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By *eli OP   Woman 5 days ago

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You find someone attractive. It's fun, right? The potential flirting, seeing them. All the good stuff.

How do you go about letting them know*? Do you make it obvious?

Do you flirt in the way you like to be flirted with?

*inspired by a friend's Saturday night's musing.

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By *parkle1974Woman 5 days ago

Leeds

Tell them straight...old enough to not play childish games.

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By *eli OP   Woman 5 days ago

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"Tell them straight...old enough to not play childish games. "

I don't know if it's always childish games if someone isn't direct. Different styles/ways of communicating isn't it?

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By *aoirse NaughtyWoman 5 days ago

Cork

I'm terrable at flirting, I'm way too foward for it

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman 5 days ago

Reading

I struggle with that first bit. With finding someone attractive, how does that happen?

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By *bitofaslutTV/TS 5 days ago

Cannock


"You find someone attractive. It's fun, right? The potential flirting, seeing them. All the good stuff.

How do you go about letting them know*? Do you make it obvious?

Do you flirt in the way you like to be flirted with?

*inspired by a friend's Saturday night's musing."

I have no idea how to flirt and no idea if someone's flirting with me.

I've had a woman literally hug my head into her boobs and thought "she's just being nice"

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By *an8iMan 5 days ago

Bilston

Id pull their piggy tales and run away, but apparently I'm an adult now so probably offer to buy them a drink

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By *enrietteandSamCouple 5 days ago

Staffordshire

We’re pretty direct.

If we get the sense that the desire is mutual we’ll make it clear where we want things to go

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By *ophieslutTV/TS 5 days ago

Central

I just continue getting to know them and flirting. I may be suggestive or discuss options for things we might do together. It's an iterative process, feeding off each other and building.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman 5 days ago

Reading

I have been better at letting them know lately.

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By *uacksplat.Woman 5 days ago

Star Trekking Across The Universe

normally bark.

or something else equally horrific and embarrassing... but i have the flirting skills of an oxo cube 🥴 Px

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By *amie HantsWoman 5 days ago

Atlantis

I’m terrible at knowing. Sometimes I think I can tell if someone is into me but also I’ve been wrong about these things

I think im pretty clear when I’m into someone but experience has told me that I am not as clear as I think I am

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By *urves and MischiefWoman 5 days ago

Northerner/Sometimes South East

Apparently I am flirty by nature so if I really mean it all the textbook body language will be obvious to see … either that or I will be forward if I sense there is something there and they are holding back.

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By *idnightcowboy69Man 5 days ago

ciren

Depends if you are in a club

Or a more public area

Alone eg at a hotel bar

Or with a group

So many permutation

A good way is to mimic their body positions and actions...

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By *idnightcowboy69Man 5 days ago

ciren

Or

My mate really fancied you

And so do I

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By *eli OP   Woman 5 days ago

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"I'm terrable at flirting, I'm way too foward for it"

But that might be good flirting to some people... you know, clear, direct, they know where they stand.

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By *eli OP   Woman 5 days ago

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"I struggle with that first bit. With finding someone attractive, how does that happen? "

Erm my way is weird. Everyone has their own way. Normally I'm friends with someone for some time and then one day I realise I do actually find them attractive. I wouldn't recommend this approach.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man 5 days ago

The Continental

I’ll just tell them I’m fancy them.

I’m a simple person that does things in a direct way.

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By *uchessdoeWoman 5 days ago

Northampton

I prefer the direct approach, because I'm not always good at picking up subtlety: just say you want to fuck me. *Then* we can continue with the fun, flirty bit.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan 5 days ago

Ends

I tell them. If they don’t feel the same I move on

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By *idnightcowboy69Man 5 days ago

ciren


"I prefer the direct approach, because I'm not always good at picking up subtlety: just say you want to fuck me. *Then* we can continue with the fun, flirty bit. "

I fancy you

Fancy a fuck?

No?

Mind if I have i one

A mate once got away with that....

