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Hi folks of fab ...
Do u read people's veris and if u do how much of it do u believe?
If they are to be believed every guys a stud and every women is a porn star ...or do u just use them as a guide to prove their real ..
Thoughts ....x |
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I'll glance at them. Mostly to see if it's someone just looking for another notch. Each to their own and no judgement here but I'm looking for a regular thing.
So if I see a new veri every week, then we won't be looking for the same thing.
It's not like someone is going to be honest with a very if the sex is shit. Even if they did, the profile would just hide it |
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"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x"
No. Because people would use them untruthfully to smear against innocent people... |
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"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x"
That’s an interesting point, it could definitely be used as a weapon in a negative way but you can choose which verifications are published, a rating system would be more fair but would probably look ridiculous lol x |
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I like reading them. Generally when I'm looking it's to see if it goes beyond the usual "genuine guy, cheeky glint in his eye" type ones
I like the details, I want to know if he's a good kisser things like that and I like when it ends with wanting to see them again |
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By *sWyldWoman 2 days ago
Edinburgh |
Sometimes I read them, Sometimes I even click on the profile as the trail can be amusing.
However given you chose what you display, they aren't really worth much more than some indication the person is real. |
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I like to read the veris potential meets have left for others - I think you can tell a lot about them from what’s important enough for them to comment on, what they enjoyed and how they express themselves. |
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For me, content is irrelevant. I'm more interested in who wrote them.
I certainly don't take them at face value because I've seen glowing reviews given to some by people who just a few weeks earlier were discussing those same fabbers in private and telling me they were dangerous, hideous, fat, ugly, deranged and should have their kids taken away by social services.
It's all smoke and mirrors. |
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I always read them, particularly if I have an interest in potentially meeting the person. Not to assess their skills but just that they are real and genuine, and the type of people they have met before.
If I get a message off a guy who only has verifications off size 8 blonde models for instance it would put me off because I wouldn't understand why he was messaging me (it has happened). |
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"I always read them, particularly if I have an interest in potentially meeting the person. Not to assess their skills but just that they are real and genuine, and the type of people they have met before.
If I get a message off a guy who only has verifications off size 8 blonde models for instance it would put me off because I wouldn't understand why he was messaging me (it has happened). "
Yes this. Love a good nosey through verifications. And will avoid people that clearly have a "type" even if they say they don't.
I would take any generous praise on their skills with a pinch of salt. Its very subjective. |
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I enjoy reading verifications, and I enjoy writing them for others because I like to bestow praises and honorific platitudes to those I have met. I like the unconventional ones, injected with humour and quirky musings.
I enjoy reading the ones I've received and I'm also intrigued about the ones I didn't receive; they can be more telling. |
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"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x"
If i guy is pushy or didn't respect wishes, you use the report then block function. People like that don't belong here. |
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I'll probably read them because even if they are all positive, there might be something mentioned that isn't for me. I also just take a look to see what type of guy they would be into and whether or not I fit into that. |
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By *ripfillMan 2 days ago
Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant |
In my view, verifications are important in a number of ways it gives the reader an insight and feel. ( if they are authentic ) to the person,
It gives an opinion and perspective, but it also gives an acknowledgment to that person’s attitude, skills and to some extent their persona.
It’s good to read them, to build a picture, that includes their profile which can make a statement.
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I'm nosey so I like to read them.
I also like to see the type of person they usually meet up with.
I've hidden mine because someone took it up themselves to message people from my veris asking what I was like 🤢 |
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"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x"
Guys already get a rough time on here without shit verifications being left....probably wouldn't be very many guys left on the site if they had to be shown.....and who's to say that what was written was actually true??.
Would you like a bad verification shown on your profile OP?? |
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"I'm nosey so I like to read them.
I also like to see the type of person they usually meet up with.
I've hidden mine because someone took it up themselves to message people from my veris asking what I was like 🤢"
I've had that happen...or they've asked someone to message me because they couldn't....plus it's really no-ones business who I've met and what I've gotten up to with x |
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"I'm nosey so I like to read them.
I also like to see the type of person they usually meet up with.
I've hidden mine because someone took it up themselves to message people from my veris asking what I was like 🤢"
So when the police do it, it's gathering intel but when I do it, it's "creepy" and "invading boundaries"  |
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"I'm nosey so I like to read them.
I also like to see the type of person they usually meet up with.
I've hidden mine because someone took it up themselves to message people from my veris asking what I was like 🤢
I've had that happen...or they've asked someone to message me because they couldn't....plus it's really no-ones business who I've met and what I've gotten up to with x"
If veris are displayed then it's fair game, knock yourself out, read them.
Messaging people for a review of me feels a bit gross and weird. |
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"I'm nosey so I like to read them.
I also like to see the type of person they usually meet up with.
I've hidden mine because someone took it up themselves to message people from my veris asking what I was like 🤢
So when the police do it, it's gathering intel but when I do it, it's "creepy" and "invading boundaries" "
I'm onto you beans |
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"I'm nosey so I like to read them.
I also like to see the type of person they usually meet up with.
I've hidden mine because someone took it up themselves to message people from my veris asking what I was like 🤢
I've had that happen...or they've asked someone to message me because they couldn't....plus it's really no-ones business who I've met and what I've gotten up to with x
If veris are displayed then it's fair game, knock yourself out, read them.
Messaging people for a review of me feels a bit gross and weird."
They were swiftly blocked  |
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Am I the only one that takes a verification personally lol, I wait for one and feel nervous if they don’t write one straight away lol, I love to know what they enjoyed and what was memorable to them x |
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"I'm nosey so I like to read them.
