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Well, my last child is finally leaving the nest and moving out.
I'm really pleased for her but in the next breath I'm going to miss her terribly. It's been me and her in the house for many years now. My other children left home years ago.
My question is how did you feel when the kiddies had flown the nest?
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Our kids are still many years away from moving out. I do think about how it’ll be when they do though. When they’re at school or off out and I’m home alone, it’s so quiet. Too quiet sometimes.
Adjusting to that being the norm will be quite difficult I imagine. |
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Oh LLB, what an equally exciting time but also a heartfelt one. Whilst I'm not there yet I can totally appreciate those emotions and what you must be feeling. It's a new chapter for you both but the reminiscences and happy memories will always temper the realisation of your child moving out.
Wishing both of you happy and exciting times ahead! 💐 |
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By *osseffMan 7 days ago
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My eldest moved away when she was quite young, my middle son is coming to an age where he will be moving on, and my youngest isn't allowed to grow up!
I find it so hard not seeing them every day. But the amount of pride I have seeing them grow into adulthood and being utterly amazing human beings makes me weep with pride.
Just a little weird being the parent of adults? I often look through all the photos of when they were kids and makes me so happy to remember their journey and see the adults they are now....and it's all gone so quick!!!
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My son left home at 16 to live with his dad so he was near the college.
I knew for along while he was going. When he left I got two cats. Still got one with me and she's now 19.
It's hard to start with then you enjoy your own space |
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I think it'll be a bit of an emotional roller coaster, much like you're experiencing now, LLB.
I've got about 4 or 5 years before I have an empty nest, and imagine it'll be a mixture of happiness and excitement for them, and a bit of sadness/loneliness for myself. They're at their dad's every other week, so maybe I won't find it as hard as some. Being alone 100% of the time will still take some getting used to, though 😭 |
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It's been a roller coaster of emotions for us both.
She's saved so hard for her deposit so she can buy her property on her own (not shared ownership).
And I'm extremely proud of her and the other child's. So unless she loses her job and can see her coming home
A new chapter for me also, 32 yrs of parenting in the family home stops.
And maybe I will have exciting things/times to come.
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"I do wonder if it's very different if you were a single parent or not."
I bet both miss the child equally, but the single patent may have that extra layer of loneliness thrown on there, too. Or not. They might like the space 🤷♀️ |
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"I do wonder if it's very different if you were a single parent or not."
I am a single mum and haven't lived with a partner fir nearly 15yrs. And most of the 15yrs I've been single.
The house will be even quieter |
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Only one of mine has flown…. I miss him as he is the one ai get on the most with 🥺 the other 2 are still at school.
But having lived first hand an incredibly toxic, codependent relationship between my mother and my brother, to an extent that he is completely useless and unable to work and I was very graciously given the responsibility of him once my parents died, I am more than keen to have all of my children fly the nest and become as independent as possible. |
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"Only one of mine has flown…. I miss him as he is the one ai get on the most with 🥺 the other 2 are still at school.
But having lived first hand an incredibly toxic, codependent relationship between my mother and my brother, to an extent that he is completely useless and unable to work and I was very graciously given the responsibility of him once my parents died, I am more than keen to have all of my children fly the nest and become as independent as possible. "
I was keen for them all to leave so I could have more of an adult life. I don't really date etc. But now we are counting down the days, in single figures, it's really hitting home.
Hopefully after a week or 2,things will better |
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Hard at first, takes a bit of getting used to but there's also satisfaction in watching them and supporting them as they make their own way..
And..
They always go straight to the fridge when they come back..  |
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Happy and dare I say it relieved.
I enjoyed every stage of their life.and celebrated every milestone including them feeling independent enough to move out. It was also very, very nice to have the house to ourselves again. |
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It's been in limbo for a while now, so I think I've moved beyond the anticipatory loss feeling and I'm more in the that's nice dear, so I'm probably going to turn her room into a dungeon or high tech gaming station, before my partner turns it into a closet or Arts and crafts workshop. |
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Mine moved out last year I still miss him 😢 but at the same time I’m happy he’s living with his girlfriend I yet to be blessed with a grandchild so I got a kitten I was feeling lost not caring for something it’s certainly not the same but it does take my mind off things |
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