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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)

Is it ever ok?

Discuss

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By *mf123Man 1 week ago

with one foot out the door

Depends if thats the bit they like

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By *tevenTellyCouple 1 week ago

Newmarket

If those involved enjoy it yes.

If anyone involved doesn't like it than no.

It's a no for T.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Depends if thats the bit they like"

That’s not shaming, that’s celebrating

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 1 week ago

Carlisle usually

Only when it has been confirmed to have caused spread of disease or hurt to a partner who was lead to believe they were in a monogamous relationship.

People can fuck whoever they like. So long as there is informed and enthusiastic consent on all sides 💜

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By *asterfulsoulMan 1 week ago

Manchester

No.

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By *lue NotebooksCouple 1 week ago

Merseyside


"Only when it has been confirmed to have caused spread of disease or hurt to a partner who was lead to believe they were in a monogamous relationship.

People can fuck whoever they like. So long as there is informed and enthusiastic consent on all sides 💜"

Absolutely this. People don’t friend shame or have a ‘friend count’ . Sex is just a normal thing to gain and give pleasure and I am DONE with being ashamed of it!

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Only when it has been confirmed to have caused spread of disease or hurt to a partner who was lead to believe they were in a monogamous relationship.

People can fuck whoever they like. So long as there is informed and enthusiastic consent on all sides 💜"

That’s a very valid point. That’s not about being a slut though, that’s about deception and lies

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan 1 week ago

belfast

No it's not. It's disgusting. Heard a story today about it and it has split a family. The family are scumbags anyqay but the point still stands.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple 1 week ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Go on, then, OP, how are you defining slut?

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By *tevenTellyCouple 1 week ago

Newmarket

Well had to do some research. I've never researched the term until now.

In my mind I had formed my own definition as a kind of kink

Looking at how it is socially defined I'd say no it's not acceptable.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 1 week ago

Carlisle usually


"Only when it has been confirmed to have caused spread of disease or hurt to a partner who was lead to believe they were in a monogamous relationship.

People can fuck whoever they like. So long as there is informed and enthusiastic consent on all sides 💜

That’s a very valid point. That’s not about being a slut though, that’s about deception and lies"

Yup.

Informed and enthusiastic slutting is always welcome.

I will insult someone's ability to keep it in their pants when informed and enthusiastic are not part of the deal though 💜

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan 1 week ago

The last house on the left…

IDGAF, I’m judging.

We all have standards.

We should be allowed to judge others when our engagement with them could be a risk to our sexual health.

The end

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By *he beard and the bumCouple 1 week ago

Lancashire

I love bringing out my inner slut at greedy girls events! Obviously always safe and no-one has ever made me feel ashamed for it. I only ever get positive feedback and the boys treat me like a Queen ❤️

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan 1 week ago

belfast


"IDGAF, I’m judging.

We all have standards.

We should be allowed to judge others when our engagement with them could be a risk to our sexual health.

The end"

What's that got to do with slur shaming?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 1 week ago

Carlisle usually


"IDGAF, I’m judging.

We all have standards.

We should be allowed to judge others when our engagement with them could be a risk to our sexual health.

The end

What's that got to do with slur shaming?"

He thinks women that sleep around are unworthy sluts while it's perfectly okay for him to do it is how I read it 💜

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By *HUSH-Man 1 week ago

London


"IDGAF, I’m judging.

We all have standards.

We should be allowed to judge others when our engagement with them could be a risk to our sexual health.

The end"

What if they’re regularly testing and using protection?

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By *obilebottomMan 1 week ago

All over

These things are always so subjective. People do or appreciate different things. Not for you? Don't engage imo.

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By *riar BelisseWoman 1 week ago

Delightful Bliss

Not at all. So many sluts who hate the term, are very quick to claim that they are not a slut and put down anyone who is happy with the term.

Again think it dont say it comes to mind...

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield

Just no suit shaming please.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman 1 week ago

North West

No it's not. I find internalised slut shaming is a tricky thing to overcome though.

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By *edSirenWoman 1 week ago

Leighton Buzzard

You may not agree with another person’s sexual preferences, but it doesn’t give you the right to voice judgement in something so subjective. I mean, at what number do you class someone as a slut? 10? 50? 100? Do we allow for increases per year? Without any defined variables to give the term a more objective meaning, it’s an asshole move.

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By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple 1 week ago

Loughborough

This has all came round because of a certain OF model... and let's be honest, if she's coming under fire, so should all the weird guys queueing up for a dip! Crazy mentality, not something you'll ever be able to brag about or share at the dinner table!

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By *oodmessMan 1 week ago

yumsville

On the whole is a bit of an odd concept.

If someone is doing something to extremes, it's going to cause reaction and discussion. You don't have to be a swinger to realise taking 10,000 men or women bare in a month isn't healthy.

There's a certain amount of 'I'm more liberal than you', in condoning or mitigating sexual choice, putting it down to their body their rules - but it's not really opinion that, as anyone could do something foolish in life any use the same caveat.

Realistically what people say outwardly is likely not what they are muttering inwardly or behind peoples backs, and probably not what they'd say the next day.

Where are your limits for not slut shaming? Bin sex? Human Centipede?? I'm pretty sure people shame, who say they don't or say they embrace it.

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By *iss.BellaWoman 1 week ago

Wales

Depends who we're talking about. If it's someone who's sex life is public knowledge, then people will likely judge. That person has decided to put the information out there, knowing that slut shaming is likely to happen.

Otherwise, it's no one else's business. I'd say we are all allowed to decide whether or not someone's sexual experience (or perhaps lack of) will stop us from wanting to sleep with them, or not though.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman 1 week ago

North West


"This has all came round because of a certain OF model... and let's be honest, if she's coming under fire, so should all the weird guys queueing up for a dip! Crazy mentality, not something you'll ever be able to brag about or share at the dinner table!

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Perhaps it's what inspired the topic. But even before recent events there were often slut shaming undertones in comments on here.

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By *andynecklaceWoman 1 week ago

Someplace

Nah

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By *parkle1974Woman 1 week ago

Leeds

What classifies someone as a slut???

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By *parkle1974Woman 1 week ago

Leeds

Apparently these are the male equivalents

cad, rake, male slut, man whore, himbo, womanizer, stud, and player.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man 1 week ago

The Continental


"What classifies someone as a slut???"

Probably a whole new thread in itself.

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By *anceAloneWoman 1 week ago

Adjacent to him

Who is anyone to judge?

To shame someone is surely to imply you are better than them?

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By *parkle1974Woman 1 week ago

Leeds


"What classifies someone as a slut???

Probably a whole new thread in itself. "

I'm sure someone will start one

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"What classifies someone as a slut???"

Having more sex than a floozy but less than a strumpet.

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By *parkle1974Woman 1 week ago

Leeds


"What classifies someone as a slut???

Having more sex than a floozy but less than a strumpet. "

Oh that makes me a flopet 🤣🤣

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"What classifies someone as a slut???

Having more sex than a floozy but less than a strumpet.

Oh that makes me a flopet 🤣🤣"

I hope the male equivalent isn't a floppy

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By *otonboy111Man 1 week ago

Southampton


"Only when it has been confirmed to have caused spread of disease or hurt to a partner who was lead to believe they were in a monogamous relationship.

People can fuck whoever they like. So long as there is informed and enthusiastic consent on all sides 💜"

Amen 🙏 been lead down the garden path multiple times with one ex, each time they “mislead”. Honestly nothing more soul destroying. Think those two reasons above are the ONLY time it should be allowed.

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By *lex.and.SexCouple 1 week ago

Bedale

Assuming that the term is meant in the intrinsically negative sense; IE not part of a D/S dynamic that she's inviting, then no it's never ok. It's also largely counterproductive for a man to be doing it since noone believes that there isn't a tinge of jealousy mixed in with the vitriol.

But, it should not be confused for other forms of shaming which might be superficially similar for example cheating shaming etc etc.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"IDGAF, I’m judging.

We all have standards.

We should be allowed to judge others when our engagement with them could be a risk to our sexual health.

The end"

It’s really not.

What if you’re not engaging with them or even choosing to? How many is too many for your personal preference?

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan 1 week ago

Ends

N. O.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"You may not agree with another person’s sexual preferences, but it doesn’t give you the right to voice judgement in something so subjective. I mean, at what number do you class someone as a slut? 10? 50? 100? Do we allow for increases per year? Without any defined variables to give the term a more objective meaning, it’s an asshole move."

I agree. Where is the line, is there a line? What the fuck does it even matter what a person does with their own body and why does anyone get to comment?

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"This has all came round because of a certain OF model... and let's be honest, if she's coming under fire, so should all the weird guys queueing up for a dip! Crazy mentality, not something you'll ever be able to brag about or share at the dinner table!

"

What the fuck does it even matter?

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By *rHotNottsMan 1 week ago

Dubai & Nottingham

No, of course it isn’t but people will always invent reasons why they think it is.

The irony of a slut shaming on a swinging site….

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"On the whole is a bit of an odd concept.

If someone is doing something to extremes, it's going to cause reaction and discussion. You don't have to be a swinger to realise taking 10,000 men or women bare in a month isn't healthy.

