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how many times have you been let down by people on this site?
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A few times sadly. And a few months ago, someone last minute blocked me on here and WhatsApp. We had arranged a social too.
So now I won't give out my number to people unless we have met previously. |
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"Four times by the same lady. 1st: poorly dog. 2nd: Sudden Baby sitting duty. 3rd: Fell asleep? WTF!! 4th: There wasn't a fourth. Blocked.  "
You must have a lot of patience to keep going after the 2nd let down |
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"A few times sadly. And a few months ago, someone last minute blocked me on here and WhatsApp. We had arranged a social too.
So now I won't give out my number to people unless we have met previously. "
Damnit, you keep avoiding me!! 🤣😭🤣😝 |
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"A few times sadly. And a few months ago, someone last minute blocked me on here and WhatsApp. We had arranged a social too.
So now I won't give out my number to people unless we have met previously.
Damnit, you keep avoiding me!! 🤣😭🤣😝"
Meee??? Neverrrrr |
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I was stood up three weekends in a row by three different men, it led to me chatting with a couple for the first time and then the lady came over to cheer me up. He kindly stayed home with the kids 🤭 They’re my closest fab friends now.
Sometimes it all works out for the best.  |
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Last 4 actually
First 2 met for drinks . Had a good time. Arranged hotel meet both cancelled and never rescheduled
Last 2 on the days a social was arranged left it far too late in the evening to get back to me.
Only the guys I've known for ages I can rely on |
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By *ornycougaWoman 2 days ago
Wherever I lay my hat |
I don't know. A handful. I can recall being stood up once. And I think twice a guy got a better offer, gave me a lame assed excuse as to why he couldn't make it 9nly for a veri to appear the next day. |
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I have lost count but about 90% of the time one way or another, I think, and all men who had approached me!
I am beginning to think that it is a rather weird form of madochism to stay on this site!🤔😂 |
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"I don't know. A handful. I can recall being stood up once. And I think twice a guy got a better offer, gave me a lame assed excuse as to why he couldn't make it 9nly for a veri to appear the next day. "
Similarly… frustrating but I’ve learned that’s just life on fab unfortunately x |
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So I had 7 ghostings/stood up in the space of a week. Twice by the same person! Also seem to be getting a lot of ‘we had a great time but I’m now looking at getting back with my ex’. I must be pretty bad then if they’re looking at getting back with them after being with me!
I also get lots of ‘yeah I really wanna meet you on x day’ then when you confirm it’s ’sorry, made other arrangements now’.
Was also stood up on Sunday evening. Waited in the bar of the hotel I’d booked. No show. Tbh I’m getting a bit pissed with it now and makes me wanna delete my profile…. |
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"Four times by the same lady. 1st: poorly dog. 2nd: Sudden Baby sitting duty. 3rd: Fell asleep? WTF!! 4th: There wasn't a fourth. Blocked.
You must have a lot of patience to keep going after the 2nd let down "
Lets be honest. When A single guy believes he's struck gold. You give the lady every chance to glitter.... You then have to give yourself a stern talking to and realize she's fools gold.  |
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By *man87Man 1 day ago
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"Last 4 actually
First 2 met for drinks . Had a good time. Arranged hotel meet both cancelled and never rescheduled
Last 2 on the days a social was arranged left it far too late in the evening to get back to me.
Only the guys I've known for ages I can rely on "
They must not be right in the head how could they stand you up some don't know how lucky they are with certain meets and to fuck it up is a sin |
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"this is not my first account but ive been let down quite a lot of times last minute also "
Expectations are very grim anyway so I’ve never had the measure of feeling let down I’ll be honest and say as a percentage my commitment to FAB is less than 50% at the moment so a work in progress checking for an inbox message is my only hope at this time The day I get to any meaningful interaction here is the day Man will land on Mars |
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I've had a few go quiet before meeting. I don't give them a chance to explain themselves anymore. The ones that keep in contact and cancel tend to have genuine reasons and rearrange. I've not been stood up yet but I'm sure that day will come. No matter how careful your selection process is or how desirable you think you are, it can happen to anyone. |
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Never been stood up.
I was ghosted by a couple on the morning of our planned meet back when I first joined nearly 10 years ago.
I've had a couple of cancellations with a few days notice from people who never rescheduled. I'm not sure that counts as being "let down", though. Life happens.
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Loads of times. Plenty when I first joined and hadn't figured out that the site is riddled with fantasists, bullshit merchants and gobshites. I'm a bit more wise these days and if someone is being sketchy I'll ask to meet at a club or social event. If they don't show then I'm sure I'll find something to entertain me. No doubt there will be the usual comments from those claiming to have never been stood up because they did their "due diligence" but as it is a site which is used for casual sex hook ups as well as swinging I don't want to spend 6 months chatting for 4 and a half minutes of mediocre sex. |
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Never. Had a couple of last minute cancellations but I'm always prepared for that and the couple concerned are genuine and we always get together later to make up for it. I know life can get in the way.
Where couples are concerned, a family crisis, a blown boiler it's life. We all encounter difficulties.
Newbies get cold feet or a previous offer comes up unexpectedly, last minute work commitments so things get cancelled rearranged it happens.
I expect a cancellation so if it happens it's not as frustrating and disappointing.
Don't give up, things will click and you'll be fighting off offers.
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By *vcarolTV/TS 1 day ago
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So, I’m not the only one.
