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Am I just too young?
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"Most men struggle. I think under 25 makes things really hard, although my sense is that 30-50 is the easiest time men will have." Under 25, it's the bigger amount of testosterone that makes things really hard, ...just saying, Mrs x  | |||
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"When I was your age I just went and picked up easy women from bars. Try that, it’s easier getting a no there than it is getting rejected here. " Maybe the OP is a swinger? Or interested in swinging? | |||
"most swingers probably have kids your age"  | |||
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"most swingers probably have kids your age" Excatly this we have kids that age and older | |||
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"When I was your age I just went and picked up easy women from bars. Try that, it’s easier getting a no there than it is getting rejected here. Maybe the OP is a swinger? Or interested in swinging?" Or maybe clubs and bars are different from 20+ years ago  | |||
"When I was your age I just went and picked up easy women from bars. Try that, it’s easier getting a no there than it is getting rejected here. Maybe the OP is a swinger? Or interested in swinging? Or maybe clubs and bars are different from 20+ years ago "You are right, I wouldn’t approach some people today especially the younger ones, they seem very sensitive to being spoken to. | |||
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"I’ve noticed a lot of people (mainly women and couples) have their ages set so that people my age can’t message them, am I just too young to be accepted into this world? " Hello OP Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret and certainly don't get into arguements over it. The world has changed and how people meet today is different to how it was 10 years ago, let alone 30 or 40. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away if you cannot 100% commit to a meet, and not being able to drive will of course impact your ability to reach some people. Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet, you're wasting your time and theirs. Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, It WILL get you ignored. If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be some common ground to write about. Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle; as a young guy too your battle isn't uphill, its practically up a cliff! That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to look at your profile, so as to ensure you make the best possible first impression. I'd also suggest some additional pics for your profile. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile, and anything in between is great. Lincoln is a beautiful City, so next time it's a lovely day, get out and take some selfies somewhere nice. However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, get involved in the chatroom too, both are great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves. You should also condider getting off the site and meet people socially or try a club. You could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do? A good place to start would be by looking at this profile, as they organise socials in Lincoln: https://www.fabswingers.com/profile/f_yeahparties Good luck | |||
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"OP, I think there are more factors than just your age that make things difficult for you here. You can't accommodate and you don't drive, that's going to put some people off. Let's say I agreed to meet you in a pub/cafe, we got on, wanted to take things further, I can't or don't want to accommodate, what then? " Hotel? | |||
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"OP, I think there are more factors than just your age that make things difficult for you here. You can't accommodate and you don't drive, that's going to put some people off. Let's say I agreed to meet you in a pub/cafe, we got on, wanted to take things further, I can't or don't want to accommodate, what then? Hotel?" Just read the profile again, yes, he does mention he can book a hotel, doh! Maybe it's too early for Fab! Lol. | |||
"OP, I think there are more factors than just your age that make things difficult for you here. You can't accommodate and you don't drive, that's going to put some people off. Let's say I agreed to meet you in a pub/cafe, we got on, wanted to take things further, I can't or don't want to accommodate, what then? Hotel? Just read the profile again, yes, he does mention he can book a hotel, doh! Maybe it's too early for Fab! Lol. " | |||
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"I’ve noticed a lot of people (mainly women and couples) have their ages set so that people my age can’t message them, am I just too young to be accepted into this world? " Age is just one filter people use. You'll be too young for some but not all. It's easy for some to focus one one specific rather than looking at the bigger picture. Some will want a certain age, some will want people that can accomodate, some won't meet smokers (particularly those with any reference to '420') and some will just look at a profile and the words and photos on it and decide there's nothing that interests/attracts them. Concentrate on those whose criteria you do match and even then, bear in mind that what someone looks for is often a loose set of factors. They'll still need to be attracted to you and you'll still need to generate interest through conversation. | |||
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"Most men struggle. I think under 25 makes things really hard, although my sense is that 30-50 is the easiest time men will have." True, the filters I can get through come my 30th...  | |||
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