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No real surprise that females get swamped with replies here, so hard for most males to get replies.
I did see some females had a few hundred replies but Sarah Simpson has said she has over 3000 to choose from.
Must be some kind of record. |
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"I only get like 20 on a good day. 😔
Me too now. My filters are really tight though and Once I hit the big 50 they did reduce. Not complaining though!"
No, neither am I! My attention span can barely cope with 20 a day haha  |
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"Yeah there’s thousands of us to one woman or couple. So my advice to men would be don’t be a dick. Make your message stand out from the hundreds of others that women or couples receive. "
Guys do a simple look at how is local through Search, and look at the percentage men to women to tv. And just say I have about a 1:25 chance if you don't like the odds don't bother and don't get down about it. |
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"No real surprise that females get swamped with replies here, so hard for most males to get replies.
I did see some females had a few hundred replies but Sarah Simpson has said she has over 3000 to choose from.
Must be some kind of record."
Who the fuck is Sarah Simpson? 😂 You say it as if we should know who she is. |
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"I get maybe 1 every few days… mostly from women saying they’re going to block me because they feel they can’t trust themselves not to fall in love with me and not to ‘take it personally!!’ 
I get 2 or 3 a day, all from blokes wanting to suck my cock, which as being one of the rare genuinely straight guys in Fab, isn’t what I’m looking for? I could use the message filters to block all men/CD/TV’s from contacting me, but it is nice to know your email inbox does work……. "
I get the occasional like or message from TV/TS/Bi guys too… and yes at least it proves the mail is working |
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"No real surprise that females get swamped with replies here, so hard for most males to get replies.
I did see some females had a few hundred replies but Sarah Simpson has said she has over 3000 to choose from.
Must be some kind of record.
Who the fuck is Sarah Simpson? 😂 You say it as if we should know who she is. "
Always in the top pics…. X |
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"No real surprise that females get swamped with replies here, so hard for most males to get replies.
I did see some females had a few hundred replies but Sarah Simpson has said she has over 3000 to choose from.
Must be some kind of record.
Who the fuck is Sarah Simpson? 😂 You say it as if we should know who she is.
Always in the top pics…. X"
I never ever look in there so probably why I am oblivious! |
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"No real surprise that females get swamped with replies here, so hard for most males to get replies.
I did see some females had a few hundred replies but Sarah Simpson has said she has over 3000 to choose from.
Must be some kind of record.
Who the fuck is Sarah Simpson? 😂 You say it as if we should know who she is.
Always in the top pics…. X"
No idea who she is either but she is obviously playing the numbers game if she's on top pics all the time. Hence the high number of unread messages from all her fab friends. |
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"No real surprise that females get swamped with replies here, so hard for most males to get replies.
I did see some females had a few hundred replies but Sarah Simpson has said she has over 3000 to choose from.
Must be some kind of record.
Who the fuck is Sarah Simpson? 😂 You say it as if we should know who she is.
Always in the top pics…. X
I never ever look in there so probably why I am oblivious! "
She also posts in here occasionally. |
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I have no inkling on who this "Sarah Simpson" is; clearly I haven't lived.
Women put more focus on the qualitative factor when trying to overcome the quantitative issue. Men, on the other hand, are contrary to the above.
Ignoring everything else — how well men do on here has little to do with the actions (or inactions) of other men when it comes to "getting replies". |
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About 18 months ago I found a dating app with a two week premium free trial, made a female account (I'm MtF trans) and posted some of my better, least clocky pics.
Instantly flooded, even as a masculine looking 50 year old, I was getting 50ish messages a day. I never touched the swipe function, picked three of four messages a day to reply to. Depending on how it went I did tell them I was trans either straight away or after a couple of hours.
I think one man admitted he saw I was trans, everyone else said they didn't know.
One or two blocked me but the majority were still up for it.
That is to say that on a dating app with a £35 a month subscription even objectively unattractive women are overwhelmingly inundated.
Men, if you want to be noticed, make an effort. Post nice pics, have a good bio. Be likable if youb want to be liked.