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan 5 days ago

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"I prefer the direct approach, because I'm not always good at picking up subtlety: just say you want to fuck me. *Then* we can continue with the fun, flirty bit. "

I want to fuck you 🤝🏾

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan 5 days ago

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It was dead in here without you

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By *exxyyDy11Man 5 days ago

North West

Ahhhh I just tell them... otherwise we will be at it forever and a day waiting for a response.

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By *eli OP   Woman 5 days ago

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"You find someone attractive. It's fun, right? The potential flirting, seeing them. All the good stuff.

How do you go about letting them know*? Do you make it obvious?

Do you flirt in the way you like to be flirted with?

*inspired by a friend's Saturday night's musing.

I have no idea how to flirt and no idea if someone's flirting with me.

I've had a woman literally hug my head into her boobs and thought "she's just being nice""

Fair though. Sometimes women give boob hugs just to be nice. Everything is better with a good boob hug.

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By *uchessdoeWoman 5 days ago

Northampton


"I prefer the direct approach, because I'm not always good at picking up subtlety: just say you want to fuck me. *Then* we can continue with the fun, flirty bit.

I want to fuck you 🤝🏾"

The front door's unlocked, I'm upstairs waiting...

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan 5 days ago

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"I prefer the direct approach, because I'm not always good at picking up subtlety: just say you want to fuck me. *Then* we can continue with the fun, flirty bit.

I want to fuck you 🤝🏾

The front door's unlocked, I'm upstairs waiting... "

Fantasies 🥰

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By *exxyyDy11Man 5 days ago

North West


"I prefer the direct approach, because I'm not always good at picking up subtlety: just say you want to fuck me. *Then* we can continue with the fun, flirty bit.

I want to fuck you 🤝🏾

The front door's unlocked, I'm upstairs waiting...

Fantasies 🥰"

Fucking hell Pickles. You stallion. Easy as that eh. Show me your ways.

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan 5 days ago

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"I prefer the direct approach, because I'm not always good at picking up subtlety: just say you want to fuck me. *Then* we can continue with the fun, flirty bit.

I want to fuck you 🤝🏾

The front door's unlocked, I'm upstairs waiting...

Fantasies 🥰

Fucking hell Pickles. You stallion. Easy as that eh. Show me your ways. "

😂😂😂😂

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By *eli OP   Woman 5 days ago

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"We’re pretty direct.

If we get the sense that the desire is mutual we’ll make it clear where we want things to go "

How could it not be mutual with you the beautiful pair that you are?

Don't talk nonsense.

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman 5 days ago

Manchester

It depends really. If it's someone on here I'm normally a bit shy to just be like "hey, I like your profile, or your forum posts and you seem interesting and I fancy you a bit" I never make the first move. If they show me interest first, then I will be more likely to be like "yes, I fancy you too!" in response and be a bit more confident.

I'm probably a bit better in real life at socials/clubs I feel I'm quite friendly and approachable and can get a feel from someone's body language and the conversation we are having if they might be interested and I may drop hints. But again it's difficult sometimes to determine when someone is just being friendly or flirty.

It's a bloody minefield 😅 I loooove flirting but I need that certainty that they are interested first. My fear of rejection makes it difficult

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan 5 days ago

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"I loooove flirting but I need that certainty that they are interested first. My fear of rejection makes it difficult "

Real.

I need someone to tell me CLEARLY that they fancy me

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By *uchessdoeWoman 5 days ago

Northampton


"I loooove flirting but I need that certainty that they are interested first. My fear of rejection makes it difficult

Real.

I need someone to tell me CLEARLY that they fancy me"

I agree, I need a green light in case I make an absolute knob of myself.

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By *rgoodnbadMan 5 days ago

greenock

General rule for women to follow.

The vast majority of men do not pick up on vibes, hints or small compliments. We are totally oblivious to it all, we're not used to it, nor experienced it.

Just be straight with us, and 99 times out of a hundred you be met with a positive response. After we get over the shock.

