For those who like to play with a power dynamic during sex, be that dom/sub, dd/lg or whatever - how did you discover you enjoyed this? What do you enjoy about it?
Please to mindful not to post about underage or illegal sexual experiences.
Mrs TMN x |
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For me it’s the trust, care and respect that is handed to me in those dynamics. The pure intoxication of them giving all of themselves to me, to do as I see fit and to push them as we discussed and agreed |
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Once the trust and communication is there, it's the feeling of helplessness and being controlled. I can take my brain off the hook and just do as I'm told - it but be able to do anything and just take whatever they want to do to me.
Such a huge rush. |
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From partners, through exploration and discovery.
Which is probably the most central aspect of my enjoyment. The intimate discovery of self, other and the dynamic we share.
I find that is what leads to sex becoming spontaneous and fluid, along with power dynamics. |
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I don't know exactly how I discovered that. Probably via getting tingles when reading and watching certain things.
I enjoy them taking their pleasure from me. I enjoy that it quiets my brain to be told what to do. And part of it I don't even understand, just that it gets me unbelievably turned on and needy. |
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It's been a while since I explored D/s, but for me it was the knowledge that my Dom would make sure he enjoyed himself. If he didn't like what I was doing he'd tell me to do something else. I didn't need to overthink things or second-guess myself, as everything was crystal clear.
Being able to stop my mind racing meant that I could focus on the experience and on the sensation. |
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It started with a book
However, when someone really and truly trusts you to surrender that part of themselves, to be vulnerable and to let you control their pleasure …. Fuck there is nothing like it. There is beauty in taking that control, powerful beauty in shaping and moulding their pleasure, and dare I say it - pride. Yes I’ll preen a little at fulfilling both our needs, but also when it’s time to hand that power back, seeing them stand a little taller, their back a little straighter and the glow they have. Nothing like it.
I am known to occasionally switch, and this applies reversed too.
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Aside from my obvious mummy issues, not enough people in my life allow me space to express a more submissive part of my personality but the dynamic allows me to clear my mind and be led, be instructed, be used away from life, from responsibility and from everything that usually fills my head. I also especially love the way it lets me explore and make sense of different parts of my masculinity too. The entire thing challenges the perspectives I was raised to try and internalise and just enjoy a different type of sex.
BUT as much as I’m enjoying exploring these dynamics, it is not my PREFERRED type of sex. Just a type of sex I enjoy. |
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"Aside from my obvious mummy issues, not enough people in my life allow me space to express a more submissive part of my personality but the dynamic allows me to clear my mind and be led, be instructed, be used away from life, from responsibility and from everything that usually fills my head. I also especially love the way it lets me explore and make sense of different parts of my masculinity too. The entire thing challenges the perspectives I was raised to try and internalise and just enjoy a different type of sex.
BUT as much as I’m enjoying exploring these dynamics, it is not my PREFERRED type of sex. Just a type of sex I enjoy. "
So funny I’ve been writing about this but it turned into quite the essay. |
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Something I have always felt- the responsibility of constantly having to be responsible and to feel like you need to lead or that pride expect that of you or like you have to act a certain way is so exhausting and so just eurgh. Life. I think it’s why although I’ve explored being dominant, I really find it boring. |
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"Something I have always felt- the responsibility of constantly having to be responsible and to feel like you need to lead or that pride expect that of you or like you have to act a certain way is so exhausting and so just eurgh. Life. I think it’s why although I’ve explored being dominant, I really find it boring. "
Oh yeah, casting that aside is so liberating.
Boundaries are important to attend to, but predefined roles just turn it into sex by numbers for me, no matter what the activity, dynamic or role is. |
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