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Yes. But rejection on this site isn’t that deep to me as it’s mostly from strangers based on an initial attraction and message. Rejection I struggle with is from people I’ve connected with and genuinely fancy. |
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Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world |
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world "
How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!!
Kidding. |
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Not sure. I very rarely send messages so I don’t really have to deal with it too much. I imagine constantly getting rejected must affect people though. I hate doing it too. I’m one of those who doesn’t answer if I’m not interested. I’d hate to make someone feel crap about themselves 😕 |
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"Would you say how you handle rejection is a big component to being on this site? Just something I've been thinking about today. "
I'm quite used to it now ... Just going to keep my thoughts to myself from now on 🤣 |
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Being a single male I almost expect it, we are in the minority
How some guys get pissy and pout and kick off etc (I've seen messages received by a friend) is truly embarrassing
The entitlement that some guys have is nuts |
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world
How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!!
Kidding. "
I always ask them if they’re blind or stupid when they’re not attracted to me. Then report them |
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world
How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!!
Kidding.
I always ask them if they’re blind or stupid when they’re not attracted to me. Then report them "
Jamie. Man’s name. Man behaviour. I like  |
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world
How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!!
Kidding.
I always ask them if they’re blind or stupid when they’re not attracted to me. Then report them
Jamie. Man’s name. Man behaviour. I like "
Maybe I’ll start telling them they’re fat slags anyway. Women in mens field |
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world
How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!!
Kidding.
I always ask them if they’re blind or stupid when they’re not attracted to me. Then report them
Jamie. Man’s name. Man behaviour. I like
Maybe I’ll start telling them they’re fat slags anyway. Women in mens field "
Haha brilliant |
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"Tell me your thoughts OP? "
I used to get not handle rejection well when I was younger. But now I just think, why waste my energy getting annoyed. So I just move on. Took me a long time to handle rejection well. |
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Rejection on here means nothing. People/we will just move on to the next person. People are superficial in their attraction unless it’s reciprocated.
If there’s a connection then it’ll mean more but it’s usually circumstance rather than attraction that’s the change then.
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world
How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!!
Kidding.
I always ask them if they’re blind or stupid when they’re not attracted to me. Then report them
Jamie. Man’s name. Man behaviour. I like
Maybe I’ll start telling them they’re fat slags anyway. Women in mens field "
Top trend that was. I enjoyed it.
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Afternoon OP
Rejection on fab should not be taken to heart I think.
I only say this because it feels so detached from reality …. Where else are there thousands of guys vying for the attention of the handful (not quite I know but in comparison) of couples and ladies??
You can’t be for everyone …and the likelihood of finding someone who you are is small ….both being online / your message being seen before it’s lost in the masses / etc etc ….
We just have to accept and enjoy the other parts …and if no rejection and something comes from it… what a bonus that is |
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world
How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!!
Kidding.
I always ask them if they’re blind or stupid when they’re not attracted to me. Then report them
Jamie. Man’s name. Man behaviour. I like
Maybe I’ll start telling them they’re fat slags anyway. Women in mens field
Top trend that was. I enjoyed it.
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Hated it. The only ones I got through were so London specific I didn’t understand half of them. Not a single mention of tractors |
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"Afternoon OP
Rejection on fab should not be taken to heart I think.
I only say this because it feels so detached from reality …. Where else are there thousands of guys vying for the attention of the handful (not quite I know but in comparison) of couples and ladies??
You can’t be for everyone …and the likelihood of finding someone who you are is small ….both being online / your message being seen before it’s lost in the masses / etc etc ….
We just have to accept and enjoy the other parts …and if no rejection and something comes from it… what a bonus that is "
I absolutely agree |
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"Oh I’ve just read the post properly. On fab it still sucks but it won’t ruin my day. Fab is a fairly superficial place at times so if an opening message is knocked back then I’d just assume they’re not attracted to me which isn’t a nice feeling but not the end of the world
How could someone not be attracted to you?!!!!!
Kidding.
I always ask them if they’re blind or stupid when they’re not attracted to me. Then report them
Jamie. Man’s name. Man behaviour. I like
Maybe I’ll start telling them they’re fat slags anyway. Women in mens field
Top trend that was. I enjoyed it.
Hated it. The only ones I got through were so London specific I didn’t understand half of them. Not a single mention of tractors"
Not gonna lie, that’s too bad |
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Oh on here it doesn't bother me. I rarely send a first message or on the very rare occasion I have, we've met.
Away from here it's harder, especially when moving to another platform for communication, all seems to be going well then nothing. That I find difficult as quite often there's no explanation |
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"Oh on here it doesn't bother me. I rarely send a first message or on the very rare occasion I have, we've met.
Away from here it's harder, especially when moving to another platform for communication, all seems to be going well then nothing. That I find difficult as quite often there's no explanation "
This ... |
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I do what I can to prevent this from happening to my wife by filtering out those i think would.
Still the first guy we decided to meet for sexy fun no showed at the motel even after meeting first for just a social. That devastated her for a bit. |
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By *aughty50sCouple 4 days ago
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"In person or online…..I give it no thought after the initial “oh ok” moment.
My expectations are that I’ll be rejected, so when I’m not, it’s a wonderful feeling. "
Agree online, we don't give it a second thought. In person can be slightly more disappointing, but still fine. Best to say up front than waste anyone's time. What *is* more difficult to get our heads round though, is when a person or couple is initially keen, and then rejects us because they didn't read our profile to the end first  |
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"Yes. But rejection on this site isn’t that deep to me as it’s mostly from strangers based on an initial attraction and message. Rejection I struggle with is from people I’ve connected with and genuinely fancy. "
Very this! |
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I think everyone needs an approach to dealing with rejection when you join Fab: no one should feel rejection is inevitable or not shoot their shot because of fear, but you need to be realistic, given the numbers, distances, and the nature of attraction.