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By *r.and.Mrs.DSCouple 5 days ago

N. Wales

Hmm. I have a massive fear of rejection. So, I don't tend to make the first move. I need to be fully aware they're into me first! And, I have no idea how to flirt with women; I never know (until told after) that a woman was flirting with me (unless she's very direct about it) 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

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By *oveandfastWoman 5 days ago

Bromsgrove

I’m a hypocrite because I can be quite coy but expect potential partners to be as subtle as a sledgehammer 🤣🤣

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By *ildTimes.Man 5 days ago

Colchester/London


"Apparently I am flirty by nature so if I really mean it all the textbook body language will be obvious to see … either that or I will be forward if I sense there is something there and they are holding back. "

Duly noted ...📋📋 ...so sometimes you make it easy to..Spot?

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By *empest2KMan 5 days ago

Derby


"I loooove flirting but I need that certainty that they are interested first. My fear of rejection makes it difficult

Real.

I need someone to tell me CLEARLY that they fancy me

I agree, I need a green light in case I make an absolute knob of myself. "

Note to self: carry a green light with me to let people know 😉👍

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple 5 days ago

Southampton


"You find someone attractive. It's fun, right? The potential flirting, seeing them. All the good stuff.

How do you go about letting them know*? Do you make it obvious?

Do you flirt in the way you like to be flirted with?

*inspired by a friend's Saturday night's musing."

I've tried the direct route.its never reciprocated... Oh well . 🤐

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By *andystick72Man 5 days ago

kinky Street

Just grab my hand and take me in a room ,it's as easy as that ha ha

And it does happen to me

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple 5 days ago

Southampton


"I prefer the direct approach, because I'm not always good at picking up subtlety: just say you want to fuck me. *Then* we can continue with the fun, flirty bit.

I want to fuck you 🤝🏾

The front door's unlocked, I'm upstairs waiting...

Fantasies 🥰

Fucking hell Pickles. You stallion. Easy as that eh. Show me your ways. "

Hah... And you can't even do a social with me 🤣🤣🤣

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan 5 days ago

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"I loooove flirting but I need that certainty that they are interested first. My fear of rejection makes it difficult

Real.

I need someone to tell me CLEARLY that they fancy me

I agree, I need a green light in case I make an absolute knob of myself. "

🚦🚦🚦🚦🚦🚦🚦

It’s green!

No but I get you. Like the embarrassment?! I’ll just want to kms

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By *iss.BellaWoman 5 days ago

Wales

On here, I'll just tell them. What's the worst they can do, block me?

In person, I'm rubbish at flirting so will probably tell them a TMI and will the ground to swallow me up

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan 5 days ago

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"I’m a hypocrite because I can be quite coy but expect potential partners to be as subtle as a sledgehammer 🤣🤣"

🔨

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By *r.and.Mrs.DSCouple 5 days ago

N. Wales


"I struggle with that first bit. With finding someone attractive, how does that happen?

Erm my way is weird. Everyone has their own way. Normally I'm friends with someone for some time and then one day I realise I do actually find them attractive. I wouldn't recommend this approach."

This is my trick too! 🤣

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By *eli OP   Woman 5 days ago

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"I just continue getting to know them and flirting. I may be suggestive or discuss options for things we might do together. It's an iterative process, feeding off each other and building. "

I like that. Yes, it's about two people isn't it? How they interact together - what makes them both respond in a certain way. It's wonderful when it works.

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By *uchessdoeWoman 5 days ago

Northampton


"I loooove flirting but I need that certainty that they are interested first. My fear of rejection makes it difficult

Real.

I need someone to tell me CLEARLY that they fancy me

I agree, I need a green light in case I make an absolute knob of myself.

🚦🚦🚦🚦🚦🚦🚦

It’s green!

No but I get you. Like the embarrassment?! I’ll just want to kms"

If it had been a red, I'd never have recovered 🥳

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By *urves and MischiefWoman 5 days ago

Northerner/Sometimes South East


"Apparently I am flirty by nature so if I really mean it all the textbook body language will be obvious to see … either that or I will be forward if I sense there is something there and they are holding back.

