as i sit here alone and feeling pretty
miserable cos i am alone i look at some of the topics on here and wonder what kind of life i've had .
i was married nearly 22 years to a controlling bully .when i look at post from poor guy who only has sex twice a year i think OMG my ex moaned if he not had it twice a week and the poor guy whose wife has gone thru change i've done that still had sex.so it is me or was i just married to a tosser who only thought of himself.  |
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"as i sit here alone and feeling pretty
miserable cos i am alone i look at some of the topics on here and wonder what kind of life i've had .
i was married nearly 22 years to a controlling bully .when i look at post from poor guy who only has sex twice a year i think OMG my ex moaned if he not had it twice a week and the poor guy whose wife has gone thru change i've done that still had sex.so it is me or was i just married to a tosser who only thought of himself. "
My ex was same, moaned about my lack of sex drive (I had a great one better now but I refused with him more than once every 2 weeks), I kept myself happy. He too was a bully who drove me to a psychiatrist and had me medicated. I eventually left and life is amazing.
I think both our exs are not real men!!! |
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over a year ago
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He sounds like a Prick to me. Any man who has to bully a woman or anyone for that matter to feel like the big man is a joke in my eyes. Well look on the bright side your out of it now and doing what you want so good luck to ya x  |
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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago
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There's some nasty selfish bastards out there, and I guess at least 50 percent are men.
Not easy to move on, but sounds like you have done, as you make new friends and build up your confidence you can spread your wings and fly. Good luck. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"as i sit here alone and feeling pretty
miserable cos i am alone i look at some of the topics on here and wonder what kind of life i've had .
i was married nearly 22 years to a controlling bully .when i look at post from poor guy who only has sex twice a year i think OMG my ex moaned if he not had it twice a week and the poor guy whose wife has gone thru change i've done that still had sex.so it is me or was i just married to a tosser who only thought of himself. "
My ex was the same. He told me after we broke up that I was frigid. My reply?
'Only with you.'
That took the smug grin off his face. |
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My ex was like that too...she was abusive both physically and mentally. When we dated it was awesome sex all the time. We got married and the sex literally stopped ON THE WEDDING NIGHT! After 2 years of abuse, and discovering she had been sleeping around I left her. Got remarried and have a wonderful wife now, but after our son was born her sex drive is ZERO. I've tried everything in the book and keep getting shot down. After over a year of trying I have all but given up on that aspect of home life. Any suggestions...other than "leave her" or "go to a counselor"? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My ex got really d*unk one night and demanded sex off me when i told him to fuck off he went to grab me by the throat one broken nose and a cold night locked out he was very sorry
I feel so sorry for the women who let men bully and control them,i know that there is more to it than just walking away but i couldn't put up with it and well done to those women who got out. |
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yep sadly for me i put up with his ways for far too long telling myself it wasnt
that bad .other women put up with far worse so he dumped me for someone else.
i had no say in any of it ,he divorced me,
altho he committed adultery and sold my house .
and that is whats killing me i put up with him for years but he got rid of me like im nothing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lady, chin up and find some fun.
Don't dwell on others' lives, build your own
I've never looked back since I got away and wont start now, I invest my time and energy into the good things that I want, when I want and you have the strength to do so also  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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SexCleaner the best thing I found to do is to live life and enjoy it! Being happy and not mourning the loss of an abussive slug is the biggest revenge you can have...for the slugs want you to be miserable. As for him being able to "just toss you away" to me that shows that he never really cared that much in the first place. Move on to better things, live, laugh, love. |
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From 18-22 i lived with a violent, alcoholic bully, i stayed because you kept things quite in those days. The neigbours always called the police but in those days they couldnt press charges without me agreeing. It was much a case of put up and shut up.
He did something one night and i thought he was going to kill me, he came at me d*unk with a pick axe and it went so far into the wall it was a job to get it out. It was about an inch above my head.
His brothers took him away for a few days so i could leave.
It was extremely difficult to start with, the typical text book oh it was my fault ect ect. Then one day you wake up and realize it wasnt your fault. It was them.
Every week i was black and blue.
But you know what, its made me the person i am today, no man has ever come close to laying a finger on me, im with the most gentle person ever and i look back and i have no hate for the guy (hes dead now), just be proud your away from it.
I know if i had the knowledge i have today i would of gone first time he did it, but its not easy to walk away, they take your confidence, your personality and your dignity.
But hey where survivors |
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