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So after 10 years of dating, relationships, situationships and casual flings. I’m just now starting to realise just how common girls having a “roster” of men actually is. Whether that’s exs, guy best friends, new guys on nights out and everything in between. I’ve definately found some of this out the hard way incase you were wondering but now I’m purely just curious to see why girls HAVE a roster of men.
So in the spirit of educating dummy men like me; do you girls ACTUALLY have a favourite guy? Are you hung up on your ex and every other guy is a distraction? Or do you love/ fancy every guy equally and you can’t pick between them? Or is it a menstrual cycle thing? You Fancy some men more depending what time of the month it is? What drives you? Is it boredom? Insatiable appetite? Because it’s empowering?
This is a genuine question, I would genuinely like to know. I think this information would’ve been invaluable 10 years ago 😂😂 This won’t apply to every girl on here I’m aware but if anyone wants to chip in, feel free. I think this could be very educational information.
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I dont have a favourite, I like them all equally otherwise I wouldn't be seeing them.....
Everyone of them is different which makes things more exciting, what I do with one, I may not do with others.
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By *zeroMan 2 days ago
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"My best friend calls it her stable.
I don't think I've ever used the word roster but the circle of people I'm intimate with are on the level of friendship so the word wouldn't really be accurate.
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I like the term stable. Makes me think of wrestling. The Four Horsemen |
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What drives me is personality above all else.
If a guy has a decent personality, can make me laugh, hold a good conversation etc then that’s really sexy. I would say I have a ‘stable’ rather than a roster and I love the guys to pieces (not in love though you understand) because they are really wonderful people.
As they are such great personalities the sex is great too. |
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The simple answer is because we can. I don't want a relationship so enm works perfectly for me. I like the variety and not having to be beholden to anyone. I can come and go as I please. It's a lot of fun. |
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C had a stable when she was single on here and they offered different things and all lived in different parts of the country so was easy to manage.
We’d love another little stable - would be nice not to keep constantly looking.
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Interesting, sounds very healthy the way most of you have phrased it. In my experience, the girls I’ve been with haven’t been upfront with the men/ amount of men in their “stable”, which potentially is half the issue. I always assumed you girls secretly had “one” that was held higher than the rest emotionally if you get my drift?
Also stable is a new term, I haven’t heard off that before. Wonder if “roster” is our zoomer and Gen Z generation term 🤣 |
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"Interesting, sounds very healthy the way most of you have phrased it. In my experience, the girls I’ve been with haven’t been upfront with the men/ amount of men in their “stable”, which potentially is half the issue. I always assumed you girls secretly had “one” that was held higher than the rest emotionally if you get my drift?
Also stable is a new term, I haven’t heard off that before. Wonder if “roster” is our zoomer and Gen Z generation term 🤣 "
I have never actually discussed how many others there are as it's no-one else's business. |
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"Interesting, sounds very healthy the way most of you have phrased it. In my experience, the girls I’ve been with haven’t been upfront with the men/ amount of men in their “stable”, which potentially is half the issue. I always assumed you girls secretly had “one” that was held higher than the rest emotionally if you get my drift?
Also stable is a new term, I haven’t heard off that before. Wonder if “roster” is our zoomer and Gen Z generation term 🤣
I have never actually discussed how many others there are as it's no-one else's business."
Huh, interesting. Do you think any of those men would mind? Would they decide to stop seeing you or have a problem if they knew do you think? |
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"Interesting, sounds very healthy the way most of you have phrased it. In my experience, the girls I’ve been with haven’t been upfront with the men/ amount of men in their “stable”, which potentially is half the issue. I always assumed you girls secretly had “one” that was held higher than the rest emotionally if you get my drift?
Also stable is a new term, I haven’t heard off that before. Wonder if “roster” is our zoomer and Gen Z generation term 🤣
I have never actually discussed how many others there are as it's no-one else's business.
Huh, interesting. Do you think any of those men would mind? Would they decide to stop seeing you or have a problem if they knew do you think? "
As long as they know about others I think that's enough. If they "minded or had a problem" then they aren't the types of guys I'd want to associate with so it wouldn't bother me if they decided not to see me anymore....plenty more fish in the sea as they say. |
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"I met a woman who said she would keep 'a pair and a spare'"
Now THAT has a nice ring to it. I wonder if she was in a serious relationship with both, or kept everyone casual?
I got a feeling it’s more HOW you go about it than anything else. The woman from my past would be after a monogamous relationship, but would always phrase it is having a “back up” option.
Again I am not bashing this at all, more power to woman for everyone concerned, I’m jealous I can’t have a “roster” or “stable” myself 🤣 |
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"I met a woman who said she would keep 'a pair and a spare'
Now THAT has a nice ring to it. I wonder if she was in a serious relationship with both, or kept everyone casual?