There's a certain amount of 'I'm more liberal than you', in condoning or mitigating sexual choice, putting it down to their body their rules - but it's not really opinion that, as anyone could do something foolish in life any use the same caveat.

Realistically what people say outwardly is likely not what they are muttering inwardly or behind peoples backs, and probably not what they'd say the next day.

Where are your limits for not slut shaming? Bin sex? Human Centipede?? I'm pretty sure people shame, who say they don't or say they embrace it.

"

The implied aspect that someone is being duplicitous or hypocritical in their opinions is an interesting one but also a bit of an undermining fallacy.

There should be no question that no matter what a person engages in, so long as it’s consensual, that’s none of anyone else’s concern or business

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Depends who we're talking about. If it's someone who's sex life is public knowledge, then people will likely judge. That person has decided to put the information out there, knowing that slut shaming is likely to happen.

Otherwise, it's no one else's business. I'd say we are all allowed to decide whether or not someone's sexual experience (or perhaps lack of) will stop us from wanting to sleep with them, or not though. "

I’m not sure why putting things in public makes it ok? The concept of verifications is putting things in public and by your point, making them available for judgement

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By *iss.BellaWoman 1 week ago

Wales


"Depends who we're talking about. If it's someone who's sex life is public knowledge, then people will likely judge. That person has decided to put the information out there, knowing that slut shaming is likely to happen.

Otherwise, it's no one else's business. I'd say we are all allowed to decide whether or not someone's sexual experience (or perhaps lack of) will stop us from wanting to sleep with them, or not though.

I’m not sure why putting things in public makes it ok? The concept of verifications is putting things in public and by your point, making them available for judgement"

Yes, that's why I choose to hide mine. If you let the world know, the world will judge 🤷‍♀️

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Depends who we're talking about. If it's someone who's sex life is public knowledge, then people will likely judge. That person has decided to put the information out there, knowing that slut shaming is likely to happen.

Otherwise, it's no one else's business. I'd say we are all allowed to decide whether or not someone's sexual experience (or perhaps lack of) will stop us from wanting to sleep with them, or not though.

I’m not sure why putting things in public makes it ok? The concept of verifications is putting things in public and by your point, making them available for judgement

Yes, that's why I choose to hide mine. If you let the world know, the world will judge 🤷‍♀️ "

Why should anyone judge what you choose to do with your own body, especially when it has no bearing on them or their lives

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 1 week ago

North West


"No, of course it isn’t but people will always invent reasons why they think it is.

The irony of a slut shaming on a swinging site…."

We never hear of any stud shaming tho. It's only ever the female lady ones who get criticised. So much "I'll fuck 'em but not have a relationship" from men who are busy dipping their wick in every pot they can find.

Who's fucking all these sluts? I don't think they're all lesbian.....

Isn't the world a wonderful place?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman 1 week ago

The Town by The Cross

What precisely is slut shaming?

Do you need a slut in order to be able to do it ?

What is a slut?

Is the slut doing the shaming ?

Is it ever okay to shame anyone ?

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan 1 week ago

The last house on the left…


"IDGAF, I’m judging.

We all have standards.

We should be allowed to judge others when our engagement with them could be a risk to our sexual health.

The end

It’s really not.

What if you’re not engaging with them or even choosing to? How many is too many for your personal preference? "

If I’m not engaging with them, then I don’t care. It’s not a matter of numbers/bodycount - It’s a matter of risk TO ME.

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By *vaRose43Woman 1 week ago

Forest of Dean

When I first joined fab, the only person in my inner circle who knew about it was my husband. Let’s just say it broke a very long dry spell.

That was until I went to see my closest friend who took one look at me and shouted “YOU WHORE! Tell me all about it!” while grinning from ear to ear. She knows me as well as I know myself and vice versa. She loves me, was happy for me and I can’t hide shit from her.

Is that slut shaming? Not to me, but to a stranger overhearing that it could be taken as such.

Slut shaming to me isn’t the language or words used it’s the judgement. It’s never ok.

You want to judge… ok that’s human nature…. Keep those thoughts on the inside and gossip with your nearest and dearest. Bring it to my door and you’ll get yourself an education

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"No, of course it isn’t but people will always invent reasons why they think it is.

The irony of a slut shaming on a swinging site….

We never hear of any stud shaming tho. It's only ever the female lady ones who get criticised. So much "I'll fuck 'em but not have a relationship" from men who are busy dipping their wick in every pot they can find.

Who's fucking all these sluts? I don't think they're all lesbian.....

Isn't the world a wonderful place?"

Yeah because newsflash ..Men and Women are different, and so will be judged differently...🥪

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By *ron100Man 1 week ago

leyland

I personally love sluts 👀😬

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By *atnip make me purrWoman 1 week ago

Reading

I had some idiot tell me i had too many veris. He's in some sort of circle jerk and they all agree that too many veris are bad.

Byeeeeeee.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 1 week ago

North West


"No, of course it isn’t but people will always invent reasons why they think it is.

The irony of a slut shaming on a swinging site….

We never hear of any stud shaming tho. It's only ever the female lady ones who get criticised. So much "I'll fuck 'em but not have a relationship" from men who are busy dipping their wick in every pot they can find.

Who's fucking all these sluts? I don't think they're all lesbian.....

Isn't the world a wonderful place?

Yeah because newsflash ..Men and Women are different, and so will be judged differently...🥪"

Why will men and women be judged differently?

Jeez, the patriarchy is just so fucking determined

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

People should mind their own darn business when it comes to other people's sex life. It's not ok. If you want a woman or man with few sexual partners then go out and find one but don't look down on those of us who enjoy a bit of variety.

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"No, of course it isn’t but people will always invent reasons why they think it is.

The irony of a slut shaming on a swinging site….

We never hear of any stud shaming tho. It's only ever the female lady ones who get criticised. So much "I'll fuck 'em but not have a relationship" from men who are busy dipping their wick in every pot they can find.

Who's fucking all these sluts? I don't think they're all lesbian.....

Isn't the world a wonderful place?

Yeah because newsflash ..Men and Women are different, and so will be judged differently...🥪

Why will men and women be judged differently?

Jeez, the patriarchy is just so fucking determined "

The patriarchy...all the old buzz words coming out 😂😂..

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By *midnight-Woman 1 week ago

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A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President "

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President "

Yep i just saw two posts commenting on the size of her vagina afterwards.

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By *ora the explorerWoman 1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President "

I wouldn’t meet a man if I knew he’d lined up for that. So I suppose that could be classed as criticism. Although it’s not shaming as he can do what he wants, as can she. I wouldn’t meet them though.

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ..."

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

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By *iss.BellaWoman 1 week ago

Wales


"People should mind their own darn business when it comes to other people's sex life. It's not ok. If you want a woman or man with few sexual partners then go out and find one but don't look down on those of us who enjoy a bit of variety. "

A bit of variety, yea sure. But 1000 men in however many hours. Likely a publicity stunt, and apparently it worked 🤷‍♀️

I'd rather be known for doing something a bit more meaningful than jumping on dicks, but what do I know?

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this. "

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"People should mind their own darn business when it comes to other people's sex life. It's not ok. If you want a woman or man with few sexual partners then go out and find one but don't look down on those of us who enjoy a bit of variety.

A bit of variety, yea sure. But 1000 men in however many hours. Likely a publicity stunt, and apparently it worked 🤷‍♀️

I'd rather be known for doing something a bit more meaningful than jumping on dicks, but what do I know? "

I just wonder at what point it becomes a 'bad thing'. How many men is too many or is it that she made money from it?

I've only ever been with two guys at the same time, on several occasions. Is that ok?

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️"

I don't need it explaining but I'd like to know why you think it shows a lack of self respect. As I said above is it because she's making money, the number of men, the notoriety? At what number does a woman maintain her self respect?

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️"

What’s the difference between 1000 men once and one man 1000 times?

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

What’s the difference between 1000 men once and one man 1000 times? "

Self respect apparently.

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

I don't need it explaining but I'd like to know why you think it shows a lack of self respect. As I said above is it because she's making money, the number of men, the notoriety? At what number does a woman maintain her self respect?"

What makes it a lack of self respect ...

1000 dirty dicks

She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too

She wouldn't have enjoyed it, just did it for notoriety and money, is any decent man ever going to want to touch her again? No ..

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

What’s the difference between 1000 men once and one man 1000 times? "

It's fairly obvious....

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

I don't need it explaining but I'd like to know why you think it shows a lack of self respect. As I said above is it because she's making money, the number of men, the notoriety? At what number does a woman maintain her self respect?

What makes it a lack of self respect ...

1000 dirty dicks

She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too

She wouldn't have enjoyed it, just did it for notoriety and money, is any decent man ever going to want to touch her again? No ..

"

Maybe she's not interested in 'decent' men with their clean dicks. Perhaps her self respect is at a level where she's not too concerned about them

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

What’s the difference between 1000 men once and one man 1000 times?

It's fairly obvious...."

The only thing that seems obvious is just how much you’re judging other people.

Rather than being obtuse and evasive, say the thing

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

I don't need it explaining but I'd like to know why you think it shows a lack of self respect. As I said above is it because she's making money, the number of men, the notoriety? At what number does a woman maintain her self respect?

