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"What do you need from them to maintain that interest? 
More than one line replies when I've chatted their arses off.
Put your dick away and just chat.
Read my profile.
Yeah the bar is that low."
No I hear it though.
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"The next meet in the diary. And some chat in between to maintain the connection, both vanilla and not  "
I love someone that commits to the next date.
Iām starting to think that the reason people donāt commit to the next date is because they didnāt like the first one  |
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"Mutual interest. Excitement to see each other. I don't need daily chat but I do need to feel sure it's mutual.
If I start to question that, I'm out .
Matched effort and energy is sexy."
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"What do you need from them to maintain that interest?
More than one line replies when I've chatted their arses off.
Put your dick away and just chat.
Read my profile.
Yeah the bar is that low."
interesting i could say the same (except the put your dick away bit i dont get those pics lol ) when chatting to some ladies/couples.. i chat away they say yes, no, maybe,..i give up after a while |
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By *eliWomanĀ 2 days ago
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Oh I couldn't like like someone without knowing them really well.
Let's just go with fancying them because it's what most are talking about.
What's required to maintain interest? Actual genuine interest in me as a person. Not being a throbber. I don't want daily missives but if I'm putting in all the energy? So bored.
Reciprocated desire is my happy place.
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"Oh I couldn't like like someone without knowing them really well.
Let's just go with fancying them because it's what most are talking about.
What's required to maintain interest? Actual genuine interest in me as a person. Not being a throbber. I don't want daily missives but if I'm putting in all the energy? So bored.
Reciprocated desire is my happy place.
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"The next meet in the diary. And some chat in between to maintain the connection, both vanilla and not
I love someone that commits to the next date.
Iām starting to think that the reason people donāt commit to the next date is because they didnāt like the first one "
That's exactly what I think! Next date in the diary within 24 hours or GTFO. |
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"The next meet in the diary. And some chat in between to maintain the connection, both vanilla and not
I love someone that commits to the next date.
Iām starting to think that the reason people donāt commit to the next date is because they didnāt like the first one "
I do like people that have their calendar shit together!
Once you both have the headspace and decide you want to meet , then meet & then put one or two future dates diary, even if you donāt know exactly what youāre going to be doing on them.
Most people can do this if they want to, regardless of how busy with their lives are. |
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"The next meet in the diary. And some chat in between to maintain the connection, both vanilla and not
I love someone that commits to the next date.
Iām starting to think that the reason people donāt commit to the next date is because they didnāt like the first one
That's exactly what I think! Next date in the diary within 24 hours or GTFO."
On my poly podcast they were actually saying when youāre with someone is one of the best times to book in dates for next time. Iāve tried to bear in mind that when youāre still high from seeing someone is best |
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"The next meet in the diary. And some chat in between to maintain the connection, both vanilla and not
I love someone that commits to the next date.
Iām starting to think that the reason people donāt commit to the next date is because they didnāt like the first one
I do like people that have their calendar shit together!
Once you both have the headspace and decide you want to meet , then meet & then put one or two future dates diary, even if you donāt know exactly what youāre going to be doing on them.
Most people can do this if they want to, regardless of how busy with their lives are."
Yeah people can. I have a busy life- I know what dates I can give and what ones I canāt give. |
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"Engaging conversation, flirtiness leading into talking a bit filthy, reassurances that they actually like me...  "
I like reassurance. Itās important for me to find people who are ok with reassuring me without it being a burden or hassle to them. |
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By *eliWomanĀ 2 days ago
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"The next meet in the diary. And some chat in between to maintain the connection, both vanilla and not
I love someone that commits to the next date.
Iām starting to think that the reason people donāt commit to the next date is because they didnāt like the first one
That's exactly what I think! Next date in the diary within 24 hours or GTFO.
On my poly podcast they were actually saying when youāre with someone is one of the best times to book in dates for next time. Iāve tried to bear in mind that when youāre still high from seeing someone is best "
It's a great time but also... people can be busy. I suppose it depends on how invested they are. How much free time they have. I've been in a relationship before where they're prioritised fuck buddies before me, cancelled things last minute to see fbs etc... if someone doesn't want to make the time to see me, I don't need to give them headspace. |
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"The next meet in the diary. And some chat in between to maintain the connection, both vanilla and not
I love someone that commits to the next date.
