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What style of humour do you enjoy most? On the forums, when you're flirting, various other situations etc...
Could someone's sense of humour make them less attractive? "
I can't explain it exactly but it's more taking the piss out of each other and sarcasm, with some flirting thrown in. It's just when you know you get them and they get you. That's such a turn on for me. And quite difficult to find especially initially in messages. It's like when you know, you know and it's so hot because you know whatever happens in the bedroom will be fun  |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 2 days ago
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The vast majority of my friends are comedians, professional and aspiring to be so. Most are male and very very under fucked. Most would argue that if it were easy to laugh someone into bed, they'd be a lot happier in life  |
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I definitely think if there was at least some attraction in the first place a great sense of humour can mate someone far more attractive I guess it can also go the other way too especially in person. Online I think it's harder as the written word can be often be misinterpreted from what it's actual intent was in the first place as you lack the context and signals you get in person. |
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I could be.
But probably by a specific type of humour. Like the kind that does meme references and that roasts a little bit. The kind of humour that is dark in a specific way because you know the person isn’t that? Like a bi babe taking the piss out of bi babes. Taking the piss out of yourself but not in a self hatred way.
I’ve met like 2/3 women like that in my life. One is my fiancé. If I am attracted to someone humour helps. If I’m not really attracted to them, humour still helps. |
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"could you be?
What style of humour do you enjoy most? On the forums, when you're flirting, various other situations etc...
Could someone's sense of humour make them less attractive?
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Absolutely, sense of humour is very important to me. I've been put off people I find physically attractive when I've discovered they just don't have any sense of humour or it is just drastically different to mine. And I've found my attraction to other people drastically increase when I've discovered we have a similar sense of humour.
Personality and humour is a big important factor in attraction to me. I have a very dark sense of humour (black comedy is my favourite) and I'm also a sarcastic bitch at times (my bratty side coming out a bit). I like people who get me and match my energy in that regard. I love people with quick wit. If you can't handle a bit of back and forth then I'm not interested, sorry. I am more than happy to be roasted back, I quote enjoy the challenge |
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"could you be?
What style of humour do you enjoy most? On the forums, when you're flirting, various other situations etc...
Could someone's sense of humour make them less attractive? "
I 100% can be laughed into bed: a similar sense of humour to me is one of my top requirements and a key part of me being attracted to someone. If that isn't there, I'm not likely to want to fuck them.
I'm part gentle piss-taker, part surrealist, part satirist, part sarcastic, part observational. I'm not into physical humour/slapstick, unless there's something incredibly clever behind it, or dad jokes. |
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"could you be?
What style of humour do you enjoy most? On the forums, when you're flirting, various other situations etc...
Could someone's sense of humour make them less attractive? "
I like original wit, sarcasm and observational humour. I can't be laughed in to bed, I either find you attractive or I don't and having a sense of humour that coincides with mine won't change that. However if someone's humour relies on them putting other people down, being spiteful or nasty them they can go from very attractive to deeply unattractive in a couple of sentences |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 days ago
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"I can't explain it exactly but it's more taking the piss out of each other and sarcasm, with some flirting thrown in. It's just when you know you get them and they get you. That's such a turn on for me. And quite difficult to find especially initially in messages. It's like when you know, you know and it's so hot because you know whatever happens in the bedroom will be fun "
You have explained it perfectly. It ties in with the feeling seen motif of the fora over the last few days; someone knowing you well enough to take the pee can be sexy.
It's an element of ease with them, being relaxed which can quite easily translate to the bedroom. |
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Could someone's sense of humour make them less attractive? "
Oh absolutely!!
Give me the diamond geezer full of banter and I’ll be drier than the Sahara in no time!
I like some humour but not when it is all that defines the person. Especially humour here which has taken me nearly 22 years to …. More or less understand. |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 days ago
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"Could someone's sense of humour make them less attractive?
I see this all the time.
Hard times. 
Don't worry. It's Bounderby ok in the end."
Ha, brilliant. Can I transfuse your sense of humour in to another? Thanks. |
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"Could someone's sense of humour make them less attractive?
I see this all the time.
Hard times.
Don't worry. It's Bounderby ok in the end.
Ha, brilliant. Can I transfuse your sense of humour in to another? Thanks."
Of course. I have no use for it. |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 days ago
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"The vast majority of my friends are comedians, professional and aspiring to be so. Most are male and very very under fucked. Most would argue that if it were easy to laugh someone into bed, they'd be a lot happier in life "
Ohhhh that's gosh.  I can see that some male comedians would do very well and not be underfucked... need a bit more than humour, possibly. |
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If I thought someone was stunning in their pics, and we got chatting and she turned out to humourless, or had a sense of humour I just couldn't get on with, I wouldn't be trying to meet her.