What makes it a lack of self respect ...

1000 dirty dicks

She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too

She wouldn't have enjoyed it, just did it for notoriety and money, is any decent man ever going to want to touch her again? No ..

Maybe she's not interested in 'decent' men with their clean dicks. Perhaps her self respect is at a level where she's not too concerned about them "

Proves my point then doesn't it!

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By *iss.BellaWoman 1 week ago

Wales


"People should mind their own darn business when it comes to other people's sex life. It's not ok. If you want a woman or man with few sexual partners then go out and find one but don't look down on those of us who enjoy a bit of variety.

A bit of variety, yea sure. But 1000 men in however many hours. Likely a publicity stunt, and apparently it worked 🤷‍♀️

I'd rather be known for doing something a bit more meaningful than jumping on dicks, but what do I know?

I just wonder at what point it becomes a 'bad thing'. How many men is too many or is it that she made money from it?

I've only ever been with two guys at the same time, on several occasions. Is that ok?"

It's more the fact her face is all over the internet admitting to having that many men.

I wonder if she'd considered the effect it will have on her future. Oh well 🤷‍♀️

Not sure why you mentioned sleeping with two men at the same time to be honest. It's a bit different to 1000 in a certain time frame isn't it.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

I don't need it explaining but I'd like to know why you think it shows a lack of self respect. As I said above is it because she's making money, the number of men, the notoriety? At what number does a woman maintain her self respect?

What makes it a lack of self respect ...

1000 dirty dicks

She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too

She wouldn't have enjoyed it, just did it for notoriety and money, is any decent man ever going to want to touch her again? No ..

Maybe she's not interested in 'decent' men with their clean dicks. Perhaps her self respect is at a level where she's not too concerned about them "

And that’s absolutely her choice and no one gets to decide otherwise for her as it’s her body

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

I don't need it explaining but I'd like to know why you think it shows a lack of self respect. As I said above is it because she's making money, the number of men, the notoriety? At what number does a woman maintain her self respect?

What makes it a lack of self respect ...

1000 dirty dicks

She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too

She wouldn't have enjoyed it, just did it for notoriety and money, is any decent man ever going to want to touch her again? No ..

Maybe she's not interested in 'decent' men with their clean dicks. Perhaps her self respect is at a level where she's not too concerned about them

Proves my point then doesn't it! "

Does it, which one?

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

I don't need it explaining but I'd like to know why you think it shows a lack of self respect. As I said above is it because she's making money, the number of men, the notoriety? At what number does a woman maintain her self respect?

What makes it a lack of self respect ...

1000 dirty dicks

She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too

She wouldn't have enjoyed it, just did it for notoriety and money, is any decent man ever going to want to touch her again? No ..

Maybe she's not interested in 'decent' men with their clean dicks. Perhaps her self respect is at a level where she's not too concerned about them

And that’s absolutely her choice and no one gets to decide otherwise for her as it’s her body"

Well quite.

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

I don't need it explaining but I'd like to know why you think it shows a lack of self respect. As I said above is it because she's making money, the number of men, the notoriety? At what number does a woman maintain her self respect?

What makes it a lack of self respect ...

1000 dirty dicks

She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too

She wouldn't have enjoyed it, just did it for notoriety and money, is any decent man ever going to want to touch her again? No ..

Maybe she's not interested in 'decent' men with their clean dicks. Perhaps her self respect is at a level where she's not too concerned about them

Proves my point then doesn't it!

Does it, which one?"

This is like pulling teeth....if she's not interested in decent men with clean dicks...if she'll literally fuck anything and everyone, she has no respect for herself, probably be crying in the papers in a few years time depressed and full of regret like we've seen so many times before.

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

I don't need it explaining but I'd like to know why you think it shows a lack of self respect. As I said above is it because she's making money, the number of men, the notoriety? At what number does a woman maintain her self respect?

What makes it a lack of self respect ...

1000 dirty dicks

She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too

She wouldn't have enjoyed it, just did it for notoriety and money, is any decent man ever going to want to touch her again? No ..

Maybe she's not interested in 'decent' men with their clean dicks. Perhaps her self respect is at a level where she's not too concerned about them

Proves my point then doesn't it!

Does it, which one?

This is like pulling teeth....if she's not interested in decent men with clean dicks...if she'll literally fuck anything and everyone, she has no respect for herself, probably be crying in the papers in a few years time depressed and full of regret like we've seen so many times before."

I have news. A woman's 'self' respect is not determined by the men she chooses to have sex with or what men (or women fir that matter) think of her choices. It is as the phrase implies, determined by herself.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple 1 week ago

wonderland.


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️"

yes why does that make her have lack of respect for herself.. I've had way more than a thousand cocks in my time... although not in one day..although if I could organise it without the press side of it..damn I'd give it a go.

And I have utmost respect for myself

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

I don't need it explaining but I'd like to know why you think it shows a lack of self respect. As I said above is it because she's making money, the number of men, the notoriety? At what number does a woman maintain her self respect?

What makes it a lack of self respect ...

1000 dirty dicks

She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too

She wouldn't have enjoyed it, just did it for notoriety and money, is any decent man ever going to want to touch her again? No ..

Maybe she's not interested in 'decent' men with their clean dicks. Perhaps her self respect is at a level where she's not too concerned about them

Proves my point then doesn't it!

Does it, which one?

This is like pulling teeth....if she's not interested in decent men with clean dicks...if she'll literally fuck anything and everyone, she has no respect for herself, probably be crying in the papers in a few years time depressed and full of regret like we've seen so many times before."

Why does fucking a lot of people mean that she has no respect? I’m unsure how you jumped to the conclusion that the cocks were dirty either…

A lot of people around here have fucked a fair few folks. Why does that equate to no self respect?

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ yes why does that make her have lack of respect for herself.. I've had way more than a thousand cocks in my time... although not in one day..although if I could organise it without the press side of it..damn I'd give it a go.

And I have utmost respect for myself "

We'll agree to disagree there

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan 1 week ago

Ends

Feels like people are going to a lot of effort to slut shame. Cool. 😊

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By *electableicecreamMan 1 week ago

The West


"

This is like pulling teeth....if she's not interested in decent men with clean dicks...if she'll literally fuck anything and everyone, she has no respect for herself, probably be crying in the papers in a few years time depressed and full of regret like we've seen so many times before."

All you have is assumptions though. Whereas she has money and noteriaty across the world.

Rage bait is a particular kind of marketing tactic for sure but that woman has men and women all over the world talking and her subscribers are no doubt going through the roof.

She's probably into six figures by now and the slut shamers are doing the free pr work for her.

It's genius really. She gets a thousand guys to line up and declares she wants married men and barley legal guys. Half the world looses their shit and the other half subscribes.

It's like that kitten thing

Every time a slut shamer moans a content creater gets another subscriber.

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

I don't need it explaining but I'd like to know why you think it shows a lack of self respect. As I said above is it because she's making money, the number of men, the notoriety? At what number does a woman maintain her self respect?

What makes it a lack of self respect ...

1000 dirty dicks

She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too

She wouldn't have enjoyed it, just did it for notoriety and money, is any decent man ever going to want to touch her again? No ..

Maybe she's not interested in 'decent' men with their clean dicks. Perhaps her self respect is at a level where she's not too concerned about them

Proves my point then doesn't it!

Does it, which one?

This is like pulling teeth....if she's not interested in decent men with clean dicks...if she'll literally fuck anything and everyone, she has no respect for herself, probably be crying in the papers in a few years time depressed and full of regret like we've seen so many times before.

I have news. A woman's 'self' respect is not determined by the men she chooses to have sex with or what men (or women fir that matter) think of her choices. It is as the phrase implies, determined by herself. "

It's exactly that! If you'll fuck anyone that turns up you have no respect for yourself

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"Feels like people are going to a lot of effort to slut shame. Cool. 😊"

Someone called me a slut once because I was friendly with a lot of men. Just friendly 🤷‍♀️. Apparently I would 'get myself in trouble'

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield

I guess the idea of a woman who's always sexually available to them is a powerful fantasy for some men. Thankfully most women have more sense than that.

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

I don't need it explaining but I'd like to know why you think it shows a lack of self respect. As I said above is it because she's making money, the number of men, the notoriety? At what number does a woman maintain her self respect?

What makes it a lack of self respect ...

1000 dirty dicks

She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too

She wouldn't have enjoyed it, just did it for notoriety and money, is any decent man ever going to want to touch her again? No ..

Maybe she's not interested in 'decent' men with their clean dicks. Perhaps her self respect is at a level where she's not too concerned about them

Proves my point then doesn't it!

Does it, which one?

This is like pulling teeth....if she's not interested in decent men with clean dicks...if she'll literally fuck anything and everyone, she has no respect for herself, probably be crying in the papers in a few years time depressed and full of regret like we've seen so many times before.

I have news. A woman's 'self' respect is not determined by the men she chooses to have sex with or what men (or women fir that matter) think of her choices. It is as the phrase implies, determined by herself.

