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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends what each party looks for in their respective lives.
If one craves for companionship and intimacy all the time whereas the other prefers independence most of the time, then no.
IMHO.
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Ours used to be long distance (350 mile round trip) and it worked for us for about 15 months - we're now living together, engaged and enjoying life as a couple. It really does depend on what you want and whether you're willing to do the mileage. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a long distance relationship that lasted a month and a half... until I decided to leave everything behind and move to England for her 
I still don't know if the "long distance" part worked or not in the end :p |
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By * n zCouple
over a year ago
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There are some very good points.......there's nothing like that first hug when you see each other after nearly a fortnight.....and I always have a stupid smile on my face walking down his path, the neighbours must think I'm nuts lol 
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me, I'd find it hard, I like closeness and intimacy. When I was 17 my long term boyfriend moved away and we saw each other every other week, once a month I went up there and once a month he came to me. To begin with it was okay then gradually as we started to find things to fill our empty weekends we found we had grown apart and even our nightly phone call didn't feel the same so 6 months after he left we split. We're still friends now but I could never do another long distance relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me, I'd find it hard, I like closeness and intimacy. When I was 17 my long term boyfriend moved away and we saw each other every other week, once a month I went up there and once a month he came to me. To begin with it was okay then gradually as we started to find things to fill our empty weekends we found we had grown apart and even our nightly phone call didn't feel the same so 6 months after he left we split. We're still friends now but I could never do another long distance relationship."
The reason i've asked, i have been talking and seeing a girl from Texas in the USA for over 2 years now, shes just ended saying that she cant do the long distance bit, im really just try to understand her thinking if that makes sense |
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By * n zCouple
over a year ago
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"For me, I'd find it hard, I like closeness and intimacy. When I was 17 my long term boyfriend moved away and we saw each other every other week, once a month I went up there and once a month he came to me. To begin with it was okay then gradually as we started to find things to fill our empty weekends we found we had grown apart and even our nightly phone call didn't feel the same so 6 months after he left we split. We're still friends now but I could never do another long distance relationship.
The reason i've asked, i have been talking and seeing a girl from Texas in the USA for over 2 years now, shes just ended saying that she cant do the long distance bit, im really just try to understand her thinking if that makes sense "
Sorry to hear that.......
I guess we all have our limits, how often did you see her?
I personally couldn't cope with seeing my OH much less than I do now which is fortnightly.......also as much as I'm happy with the situation at the moment, I wouldn't want it to be this way forever, traveling 112 miles which takes 2 hours for the rest of my life does not appeal.
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My ex husband was a long distance.. He was in the US army and stationed in Germany. I was making trips to Germany every other weekend and my god it was expensive and bloody knackering....In the end I jacked in my job and moved out there. We got married sadly it never worked out but I would of kicked myself for not trying and would of been left with the what if's... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me, I'd find it hard, I like closeness and intimacy. When I was 17 my long term boyfriend moved away and we saw each other every other week, once a month I went up there and once a month he came to me. To begin with it was okay then gradually as we started to find things to fill our empty weekends we found we had grown apart and even our nightly phone call didn't feel the same so 6 months after he left we split. We're still friends now but I could never do another long distance relationship.
The reason i've asked, i have been talking and seeing a girl from Texas in the USA for over 2 years now, shes just ended saying that she cant do the long distance bit, im really just try to understand her thinking if that makes sense
Sorry to hear that.......
I guess we all have our limits, how often did you see her?
I personally couldn't cope with seeing my OH much less than I do now which is fortnightly.......also as much as I'm happy with the situation at the moment, I wouldn't want it to be this way forever, traveling 112 miles which takes 2 hours for the rest of my life does not appeal.
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Ive been over to see her about 3 times over the last 2 years, but we talked on Skype for hours on end every night, plus emailed each other, i really was just waiting for my house to sell(which it has now) and then i was going to move over there, i had a job lined up, and we had looked at houses over there  |
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"For me, I'd find it hard, I like closeness and intimacy. When I was 17 my long term boyfriend moved away and we saw each other every other week, once a month I went up there and once a month he came to me. To begin with it was okay then gradually as we started to find things to fill our empty weekends we found we had grown apart and even our nightly phone call didn't feel the same so 6 months after he left we split. We're still friends now but I could never do another long distance relationship."
Pretty much sums up what happened to me. I also found the 360 miles round trip tiring and expensive. |
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By * n zCouple
over a year ago
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"For me, I'd find it hard, I like closeness and intimacy. When I was 17 my long term boyfriend moved away and we saw each other every other week, once a month I went up there and once a month he came to me. To begin with it was okay then gradually as we started to find things to fill our empty weekends we found we had grown apart and even our nightly phone call didn't feel the same so 6 months after he left we split. We're still friends now but I could never do another long distance relationship.
