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By *affa2 OP Couple 1 week ago
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Are we the only ones frustrating potential playmates by refusing to do home or hotel visits on 1st time? We prefer the safety of a club, or even house parties with many in attendance..
Surely we aren't alone in this? |
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"Are we the only ones frustrating potential playmates by refusing to do home or hotel visits on 1st time? We prefer the safety of a club, or even house parties with many in attendance..
Surely we aren't alone in this? "
Probably not |
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I always meet on neutral ground for the first few times which usually means a hotel. I have a wingwoman though whom I give all the details to and check in with and let the guy know the alarm could be raised at any time (or that she’d be happy to help me dig a shallow if he misbehaved) 😁 |
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Frustrating them or you?
You have set a goalpost only meet in clubs or parties.
They might not be comfortable in that setting and prefer at home or hotels
All it shows is that what both sides is looking for is incompatable.
Not everyone is prepared to jump through the hoops the other party dictates. |
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By *affa2 OP Couple 1 week ago
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"Frustrating them or "
Good point! I think everyone is frustrated by the exchange
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You have set a goalpost only meet in clubs or parties.
They might not be comfortable in that setting and prefer at home or hotels
All it shows is that what both sides is looking for is incompatable.
Not everyone is prepared to jump through the hoops the other party dictates."
Agreed, just wanted to see how common it is. We wondered how many people would do anything to get laid, throwing safety to the wind.. |
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You are not alone but I would say you are in the minority.
More couples play either in hotels or their house.
Lots of people doing like the idea of going to a club, let alone meet someone for the first time.
You could suggest a social at a convenient place. |
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"Frustrating them or
Good point! I think everyone is frustrated by the exchange
You have set a goalpost only meet in clubs or parties.
They might not be comfortable in that setting and prefer at home or hotels
All it shows is that what both sides is looking for is incompatable.
Not everyone is prepared to jump through the hoops the other party dictates.
Agreed, just wanted to see how common it is. We wondered how many people would do anything to get laid, throwing safety to the wind.. "
As a single woman I don't go to clubs on my own is because I value my safety. The same goes for hotels.
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I think it just says you’re incompatible.
As things stand I wouldn’t feel comfortable attending party or club with multiple strangers in order to meet the stranger I’ve been speaking to.
All that tells me is we wouldn’t be compatible, nobody should be expected to compromise their own boundaries |
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I think it’s a personal choice of how and when you feel comfortable
We have met couples at swinging clubs that we have invited back to our home in the past
And Katie has also had guys call in
As I say personal choice
Enjoy N xxx |
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I don't play without at least 2 socials beforehand.
I've refused to meet 2 different women who both had 100 plus verifications but who insisted that they only ever met in their own home.
The way I saw it was that if they had so little thought for their own personal safety that they would give me and others, as complete strangers, their address and allow us into their homes, they weren't people I would be compatible with.
I don't dance to other people's tunes just for a shag and I wouldn't expect anyone to dance to mine either. If it isn't mutual it doesn't happen. |
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I wouldn't meet anyone in a hotel or their house for the first meet. Sounds scary as hell.
I've only had one person from this site in my house and I've known him for 8 months and he's built up the trust to do that. |
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I won't invite anyone new into my home, nope. I will do a hotel meet, but only if I can put safety measures in place.
I'd much prefer to do a club meet for a first time! I've raised this with single guys and MM pairings before though and they've refused; whether that's because they're not comfortable there, club restrictions, or something very shady, I don't know. |
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"Are we the only ones frustrating potential playmates by refusing to do home or hotel visits on 1st time? We prefer the safety of a club, or even house parties with many in attendance..
Surely we aren't alone in this? "
No, I don't think it's unreasonable. No one wants to turn up and then find there's no chemistry. That's just a disappointment waiting to happen. Plus, safety is concern. Take me for insurance. I'm still relatively new, no verifications from people. Not been to any club. I wouldn't meet me either in those situations. No, play it safe and make it comfortable for you. |
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"I always meet on neutral ground for the first few times which usually means a hotel. I have a wingwoman though whom I give all the details to and check in with and let the guy know the alarm could be raised at any time (or that she’d be happy to help me dig a shallow if he misbehaved) 😁"
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Not at all op. You do what suits you,you just won't be compatible with those who do things differently.
Even when I meet with my partner, we wouldn't go straight to someone's home.
Or do a hotel meet without a public social first. |
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By *exsaCouple 1 week ago
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Yep i think you do you and you will find people that are compatible.
I agree I wouldnt do a home or hotel meet first time either solo or as a couple (always do a social first anyway) but also I wouldnt necessarily be comfortable meeting in a club…. Still manage to connect with the right people fairly easily. x |
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I'm not letting strangers come to my house so they know where I live.
Similarly I'm not going to a strangers house.
I'm horny not a f*cking moron.
Yes there's the danger of being murdered. But there's the lesser dangers of what if you just don't like them or their house is unhygienic. |
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By *exsaCouple 1 week ago
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"I don't play without at least 2 socials beforehand.
I've refused to meet 2 different women who both had 100 plus verifications but who insisted that they only ever met in their own home.
The way I saw it was that if they had so little thought for their own personal safety that they would give me and others, as complete strangers, their address and allow us into their homes, they weren't people I would be compatible with.
I don't dance to other people's tunes just for a shag and I wouldn't expect anyone to dance to mine either. If it isn't mutual it doesn't happen."
Kudos to you sir!  |
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Profiles will choose how they want to meet . Various reasons for not meeting ay their place, clubs or hotels. Being seen from comments so far yes can happen. Know profiles will meet at say hotel but a bit out of local area. Yet no matter where you go. Always a chance can see people you know outside of Fab. Just have to work out your most safe ? and preferred way of meeting. |
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"Are we the only ones frustrating potential playmates by refusing to do home or hotel visits on 1st time? We prefer the safety of a club, or even house parties with many in attendance..
Surely we aren't alone in this? "
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Let's put it this way: if they get frustrated because you don't want to do a home/hotel visit is because they don't want to go to a club. Why would their preference matter more than yours?
I mean, raise it as soon as the convo starts about a meet, check their profile to see if they like clubs etc. Bit silly if you chat for months and then you drop that last minute (or their fault also if hiding they don't go to clubs).
But don't drop your preferences to please others. Instead, find partners who like the same as you do |
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