Iām starting to think that the reason people donāt commit to the next date is because they didnāt like the first one
That's exactly what I think! Next date in the diary within 24 hours or GTFO.
On my poly podcast they were actually saying when youāre with someone is one of the best times to book in dates for next time. Iāve tried to bear in mind that when youāre still high from seeing someone is best
It's a great time but also... people can be busy. I suppose it depends on how invested they are. How much free time they have. I've been in a relationship before where they're prioritised fuck buddies before me, cancelled things last minute to see fbs etc... if someone doesn't want to make the time to see me, I don't need to give them headspace. "
People are busy. I think thereās a difference between being busy but organised and not. Checking calendars and suggesting some dates when youāre free - whether far into the future or next week is good. Better than leaving it as not having anything. It reflects value theyāre placing on your company imo. Like your example suggests. |
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"The next meet in the diary. And some chat in between to maintain the connection, both vanilla and not
I love someone that commits to the next date.
Iām starting to think that the reason people donāt commit to the next date is because they didnāt like the first one
That's exactly what I think! Next date in the diary within 24 hours or GTFO.
On my poly podcast they were actually saying when youāre with someone is one of the best times to book in dates for next time. Iāve tried to bear in mind that when youāre still high from seeing someone is best
It's a great time but also... people can be busy. I suppose it depends on how invested they are. How much free time they have. I've been in a relationship before where they're prioritised fuck buddies before me, cancelled things last minute to see fbs etc... if someone doesn't want to make the time to see me, I don't need to give them headspace.
People are busy. I think thereās a difference between being busy but organised and not. Checking calendars and suggesting some dates when youāre free - whether far into the future or next week is good. Better than leaving it as not having anything. It reflects value theyāre placing on your company imo. Like your example suggests. "
This is why I have a poly-classic shared calendar that I keep up to date; I'm busy, but I always know when my free dates are. I never let one of my partners leave my house before arranging our next meet, because he's terribly organised |
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"The next meet in the diary. And some chat in between to maintain the connection, both vanilla and not
I love someone that commits to the next date.
Iām starting to think that the reason people donāt commit to the next date is because they didnāt like the first one
That's exactly what I think! Next date in the diary within 24 hours or GTFO.
On my poly podcast they were actually saying when youāre with someone is one of the best times to book in dates for next time. Iāve tried to bear in mind that when youāre still high from seeing someone is best
It's a great time but also... people can be busy. I suppose it depends on how invested they are. How much free time they have. I've been in a relationship before where they're prioritised fuck buddies before me, cancelled things last minute to see fbs etc... if someone doesn't want to make the time to see me, I don't need to give them headspace.
People are busy. I think thereās a difference between being busy but organised and not. Checking calendars and suggesting some dates when youāre free - whether far into the future or next week is good. Better than leaving it as not having anything. It reflects value theyāre placing on your company imo. Like your example suggests. "
Itās a very good approach, not just for on here for nurturing all relationships, family, friends lovers. Calendar is a powerful tool for building solid relationships, but also managing some more tricky relationships like family members you can decide upfront how many times a year you are prepared to see them |
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"Engaging conversation, flirtiness leading into talking a bit filthy, reassurances that they actually like me...
I like reassurance. Itās important for me to find people who are ok with reassuring me without it being a burden or hassle to them. "
I think that's it. A bit of reassurance without it looking like I'm too needy š
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Ā Ā Ā I love it when I just go š¤© š¤¤ š from looking at them. So in that case, just existing keeps my interest.
However, if/once the switch has been turned off, it will be impossible to turn it back on. Words and the tone they are said are a big deal for me. So if the wrong thing is saidā¦I just go off. No drama, I just donāt interact anymore. |
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"What do you need from them to maintain that interest?
More than one line replies when I've chatted their arses off.
Put your dick away and just chat.
Read my profile.
Yeah the bar is that low.
interesting i could say the same (except the put your dick away bit i dont get those pics lol ) when chatting to some ladies/couples.. i chat away they say yes, no, maybe,..i give up after a while "
It's the three word replies that get me.
"What you into" - 3 paragraphs - "that's cool, horny?" - not really, you've only said 3 words to me - "meet today, yes?" - no (delete) |
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Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Ā Good conversation, because once it feels like someone cba with me, I won't bother them again. Even if I want to. I like/need reassurance, but I won't push for it.
I need to still be able to look at them and feel that throbbing in my heart and pants š
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