The absolute worst people are those who feel an absolute entitlement to attention and sex, and deal with rejection like abusive babies. |
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"I think everyone needs an approach to dealing with rejection when you join Fab: no one should feel rejection is inevitable or not shoot their shot because of fear, but you need to be realistic, given the numbers, distances, and the nature of attraction.
The absolute worst people are those who feel an absolute entitlement to attention and sex, and deal with rejection like abusive babies. "
I agree. A female friend was showing me the messages she gets when she rejected men. The entitlement is through the roof. Constant death threats and abuse. I just don't get it.
Move on, don't start getting abusive. |
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"Would you say how you handle rejection is a big component to being on this site? Just something I've been thinking about today. "
I guess so? It's very easy to handle in here though? A 'Thanks but no' just gets a block and delete in return, so I get on with my day afterwards? Compare that to the ignorance and blanking you receive as a single guy in clubs, that's far harder to deal with....  |
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"I think everyone needs an approach to dealing with rejection when you join Fab: no one should feel rejection is inevitable or not shoot their shot because of fear, but you need to be realistic, given the numbers, distances, and the nature of attraction.
The absolute worst people are those who feel an absolute entitlement to attention and sex, and deal with rejection like abusive babies.
I agree. A female friend was showing me the messages she gets when she rejected men. The entitlement is through the roof. Constant death threats and abuse. I just don't get it.
Move on, don't start getting abusive. "
100%, it's really simple to either not reply to a rejection or just say "OK" and move along. |
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"Yes. But rejection on this site isn’t that deep to me as it’s mostly from strangers based on an initial attraction and message. Rejection I struggle with is from people I’ve connected with and genuinely fancy. "
This, 100%....
You can't get hurt by someone you don't know or you've never met |
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"Would you say how you handle rejection is a big component to being on this site? Just something I've been thinking about today. "
Rejection on here means little to me different strokes for different folks, if IRL a bit more difficult to take but having expectation that what ever the response shouldn’t change my mood, just try not to dwell |
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"Would you say how you handle rejection is a big component to being on this site? Just something I've been thinking about today. "
If it's rejection on here then it's pretty easy to handle, someone who knows nothing about me makes a judgement on what's on my profile and decides from that. Plus women have a lot of different choice on here.
In real life it's not as easy but still not everyone can like you or be attracted to you just as I'm not attracted to every woman I see or speak to. |
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"Yes. But rejection on this site isn’t that deep to me as it’s mostly from strangers based on an initial attraction and message. Rejection I struggle with is from people I’ve connected with and genuinely fancy. "
Pretty much summed it up for me as well. It's actually spot on. I'm impressed 😂 |
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I don't have the sort of conversations on here that can lead to rejection and it's only after weeks of general chit chat that I'll agree to meet socially to determine if there is any physical chemistry.
I've never been rejected by anyone I've actually met through fab in the true sense of the word.
Conversation has fizzled out but no-one has actually said they didn't want to meet me again.
On the flip side there have been lots of times I haven't felt any connection when meeting in person and just allowed the follow up to fade away without saying they weren't my type.
I have been rejected when I was much younger so I know what it feels like but on here I don't have those issues. |
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The site creates a situation where we often discount each other based on a selection of words and 2D images - with zero interaction otherwise
I don't think that receiving a knock back on that basis is something worth taking to heart |
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I would be dishonest if I said that I've never been rejected. On Fab I rarely send the first message, other than to other forum dwellers / fab friends, and therefore it's quite rare.
I usually interpret the 'slow decay of conversation' as a sign of no longer interested...thus 'rejection', but it's been years since a woman uttered the ill-fated words "no thanks and / or I'm not interested".
In any case — to temper the situation I always take a small soft teddy bear 🧸 with me on my dates. At least there's something for me to cuddle on the return journey aboard the Rejection Express. 🚂 |
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On the odd occasion I do message someone, if it gets read with no response I carry on with my day as normal! I do have a load of sympathy for the women and couples on here as I’ve been on here as part of a couple before, and the levels of abuse for not responding within 30 seconds of reading a message is unreal. Those people need a fucking good shake and put on a watch list. |
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By *ild_oatsMan 4 days ago
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It’s quite simple…. Don’t invest anything negative into it. It’s all part of this site.
Try adding something like …. If I’m not for you just block me as saves you the effort of saying thanks but no thanks.
It just gives the receiver of that you are not going to pester them for a reply. |
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"Would you say how you handle rejection is a big component to being on this site? Just something I've been thinking about today. "
Half the time as you surely know
, you just don’t get ‘rejected’. They just don’t bother getting back to you, I get some have lot of messages, but rude is rude for me. I out on it’s fine if I not for you delete the message and that do. The ones that do reply are usually meeting or rejecting like you say, I have zero issues with it at all, the funny thing is they weren’t on to some sort of sure thing and yeah a great bum or boobs rock but if you’re not attracted to them, you’d not have even given the chance to them to reject. Odd that people think because you messaged a faceless profile you be just saying yeah ok  . Always the gentleman is the way. I fo out bo problem at all, trouble is vanilla  |
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"For me. Either send , receive communication in one way or another on Fab. Then further messages. No reply . Move on . Keep trying . "
Also to add . Exchange a few messages. Profile asks for info , move on to say another app. You send message. Ignored. This after say a week or more . Seen profile online also several times. 😤😤😤.
But as my first post on this. Move on keep trying |
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