I got a feeling it’s more HOW you go about it than anything else. The woman from my past would be after a monogamous relationship, but would always phrase it is having a “back up” option.
Again I am not bashing this at all, more power to woman for everyone concerned, I’m jealous I can’t have a “roster” or “stable” myself 🤣 "
I prefer the "harem" term  |
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"Seems like it’s more about people being open and honest with each other than the actual roster itself, no?
Mrs TMN x"
In an ideal world yes that would be great, I think I would’ve been saved from much heartache down the years if I was told straight up and put on the same page.
Unfortunately not everyone is upfront with having a roster, that was my biggest issue any how. Not sure if many can relate on here as everyone is very liberal but many girls *ahem* woman I meet on other dating apps have rosters too but more often than not, keep it hidden. It’s one of the main reasons I prefer fab, everyone’s open 🤣
And yes, it’s happened multiple times dating with me personally unfortunately, hence my curiousity on how many girls keep a “stable” “roster” or whatever you call it aha x |
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"Seems like it’s more about people being open and honest with each other than the actual roster itself, no?
Mrs TMN x
In an ideal world yes that would be great, I think I would’ve been saved from much heartache down the years if I was told straight up and put on the same page.
Unfortunately not everyone is upfront with having a roster, that was my biggest issue any how. Not sure if many can relate on here as everyone is very liberal but many girls *ahem* woman I meet on other dating apps have rosters too but more often than not, keep it hidden. It’s one of the main reasons I prefer fab, everyone’s open 🤣
And yes, it’s happened multiple times dating with me personally unfortunately, hence my curiousity on how many girls keep a “stable” “roster” or whatever you call it aha x"
Please don't fall into the trap of believing everyone on fab are "open" there are some very sneaky fuckers on here |
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"Seems like it’s more about people being open and honest with each other than the actual roster itself, no?
Mrs TMN x
In an ideal world yes that would be great, I think I would’ve been saved from much heartache down the years if I was told straight up and put on the same page.
Unfortunately not everyone is upfront with having a roster, that was my biggest issue any how. Not sure if many can relate on here as everyone is very liberal but many girls *ahem* woman I meet on other dating apps have rosters too but more often than not, keep it hidden. It’s one of the main reasons I prefer fab, everyone’s open 🤣
And yes, it’s happened multiple times dating with me personally unfortunately, hence my curiousity on how many girls keep a “stable” “roster” or whatever you call it aha x
Please don't fall into the trap of believing everyone on fab are "open" there are some very sneaky fuckers on here "
Oh for real?! I mean I know you get fakes and flakes, but didn’t think it was as bad a site as the rest lol 😂 |
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"Interesting, sounds very healthy the way most of you have phrased it. In my experience, the girls I’ve been with haven’t been upfront with the men/ amount of men in their “stable”, which potentially is half the issue. I always assumed you girls secretly had “one” that was held higher than the rest emotionally if you get my drift?
Also stable is a new term, I haven’t heard off that before. Wonder if “roster” is our zoomer and Gen Z generation term 🤣
I have never actually discussed how many others there are as it's no-one else's business.
Huh, interesting. Do you think any of those men would mind? Would they decide to stop seeing you or have a problem if they knew do you think? "
I think if you met on here, I would imagine it is a given that either if not both of you are potentially fucking other people. If you are going to have hang ups about people's sexual history/future then this probably isn't the life for you. |
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Everyone, men and women, should have a roster if they want casual REGULAR sex. That’s my hot take.
And if you’re the go to guy, the fave, the best eater, on the roster, you know you are. You just know. |
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"Interesting, sounds very healthy the way most of you have phrased it. In my experience, the girls I’ve been with haven’t been upfront with the men/ amount of men in their “stable”, which potentially is half the issue. I always assumed you girls secretly had “one” that was held higher than the rest emotionally if you get my drift?
Also stable is a new term, I haven’t heard off that before. Wonder if “roster” is our zoomer and Gen Z generation term 🤣
I have never actually discussed how many others there are as it's no-one else's business.
Huh, interesting. Do you think any of those men would mind? Would they decide to stop seeing you or have a problem if they knew do you think? "
If anyone we are involved with ask we'll tell them how many others their are.
Hasn't happened yet but if they weren't comfortable with it and wanted to stop, no problem it is their choice. |
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I have a "roster" like I have many friends. Different people fulfil different needs, and are available at different times. (I don't mean like, fucking five people a day. I mean like, if I stuck to one I wouldn't be having very much sex at all. We're all busy and stuff clashes)
I might have one friend who I talk to about literature, one where I alternate between deep and meaningful and weird memes, another where we discuss the coming collapse of civilisation.
