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I’m recently single and have decided to start doing things solo such as cinema or dinner out, etc. I’ve never done it before and it’s daunting, but getting to this stage in life, why should single people only enjoy these things when there is someone else to do it with?!
Do you take yourself out for dinner and is it awkward? I plan to take a book or people watch… |
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I do this … cinema, museums, a meal. I’ve taken a book and enjoyed the silence to engross myself in it or people watched. I have flower Friday where I buy myself a nice bunch for the weekend and I really want to do a solo holiday. |
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I do this, however...unfortunately people can assume that you want company and impose themselves on you, I know they mean well, but its a tad annoying having to protest that you actually like and are content in your own company. |
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By *ornycougaWoman 7 days ago
MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat |
Yeah I do it regularly now. Took me ages to be comfortable with going to a restaurant alone (cinema, pub, cafe wasn't a problem). I always make sure i have something to read but often just end up people watching. If you ever feel lonely or awkward - just look at the couples sitting in silence because they have run out of conversation and take comfort in knowing you aren't in that position! |
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Use to work away a lot so had to go out and eat solo. Its hard to start with but you do get use to it.
Have never done single holiday and this can be quite expensive with room supplements but if you want sun go for it when I am away have seen meny single manly females in the sun. |
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I do this quite regularly now. I tend to save up and go somewhere really nice and then they're usually very attentive to a single diner. I take a book to read between courses as a bit of a safety net and really enjoy myself. |
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I do yes, at first I felt awkward, like people felt sorry for me and stared but now I'm not bothered. I do it all the time now, quite a few people go alone. It's a good confidence booster, plus I like my own company. I dress up for myself and look good for myself it's great, a little date for one  |
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I love going to the cinema alone! And I’ve recently started going to the theatre alone. Eating in restaurants alone felt harder to me but I love choosing places I haven’t been to because of other people’s preference! |
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If I'm in the situation where I'm on my own, I'll go out for breakfast or a coffee with a book and just people watch. Going for dinner or the cinema or holiday all feel like social activities and I don't know how to prevent the FOMO of seeing other people together. |
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It’s nice to go for a coffee alone sometimes, I take a book or occasionally do some writing there.
It doesn’t always stop me feeling self conscious, but it’s good to put on your brave pants and do it anyway. |
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Like others have said, when holidaying alone abroad, I take a book or my kindle to restaurants. I do it to deter others from chatting to me. In this country I usually have the dog if I'm alone. I've done the cinema alone and theatre. I'm comfortable alone 9n the whole. Ms |
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I either don't have the confidence or cringe at the thought of going to a restaurant by myself. I've taken solo holidays where eating alone isn't an issue as people do it a lot more abroad, but even having a brew, there'd have to have very comfy seats for me to relax so it's not something I do. |
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By *r TriomanMan 7 days ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
I work away from home a lot, which means staying in hotels and eating out by myself; I love asking for a table for one; it's my table that I don't have to share, it's my time to be alone and to do with as I please, it's time to be a bit selfish; no ordering food to to align with someone else, "I don't really want chips but if you get some I can have some of yours" or "I can't eat a whole dessert so you can share it with me even though I know you don't want one". I don't take a book but, like you OP, I do love to people watch. |
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By *opeyXWoman 7 days ago
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I love doing things on my own! Took myself to see Baby Girl at the cinema last night, got the comfy seats, my snacks and wine. Was ace. Highly recommend. Not the film though I'd give that a 6/10.
I did day trips last summer solo and love people watching at a coffee shop especially outdoors in the summer.
Hoping to get away abroad this year by myself for the first time! I've only ever did Scotland stays by myself.
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Depends on the personality you are, if you're someone like me who is quite content in their own company for days to weeks, then you may enjoy it, you make yourself comfortable without others approval and discover the joys of making a choice that is purely selfish. Nothing wrong with looking out for no. 1, it's just when that comes at the expense of anyone else that it becomes toxic
However, I wouldn't make a habit of it and definitely even the most lonerish characters need company |
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Welcome to the solo-doing crew haha!!
Cinema, hikes, restaurants, theatre…I’ve done it so long now that it doesn’t feel awkward!
I tend to take a book or Chuck on my headphones and get lost in a solid playlist or a podcast (when applicable of course)….that way people can’t pester me and I can shut off to everyone!!
Enjoy embracing it OP….its nice doing your own thing!! 💪👍 |
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"I’m recently single and have decided to start doing things solo such as cinema or dinner out, etc. I’ve never done it before and it’s daunting, but getting to this stage in life, why should single people only enjoy these things when there is someone else to do it with?!