I also like to see the type of person they usually meet up with.
I've hidden mine because someone took it up themselves to message people from my veris asking what I was like 🤢
So when the police do it, it's gathering intel but when I do it, it's "creepy" and "invading boundaries"
I'm onto you beans"
I wish you were  |
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"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x
That’s an interesting point, it could definitely be used as a weapon in a negative way but you can choose which verifications are published, a rating system would be more fair but would probably look ridiculous lol x"
5 stars. Would shag again.
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 1 day ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
Yes and I enjoy writing them, especially if the person has told me they're happy for me to make it silly, such as the lady whom I verified as being exactly as in her pics and nice to chat to, albeit plotting world domination through something particularly unlikely |
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"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x
Guys already get a rough time on here without shit verifications being left....probably wouldn't be very many guys left on the site if they had to be shown.....and who's to say that what was written was actually true??.
Would you like a bad verification shown on your profile OP??"
You think it's fine to be pushy or ignore boundaries? And do nothing... 
Those are the types of guys we supposedly want here? I don't think so... |
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"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x
Guys already get a rough time on here without shit verifications being left....probably wouldn't be very many guys left on the site if they had to be shown.....and who's to say that what was written was actually true??.
Would you like a bad verification shown on your profile OP??
You think it's fine to be pushy or ignore boundaries? And do nothing...
Those are the types of guys we supposedly want here? I don't think so..."
Where have I said it's fine??
Ofcourse guys like that shouldn't be on here but as I DID say....
How true do you know that verification is?
Could it be someone just trying to cause drama etc... |
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"Do u think bad veri should be shown ..as in if a women said a guy was pushy and didn't respect her wishes this would help or hinder people's thoughts on meeting that person x"
No I don't because as others have said it's too easily abused.
Over the years I've received a verification from someone I hadn't met and one from someone I passed in a hallway at a social who made it sound as though we had spent the night together.
Both of those were complete fabrications so if I have to display all verifications those would give a false impression.
I have also met people who turned out to be extremely nasty and vindictive after we had met. I had the option to hide their verifications because I didn't want anyone to know I had met them.
If all verifications had to be shown including negative ones, there would have been nothing stopping someone with an agenda from writing a follow up just because they didn't get their way the first time. They wouldn't be breaking fab rules because they had met in person, but the verification would be weaponised. |
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I believe it very generally. A pattern of verifications might indicate whether someone is polite, not pushy, etc. I don't look for sexual prowess, I don't look for specifics. (Although sometimes you also look for what's not said, in a pattern of verifications)
It's secondary to my own observations. |
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The problem with verifications is that if someone were to leave a bad one the receiver would just choose not to show it. Verifications are helpful but more a part of the bigger picture than the be all and end all |
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By *bi HaiveMan 24 hours ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Hi folks of fab ...
Do u read people's veris and if u do how much of it do u believe?
If they are to be believed every guys a stud and every women is a porn star ...or do u just use them as a guide to prove their real ..
Thoughts ....x"
I don't pay any heed to claims of sexual prowess. The people they've met aren't me and I'm not them - nothing that happened between them would reflect on any potential meet with me.
Veris are useful from several perspectives. They can confirm or contradict what's written on someone's profile in terms of clearly stated preferences, tastes and interests. They can back up claims to be as equally interested in the social side as the naked. They can often be hilarious, entertaining and boost your interest, whilst equally being cringeworthy, OTT and reinforce any notions that someone definitely isn't for you.
Add in other factors such as the length of time since the last one, the number of repeat veris and the genders they're from, and there's a lot of potentially useful info there.
Volume has never bothered me. Nobody knows when someone joined and if you think a veri summary is an accurate record of all of someone's sexual interactions in their life then I have a bridge to sell you. 😉😂 |
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Hi all, new to fab,
I see the benefits of them and the reads are great for extra ideas, but as an average single guy, trying to get those first few verifications from genuine women and couples is a struggle.
I think good photos also help, but to get good pictures and videos, you need meets, and you can’t get good meets without some nice verifications. If I was a company I could offer a good service at a good price to get the good reviews. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 6 hours ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Hi all, new to fab,
I see the benefits of them and the reads are great for extra ideas, but as an average single guy, trying to get those first few verifications from genuine women and couples is a struggle.
I think good photos also help, but to get good pictures and videos, you need meets, and you can’t get good meets without some nice verifications. If I was a company I could offer a good service at a good price to get the good reviews."
You don't need meets to get good pictures though.
Most women and couples probably prefer to see you, rather than those you've met in photos. Seeing an image where it's 90% a random woman and 10% the hand or dick of the profile owner isn't the best marketing strategy, trust me.
There's no end of creative ideas to take images of yourself. |
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"Hi all, new to fab,
I see the benefits of them and the reads are great for extra ideas, but as an average single guy, trying to get those first few verifications from genuine women and couples is a struggle.
I think good photos also help, but to get good pictures and videos, you need meets, and you can’t get good meets without some nice verifications. If I was a company I could offer a good service at a good price to get the good reviews."
Prop up your phone using a book or similar. Take lots of photos using the timer function. Pose. It's very silly, and 90% of the pictures will be unusable, but it's how a lot of people do it. |
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We read all veri’s of people we’re looking to meet.
It gives a good understanding of what they’re like and how they like to play.
We cherish all of ours as they show our journey through this lifestyle. Good memories of parties we’ve hosted and people we’ve met. |
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