It's exactly that! If you'll fuck anyone that turns up you have no respect for yourself "

This is the point where you and I will need to agree to disagree.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

I don't need it explaining but I'd like to know why you think it shows a lack of self respect. As I said above is it because she's making money, the number of men, the notoriety? At what number does a woman maintain her self respect?

What makes it a lack of self respect ...

1000 dirty dicks

She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too

She wouldn't have enjoyed it, just did it for notoriety and money, is any decent man ever going to want to touch her again? No ..

Maybe she's not interested in 'decent' men with their clean dicks. Perhaps her self respect is at a level where she's not too concerned about them

Proves my point then doesn't it!

Does it, which one?

This is like pulling teeth....if she's not interested in decent men with clean dicks...if she'll literally fuck anything and everyone, she has no respect for herself, probably be crying in the papers in a few years time depressed and full of regret like we've seen so many times before."

I think that this is pretty much text book slut shaming. You’re making judgments on her based entirely on the fact that she’s slept with x number of people.

Maybe you should have a think about why that is and think about yourself and how you look to others. Take a look at why you make those judgments and why a person’s actions make you feel so derisory towards them

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"

This is like pulling teeth....if she's not interested in decent men with clean dicks...if she'll literally fuck anything and everyone, she has no respect for herself, probably be crying in the papers in a few years time depressed and full of regret like we've seen so many times before.

All you have is assumptions though. Whereas she has money and noteriaty across the world.

Rage bait is a particular kind of marketing tactic for sure but that woman has men and women all over the world talking and her subscribers are no doubt going through the roof.

She's probably into six figures by now and the slut shamers are doing the free pr work for her.

It's genius really. She gets a thousand guys to line up and declares she wants married men and barley legal guys. Half the world looses their shit and the other half subscribes.

It's like that kitten thing

Every time a slut shamer moans a content creater gets another subscriber."

Selling your soul for notoriety...great life choice

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ yes why does that make her have lack of respect for herself.. I've had way more than a thousand cocks in my time... although not in one day..although if I could organise it without the press side of it..damn I'd give it a go.

And I have utmost respect for myself

We'll agree to disagree there "

You don’t get to decide whether she does or not. Who made you the moral authority and judge for people you’ve never met?

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Feels like people are going to a lot of effort to slut shame. Cool. 😊"

Some people are giving text book answers and aren’t smart enough to even see it

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ yes why does that make her have lack of respect for herself.. I've had way more than a thousand cocks in my time... although not in one day..although if I could organise it without the press side of it..damn I'd give it a go.

And I have utmost respect for myself

We'll agree to disagree there

You don’t get to decide whether she does or not. Who made you the moral authority and judge for people you’ve never met? "

I can judge whoever I want, and they can judge me... It's called freedom of expression.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ yes why does that make her have lack of respect for herself.. I've had way more than a thousand cocks in my time... although not in one day..although if I could organise it without the press side of it..damn I'd give it a go.

And I have utmost respect for myself

We'll agree to disagree there

You don’t get to decide whether she does or not. Who made you the moral authority and judge for people you’ve never met?

I can judge whoever I want, and they can judge me... It's called freedom of expression. "

Don’t worry, lots of people are judging you on your views

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By *electableicecreamMan 1 week ago

The West


"

Selling your soul for notoriety...great life choice "

How very Christian of you 😂

Selling it for money is so much more profitable than selling it for noteriaty though.

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ yes why does that make her have lack of respect for herself.. I've had way more than a thousand cocks in my time... although not in one day..although if I could organise it without the press side of it..damn I'd give it a go.

And I have utmost respect for myself

We'll agree to disagree there

You don’t get to decide whether she does or not. Who made you the moral authority and judge for people you’ve never met?

I can judge whoever I want, and they can judge me... It's called freedom of expression.

Don’t worry, lots of people are judging you on your views"

Good 👍 , if they're supportive of that type of promiscuity and lack of self respect they aren't for me anyway.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple 1 week ago

wonderland.


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ yes why does that make her have lack of respect for herself.. I've had way more than a thousand cocks in my time... although not in one day..although if I could organise it without the press side of it..damn I'd give it a go.

And I have utmost respect for myself

We'll agree to disagree there "

nothing to disagree.. I know my self worth and its great.. I just happen to like group sex.. so have regular groups. My husband to be is also very proud of my greedy girl side.

Im always very careful with my sexual health and have had 30 years swinging without catching anything.

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

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By *carlettMonroeTV/TS 1 week ago

Horsham

[Removed by poster at 31/01/25 10:36:09]

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ yes why does that make her have lack of respect for herself.. I've had way more than a thousand cocks in my time... although not in one day..although if I could organise it without the press side of it..damn I'd give it a go.

And I have utmost respect for myself

We'll agree to disagree there

You don’t get to decide whether she does or not. Who made you the moral authority and judge for people you’ve never met?

I can judge whoever I want, and they can judge me... It's called freedom of expression.

Don’t worry, lots of people are judging you on your views

Good 👍 , if they're supportive of that type of promiscuity and lack of self respect they aren't for me anyway. "

If they’re supportive of your shaming and misogynistic attitude then you’re welcome to them

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By *carlettMonroeTV/TS 1 week ago

Horsham

He already thinks body shaming is ok (quote from Body Shaming thread:'Yes it's fine...next question'.) so I'm not overly surprised he also thinks it's fine to 'slut' shame and tell people who he does not know in the slightest that they have no self respect.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ yes why does that make her have lack of respect for herself.. I've had way more than a thousand cocks in my time... although not in one day..although if I could organise it without the press side of it..damn I'd give it a go.

And I have utmost respect for myself

We'll agree to disagree there

You don’t get to decide whether she does or not. Who made you the moral authority and judge for people you’ve never met?

I can judge whoever I want, and they can judge me... It's called freedom of expression.

Don’t worry, lots of people are judging you on your views

Good 👍 , if they're supportive of that type of promiscuity and lack of self respect they aren't for me anyway. "

The irony is that you’re on a site for promiscuous sex, in general society you would be subject to exactly the attitude that you’ve been so proud of.

It amazes me as to how you lack any level of self awareness

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ yes why does that make her have lack of respect for herself.. I've had way more than a thousand cocks in my time... although not in one day..although if I could organise it without the press side of it..damn I'd give it a go.

And I have utmost respect for myself

We'll agree to disagree there

You don’t get to decide whether she does or not. Who made you the moral authority and judge for people you’ve never met?

I can judge whoever I want, and they can judge me... It's called freedom of expression.

Don’t worry, lots of people are judging you on your views

Good 👍 , if they're supportive of that type of promiscuity and lack of self respect they aren't for me anyway.

If they’re supportive of your shaming and misogynistic attitude then you’re welcome to them"

Oh the old misogynistic trope 👍..women can be criticised for their behaviour without it being misogyny...

There's always a simp ready to play the white knight role though,

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple 1 week ago

wonderland.


"

Good 👍 , if they're supportive of that type of promiscuity and lack of self respect they aren't for me anyway. "

You can't decide someone else's respect for themselves... I can assure you that being a greedy girl doesn't mean I have lack or respect for myself. Mine and my partners sexual health are something I consider.. hence I always use condoms... the fact is I won't be doing 1000 guys in one go..despite knowing I could as I'm not young and slim and I'm not an OF girl.

Judgement on a swingers site always amuses me..as at what point does it become slutty.. 10 guys ,20 more. For my birthday we tried to get 49 guys ...we managed 44 plus Mr a few times.. was great fun... and I assure you that i have the utmost respect for both myself and my partner and he has the same for me xx

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ yes why does that make her have lack of respect for herself.. I've had way more than a thousand cocks in my time... although not in one day..although if I could organise it without the press side of it..damn I'd give it a go.

And I have utmost respect for myself

We'll agree to disagree there

You don’t get to decide whether she does or not. Who made you the moral authority and judge for people you’ve never met?

I can judge whoever I want, and they can judge me... It's called freedom of expression.

Don’t worry, lots of people are judging you on your views

Good 👍 , if they're supportive of that type of promiscuity and lack of self respect they aren't for me anyway.

The irony is that you’re on a site for promiscuous sex, in general society you would be subject to exactly the attitude that you’ve been so proud of.

It amazes me as to how you lack any level of self awareness "

It amazes me how meeting people after you've chatted, maybe had a social and meeting in private Vs banging 1000 randoms in one go is the same in your world.

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By *ildTimes.Man 1 week ago

Colchester/London


"

Good 👍 , if they're supportive of that type of promiscuity and lack of self respect they aren't for me anyway.

You can't decide someone else's respect for themselves... I can assure you that being a greedy girl doesn't mean I have lack or respect for myself. Mine and my partners sexual health are something I consider.. hence I always use condoms... the fact is I won't be doing 1000 guys in one go..despite knowing I could as I'm not young and slim and I'm not an OF girl.

Judgement on a swingers site always amuses me..as at what point does it become slutty.. 10 guys ,20 more. For my birthday we tried to get 49 guys ...we managed 44 plus Mr a few times.. was great fun... and I assure you that i have the utmost respect for both myself and my partner and he has the same for me xx"

As I've already said...we'll agree to disagree...

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple 1 week ago

wonderland.


"

Good 👍 , if they're supportive of that type of promiscuity and lack of self respect they aren't for me anyway.