Do you take yourself out for dinner and is it awkward? I plan to take a book or people watch…"
I did a holiday once as a single person I was out on my own and basically did my own thing which was great felt alone at the dinner table though and I have been to a cinema on my own I actually enjoyed it I felt no pressure and enjoyed the movie Would I do it again? yes I would! |
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I should do this more. I have weird self-imposed rules. Coffee, cafes, no problem. Happy to go for a beer alone too, if I fancied one.
But I don't like having dinner on my own (have only done it when forced to, like being away with work), and have never been to the cinema alone...which I know is silly given you're just sat there watching a film! |
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By *opeyXWoman 7 days ago
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"I should do this more. I have weird self-imposed rules. Coffee, cafes, no problem. Happy to go for a beer alone too, if I fancied one.
But I don't like having dinner on my own (have only done it when forced to, like being away with work), and have never been to the cinema alone...which I know is silly given you're just sat there watching a film!"
I went to the cinema last night there was more people there solo than couples. I think it's normal these days to go do stuff yourself and not wait on friends to do the things you want to do. Embrace the solo dates! |
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I've only recently started doing this, in small doses. Previously, many moons ago, when having to travel for work/hotels...I would order room service. I was too self conscious to dine alone in the main restaurant or outside. The billy-no-mates syndrome can be quite compelling.
These days I'm fine with venturing into art galleries and gastropubs and just doing things for myself. I suppose there never really was a big deal. Sorry, random musings. |
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"I should do this more. I have weird self-imposed rules. Coffee, cafes, no problem. Happy to go for a beer alone too, if I fancied one.
But I don't like having dinner on my own (have only done it when forced to, like being away with work), and have never been to the cinema alone...which I know is silly given you're just sat there watching a film!
I went to the cinema last night there was more people there solo than couples. I think it's normal these days to go do stuff yourself and not wait on friends to do the things you want to do. Embrace the solo dates! "
Yeah, I know, I'm old and set in my ways. But I don't feel like I'm missing out - I do a lot, and am really happy in my own company too (well, avec le chien 😂) |
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"I've only recently started doing this, in small doses. Previously, many moons ago, when having to travel for work/hotels...I would order room service. I was too self conscious to dine alone in the main restaurant or outside. The billy-no-mates syndrome can be quite compelling.
These days I'm fine with venturing into art galleries and gastropubs and just doing things for myself. I suppose there never really was a big deal. Sorry, random musings. "
Up for man-date any time, my dear chap!
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By *opeyXWoman 7 days ago
Dundee |
"I should do this more. I have weird self-imposed rules. Coffee, cafes, no problem. Happy to go for a beer alone too, if I fancied one.
But I don't like having dinner on my own (have only done it when forced to, like being away with work), and have never been to the cinema alone...which I know is silly given you're just sat there watching a film!
I went to the cinema last night there was more people there solo than couples. I think it's normal these days to go do stuff yourself and not wait on friends to do the things you want to do. Embrace the solo dates!
Yeah, I know, I'm old and set in my ways. But I don't feel like I'm missing out - I do a lot, and am really happy in my own company too (well, avec le chien 😂)"
Old!!! Calm down your 44. Sometimes your own company is the best company!  |
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I absolutely LOVE going to the cinema on my own. I tend to take a book with me when I do solo restaurant visits and ask for a table tucked away in a quiet corner. I am very comfortable with my own company. |
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By *elshie_69Man 7 days ago
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I had a nice table in a nice Chinese restaurant near me recently, the place was fairly busy with a few tables pushed together to accommodate big families with kids shouting and screaming and I was in my blissful bubble eating my food and watching the football on TV..bliss
Got a room in 2 weeks through my company at a very plush 5* hotel in London for my birthday for practically peanuts for 2 nights and booked myself into a flotation tank for an afternoon and then just a meal and a few drinks on my tod in the evening.. lovely |
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"I've only recently started doing this, in small doses. Previously, many moons ago, when having to travel for work/hotels...I would order room service. I was too self conscious to dine alone in the main restaurant or outside. The billy-no-mates syndrome can be quite compelling.
These days I'm fine with venturing into art galleries and gastropubs and just doing things for myself. I suppose there never really was a big deal. Sorry, random musings.
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Up for man-date any time, my dear chap!
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I'm going to bitch-slap you one of these days, YOLO. I've never been so breadcrumbed by a platonic man before. 