Whereas if I'm vaguely attracted to someone, and she turns out to be witty, amusing, and our sense of humours click, I will pursue her like Arnie pursued that woman in that classic 80s romcom, The Terminator |
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Not sure if I could be, but I think having a sense of humour is overrated. I think being able to connect with someone is more important and that doesn't necessarily require humour. You just need things in common |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 days ago
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"... Online I think it's harder as the written word can be often be misinterpreted from what it's actual intent was in the first place as you lack the context and signals you get in person."
Oh, 100%. You can think someone is a bit of a throbber and then when you meet them in person you realise that this fully fleshed out forum user is actually kind of funny. Not as awful as you once thought.
Humour is such a subjective thing anyway, there's never going to be a display of it that appeals to everyone. |
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SexyScientist has pretty much said what I wanted to say. Someone becomes infinitely more attractive to me if their humour is compatible with mine. If they have a lovely singing voice, too, then I'm looking at wedding dresses. |
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"Not sure if I could be, but I think having a sense of humour is overrated. I think being able to connect with someone is more important and that doesn't necessarily require humour. You just need things in common"
I find those little moments of shared jokes quite bonding, in platonic relationships, too. |
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Yes dark satirical/sarcastic humour with dry delivery.
Sharp with a trace of playfulness.
Eva Green in Casino Royale. A pretty solid example of humour that draws me in.
It doesn't have to be quite so English RP though, it's the essence; not the wrapper, that counts. |
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"Not sure if I could be, but I think having a sense of humour is overrated. I think being able to connect with someone is more important and that doesn't necessarily require humour. You just need things in common
I find those little moments of shared jokes quite bonding, in platonic relationships, too."
I agree, I just think humour is not as important to me as other characteristics. Thinking of my friends who are the wittiest, they are also quite distant whilst the ones I'm closest to are not necessarily wickedly funny. |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 days ago
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"Yesss. I’ve never had sex with someone based on physical attraction alone but I’ve been laughed into bed a lot. Humour makes someone attractive "
Enhances their attractiveness. Yeah it's another factor of how compatible you are isn't it? Are there people who you've been turned off of when you realise the humour wasn't *quite* there? |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 days ago
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"I could be.
But probably by a specific type of humour. Like the kind that does meme references and that roasts a little bit. The kind of humour that is dark in a specific way because you know the person isn’t that? Like a bi babe taking the piss out of bi babes. Taking the piss out of yourself but not in a self hatred way.
I’ve met like 2/3 women like that in my life. One is my fiancé. If I am attracted to someone humour helps. If I’m not really attracted to them, humour still helps. "
Are meme references very important to your generation?
Yes, being able to laugh at yourself is hot, realising how ridiculous you are and other people. I do quite like that ability in another. |
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Some people are naturally funny. They just are. I have a basic sense of humour but a few people on here make me laugh.
What puts me off is people trying to be funny when their not. Usually at someone else's expense |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 days ago
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" Absolutely, sense of humour is very important to me. I've been put off people I find physically attractive when I've discovered they just don't have any sense of humour or it is just drastically different to mine. And I've found my attraction to other people drastically increase when I've discovered we have a similar sense of humour.
Personality and humour is a big important factor in attraction to me. I have a very dark sense of humour (black comedy is my favourite) and I'm also a sarcastic bitch at times (my bratty side coming out a bit). I like people who get me and match my energy in that regard. I love people with quick wit. If you can't handle a bit of back and forth then I'm not interested, sorry. I am more than happy to be roasted back, I quote enjoy the challenge "
Quick wit is brilliant isn't it? Not the kind of puerile, juvenile but the genuine brilliance some have with clever wordplay. I like those people.
And yes to the roasting! It's wonderful when people can give as good as they get get and they're just... I don't know. People rarely challenge me and I have a lot of respect for when they do.
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Humour can be many things, it shows an ability to look at things in a different way, which is quite handy to help you through life. It can also mean someone is quick to think - again a transferable skill as the CVs would put it.
There’s also the fundamental part of when we laugh we’re happy, and who doesn’t want to be with someone that does that?
On here if you’re trying some daring new move and it goes wrong, the ability to laugh about it together means you’re more likely to go out on a limb with something else; you’ve been made to feel safe if anything goes wrong.