Duly noted ...📋📋 ...so sometimes you make it easy to..Spot? "

Spot on, but only if I like them. Otherwise they get a little patty bye bye 👋🏻

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By *eli OP   Woman 5 days ago

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"normally bark.

or something else equally horrific and embarrassing... but i have the flirting skills of an oxo cube 🥴 Px "

You must know some pretty randy oxo cubes - on the forums you can be such a flirt! Don't do yourself a disservice.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple 5 days ago

Southampton

I've pretty much given up telling people lol

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By *oveandfastWoman 5 days ago

Bromsgrove


"I’m a hypocrite because I can be quite coy but expect potential partners to be as subtle as a sledgehammer 🤣🤣

🔨 "

💥

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan 5 days ago

Ends


"I've pretty much given up telling people lol"

Why? Do it!

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan 5 days ago

Ends


"I’m a hypocrite because I can be quite coy but expect potential partners to be as subtle as a sledgehammer 🤣🤣

🔨

💥 "

🍑

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple 5 days ago

Southampton


"I've pretty much given up telling people lol

Why? Do it! "

Entirely pointless...it's never reciprocated

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By *eli OP   Woman 5 days ago

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"I’m terrible at knowing. Sometimes I think I can tell if someone is into me but also I’ve been wrong about these things

I think im pretty clear when I’m into someone but experience has told me that I am not as clear as I think I am "

Do you know what you should get? Little business cards with "Jamie Hants" on one side and "I fancy you" on the other. And then you know you've been super clear and left no room for confusion. You're very welcome. 🖤

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan 5 days ago

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"I've pretty much given up telling people lol

Why? Do it!

Entirely pointless...it's never reciprocated "

So like, nobody you’ve ever fancied has ever fancied you back?

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By *iss.BellaWoman 5 days ago

Wales


"I've pretty much given up telling people lol

Why? Do it!

Entirely pointless...it's never reciprocated "

**ahem**

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple 5 days ago

Southampton


"I've pretty much given up telling people lol

Why? Do it!

Entirely pointless...it's never reciprocated

So like, nobody you’ve ever fancied has ever fancied you back?"

I'm past being disappointed with myself for punching above my weight

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By *bitofaslutTV/TS 5 days ago

Cannock


"You find someone attractive. It's fun, right? The potential flirting, seeing them. All the good stuff.

How do you go about letting them know*? Do you make it obvious?

Do you flirt in the way you like to be flirted with?

*inspired by a friend's Saturday night's musing.

I have no idea how to flirt and no idea if someone's flirting with me.

I've had a woman literally hug my head into her boobs and thought "she's just being nice"

Fair though. Sometimes women give boob hugs just to be nice. Everything is better with a good boob hug."

Oh I know, I do too, but with hindsight - by which I mean the taxi home from the club - I had a moment of clarity and was like "oh f--king hell"

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By *bitofaslutTV/TS 5 days ago

Cannock


"You find someone attractive. It's fun, right? The potential flirting, seeing them. All the good stuff.

How do you go about letting them know*? Do you make it obvious?

Do you flirt in the way you like to be flirted with?

*inspired by a friend's Saturday night's musing.

I have no idea how to flirt and no idea if someone's flirting with me.

I've had a woman literally hug my head into her boobs and thought "she's just being nice"

Fair though. Sometimes women give boob hugs just to be nice. Everything is better with a good boob hug."

Oh I know, I do too, but there was more to the interaction than that and with hindsight - by which I mean the taxi home from the club - I had a moment of clarity and was like "oh f--king hell"

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By *enrietteandSamCouple 5 days ago

Staffordshire


"We’re pretty direct.

If we get the sense that the desire is mutual we’ll make it clear where we want things to go

How could it not be mutual with you the beautiful pair that you are?

Don't talk nonsense."

Thank you beautiful friend but we’re well aware not everyone finds us irresistible.

Besides… there’s only so much beautiful penis to go around!