My record is 12 in one morning. Yes, you read that correctly- 12 ghostings in one morning.
Now, I’m not horrendous in the looks department, I’m up for anything, and I’m certainly not shy.
It’s got to the stage I’ve given up on here seeing anyone. All single guys are blocked for messaging.
Something has to be done, as there are way to many time wasting idiots.
The site is getting destroyed by them.
Time management done something.
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"Never really..I'd always know when it's not gonna happen...then I move on "
Is it because of a gut feeling you know it isn't going to happen or just radio silence from the person towards the day of the meet? |
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"About 50/50.
Maybe 40/60.
What irks me the most is when they resurface and expect a second chance to stand me up. Jog on. "
Oh, you inadvertently reminded me - gangbang letdowns. (This is why you invite 3x the number of people you want  )
They'd regularly not show and then assume they had a one on one meet guaranteed.
The only thing they get is a block. Perhaps after being told why. |
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"Never really..I'd always know when it's not gonna happen...then I move on
Is it because of a gut feeling you know it isn't going to happen or just radio silence from the person towards the day of the meet?"
A gut feeling I get, i can tell when they are full of shit..if there's radio silence or no effort then I don't bother n make other plans!
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"Never really..I'd always know when it's not gonna happen...then I move on
Is it because of a gut feeling you know it isn't going to happen or just radio silence from the person towards the day of the meet?
A gut feeling I get, i can tell when they are full of shit..if there's radio silence or no effort then I don't bother n make other plans!
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Ah I've completely got you. Once you have been on here a while you do get that gut feeling on whether or not someone is genuine. |
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I’ve been stood up/ghosted 4 or 5 times over the years I’ve been using Fab? You do get a 6th sense after a while though, for people who will let you down
The absolute worst was when I was ghosted by a woman, then a day later saw her post a veri from another guy, from the night we had planned to meet. That was truly disgusting behaviour…. |
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By *ornycougaWoman 24 hours ago
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"Four times by the same lady. 1st: poorly dog. 2nd: Sudden Baby sitting duty. 3rd: Fell asleep? WTF!! 4th: There wasn't a fourth. Blocked.
You must have a lot of patience to keep going after the 2nd let down
Lets be honest. When A single guy believes he's struck gold. You give the lady every chance to glitter.... You then have to give yourself a stern talking to and realize she's fools gold. "
What's that saying? Fool me once - shame on you. Fool me twice - shame on me. |
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Nope, never.
I’m not sure that “let down” is really the right expression though, sometimes people have a change of heart/mind it happens. I’d rather they didn’t show up than go through the motions. As for the perineal teases (talk then run (both male and female)), I think they are fairly easy to spot after being on the site a while. That’s where managing expectations comes in I guess, I never think of a chat leading to anything more than a chat, people are trying to find out if you’re a suitable match, nothing more, nothing less |
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"About 50/50.
Maybe 40/60.
What irks me the most is when they resurface and expect a second chance to stand me up. Jog on.
Oh, you inadvertently reminded me - gangbang letdowns. (This is why you invite 3x the number of people you want )
They'd regularly not show and then assume they had a one on one meet guaranteed.
The only thing they get is a block. Perhaps after being told why."
Well I was taking % not the number of guys per meet  |
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"About 50/50.
Maybe 40/60.
What irks me the most is when they resurface and expect a second chance to stand me up. Jog on.
Oh, you inadvertently reminded me - gangbang letdowns. (This is why you invite 3x the number of people you want )
They'd regularly not show and then assume they had a one on one meet guaranteed.
The only thing they get is a block. Perhaps after being told why.
Well I was taking % not the number of guys per meet "
For sure.
Just bouncing off the second chance thing |
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By *scaMan 24 hours ago
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Once or twice, it comes with the territory unfortunately. I’ve always made the effort to show up when I say I will (or at the very least give plenty of warning if I need to rearrange). You win some, you lose some  |
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I’ve been stood up once in eight years, the irony was it wasn’t a first date even and she was coming to mine and just never showed up.
Of them that not really been let down, things haven’t always gone to plan, some people have rather messy complicated lives but these interactions or what you both make of them |
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"About 50/50.
Maybe 40/60.
What irks me the most is when they resurface and expect a second chance to stand me up. Jog on.
Oh, you inadvertently reminded me - gangbang letdowns. (This is why you invite 3x the number of people you want )
They'd regularly not show and then assume they had a one on one meet guaranteed.
The only thing they get is a block. Perhaps after being told why.
Well I was taking % not the number of guys per meet
For sure.
Just bouncing off the second chance thing "
Is there ever any point in second chances? |
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"About 50/50.
Maybe 40/60.
What irks me the most is when they resurface and expect a second chance to stand me up. Jog on.
Oh, you inadvertently reminded me - gangbang letdowns. (This is why you invite 3x the number of people you want )
They'd regularly not show and then assume they had a one on one meet guaranteed.
The only thing they get is a block. Perhaps after being told why.
Well I was taking % not the number of guys per meet
For sure.
Just bouncing off the second chance thing
Is there ever any point in second chances? "
Rarely. Without some sort of background of trust, probably not |
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Quite a few times and has seemed to get worse in the past couple of years. This is from profiles across the board from Newbies to well verified people. We did let it get to us at first, but now we have an attitude of "so what, their loss" and still enjoy our us time together
Will admit its has changed the way we are with messages though, and now any slight sense of possibly being let down is a swift no and block. |
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