It’s not for everyone and there are other attributes that need to be in place too, but I’ve never been with someone and thought “I wish I didn’t laugh as much” |
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I think someone •lacking• in sense of humour would probably detract me from any form of intimacy, as opposed to their humourous nature driving me to their bed.
Stoicism and solemnity aren't constituents for passion...for me. |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 days ago
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"could you be?
What style of humour do you enjoy most? On the forums, when you're flirting, various other situations etc...
Could someone's sense of humour make them less attractive?
I like original wit, sarcasm and observational humour. I can't be laughed in to bed, I either find you attractive or I don't and having a sense of humour that coincides with mine won't change that. However if someone's humour relies on them putting other people down, being spiteful or nasty them they can go from very attractive to deeply unattractive in a couple of sentences"
That's a good point, sometimes it can be just.... unnecessarily cruel. That's not attractive. There's a difference between friends/people who know each other taking the mick in a caring way to someone being a bit of a throbber.
Observational humour is brilliant but it's not something you read on the forums very much any more, is it? |
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By *eli OP Woman 2 days ago
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"I think on Forum people tend to 'laugh' at who they're already attracted to rather than the other way round. The mythical 'spat my coffee out' moments. In real life wit is a winner.  "
Yeah that's definitely true - one person could say something and it's shock horror (faux) outrage, someone they're attracted to? Oh they're such a witty studmuffin. And with at least one of these bad boys - . |
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"I could be.
But probably by a specific type of humour. Like the kind that does meme references and that roasts a little bit. The kind of humour that is dark in a specific way because you know the person isn’t that? Like a bi babe taking the piss out of bi babes. Taking the piss out of yourself but not in a self hatred way.
I’ve met like 2/3 women like that in my life. One is my fiancé. If I am attracted to someone humour helps. If I’m not really attracted to them, humour still helps.
Are meme references very important to your generation?
Yes, being able to laugh at yourself is hot, realising how ridiculous you are and other people. I do quite like that ability in another."
Probably. I’m technically Gen Z. But I mostly reference older cultural things like things from vine for example.
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Humour is part of it, you want someone who understands you're joking. On the other hand, there's people who are just so uptight, they can't bear listening to a joke. No matter how good looking she may be, give me a reasonable girl with a sense of humour. |
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Could someone's sense of humour make them less attractive? "
I have definitely received "feedback" stating that my jokes,puns and sexual innuendos "ruined the mood", "made them uncomfortable" and "was definitely inappropriate for a funeral".
But then again, I don't like people whose humour is not at least a couple shades of dark. |
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Could someone's sense of humour make them less attractive?
I have definitely received "feedback" stating that my jokes,puns and sexual innuendos "ruined the mood", "made them uncomfortable" and "was definitely inappropriate for a funeral".
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Someone I can be silly with, someone I can do that quickfire witty sparring with, someone who punctures my occasional navel gazing tendencies with humour - all attractive qualities, but rarely enough in themselves to make us compatible.
Mrs TMN x |
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By *batMan 2 days ago
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I think my humour is one of my "selling points."
I work in a customer facing job and my feedback often contains references to my use of humour. I'm petty sure it makes me more attractive, but it's only part way to getting someone into bed! There's a few more steps after that!!!
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I could be really attracted to someone physically but without the sense of humour I am quickly turned off so yes, humour/personality absolutely will get me into bed. However not alone; for me there needs to be other factors alongside it too like some physical attraction and flirting to build arousal/desire before you meet. |
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"I could be really attracted to someone physically but without the sense of humour I am quickly turned off so yes, humour/personality absolutely will get me into bed. However not alone; for me there needs to be other factors alongside it too like some physical attraction and flirting to build arousal/desire before you meet."
Gat ya coat luv, you've pulled. |
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"The vast majority of my friends are comedians, professional and aspiring to be so. Most are male and very very under fucked. Most would argue that if it were easy to laugh someone into bed, they'd be a lot happier in life "
I often feel that a stage presence type person leaves me unsure if they are serious about wanting something more than just an audience. I’d hate to move on a feeling and then be shot down and roasted. |
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I don't know what I would consider to be funny enough to be laughed into bed. Any sense of humour that involves punching down unironically would turn me off. It's more than someone's sense of humour though, it's their whole personality; how easy they are to talk to especially that gets me into bed. Their humour is just one aspect. |
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"It doesn't have to be quite so English RP though, it's the essence; not the wrapper, that counts.
No, Hans, no. It should be always be in English RP; life is far better in RP. 🩷"
Alas, so many turn out to be all fur coat and no knickers.
There is of course the occasional exception to prove the rule. |
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