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By *ildTimes.Man 5 days ago

Colchester/London


"Apparently I am flirty by nature so if I really mean it all the textbook body language will be obvious to see … either that or I will be forward if I sense there is something there and they are holding back.

Duly noted ...📋📋 ...so sometimes you make it easy to..Spot?

Spot on, but only if I like them. Otherwise they get a little patty bye bye 👋🏻 "

Oh Lord!! ⛪

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan 5 days ago

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"I've pretty much given up telling people lol

Why? Do it!

Entirely pointless...it's never reciprocated

So like, nobody you’ve ever fancied has ever fancied you back?

I'm past being disappointed with myself for punching above my weight "

Hmm fair

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By *rrrMannnn122Man 5 days ago

Walsall


"I've pretty much given up telling people lol

Why? Do it!

Entirely pointless...it's never reciprocated

So like, nobody you’ve ever fancied has ever fancied you back?

I'm past being disappointed with myself for punching above my weight "

surely theres someone who fancies you. you seem to be doing well on here regardless your veris speak for themselves

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By *eli OP   Woman 5 days ago

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"I prefer the direct approach, because I'm not always good at picking up subtlety: just say you want to fuck me. *Then* we can continue with the fun, flirty bit. "

Would you be as direct with others? I kind of like when it's not out and out said but you know. All the flirting points that way.

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By *empest2KMan 5 days ago

Derby


"It depends really. If it's someone on here I'm normally a bit shy to just be like "hey, I like your profile, or your forum posts and you seem interesting and I fancy you a bit" I never make the first move. If they show me interest first, then I will be more likely to be like "yes, I fancy you too!" in response and be a bit more confident.

I'm probably a bit better in real life at socials/clubs I feel I'm quite friendly and approachable and can get a feel from someone's body language and the conversation we are having if they might be interested and I may drop hints. But again it's difficult sometimes to determine when someone is just being friendly or flirty.

It's a bloody minefield 😅 I loooove flirting but I need that certainty that they are interested first. My fear of rejection makes it difficult "

hey, I like your profile, or your forum posts and you seem interesting and I fancy you a bit 😁

I might be a small fish in a big pond, so the phrases I tell myself are:

“You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.” — Take the shot!

“You won't win the lottery if you don't buy a ticket.” — Buy the ticket!

I've still not won a game and I'm not rich either, but I'm gonna keep tryin' 😉

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman 5 days ago

Reading


"I struggle with that first bit. With finding someone attractive, how does that happen?

Erm my way is weird. Everyone has their own way. Normally I'm friends with someone for some time and then one day I realise I do actually find them attractive. I wouldn't recommend this approach."

That sounds WAY LONG.

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By *eli OP   Woman 5 days ago

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"It was dead in here without you "

Reply and quote Pickle, reply and quote. Geez.

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman 5 days ago

Manchester


"General rule for women to follow.

The vast majority of men do not pick up on vibes, hints or small compliments. We are totally oblivious to it all, we're not used to it, nor experienced it.

Just be straight with us, and 99 times out of a hundred you be met with a positive response. After we get over the shock. "

Not sure about that. I've been friendzoned enough times 😅

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By *tephenAndHisPicklenicMan 5 days ago

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"It was dead in here without you

Reply and quote Pickle, reply and quote. Geez."

it was to you.

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By *eli OP   Woman 5 days ago

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"It depends really. If it's someone on here I'm normally a bit shy to just be like "hey, I like your profile, or your forum posts and you seem interesting and I fancy you a bit" I never make the first move. If they show me interest first, then I will be more likely to be like "yes, I fancy you too!" in response and be a bit more confident.

I'm probably a bit better in real life at socials/clubs I feel I'm quite friendly and approachable and can get a feel from someone's body language and the conversation we are having if they might be interested and I may drop hints. But again it's difficult sometimes to determine when someone is just being friendly or flirty.

It's a bloody minefield 😅 I loooove flirting but I need that certainty that they are interested first. My fear of rejection makes it difficult "

But what happens if they need the certainty that you're interested? You end up not really doing anything about it which seems a shame doesn't it?