On here get on the forums and interact. There's lots more people just watching teen there are contributing and your posts are as much of an advertisement as your profile.
You have to stand out, be original. The best thing to do is assume you've already b faded into the background and WORK to fix that. |
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"Sarah Simpson, whoever she is, should sort out her filters
She probably just like the attention eager boosting and if she has 3000 must not read many "
But how many of them could be repeated messages from guys who didn't get a response and decided to keep sending |
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I think it’s very easy for men to blame for lack of replies entirely on the volume of messages women receive. As a single woman, on a busy day I could easily get a couple of hundred messages even with filters - so I’m not saying it isn’t a factor.
But the reality is this mean women just get smarter about what they read and what they reply to. So I think it’s more about men needing to get smarter too about what they send and who they send it to.
That’s not to say you’re guaranteed a reply if you fit the bill on paper (that bit’s important). Women still have plenty of choice once they’ve ed out the people who’ve made no effort, are outside of preferences, are crude/abusive etc.
But my point is, the sheer volume of messages isn’t the reason some men aren’t getting replies. It’s easy to blame an external factor but there are many (not just men actually!) who could benefit from reviewing their approach.
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As has been observed above - volume of messages is _not_ the issue. I am a single male and my messages generally get read and responded to. If it were purely down to volume then I would be in the same boat. I am not.
The issue is quality of message. |
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By *ML49Man 3 days ago
Burnley |
"No real surprise that females get swamped with replies here, so hard for most males to get replies.
I did see some females had a few hundred replies but Sarah Simpson has said she has over 3000 to choose from.
Must be some kind of record."
I would have to live for 10,000 years to get that quantity if messages  |
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Don't worry about other men. Worry about you.
Speaking only for myself, here's a representation of the top 1% of messages I get (so, the top 30 in 3k messages, not that I've ever had that many)
* Interacts with my profile in some way. Not "nice profile" or "hot pics". Something that shows they're engaging with me, as opposed to anyone else
* More than one sentence. I didn't say a novel, I literally mean more than one sentence. Two sentences, maybe three.
* Respects my stated preferences
* Shows evidence that they regard me as a human being entitled to the same level of respect and courtesy that they are.
I don't reply to all of these messages - profile also matters, as do my preferences and requirements. But if you want to be the 1 in 100, the top 30 in a "top hot pics" inbox - start there. |
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"...You have to stand out, be original....
How??  "
You're a unique individual. There's something about you that makes you undeniably you, that nobody else has. That's something to highlight and celebrate.
I can't give you specifics, I don't know you.
It's not about being better than the next guy, it's about being genuine, likable and letting your uniqueness shine. That puts you above 90% of the other guys anyway.
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"...You have to stand out, be original....
How??
I think the pic of my cock covered in chocolate and rice krispies would qualify
Nah we're all sick of miniatures after xmas
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Errrr I think you’ll find the correct term is ‘Diet portion!!’ |
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"...You have to stand out, be original....
How??
I think the pic of my cock covered in chocolate and rice krispies would qualify
Nah we're all sick of miniatures after xmas
Errrr I think you’ll find the correct term is ‘Diet portion!!’ "
Oh ok, not "ohhhhhh! It's so CUTE!!" |
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"...You have to stand out, be original....
How??
I think the pic of my cock covered in chocolate and rice krispies would qualify
Nah we're all sick of miniatures after xmas
Errrr I think you’ll find the correct term is ‘Diet portion!!’
Oh ok, not "ohhhhhh! It's so CUTE!!""
Pmsl - dammit I missed a trick there… its cute AND its a diet portion….  |
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"I only get like 20 on a good day. 😔
Me too now. My filters are really tight though and Once I hit the big 50 they did reduce. Not complaining though!"
It's quite refreshing when you hit a milestone year and notice the message load change |
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"...You have to stand out, be original....
How??
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You're a unique individual. There's something about you that makes you undeniably you, that nobody else has. That's something to highlight and celebrate.
I can't give you specifics, I don't know you.
It's not about being better than the next guy, it's about being genuine, likable and letting your uniqueness shine. That puts you above 90% of the other guys anyway.