You can't decide someone else's respect for themselves... I can assure you that being a greedy girl doesn't mean I have lack or respect for myself. Mine and my partners sexual health are something I consider.. hence I always use condoms... the fact is I won't be doing 1000 guys in one go..despite knowing I could as I'm not young and slim and I'm not an OF girl.

Judgement on a swingers site always amuses me..as at what point does it become slutty.. 10 guys ,20 more. For my birthday we tried to get 49 guys ...we managed 44 plus Mr a few times.. was great fun... and I assure you that i have the utmost respect for both myself and my partner and he has the same for me xx

As I've already said...we'll agree to disagree..."

you can't actually disagree with my self worth.. its not something you have the power or the knowledge to disagree with.. the key is in the fact it says " Self" in it. Meaning you or no body else has any input on my self respect or self worth.

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By *ora the explorerWoman 1 week ago

Paradise, Herts

What’s the point in arguing and calling names? People are gonna disagree on this. Im sure there’s plenty who agree with Tea etc and there will be plenty who agree with wild fella, they just won’t wanna get involved.

One thing’s for sure. This woman is getting exactly what she wanted

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"What’s the point in arguing and calling names? People are gonna disagree on this. Im sure there’s plenty who agree with Tea etc and there will be plenty who agree with wild fella, they just won’t wanna get involved.

One thing’s for sure. This woman is getting exactly what she wanted "

Yep.

We're talking about her and I wouldn't have even been aware of her otherwise.

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By *ora the explorerWoman 1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"What’s the point in arguing and calling names? People are gonna disagree on this. Im sure there’s plenty who agree with Tea etc and there will be plenty who agree with wild fella, they just won’t wanna get involved.

One thing’s for sure. This woman is getting exactly what she wanted

Yep.

We're talking about her and I wouldn't have even been aware of her otherwise. "

Same. I only know of her from here

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical. "

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here.

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By *ora the explorerWoman 1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet it’s widely used here."

I think they do though. I think a hell of a lot of people get upset with what folk say on here about what they do etc.

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By *weetiepie99Woman 1 week ago

cardiff


"What’s the point in arguing and calling names? People are gonna disagree on this. Im sure there’s plenty who agree with Tea etc and there will be plenty who agree with wild fella, they just won’t wanna get involved.

One thing’s for sure. This woman is getting exactly what she wanted "

Nail on the head

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here."

Some people do allow the words of others to have an impact on how they feel about themselves. That comes back to 'self' I suppose and whether you feel the stranger is correct in what they say.

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

For instance if someone on here says I look great I believe them.

If they say I look like a pig in a frock I don't believe them.

But I'm blessed with very few damns to hand out

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By *wist my nipplesCouple 1 week ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here."

See that’s interesting. I was thinking of slut shaming as an action which people do to others. Akin to judgement. Also, I disagree that people can’t be affected by the words of others just because they’re online.

Mrs TMN x

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By *ea monkey OP   Man 1 week ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet it’s widely used here."

You think that words online don’t affect others?

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here.

Some people do allow the words of others to have an impact on how they feel about themselves. That comes back to 'self' I suppose and whether you feel the stranger is correct in what they say. "

'Feel about themselves' = self esteem.

You've said people's self respect can't be controlled by others so logically their 'self-esteem' can't either.

It's one or the other !

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By *exxyyDy11Man 1 week ago

North West

Apart from if they get a kick out of being called a slut or humiliated, then no, it isn't okay in my opinion.

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here.

Some people do allow the words of others to have an impact on how they feel about themselves. That comes back to 'self' I suppose and whether you feel the stranger is correct in what they say.

'Feel about themselves' = self esteem.

You've said people's self respect can't be controlled by others so logically their 'self-esteem' can't either.

It's one or the other !"

'If you feel the stranger is correct in what they say' is how I qualified what I said. If they reinforce how you feel about yourself it will have an impact.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS 1 week ago

Central

No never

Deal with your desire to shame and hurt others

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By *host63Man 1 week ago

Bedfont Feltham

Not my idea of acceptable behaviour

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here.

See that’s interesting. I was thinking of slut shaming as an action which people do to others. Akin to judgement. Also, I disagree that people can’t be affected by the words of others just because they’re online.

Mrs TMN x"

The question is not whether someone is 'affected', its whether they can feel 'shame' (humiliation or distress). If someone genuinely feels those extreme emotions from the online words of a complete stranger then for their mental well-being they might be happier not engaging with strangers online.

Alternatively they might be claiming to feel 'shame' in order to shut down opinions that simply cause them discomfort.

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By *electableicecreamMan 1 week ago

The West

You can't have an intelligent conversation with someone who's gonna start throwing out words like simp when they've run out of arguments.

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here.

Some people do allow the words of others to have an impact on how they feel about themselves. That comes back to 'self' I suppose and whether you feel the stranger is correct in what they say.

'Feel about themselves' = self esteem.

You've said people's self respect can't be controlled by others so logically their 'self-esteem' can't either.

It's one or the other !

'If you feel the stranger is correct in what they say' is how I qualified what I said. If they reinforce how you feel about yourself it will have an impact. "

I was replying to your first post where you said:

"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it."

If others can't determine your self respect then they can't determine your self esteem. Or alternatively they can determine both.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple 1 week ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here.

See that’s interesting. I was thinking of slut shaming as an action which people do to others. Akin to judgement. Also, I disagree that people can’t be affected by the words of others just because they’re online.

Mrs TMN x

The question is not whether someone is 'affected', its whether they can feel 'shame' (humiliation or distress). If someone genuinely feels those extreme emotions from the online words of a complete stranger then for their mental well-being they might be happier not engaging with strangers online.

Alternatively they might be claiming to feel 'shame' in order to shut down opinions that simply cause them discomfort."

Hmm. I think it’s impossible to quantify exactly what emotions people feel. Where is the line between discomfort and distress, for example? One person’s discomfort may be another person’s distress - that’s for each individual to know and feel. So I don’t think the concept of people feeling shame due to the words and actions of others is “obviously nonsense”. I think it’s subjective. Whether they should engage or not is a different issue.

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet it’s widely used here.

I think they do though. I think a hell of a lot of people get upset with what folk say on here about what they do etc. "

For sure they get upset, annoyed, offended, angry even. But 'shame' is another level of reaction where someone feels humiliated or distressed. Do people really feel that extreme from strangers comments that aren't even addressed to them, eg I prefer fat/thin/tall short men/women.

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here.

Some people do allow the words of others to have an impact on how they feel about themselves. That comes back to 'self' I suppose and whether you feel the stranger is correct in what they say.

'Feel about themselves' = self esteem.

You've said people's self respect can't be controlled by others so logically their 'self-esteem' can't either.

It's one or the other !

'If you feel the stranger is correct in what they say' is how I qualified what I said. If they reinforce how you feel about yourself it will have an impact.

I was replying to your first post where you said:

"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it."

If others can't determine your self respect then they can't determine your self esteem. Or alternatively they can determine both."

I think we determine our own self esteem and self respect. However how we view ourselves can be reinforced by the words and actions of other people.

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By *ora the explorerWoman 1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here.

See that’s interesting. I was thinking of slut shaming as an action which people do to others. Akin to judgement. Also, I disagree that people can’t be affected by the words of others just because they’re online.

Mrs TMN x

The question is not whether someone is 'affected', its whether they can feel 'shame' (humiliation or distress). If someone genuinely feels those extreme emotions from the online words of a complete stranger then for their mental well-being they might be happier not engaging with strangers online.

Alternatively they might be claiming to feel 'shame' in order to shut down opinions that simply cause them discomfort."

Yes. I agree

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By *wist my nipplesCouple 1 week ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here.

Some people do allow the words of others to have an impact on how they feel about themselves. That comes back to 'self' I suppose and whether you feel the stranger is correct in what they say.

'Feel about themselves' = self esteem.

You've said people's self respect can't be controlled by others so logically their 'self-esteem' can't either.

It's one or the other !

'If you feel the stranger is correct in what they say' is how I qualified what I said. If they reinforce how you feel about yourself it will have an impact.

I was replying to your first post where you said:

"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it."

If others can't determine your self respect then they can't determine your self esteem. Or alternatively they can determine both."

I read it as others can have an impact, but ultimately determining it is down to the individual, not others.

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By *ora the explorerWoman 1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet it’s widely used here.

I think they do though. I think a hell of a lot of people get upset with what folk say on here about what they do etc.

For sure they get upset, annoyed, offended, angry even. But 'shame' is another level of reaction where someone feels humiliated or distressed. Do people really feel that extreme from strangers comments that aren't even addressed to them, eg I prefer fat/thin/tall short men/women."

Yes! You see it all the time on here.

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here.

See that’s interesting. I was thinking of slut shaming as an action which people do to others. Akin to judgement. Also, I disagree that people can’t be affected by the words of others just because they’re online.

Mrs TMN x

The question is not whether someone is 'affected', its whether they can feel 'shame' (humiliation or distress). If someone genuinely feels those extreme emotions from the online words of a complete stranger then for their mental well-being they might be happier not engaging with strangers online.

Alternatively they might be claiming to feel 'shame' in order to shut down opinions that simply cause them discomfort.