It can be difficult to work out if it's just a friendly flirty thing or flirting with intent sometimes. Especially virtually! Face to face you get so many little indicators that are lacking on here. It's far easier to know interest, engage with it face to face.

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By *uchessdoeWoman 5 days ago

Northampton


"I prefer the direct approach, because I'm not always good at picking up subtlety: just say you want to fuck me. *Then* we can continue with the fun, flirty bit.

Would you be as direct with others? I kind of like when it's not out and out said but you know. All the flirting points that way."

I'm usually direct in response to their directness - I let them make the first big move after a little chase, then tell them exactly what I want.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man 5 days ago

The Continental


"I prefer the direct approach, because I'm not always good at picking up subtlety: just say you want to fuck me. *Then* we can continue with the fun, flirty bit.

Would you be as direct with others? I kind of like when it's not out and out said but you know. All the flirting points that way.

I'm usually direct in response to their directness - I let them make the first big move after a little chase, then tell them exactly what I want. "

Truth

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By *urves and MischiefWoman 5 days ago

Northerner/Sometimes South East


"Apparently I am flirty by nature so if I really mean it all the textbook body language will be obvious to see … either that or I will be forward if I sense there is something there and they are holding back.

Duly noted ...📋📋 ...so sometimes you make it easy to..Spot?

Spot on, but only if I like them. Otherwise they get a little patty bye bye 👋🏻

Oh Lord!! ⛪"

Or share a 🍩 if I’m hungry

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman 5 days ago

Manchester


"It depends really. If it's someone on here I'm normally a bit shy to just be like "hey, I like your profile, or your forum posts and you seem interesting and I fancy you a bit" I never make the first move. If they show me interest first, then I will be more likely to be like "yes, I fancy you too!" in response and be a bit more confident.

I'm probably a bit better in real life at socials/clubs I feel I'm quite friendly and approachable and can get a feel from someone's body language and the conversation we are having if they might be interested and I may drop hints. But again it's difficult sometimes to determine when someone is just being friendly or flirty.

It's a bloody minefield 😅 I loooove flirting but I need that certainty that they are interested first. My fear of rejection makes it difficult

But what happens if they need the certainty that you're interested? You end up not really doing anything about it which seems a shame doesn't it?

It can be difficult to work out if it's just a friendly flirty thing or flirting with intent sometimes. Especially virtually! Face to face you get so many little indicators that are lacking on here. It's far easier to know interest, engage with it face to face."

I agree it's much easier to gauge in person! Sometimes I will feel brave and if I feel like we have been chatting a while maybe drop some hints or say "you have a really nice face" or "I like your pics" or something flirty to turn the conversation that way and see how they reciprocate. I am trying to be better and more confident! But I struggled with shyness when I was younger. Going to things like socials and meets helps as I do feel a bit more confident than I used to.

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By *ea monkeyMan 5 days ago

Manchester (he/him)

Are we talking in person or online?

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By *otmyrealname99Man 5 days ago

Manchester

Straight in with the helicockter

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By *riar BelisseWoman 5 days ago

On Holibobs

I tell them

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By *eltCuteMightDeleteWoman 5 days ago

Reading

I asked my 'main' person how direct I am with him and it's prompted a conversation that I've been avoiding having about FEELINGS. So thank you for this thread (genuinely)

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By *wist my nipplesCouple 5 days ago

North East Scotland, mostly

In person? It’s all in the eyes

On here? I tell them.

Sometimes I get the impression I’m an outlier in this regard. I dunno. I just appreciate clarity so that’s how I operate.

Mrs TMN x

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By *aron Van WinkleMan 5 days ago

Oldham

I wait until they tell me. That way I can keep my 100 percent record of zero knockbacks.

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By *gent CoulsonMan 5 days ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I don't think I am all that good at flirting, so the direct method for me

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By *ivenchyMan 5 days ago

Maidstone


"You find someone attractive. It's fun, right? The potential flirting, seeing them. All the good stuff.

