Not some weird new thing, rather the art of building sexual and erotic imagery in the mind with words.
Are you a master of it? Is the art dead or are you only aroused by visual stimulus?
For me great sex and foreplay starts with the imagination, how about you? |
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Maybe it's my age or because (I'm not bragging here honestly) I've shagged so much in my life I really can't be arsed, seems like a lot ofhard work just to get your end away.
I'm just lazy I guess
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I think that's a very fair point, after all Fab is very much focused on the physical side of things, you certainly wouldn't have any kind of erotic build up before a club event such as greedy girls or clambering onto the orgy bed, that is strictly hedonistic, physical pleasure. |
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"Not some weird new thing, rather the art of building sexual and erotic imagery in the mind with words.
Are you a master of it? Is the art dead or are you only aroused by visual stimulus?
For me great sex and foreplay starts with the imagination, how about you?"
I like it a lot but very few on here are any good at it.  |
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"I am, but with people I am already invested in, not with random strangers. "
This is very true, I think you need to know the person a little first or it would be asking too much for the imagination to fill all the gaps. |
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Oh now this is an interesting thread that I'll keep an eyes. Yes the mind is definitely a beginning of it. I used to be able to stimulate the mind first but I just don't know if I have that anymore. Results of shutting myself away for so long I guess. |
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"Not some weird new thing, rather the art of building sexual and erotic imagery in the mind with words.
Are you a master of it? Is the art dead or are you only aroused by visual stimulus?
For me great sex and foreplay starts with the imagination, how about you?
I like it a lot but very few on here are any good at it. "
Do you think that is a time thing, many on here live busy lives and a few hours of back and forth throughout the day is just too much time for people to invest? |
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"Not some weird new thing, rather the art of building sexual and erotic imagery in the mind with words.
Are you a master of it? Is the art dead or are you only aroused by visual stimulus?
For me great sex and foreplay starts with the imagination, how about you?
I like it a lot but very few on here are any good at it.
Do you think that is a time thing, many on here live busy lives and a few hours of back and forth throughout the day is just too much time for people to invest?"
I'm sure that's part of it, quicker to send a dick or tit pic ! 🤣 |
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It's something I do, conservatively, when chatting to someone if there's chemistry and sexual frisson. I would have been talking to them over a period of time, perhaps already met them for a social; it's not something I do to strangers or during any nascent conversations.
For me whatever mental imagery I project and describe has to be mostly 'achievable', as in, not fantasy or something whimsical. |
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Most of the time I get fed up with poor grammar, bad spelling, and vulgar and lacking tact or refinement.
It's very much a dying art.
Some people are plagued by sexual boredom find themselves there because they prioritize getting it done over exploring the hidden desires that turn them on.
It requires practice.
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I have no minds eye. Aphantasia or whatever it's called. So I have zero skill in making that happen for other people and just feel a bit embarrassed about being incapable when they try to inspire it in me.
Visuals don't generally get me off either.
Physical touch and the memories of are where most of my building excitement comes from 💜 |
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Definitely works for me much more than visual picture. But I think I heard somewhere that pictures work much better for guys so it makes sense that they would struggle with the descriptive side. It's definitely been used to get me going leading up to a meet. I'd say I'm pretty bad at it myself though 🤷 |
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"I am, but with people I am already invested in, not with random strangers.
This is very true, I think you need to know the person a little first or it would be asking too much for the imagination to fill all the gaps."
Spot on!! Unless you click staight away and it's already there. |
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There's definitely an art to it. There's not many who have the time or inclination to invest in that way. I've found it to be intrinsic in my relationships, however, it's rare in my fab dalliances, sadly. |
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"I like it. The right amount of sexual chemistry inspires all sorts of thoughts. Being able to share them with someone, adding to the sexual tension is exciting!
I’m no master at it though. "
I'll just copy and paste this ☝️
If there's chemistry, I really enjoy it! |
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"I like it. The right amount of sexual chemistry inspires all sorts of thoughts. Being able to share them with someone, adding to the sexual tension is exciting!
I’m no master at it though.
I'll just copy and paste this ☝️
If there's chemistry, I really enjoy it!"
Same … the chemistry has to be there and if they are good at it 🫠🫠🫠🫠🫠 |
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I think the best scenarios/sex can be using the mind, when you get it right and have that connection the sexual tension/imagery/build up can be very fulfilling for all people involved. The build up and sexual tension you feel coming up with a scenario/role play can be great.
It can tap into the imagination part of your brain and you can imagine and find new fantasies about all involved. It’s a skill that can take time to get right, it’s a very pleasurable process when it works and a great way to learn.
When the scenario does happen in a way all the awkwardness can disappear as you all know what to expect. It’s just one element of good sex/play etc. The results can be just mind blowing. Just my thought and experiences of it 😀 |
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With someone I'm invested in, I *have* to have written chemistry; I want to tell them exactly what I want to do to them, in such detail that they can almost feel it. It certainly is an art, and one I relish practicing. But it has to be reciprocated and I need to be turned on by their words in return and that's...rare. |
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For me and it sounds like a lot of others. The mind is the key to unlocking a lot of debauchery. 
I've never been interested in naked ladies or indeed ladies wearing mini skirts.
What floats my boat it seems, is getting my tiny brain to start imagining what could she be wearing underneath the ankle length skirt she looks incredible in?
Can I see any suspender bumps?
Can I see a vpl? Or perhaps her clothing is sheer, in a certain light.
Again the mind plays it's games, thinking over various scenarios. Such as on a first meet. The lady visits the loo and on her return, drops a warm, crumpled piece of black satin in front of me. All the while, not taking her eyes of her husband......
Listening to a couple fucking in the next room to mine is also fun. Trying to picture what positions they're having fun in. Then the next morning, trying to figure out at breakfast who they were.
Listening is more erotic for me than purely watching. |
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"I’ve gone past all that. In my 20’s and 30’s it could be quite hot, but these days I prefer less flowery guff and more straight to the point stuff."
Sent you 46 dick pics. Sorry about the toilet.  |
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I can talk filthy and get people off, just know that it's not doing anything for me and I'm probably watching a horror film or something.
I did it a lot many years ago and it's easy to say the right things in the right way.
They have to be spectacular or at the very least genuinely invested in meeting me and making what they're saying reality to capture my interest. |
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With the right person, I love it. It’s not just writing some porn. It’s exploring each other’s desires and wants and boundaries, plus revisiting intimate moments. I love the hedonism of physical pleasure, but if you can get into my mind too, you’ve got me.
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For me great sex and foreplay starts with ‘good morning’.
I agree, words can real play a great part of turning me on, and I’d expect the same. A flirty text or a whisper into someone’s ear with your intentions can really set the mood for what to come when you are alone.
I love to get inside someone’s head, especially when they are in mine. |
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