Hmm. I think it’s impossible to quantify exactly what emotions people feel. Where is the line between discomfort and distress, for example? One person’s discomfort may be another person’s distress - that’s for each individual to know and feel. So I don’t think the concept of people feeling shame due to the words and actions of others is “obviously nonsense”. I think it’s subjective. Whether they should engage or not is a different issue.

"

Fair comment and yes 'obviously nonsense' is too strong. But because we can't know exactly how people feel it's important to act in good faith and not claim to feel shamed simply in order to close down a debate you find discomforting. Obesity for example is one of the major public health issues of our times yet its impossible to have a balanced discussion on here because so many people will cite 'fat shaming'.

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here.

Some people do allow the words of others to have an impact on how they feel about themselves. That comes back to 'self' I suppose and whether you feel the stranger is correct in what they say.

'Feel about themselves' = self esteem.

You've said people's self respect can't be controlled by others so logically their 'self-esteem' can't either.

It's one or the other !

'If you feel the stranger is correct in what they say' is how I qualified what I said. If they reinforce how you feel about yourself it will have an impact.

I was replying to your first post where you said:

"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it."

If others can't determine your self respect then they can't determine your self esteem. Or alternatively they can determine both.

I read it as others can have an impact, but ultimately determining it is down to the individual, not others."

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By *ora the explorerWoman 1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet it’s widely used here.

I think they do though. I think a hell of a lot of people get upset with what folk say on here about what they do etc.

For sure they get upset, annoyed, offended, angry even. But 'shame' is another level of reaction where someone feels humiliated or distressed. Do people really feel that extreme from strangers comments that aren't even addressed to them, eg I prefer fat/thin/tall short men/women.

Yes! You see it all the time on here. "

I get what you’re saying though. Like is it shame or offense. For instance, the daddy thing. If you say it’s creepy people who like it proper bound in. If it was me I’d just think (or say) ok well I like it. That’s probably more they’re taking offence rather than shame. I dunno. I find it hard to comprehend how people can be affected by people they don’t know.

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet it’s widely used here.

I think they do though. I think a hell of a lot of people get upset with what folk say on here about what they do etc.

For sure they get upset, annoyed, offended, angry even. But 'shame' is another level of reaction where someone feels humiliated or distressed. Do people really feel that extreme from strangers comments that aren't even addressed to them, eg I prefer fat/thin/tall short men/women.

Yes! You see it all the time on here. "

Well they may claim to feel that way...but people claim a lot of things on here which aren't true so I remain sceptical!

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet it’s widely used here.

I think they do though. I think a hell of a lot of people get upset with what folk say on here about what they do etc.

For sure they get upset, annoyed, offended, angry even. But 'shame' is another level of reaction where someone feels humiliated or distressed. Do people really feel that extreme from strangers comments that aren't even addressed to them, eg I prefer fat/thin/tall short men/women.

Yes! You see it all the time on here.

I get what you’re saying though. Like is it shame or offense. For instance, the daddy thing. If you say it’s creepy people who like it proper bound in. If it was me I’d just think (or say) ok well I like it. That’s probably more they’re taking offence rather than shame. I dunno. I find it hard to comprehend how people can be affected by people they don’t know. "

I guess we're just shameless!

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By *ora the explorerWoman 1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet it’s widely used here.

I think they do though. I think a hell of a lot of people get upset with what folk say on here about what they do etc.

For sure they get upset, annoyed, offended, angry even. But 'shame' is another level of reaction where someone feels humiliated or distressed. Do people really feel that extreme from strangers comments that aren't even addressed to them, eg I prefer fat/thin/tall short men/women.

Yes! You see it all the time on here.

Well they may claim to feel that way...but people claim a lot of things on here which aren't true so I remain sceptical! "

To be honest I think half the time a lot are just looking for an argument or a way in which they can twist your words to cause a big slating

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By *lym4realCouple 1 week ago

plymouth

Unless they agree to be classed as a "Slut" surely about consent in the end though and of course double standards as per normal ! some fem like the whole "Slut" or being called a "Slut" but sadly sems fair few males then go onto assume all fems like it ? but we'd say overall it's a big fat no ....

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By *icecouple561Couple 1 week ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet it’s widely used here.

I think they do though. I think a hell of a lot of people get upset with what folk say on here about what they do etc.

For sure they get upset, annoyed, offended, angry even. But 'shame' is another level of reaction where someone feels humiliated or distressed. Do people really feel that extreme from strangers comments that aren't even addressed to them, eg I prefer fat/thin/tall short men/women.

Yes! You see it all the time on here.

I get what you’re saying though. Like is it shame or offense. For instance, the daddy thing. If you say it’s creepy people who like it proper bound in. If it was me I’d just think (or say) ok well I like it. That’s probably more they’re taking offence rather than shame. I dunno. I find it hard to comprehend how people can be affected by people they don’t know. "

I think it goes back to how they feel about themselves.

I know I'm old and I'm absolutely fine with it so someone trying to insult me by calling me old just makes me laugh. If I was super sensitive about my age it would upset me.

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By *ora the explorerWoman 1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet it’s widely used here.

I think they do though. I think a hell of a lot of people get upset with what folk say on here about what they do etc.

For sure they get upset, annoyed, offended, angry even. But 'shame' is another level of reaction where someone feels humiliated or distressed. Do people really feel that extreme from strangers comments that aren't even addressed to them, eg I prefer fat/thin/tall short men/women.

Yes! You see it all the time on here.

I get what you’re saying though. Like is it shame or offense. For instance, the daddy thing. If you say it’s creepy people who like it proper bound in. If it was me I’d just think (or say) ok well I like it. That’s probably more they’re taking offence rather than shame. I dunno. I find it hard to comprehend how people can be affected by people they don’t know.

I guess we're just shameless! "

Just call me Mrs Gallagher 🤣

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By *wist my nipplesCouple 1 week ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here.

See that’s interesting. I was thinking of slut shaming as an action which people do to others. Akin to judgement. Also, I disagree that people can’t be affected by the words of others just because they’re online.

Mrs TMN x

The question is not whether someone is 'affected', its whether they can feel 'shame' (humiliation or distress). If someone genuinely feels those extreme emotions from the online words of a complete stranger then for their mental well-being they might be happier not engaging with strangers online.

Alternatively they might be claiming to feel 'shame' in order to shut down opinions that simply cause them discomfort.

Hmm. I think it’s impossible to quantify exactly what emotions people feel. Where is the line between discomfort and distress, for example? One person’s discomfort may be another person’s distress - that’s for each individual to know and feel. So I don’t think the concept of people feeling shame due to the words and actions of others is “obviously nonsense”. I think it’s subjective. Whether they should engage or not is a different issue.

Fair comment and yes 'obviously nonsense' is too strong. But because we can't know exactly how people feel it's important to act in good faith and not claim to feel shamed simply in order to close down a debate you find discomforting. Obesity for example is one of the major public health issues of our times yet its impossible to have a balanced discussion on here because so many people will cite 'fat shaming'."

And that’s the crux of it for me. We can never know exactly how other people feel. Emotions are powerful and are always going to affect any kind of debate, particularly online where you don’t get the other feedback of tone, body language or facial expressions. Acknowledging the role emotions play in our responses is, I think, a good start towards a reasoned debate.

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"I think there's a certain confusion over self respect and the respect of others.

Nobody can determine another's 'self' respect. They can have an impact on it by word and deed but they can't determine it.

Assuming that because you have no respect for a person that they have none for themselves isn't logical.

And the whole concept of people feeling 'shame' (defined as distress or humiliation) from the online words of complete strangers is also obviously nonsense yet its widely used here.

See that’s interesting. I was thinking of slut shaming as an action which people do to others. Akin to judgement. Also, I disagree that people can’t be affected by the words of others just because they’re online.

Mrs TMN x

The question is not whether someone is 'affected', its whether they can feel 'shame' (humiliation or distress). If someone genuinely feels those extreme emotions from the online words of a complete stranger then for their mental well-being they might be happier not engaging with strangers online.

Alternatively they might be claiming to feel 'shame' in order to shut down opinions that simply cause them discomfort.

Hmm. I think it’s impossible to quantify exactly what emotions people feel. Where is the line between discomfort and distress, for example? One person’s discomfort may be another person’s distress - that’s for each individual to know and feel. So I don’t think the concept of people feeling shame due to the words and actions of others is “obviously nonsense”. I think it’s subjective. Whether they should engage or not is a different issue.

Fair comment and yes 'obviously nonsense' is too strong. But because we can't know exactly how people feel it's important to act in good faith and not claim to feel shamed simply in order to close down a debate you find discomforting. Obesity for example is one of the major public health issues of our times yet its impossible to have a balanced discussion on here because so many people will cite 'fat shaming'.

And that’s the crux of it for me. We can never know exactly how other people feel. Emotions are powerful and are always going to affect any kind of debate, particularly online where you don’t get the other feedback of tone, body language or facial expressions. Acknowledging the role emotions play in our responses is, I think, a good start towards a reasoned debate."

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By *oodmessMan 1 week ago

yumsville


"On the whole is a bit of an odd concept.