Similarly, I have lovers with different strengths, weaknesses, and styles. (I tend to be friends with them too. No exes though) |
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Like most above have said, I like variety in my sexual partners. At present, I only have 2 who are very regular, my partner at weekends, and my FWB one evening a week. I do have a couple of FBs- accidentally, they are both my exes, not because I'm hanged up on them, but because sex with them is fun. Even more so once the pressure of a monogamous relationship is off.
I currently can't be bothered adding any more to the mix, as I very much enjoy my "me" time (read: gaming time  ). |
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I had a roster once. That was fun. 
They became very dear friends. Loved them all the same but different if it makes sense.
But the frequency of the meets were subject to their marital constraints and duties … 😝😝😝 so it was never down to me which was a bit shit.
Now they’ve all sprogged up so no more roster… and I’ve lost interest really. If it weren’t for the entertainment/ludic value of Fab, especially now during my recovery, I would have deleted my account by now. |
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"How does anyone have time for any of this? "
Because they want different sex. Different conversation. Different faces. And also people
Aren’t always free when you are. A roster makes that more likely. Rosters don’t require much upkeep- it’s just casual sex. |
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"I met a woman who said she would keep 'a pair and a spare'
Now THAT has a nice ring to it. I wonder if she was in a serious relationship with both, or kept everyone casual?
I got a feeling it’s more HOW you go about it than anything else. The woman from my past would be after a monogamous relationship, but would always phrase it is having a “back up” option.
Again I am not bashing this at all, more power to woman for everyone concerned, I’m jealous I can’t have a “roster” or “stable” myself 🤣 "
Do yiu not have a black book as it use to be called. |
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"How does anyone have time for any of this?
Because they want different sex. Different conversation. Different faces. And also people
Aren’t always free when you are. A roster makes that more likely. Rosters don’t require much upkeep- it’s just casual sex. "
Ah right. Roster to me means a sort of scheduled time table so I thought it was a regular thing.
I see that it means something quite different now.
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"Seems like it’s more about people being open and honest with each other than the actual roster itself, no?
Mrs TMN x
In an ideal world yes that would be great, I think I would’ve been saved from much heartache down the years if I was told straight up and put on the same page.
Unfortunately not everyone is upfront with having a roster, that was my biggest issue any how. Not sure if many can relate on here as everyone is very liberal but many girls *ahem* woman I meet on other dating apps have rosters too but more often than not, keep it hidden. It’s one of the main reasons I prefer fab, everyone’s open 🤣
And yes, it’s happened multiple times dating with me personally unfortunately, hence my curiousity on how many girls keep a “stable” “roster” or whatever you call it aha x"
I just assume whoever I meet is also meeting other people whether it's for tinder dates or fab sex. I usually confirm that with dates from apps because I'm not monogamous and that needs to be clear to everyone up front. On fab I take it as a given unless they say otherwise.
Non monogamy probably rules out 90% of the women I match with on apps.
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"How does anyone have time for any of this?
Because they want different sex. Different conversation. Different faces. And also people
Aren’t always free when you are. A roster makes that more likely. Rosters don’t require much upkeep- it’s just casual sex.
Ah right. Roster to me means a sort of scheduled time table so I thought it was a regular thing.
I see that it means something quite different now.
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Just a match day squad  |
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"How does anyone have time for any of this?
Because they want different sex. Different conversation. Different faces. And also people
Aren’t always free when you are. A roster makes that more likely. Rosters don’t require much upkeep- it’s just casual sex.
Ah right. Roster to me means a sort of scheduled time table so I thought it was a regular thing.
I see that it means something quite different now.
Just a match day squad "
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"My best friend calls it her stable.
I don't think I've ever used the word roster but the circle of people I'm intimate with are on the level of friendship so the word wouldn't really be accurate.
I like the term stable. Makes me think of wrestling. The Four Horsemen "
Tbf, roster made me think of wrestling.
The "smackdown" roster so to speak |
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By *zeroMan 1 day ago
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"My best friend calls it her stable.
I don't think I've ever used the word roster but the circle of people I'm intimate with are on the level of friendship so the word wouldn't really be accurate.
I like the term stable. Makes me think of wrestling. The Four Horsemen
Tbf, roster made me think of wrestling.
The "smackdown" roster so to speak "
Hitting it RAW |
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"My best friend calls it her stable.
I don't think I've ever used the word roster but the circle of people I'm intimate with are on the level of friendship so the word wouldn't really be accurate.
I like the term stable. Makes me think of wrestling. The Four Horsemen
Tbf, roster made me think of wrestling.
The "smackdown" roster so to speak "
RKO, outta nowhere!!! |
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