How do you go about letting them know*? Do you make it obvious?

Do you flirt in the way you like to be flirted with?

*inspired by a friend's Saturday night's musing."

Oh, I like to keep things playful—just the right mix of charm, mischief, and the occasional lingering glance that says, ‘I’m picturing you in ways that would make a librarian blush.’

If I’m feeling bold, I’ll drop a teasing compliment—something that makes them smile but also wonder just how much trouble I’d be if left unsupervised. And if they flirt back? Well, that’s when the real fun begins.

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By *eroLondonMan 5 days ago

Mayfair

I'll answer this within the context of Fab...

There seems to be a cursory theme on here where people are saying "I just tell them..." or the "...direct approach". Tell them how? I'm genuinely curious. Does one utter "I really like you / I fancy you" or the more brazen approach "I'm attracted to you / I wish to have sex with you!" ...?

How are they telling them and ensuring that it's not just another perfunctory remark?

If memory serves me, I've never told anyone directly how I feel about them, other than on the forum challenges, games or "I like you" threads. Outside of this I don't believe such parlance exists. The only way I've managed in "letting them know...and stuff" is through flirting, cheeky innuendo, well-intentioned chat and missives...and then suggesting to meet for a date. This is the same method they've let me know because no woman has ever been direct with me (I suppose being fanciable would help to some degree!).

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By *ohn.Wick.Man 5 days ago

The Continental


"I'll answer this within the context of Fab...

There seems to be a cursory theme on here where people are saying "I just tell them..." or the "...direct approach". Tell them how? I'm genuinely curious. Does one utter "I really like you / I fancy you" or the more brazen approach "I'm attracted to you / I wish to have sex with you!" ...?

How are they telling them and ensuring that it's not just another perfunctory remark?

If memory serves me, I've never told anyone directly how I feel about them, other than on the forum challenges, games or "I like you" threads. Outside of this I don't believe such parlance exists. The only way I've managed in "letting them know...and stuff" is through flirting, cheeky innuendo, well-intentioned chat and missives...and then suggesting to meet for a date. This is the same method they've let me know because no woman has ever been direct with me (I suppose being fanciable would help to some degree!)."

I’ve no problem with telling someone outright that I’m attracted to them/fancy them. I don’t mention doing sex, unless the reciprocal attraction is converted to me in a similarly clear way.

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By *urves and MischiefWoman 5 days ago

Northerner/Sometimes South East


"I'll answer this within the context of Fab...

There seems to be a cursory theme on here where people are saying "I just tell them..." or the "...direct approach". Tell them how? I'm genuinely curious. Does one utter "I really like you / I fancy you" or the more brazen approach "I'm attracted to you / I wish to have sex with you!" ...?

How are they telling them and ensuring that it's not just another perfunctory remark?

If memory serves me, I've never told anyone directly how I feel about them, other than on the forum challenges, games or "I like you" threads. Outside of this I don't believe such parlance exists. The only way I've managed in "letting them know...and stuff" is through flirting, cheeky innuendo, well-intentioned chat and missives...and then suggesting to meet for a date. This is the same method they've let me know because no woman has ever been direct with me (I suppose being fanciable would help to some degree!)."

If the signs are all there and you can feel the sexual energy then I’m brazen with a “I’d like to kiss you” comment. The responses have, to date (thankfully), been positive and then you take it from there. If the kisses were good, I’ll want to meet them again. I’m too old to dance around the houses.

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By *innamon_flameWoman 5 days ago

london

I quite like the little crushes I have at work. I know 100% I could have my gruesome way with them but then it would kill the crush.

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By *orthern StarsCouple 5 days ago

Durham

You know what, sometimes I'm really good at letting people know. I'm confident, direct, very flirty and will tell them how I would love to fuck them.

Other times I apparently can send mixed messages.