If someone is doing something to extremes, it's going to cause reaction and discussion. You don't have to be a swinger to realise taking 10,000 men or women bare in a month isn't healthy.

There's a certain amount of 'I'm more liberal than you', in condoning or mitigating sexual choice, putting it down to their body their rules - but it's not really opinion that, as anyone could do something foolish in life any use the same caveat.

Realistically what people say outwardly is likely not what they are muttering inwardly or behind peoples backs, and probably not what they'd say the next day.

Where are your limits for not slut shaming? Bin sex? Human Centipede?? I'm pretty sure people shame, who say they don't or say they embrace it.

The implied aspect that someone is being duplicitous or hypocritical in their opinions is an interesting one but also a bit of an undermining fallacy.

There should be no question that no matter what a person engages in, so long as it’s consensual, that’s none of anyone else’s concern or business"

People can do what they like, I'm not saying they shouldn't but we don't live in a utopia. People judge: your neighbour, employer, your next meet, it's on every aspect and a fact of life from face tatts to messy backgroud pics, saying sex is any different is cuckoo.

Preference, standards, exceptional, discretion, boundaries, quality are all terms used and known on here but what is the real motive behind - by people active on a swingers sex site? Prudishness, safety (maybe) or a more dis-association or red flag that they don't engage in that type of activity, an avoidance of types.. It might not be actively slut shaming though it is a distancing and boundary setting. People used to gladly announce they were blocking those on bareback threads, they don't any more.

There's a new normalisation around sex from showing your face, to public reaction stuff, to farting in a jar - whatever - the important thing to remember is that sex is a largely private act. If you lay it out on public view, you'll get opinion you don't want, probably until it becomes normal.

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By *ora the explorerWoman 1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"On the whole is a bit of an odd concept.

If someone is doing something to extremes, it's going to cause reaction and discussion. You don't have to be a swinger to realise taking 10,000 men or women bare in a month isn't healthy.

There's a certain amount of 'I'm more liberal than you', in condoning or mitigating sexual choice, putting it down to their body their rules - but it's not really opinion that, as anyone could do something foolish in life any use the same caveat.

Realistically what people say outwardly is likely not what they are muttering inwardly or behind peoples backs, and probably not what they'd say the next day.

Where are your limits for not slut shaming? Bin sex? Human Centipede?? I'm pretty sure people shame, who say they don't or say they embrace it.

The implied aspect that someone is being duplicitous or hypocritical in their opinions is an interesting one but also a bit of an undermining fallacy.

There should be no question that no matter what a person engages in, so long as it’s consensual, that’s none of anyone else’s concern or business

People can do what they like, I'm not saying they shouldn't but we don't live in a utopia. People judge: your neighbour, employer, your next meet, it's on every aspect and a fact of life from face tatts to messy backgroud pics, saying sex is any different is cuckoo.

Preference, standards, exceptional, discretion, boundaries, quality are all terms used and known on here but what is the real motive behind - by people active on a swingers sex site? Prudishness, safety (maybe) or a more dis-association or red flag that they don't engage in that type of activity, an avoidance of types.. It might not be actively slut shaming though it is a distancing and boundary setting. People used to gladly announce they were blocking those on bareback threads, they don't any more.

There's a new normalisation around sex from showing your face, to public reaction stuff, to farting in a jar - whatever - the important thing to remember is that sex is a largely private act. If you lay it out on public view, you'll get opinion you don't want, probably until it becomes normal."

That last paragraph is spot on. If you’re gonna shout about what you do then expect opinions on it. Just get on with it, why the need to tell everyone? There obviously is a need with a lot of people as people seem to love verifications.

Same with cheating. If you’re gonna do it then get on with it! Tell everyone and expect a slating. It really is that simple.

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"On the whole is a bit of an odd concept.

If someone is doing something to extremes, it's going to cause reaction and discussion. You don't have to be a swinger to realise taking 10,000 men or women bare in a month isn't healthy.

There's a certain amount of 'I'm more liberal than you', in condoning or mitigating sexual choice, putting it down to their body their rules - but it's not really opinion that, as anyone could do something foolish in life any use the same caveat.

Realistically what people say outwardly is likely not what they are muttering inwardly or behind peoples backs, and probably not what they'd say the next day.

Where are your limits for not slut shaming? Bin sex? Human Centipede?? I'm pretty sure people shame, who say they don't or say they embrace it.

The implied aspect that someone is being duplicitous or hypocritical in their opinions is an interesting one but also a bit of an undermining fallacy.

There should be no question that no matter what a person engages in, so long as it’s consensual, that’s none of anyone else’s concern or business

People can do what they like, I'm not saying they shouldn't but we don't live in a utopia. People judge: your neighbour, employer, your next meet, it's on every aspect and a fact of life from face tatts to messy backgroud pics, saying sex is any different is cuckoo.

Preference, standards, exceptional, discretion, boundaries, quality are all terms used and known on here but what is the real motive behind - by people active on a swingers sex site? Prudishness, safety (maybe) or a more dis-association or red flag that they don't engage in that type of activity, an avoidance of types.. It might not be actively slut shaming though it is a distancing and boundary setting. People used to gladly announce they were blocking those on bareback threads, they don't any more.

There's a new normalisation around sex from showing your face, to public reaction stuff, to farting in a jar - whatever - the important thing to remember is that sex is a largely private act. If you lay it out on public view, you'll get opinion you don't want, probably until it becomes normal."

Spot on which is why some of the comments about Bonnie Blue are so misplaced. Her whole grift is generating income through publicity and public discussion and controversy and abandoning any privacy around her sex life and body. Of course this will involve negative comments which I'm sure she laughs off when she gets her bank statements !

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By *ackformore100Man 1 week ago

Tin town


"Is it ever ok?

Discuss"

Just do shaming tea and cover all the bases...

And no shaming... However that's defined is OK. Commenting and discussing though is different.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 1 week ago

North West


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ yes why does that make her have lack of respect for herself.. I've had way more than a thousand cocks in my time... although not in one day..although if I could organise it without the press side of it..damn I'd give it a go.

And I have utmost respect for myself

We'll agree to disagree there

You don’t get to decide whether she does or not. Who made you the moral authority and judge for people you’ve never met?

I can judge whoever I want, and they can judge me... It's called freedom of expression.

Don’t worry, lots of people are judging you on your views

Good 👍 , if they're supportive of that type of promiscuity and lack of self respect they aren't for me anyway. "

Promiscuity? Whilst on a swinging site? What a contradiction in terms.

I love how many women on here are judged (slut shamed) for being on a liberal lifestyle website, I'd wager most are looking for heterosexuals sex and so would want to fuck men. But the men doing the fucking? They're studs. They're not shamed. No-one criticises their self respect in the way the woman on the other end of the penis is. Why?? Why such double standards? It takes at least two to tango - but apparently only 1 party are to be judged negatively.

I fucking hate this world. Our daughter (primary age) is already getting misogynistic bullying from boys the same age. It took all of my strength not to go in and bang heads together yesterday. These boys are learning it from their families. From the Manosphere online and it makes me and sick.

Fuck the world, I want to get off it.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 1 week ago

North West

Judge ye not, lest ye be judged.

I don't care if people want to judge others privately. Firstly, there's no need to judge and say cruel things about people, e.g. making assumptions about the state of someone's vagina, based entirely on unscientific nonsense. Also, please do your judging equally. Apply your "standards" to everyone. The minute you judge women differently to men; abled people differently to disabled etc, then you stray into discrimination and possible bullying.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman 1 week ago

North West

Yes Mrs KC, it's the double standards that make me sick. And given that this thread apparently can't be separated from Bonnie Blue and the body shaming, I also hate that perfectly normal female anatomy is ascribed to promiscuity and childbirth. By both men and women.

Lovely.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 1 week ago

North West

Finally, the word slut derives from the word "slattern" which used to mean a woman who didn't keep a clean and tidy home. My Grandma used to describe someone as "slutty" if they didn't do the dusting or wash their net curtains.

So, let's reclaim the word and all of us with dusty windowsills can triumphantly shout about our sluttiness.

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By *parkle1974Woman 1 week ago

Leeds

At the end of the day, it's a word. So many people take offence at pretty much anything these days...soon be you can't say anything without offending someone

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman 1 week ago

North West


"At the end of the day, it's a word. So many people take offence at pretty much anything these days...soon be you can't say anything without offending someone "

For me it's not the word. It's very easy to get caught up in semantics. It's people passing public judgement on someone else's sexual behaviour that I find horrible.

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By *ora the explorerWoman 1 week ago

Paradise, Herts


"At the end of the day, it's a word. So many people take offence at pretty much anything these days...soon be you can't say anything without offending someone

For me it's not the word. It's very easy to get caught up in semantics. It's people passing public judgement on someone else's sexual behaviour that I find horrible. "

If people make their sexual behaviour public though it’s going to happen. It does with anything.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman 1 week ago

Reading


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

I don't need it explaining but I'd like to know why you think it shows a lack of self respect. As I said above is it because she's making money, the number of men, the notoriety? At what number does a woman maintain her self respect?

What makes it a lack of self respect ...

1000 dirty dicks

She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too

She wouldn't have enjoyed it, just did it for notoriety and money, is any decent man ever going to want to touch her again? No ..