The reason i've asked, i have been talking and seeing a girl from Texas in the USA for over 2 years now, shes just ended saying that she cant do the long distance bit, im really just try to understand her thinking if that makes sense
Sorry to hear that.......
I guess we all have our limits, how often did you see her?
I personally couldn't cope with seeing my OH much less than I do now which is fortnightly.......also as much as I'm happy with the situation at the moment, I wouldn't want it to be this way forever, traveling 112 miles which takes 2 hours for the rest of my life does not appeal.
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Ive been over to see her about 3 times over the last 2 years, but we talked on Skype for hours on end every night, plus emailed each other, i really was just waiting for my house to sell(which it has now) and then i was going to move over there, i had a job lined up, and we had looked at houses over there "
Awwwwww 
That's a shame, but better you know now I suppose rather than when you'd moved over........
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"For me, I'd find it hard, I like closeness and intimacy. When I was 17 my long term boyfriend moved away and we saw each other every other week, once a month I went up there and once a month he came to me. To begin with it was okay then gradually as we started to find things to fill our empty weekends we found we had grown apart and even our nightly phone call didn't feel the same so 6 months after he left we split. We're still friends now but I could never do another long distance relationship.
The reason i've asked, i have been talking and seeing a girl from Texas in the USA for over 2 years now, shes just ended saying that she cant do the long distance bit, im really just try to understand her thinking if that makes sense
Sorry to hear that.......
I guess we all have our limits, how often did you see her?
I personally couldn't cope with seeing my OH much less than I do now which is fortnightly.......also as much as I'm happy with the situation at the moment, I wouldn't want it to be this way forever, traveling 112 miles which takes 2 hours for the rest of my life does not appeal.
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Ive been over to see her about 3 times over the last 2 years, but we talked on Skype for hours on end every night, plus emailed each other, i really was just waiting for my house to sell(which it has now) and then i was going to move over there, i had a job lined up, and we had looked at houses over there "
Sorry hear things have ended but it sounds to me like the long distance thing actually worked for her and now you've sold your house, found a job and ready to move over there that she's got cold feet about an actual relationship. Either way it goes I hope things work out for you! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Ive been over to see her about 3 times over the last 2 years, but we talked on Skype for hours on end every night, plus emailed each other, i really was just waiting for my house to sell(which it has now) and then i was going to move over there, i had a job lined up, and we had looked at houses over there "
Sorry hear things have ended but it sounds to me like the long distance thing actually worked for her and now you've sold your house, found a job and ready to move over there that she's got cold feet about an actual relationship. Either way it goes I hope things work out for you!
I think you could well be right, im just at a loss to think why ythough, and thank you xx |
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"Ive been over to see her about 3 times over the last 2 years, but we talked on Skype for hours on end every night, plus emailed each other, i really was just waiting for my house to sell(which it has now) and then i was going to move over there, i had a job lined up, and we had looked at houses over there "
Sorry hear things have ended but it sounds to me like the long distance thing actually worked for her and now you've sold your house, found a job and ready to move over there that she's got cold feet about an actual relationship. Either way it goes I hope things work out for you!
I think you could well be right, im just at a loss to think why ythough, and thank you xx"
I have friends in America, one them met a guy from England via the forums that we used to use, he went to see her, they got on great, he carried on going over about every 4 months. She came to meet his family, he sold up, moved to america and they have been married it was two years in April.
Im in a semi long distance relationship and it suits us perfectly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I may have interrupted it wrongly, however, based on the OP's description of the "relationship", it sounded a bit one-sided to me, in that it appears to me that the OP had been doing all the running.
I too suspect she is having cold feet and could not face up to a proper full time relationship myself.
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"They sure can xx"
I agree ...it's not always easy when life gets in the way, one cannot just paper over the cracks...( excuse the pun)...........it can push any relationship to the limit...... But as they say absence makes the heart grow fonder and it can be good to have ones independence too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why dont you ask her instead of asking us?
If you were in a relationship with her for 2 years when did you start swinging and did she know?or was that how you both met?
sorry but just a few thoughts too
I was in a long term relationship for 5 years,supporting him in everything.....when i needed him the most at the loss of my mum he decided that was his time to go |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why dont you ask her instead of asking us?
If you were in a relationship with her for 2 years when did you start swinging and did she know?or was that how you both met?
sorry but just a few thoughts too
I was in a long term relationship for 5 years,supporting him in everything.....when i needed him the most at the loss of my mum he decided that was his time to go "
I have asked her and she has given me an excuse,
And i started swinging when i split up from my wife.
And yes she knew that i met people, as we had needs she was free to meet as well.
The reason i asked was for thoughts on it, and tbh did you read the post properly |
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