Christ women can be complicated, I can do my own head in

Ruby

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By *ab FunstersCouple 5 days ago

Midlands


"It depends really. If it's someone on here I'm normally a bit shy to just be like "hey, I like your profile, or your forum posts and you seem interesting and I fancy you a bit" I never make the first move. If they show me interest first, then I will be more likely to be like "yes, I fancy you too!" in response and be a bit more confident.

I'm probably a bit better in real life at socials/clubs I feel I'm quite friendly and approachable and can get a feel from someone's body language and the conversation we are having if they might be interested and I may drop hints. But again it's difficult sometimes to determine when someone is just being friendly or flirty.

It's a bloody minefield 😅 I loooove flirting but I need that certainty that they are interested first. My fear of rejection makes it difficult "

Mrs FF all of the above...quite shy really..Mr FF usually takes the lead on chatting i always feel a bit awkward..

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple 5 days ago

Southampton


"I've pretty much given up telling people lol

Why? Do it!

Entirely pointless...it's never reciprocated

So like, nobody you’ve ever fancied has ever fancied you back?

I'm past being disappointed with myself for punching above my weight

surely theres someone who fancies you. you seem to be doing well on here regardless your veris speak for themselves "

🤷 Not usually the people I like like though lol

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By *amie HantsWoman 5 days ago

Atlantis


"I’m terrible at knowing. Sometimes I think I can tell if someone is into me but also I’ve been wrong about these things

I think im pretty clear when I’m into someone but experience has told me that I am not as clear as I think I am

Do you know what you should get? Little business cards with "Jamie Hants" on one side and "I fancy you" on the other. And then you know you've been super clear and left no room for confusion. You're very welcome. 🖤"

Oh I love that idea. I’m going to start doing that. I might start putting my underwear in pockets too. I like the subtle approach

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By *mf123Man 5 days ago

with one foot out the door

Excuse me miss id like to park my winky up your anus and do the truffle shuffle for a bit do you object?

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By *exyScientistsCouple 5 days ago

Castlebar


"Tell them straight...old enough to not play childish games. "

It's not that for me. It's a self confidence issue bit I'm trying to change that and be more proactive

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman 5 days ago

North West

I'm not sure anymore. I thought I knew but Saturday has changed that, I surprised myself by being incredibly direct.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman 5 days ago

North West


"I'm not sure anymore. I thought I knew but Saturday has changed that, I surprised myself by being incredibly direct."

I've been thinking about this and maybe I match energy. If someone I'm attracted to is indirect and coy then I'm also shyer, more likely to mention after the event in writing. If someone I like makes it obvious they like me then I'm braver and more direct.

Although sometimes I will just go full awkward. That's always a possibility. 🫣😆

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple 5 days ago

Bristol

Neither of us are particularly good at this, especially in the context of clubs for example.

Though Mrs is especially terrible at picking up clues - I often have to point out that someone is into us, or her, and she'll have been totally oblivious.

I've often had to have a quiet word with the fella or lady who is flirting and tell them they need to be direct and tell her you want to play otherwise we will get stuck 🤣

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By *a LunaWoman 5 days ago

South Wales

To be honest it’s a real struggle.

I’m very shy and I can barely look at someone if I fancy them, and I get tongue tied.

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By *urry BlokeMan 5 days ago

Stalybridge

I think I'm the world's shittest flirter, but my colleagues at work regularly accuse me of flirting with customers

Is just a generally nice chat, a little bit of banter and a laugh what flirting amounts to these days?

Maybe I am just an unwitting flirty berty

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By *oeBeansMan 5 days ago

Derby

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By *oeBeansMan 5 days ago

Derby

I'll throw a little flirty comment in the there, usually int he form of a compliment or sexual innuendo. If they play it with a straight bat, I can get the message pretty quickly, but if they reciprocate, then it's game on 😜

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By *oxy-RedWoman 5 days ago

pink panther territory

I'm a huge flirt and if I get the vibe that he's into then I go all out to snare him

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By *ony MannMan 5 days ago

Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover

Flirt a bit if you like, but what ever you do don't let them leave without asking them to bed.

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