"

She's very attractive so yes yes they will.

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By *parkle1974Woman 1 week ago

Leeds


"At the end of the day, it's a word. So many people take offence at pretty much anything these days...soon be you can't say anything without offending someone

For me it's not the word. It's very easy to get caught up in semantics. It's people passing public judgement on someone else's sexual behaviour that I find horrible. "

People have judged others since the dawn of time for various reasons, not just sexual, nothing or no-one will ever stop it from happening.

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"At the end of the day, it's a word. So many people take offence at pretty much anything these days...soon be you can't say anything without offending someone

For me it's not the word. It's very easy to get caught up in semantics. It's people passing public judgement on someone else's sexual behaviour that I find horrible.

If people make their sexual behaviour public though it’s going to happen. It does with anything. "

Personally I'd rather it was public than behind my back, which happens a LOT in this place. The holier than thou gang have even been known to indulge.

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By *ansoffateMan 1 week ago

Sagittarius A

I am going to go with no, as a principle.

There are definitely some things that are worthy of challenge or criticism, for example betraying a person's trust or recklessness that places other people at risk.

People are human of course though, bubbles of emotions that respond to stimuli and I can quite understand when certain stimuli lead to an angry response. Anger is the primary emotion for setting boundaries. In that context, if I had behaved in a way that stepped over the line of an agreed boundary with someone, they were angry, then I could understand the use of shaming language. It would be a bit inappropriate of me to lecture them, in such an instance. It's not 'right' it's just that acknowledging their anger is what's valid and that is the more pertinent issue in that moment, than taking issue with the choice of words. I know I betrayed your trust, but I think now is the perfect juncture to discuss your inappropriate use of language, rather than taking responsibility for my own behaviour. 🙄

You can always come back to that later, when the dust is settled if needs be.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple 1 week ago

wonderland.


"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Comparing a guy that fucks 1 women Vs a women that fucked 1000 in one go....maybe that's why?..🤷🏻‍♂️

If she has that little respect for herself why would anyone else ? Not sure how Trump has any relevance here but...Orange man bad ...

Now I'm wondering why making a load of money from fucking 1000 men is showing a lack of self respect.

Seriously I'd like to know the reasoning behind this.

1000 men...at one time and you need this explaining?...🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ yes why does that make her have lack of respect for herself.. I've had way more than a thousand cocks in my time... although not in one day..although if I could organise it without the press side of it..damn I'd give it a go.

And I have utmost respect for myself

We'll agree to disagree there

You don’t get to decide whether she does or not. Who made you the moral authority and judge for people you’ve never met?

I can judge whoever I want, and they can judge me... It's called freedom of expression.

Don’t worry, lots of people are judging you on your views

Good 👍 , if they're supportive of that type of promiscuity and lack of self respect they aren't for me anyway.

The irony is that you’re on a site for promiscuous sex, in general society you would be subject to exactly the attitude that you’ve been so proud of.

It amazes me as to how you lack any level of self awareness

It amazes me how meeting people after you've chatted, maybe had a social and meeting in private Vs banging 1000 randoms in one go is the same in your world."

Does the nunber of randoms really matter. ???? I enjoy taking on 50 plus guys in one session.. in fact I actually take pride in it... if I could beat Bonnie blues record without having to be front page news

Id jump at the chance and actually be quite proud of it.

Because it's something I enjoy... I've got people that travel from all over when I am doing guys group stuff.. some that I don't play with as they aren't for me... but like to watch... my partner is very proud of my greedy girl reputation too..even though at the start I was worried it would put him off.

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By *entlemanSavageMan 1 week ago

Coulston

Each to their own and all that...

Slut shaming and kink shaming is never ok.

If you don't like it, scroll on by and feel free not to converse with that person, they owe you nothing.

Manners people, it's what sets us aside from the animals.

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By *ugby 123Couple 1 week ago
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"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Yep i just saw two posts commenting on the size of her vagina afterwards.

"

A 1000 men at the one time? I would more be saying how sore is her fud !!

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By *ugby 123Couple 1 week ago
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"

What makes it a lack of self respect ...

1000 dirty dicks

She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too

She wouldn't have enjoyed it, just did it for notoriety and money, is any decent man ever going to want to touch her again? No ..

"

I can't get over a 1000 dicks at once, but only from the point of view is did she get any sleep and how sore would her fud be after that.

Whether she enjoyed it or not is hard for any of us to say, but is the comment of " She clearly doesn't care who they're attached too" any different to one night stands that happen after a night out? The ones where the people notice they had beer goggles on the night before?

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By *ugby 123Couple 1 week ago
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O o O oo


"What’s the point in arguing and calling names? People are gonna disagree on this. Im sure there’s plenty who agree with Tea etc and there will be plenty who agree with wild fella, they just won’t wanna get involved.

"

This

We don't all have to agree so for those that did, please don't attack people for their views

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By *ertcoupleCouple 1 week ago

Hatfield

Who decides what a slut is?

I'm pretty sure if everyone puts in what makes a woman a slut, every woman on earth will tick one of the boxes... So?

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By *ugby 123Couple 1 week ago
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O o O oo

I didn't know what you were referring to but it looks like the woman I just googled about.There are so many questions but that is probably not for this thread.

For the slut shame question...women who like to have sex with many men is not a bad thing unless you think men who have sex with many women is bad too.

If you are on a swinging site looking for sex with people then there is no reason to call women sluts when you want to be known as a stud. We are not living in the 1970's

We have had many people over the years sneering at women for liking/ wanting to find sex on this site, some of the comments have been unreal. One I remember was "her fanny must be huge and slack " because she had had many meets. It is almost like they expected it to look like a ruddy scream mask !!

Will womens fuds go huge and slack when having sex every night with one partner?

If you think a woman have had sex with other men is someone you should look down on then I suggest your attitude is all wrong. We women shouldn't be looked down on or feel ashamed because some men think we are dirty and soiled for having sex.

To the 1000 men a day, we all judge, whether we admit to it or not so on that note it wouldn't be something I would have done in my time.

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By *ugby 123Couple 1 week ago
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"A prime example is the recent story of the woman sleeping with just over a thousand men -i think she had blue in her name.. Bonnie Blue maybe??

The amount of judgement she's received has been unreal - and yet I didn't see any criticism of the men lining up.

We certainly live in a world where females are judged to different standards than men and I imagine it's going to get worse, not better looking at the US President

Yep i just saw two posts commenting on the size of her vagina afterwards.

A 1000 men at the one time? I would more be saying how sore is her fud !! according to the interview.. she was more sore from the bites and bruises she encouraged people to leave "

I just read that yes. She must have been sore though, even a good 3some can end up you being sore the next day.

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By *iss.BellaWoman 1 week ago

Wales


"At the end of the day, it's a word. So many people take offence at pretty much anything these days...soon be you can't say anything without offending someone

For me it's not the word. It's very easy to get caught up in semantics. It's people passing public judgement on someone else's sexual behaviour that I find horrible.

If people make their sexual behaviour public though it’s going to happen. It does with anything. "

My point exactly

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By *ackformore100Man 1 week ago

Tin town


"Finally, the word slut derives from the word "slattern" which used to mean a woman who didn't keep a clean and tidy home. My Grandma used to describe someone as "slutty" if they didn't do the dusting or wash their net curtains.

So, let's reclaim the word and all of us with dusty windowsills can triumphantly shout about our sluttiness."

I like the notion of reclaiming words.

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan 1 week ago

belfast


"At the end of the day, it's a word. So many people take offence at pretty much anything these days...soon be you can't say anything without offending someone "

Bet you love Trump.

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By *eoBloomsMan 1 week ago

Springfield


"At the end of the day, it's a word. So many people take offence at pretty much anything these days...soon be you can't say anything without offending someone

Bet you love Trump. "

Heh ?

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By *parkle1974Woman 1 week ago

Leeds


"At the end of the day, it's a word. So many people take offence at pretty much anything these days...soon be you can't say anything without offending someone

Bet you love Trump. "

Why?? In all honesty, I couldn't give a shit about Trump, he's just another misogynistic twat.

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By *har99Man 4 days ago

Birmingham

So how regular does one need to fuck and with how many irregular partners per month to say?

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By *ottotty12Woman 4 days ago

oxford

I don't take it as an insult. I'm proud of what I am!!

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By *vonne5exMan 4 days ago

Doncaster

How can any genuine swinger call anyone a slut unless they ask and like to be called.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 4 days ago

Carlisle usually

Women who sleep with lots of men have no self respect?

No.

Women who sleep with lots of men have no respect for the jumped up opinions of "nice" men who would jump at the chance to have that many sexual partners 💜

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By *oro1975Man 4 days ago

Redcar

I was happily married to a slut, I gave my blessing for her to continue the way she was, when I met her.

We had kids together and stayed together 20 years. I’d never shame anyone just because they like sex. We divorced as wanted to live in different countries.

Women get a raw deal when they have sex with a few men unlike guys. Would love to meet another woman like I had, just seem to find the monogamous ones

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By *eoBloomsMan 4 days ago

Springfield

Good sluts everyone

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By *ortney CocksWoman 4 days ago

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No

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