It's long overdue! 🩶🙂 |
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I can remember back in the day , I would but two tickets for everything , then ask around who wants to come with me...that soon became a pain ..so just going solo became a habit . I know it's harder for females to do it...a restaurant could be a bit awkward and daunting , but there are loads of things like gigs, cinema , galleries etc where many singles go to..enjoy. |
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I’ve been single almost 5 years now….. i know it sounds selfish but I look out for number one… some days I do feel little lonely but then remember why I’m single….. I’ve travelled on my own…. You make friends as you go along the way …. I like treating myself to nice things….. work hard |
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"I do this … cinema, museums, a meal. I’ve taken a book and enjoyed the silence to engross myself in it or people watched. I have flower Friday where I buy myself a nice bunch for the weekend and I really want to do a solo holiday. "
I can buy myself flowers...Write my name in the sand.... |
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"I’m recently single and have decided to start doing things solo such as cinema or dinner out, etc. I’ve never done it before and it’s daunting, but getting to this stage in life, why should single people only enjoy these things when there is someone else to do it with?!
Do you take yourself out for dinner and is it awkward? I plan to take a book or people watch…"
Used to before having a child. Typically when I was on my own on holiday. Take a book. It's good!
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By *lynJMan 7 days ago
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"I’m recently single and have decided to start doing things solo such as cinema or dinner out, etc. I’ve never done it before and it’s daunting, but getting to this stage in life, why should single people only enjoy these things when there is someone else to do it with?!
Do you take yourself out for dinner and is it awkward? I plan to take a book or people watch…"
I've been out for meals solo when I've been travelling on business. I usually I bring a book to read, or play on my phone. I also go to the pub solo since my partner died; it can be fun watching the world go past. |
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I’ve been single almost 7months now and have taken myself on a solo date to the cinema but that’s about it… I always feel so conscious of going out alone… I have promised myself that I’ll make more time to learn to love going out by myself tho 🤷🏻♀️😂 |
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As someone who’s 100% a single mum, I relish solo me time. The other week I booked a day off work whilst the children were at school, got my nails done and treated myself to my favourite Japanese restaurant. I couldn’t care less about people feeling sorry for me because I felt amazing 😂 |
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It took me a while to go to a real restaurant (with a waiter/waitress rather than queuing up for food) but now love it. Book to read if it’s planned but very happy also just people watching and earwigging their conversations!
Had a solo city break to Brussels a few years ago which was lovely. Must book another!
Not done a lazy beach type holiday as I don’t want to burn |
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I've not done dinner myself but have had lunches out in restaurants. Usually read a book on my phone. I have also been to cinema and theatre by myself. If I want to see it and I don't know someone else who does then why should I miss out. |
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The cinema alone is great - no discussion/debate over what to see. Personally I don't ever get snacks at the cinema, but again you don't have any discussion, just get what you want.
I've eaten out alone numerous times and sometimes it feels like you get your food quicker than others as there's at least 50% of a table going to waste and they'd like to get it ready for a couple of larger group. |
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I travel solo a fair bit, either through football, work or socialising and I enjoy nothing more than my own company, good food and good wine ☺️
I have an unlimited cinema card, so think nothing of going to the cinema on my own either.
Embrace it….. it’s empowering 🥰 |
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Absolutely love it. Meals out, cinema, sometimes going for a drink, even holidays - really liberating to just be able to do things for you, on your own terms, rather than having to wait around for a friend or partner to want to do them as well. Aware that it can be different for women, but hopefully that's getting easier as it gets normalised. If you're worried about it feeling depressing, make a bit more of an event of it if you can - sitting in a greasy spoon by yourself probably isn't that much fun; going to a nice coffee shop and spending some time on yourself can be. Also, I'm never that motivated to go for dinner by myself,but I really like going for breakfast somewhere nice on my own.
Final thought: these things change with time and life. When I was younger, I'm sure I saw people drinking alone in the pub and thought 'jesus, that's a bit sad.' Now that I've got a very demanding job where I'm constantly surrounded by people, always on call and fielding messages, the idea of having two hours just to unplug, go to a nice pub and gather my thoughts with a quiet pint is absolute luxury. |
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I love taking myself out for dinner! The nicer the restaurant, the better. I have had a few looks, from both waiting staff and other diners, but I don't give a fuck: it can feel special to spend quality time with yourself, you deserve that. |
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I often eat alone when I'm out and about for work and happily get my laptop out and work for a while. My step daughter gets emotional at the thought of people eating alone so I generally pop a pic on the family chat and get a middle finger emoji in return
Happy walking and running alone and could definitely holiday alone too (on the assumption my wife didn't want/was unable to come with me).
Being comfy in your own skin is important.
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