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My question to you was in fact rhetorical. I don't mean to be rude or disrespectful, but everything you're saying is wishy-washy sugary-syrup inutile piffle.
Right then...
I am a unique individual. ✔️
I'm the bees knees. ✔️
I have something that nobody has, and a lot more. ✔️
I'm genuine (promise). ✔️
I'm likable (promise). ✔️
I'm going to shine. ✔️
But...my messages are still unread.
Indeed, how is your aforementioned flimflam going to ensure that my messages are opened? What you've written has no correlation to the fate of messages. |
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Men don't get many replies because most don't read or take notice of what someone has written on their profile.
I get messages from lots outside of my preferred age range especially 20 year old somethings...Why would I bother replying when that is clearly not what I am looking for.....and before anyone says "use filters"...Why should women have too?
If more men thought with their brain instead of their dick there might be less moaning on the forums about not getting replies! |
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I did see some females had a few hundred replies but Sarah Timpson has said she has over 3000 to choose from.
She's found the key to Fab success !
No filters is the key to 3000 messages."
A great pair of tits is the key to 3000 messages |
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By *riel13Woman 2 days ago
Northampton |
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I did see some females had a few hundred replies but Sarah Timpson has said she has over 3000 to choose from.
She's found the key to Fab success !
No filters is the key to 3000 messages.
A great pair of tits is the key to 3000 messages "
They don't even have to be great tbf! |
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A reply very much depends upon the message received…we reply to most that are decent, however many are simply not worth the reply, it’s evident by the message they aren’t people that we’d want to speak further with and so by not replying we save the undoubted hassle of them replying to the thanks but no thanks |
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"A reply very much depends upon the message received…we reply to most that are decent, however many are simply not worth the reply, it’s evident by the message they aren’t people that we’d want to speak further with and so by not replying we save the undoubted hassle of them replying to the thanks but no thanks "
I guess it depends on the litres of effort added? |
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"A reply very much depends upon the message received…we reply to most that are decent, however many are simply not worth the reply, it’s evident by the message they aren’t people that we’d want to speak further with and so by not replying we save the undoubted hassle of them replying to the thanks but no thanks
I guess it depends on the litres of effort added? "
Litres a little full at the moment….working towards a gallon |
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I'd guess we average 10 a day depending on how active we.
If we post photos or any kind of status update that doubles or triples.
10 a day is plenty we find more quality than we can meet though we wish we could. |
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Yeah it’s everyone else’s fault some gents don’t get replies 👀
We reply if the message is interesting and/or we’re interested.
We state in our profile what we don’t reply to but it seems some people think they are the exception - so we delete without reading them.
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By *im le2Man 19 hours ago
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"No real surprise that females get swamped with replies here, so hard for most males to get replies.
I did see some females had a few hundred replies but Sarah Simpson has said she has over 3000 to choose from.
Must be some kind of record."
Depends on how often there online.
When men stop sending one word text they might get a reply.
Before sending a message think . Why would anyone want me? Is my text interesting?
Am I what she's looking for.
Never send a cock shot. |
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By *im le2Man 19 hours ago
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I get about 30 message a day. First I delete all the one word text. Now down to about 5 messages to read . Look at profile and photos. Then reply . If I don't get an interesting reply thats it another delete. |
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"I get about 30 message a day. First I delete all the one word text. Now down to about 5 messages to read . Look at profile and photos. Then reply . If I don't get an interesting reply thats it another delete. "
I think you might have spelt 'year' wrong 😂 |
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"No real surprise that females get swamped with replies here, so hard for most males to get replies.
I did see some females had a few hundred replies but Sarah Simpson has said she has over 3000 to choose from.
Must be some kind of record."
3000? Standard day in my inbox |
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"A couple of the girls who used to be daily hot pic girls sent me screenshots shots and their unread mail count was over 10k"
I knew I was wasting my time. How many pages down before it's worth messaging? |
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"A couple of the girls who used to be daily hot pic girls sent me screenshots shots and their unread mail count was over 10k"
My good friend is a silhouette and has hundreds per week. Dozens of which professing undying love without seeing any pics or being replied to. |
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