing that could scar them for life. But in some scenario.s it can happen with kids in the house and Im sure it does all the time. We would not and don't do it often and would prefer either the kids stopping out at granny.s or us going to some one else's house but we have had a couple of social.s at home and kids none the wiser |
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