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By *sWyld OP Woman 2 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
I'm sure many of us have seen those profiles and thought it.
However, have you ever gone for it and realised they weren't too good to be true?
Was it awesome or was it actually decidedly average? |
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We have always been very wary of finding couples where both parts are really hot, especially if we both fancy them and such a profile appeared on the forum many years ago. They were brand new to the lifestyle and had to be too good to be true we thought.
Like the good boy I am I proceeded to charm them with my sparkling personality, intelligence and beautiful penis. When it worked we were absolutely sure they were fake even on the way to our first date with them until we walked into the restaurant and they were exactly what it said on the tin.
Fast forward 5 years and we’re still having fantastic regular dates together. |
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"I'm sure many of us have seen those profiles and thought it.
However, have you ever gone for it and realised they weren't too good to be true?
Was it awesome or was it actually decidedly average? "
Still remember a great looking couple who were miles away, they were new and miles away, much as I didn't mind travelling I thought tgtbt. They are still on here, meeting, looking as great as ever. Makes me smile if I see them posting a pic |
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I sometimes don't reply to winks/messages/ or requests to meet after a chat from people I find too attractive as I feel too intimidated/nervous and don't understand why they're into me 🫣 especially if it's an attractive woman, I think it must be a catfish 😂 |
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We hardly meet couples due to never having that attraction to both (for C).
Anyway we joined a different app and got chatting to a couple and got on well, met for a social and we all agreed, a 4 way attraction was there and a date was arranged for a months time (earliest we could all arrange).
Then they dropped off a cliff, even though they said that was their pet hate. We’d get a message a week and the tone had changed, so we cancelled.
It kind of put us off trying to meet couples - too many variables to get right.
On the other hand we’ve had the complete opposite with singles - chat good, social good and we’ve met. It’s been easy throughout.
The problem is they set the standard of what you want, like and enjoy and so it’s harder to find the ones who you connect with on different levels.
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I've never had that thought in regard to any profile I've engaged with but I've often seen forum comments and status updates from people with an amazing selection of pics and many many verifications but who seem to struggle with repeat meets.
My thoughts when seeing their comments about how their meets have all been one offs or how they have been ghosted after meeting someone is that good pics and a good bio are no guarantee that anyone is sexually skilled.
The profiles may well look too good to be true and the fact others don't want to meet them a second time seems to confirm that. |
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Loads. I consider it totally normal to turn up to an event and find loads of people who look absolutely nothing like their photos.
I consider fab, for the most part, to be the shiny side where everyone has their best for forward and I withhold judgement accordingly until I meet them in person. |
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"Everybody’s too good to be true, and at the same time nobody is. It’s more about our perceptions really, and our brains are fickle, awkward things at times."
This is pretty much it.. we all have our own preferences and we like different things in people so a tgtbt for me may be thought average by others |
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I have a format that I work to.
Every so often, local women will pop up seeking the same as me, excitement in a stale relationship.
I think this is too good to be true, but hot list them. If they are still there in 2 weeks, I'll message them.
90% of the time, they've disappeared. |
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"I'm sure many of us have seen those profiles and thought it.
However, have you ever gone for it and realised they weren't too good to be true?
Was it awesome or was it actually decidedly average? "
Yes, I have a quite few times.
Most of the time they turn out to be just normal average people and occasionally they are a real pain in the arse , a head fuck & have a trail of bad experiences because they are so used to people doing all the work in a relationship. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 2 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I'm a cynic but I find if a woman answers too enthusiasticly the next message will be one asking for cash.
I have not been proved wrong yet.
This is so true "
I must be doing something wrong. In all my 17 years here I've not been asked for so much as a Mars bar, or bag of haribos, either when I've sent a message or received one. 🤔🤷♂️ |
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"I'm a cynic but I find if a woman answers too enthusiasticly the next message will be one asking for cash.
I have not been proved wrong yet.
This is so true
I must be doing something wrong. In all my 17 years here I've not been asked for so much as a Mars bar, or bag of haribos, either when I've sent a message or received one. 🤔🤷♂️"
I’ve never been asked for money either, I’ve given people money when they needed but they didn’t ask. I sometimes get messages from really young hot women where they start talking about some nice trip or event, I know I just told them that sounds fucking boring jump on a train. I’m happy to do you. That soon ends the conversation before they got round to asking. |
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"I'm sure many of us have seen those profiles and thought it.
However, have you ever gone for it and realised they weren't too good to be true?
Was it awesome or was it actually decidedly average? "
I often find the "Too good to be true" people often delete profiles or they aren't real to begin with.
Or, of course.. they are here for some one handed action - finish the job, then mysteriously dissapear.
It's frustratingly difficult to make connections as a result.. especially local ones :/ |
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"I'm a cynic but I find if a woman answers too enthusiasticly the next message will be one asking for cash.
I have not been proved wrong yet. "
Nine years here and not a single request for cash or favours, never been stood up, never been catfished and never engaged with a fake profile.
At this stage I'm making the assumption that anyone finding any of the above to be a regular occurrence has no-one to blame but themselves. |
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"I'm a cynic but I find if a woman answers too enthusiasticly the next message will be one asking for cash.
I have not been proved wrong yet. "
When my filters are down I get a ridiculous amount of offers couched in terms too vague to report but the intention is clear. They just get deleted. |
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I was convinced once that I was being catfished and the guy I was chatting to was using some model's photos.
But no, he turned up and was just as beautiful as his photos.
Not sure I'd class him or his profile as too good to be true, but certainly he was gorgeous enough for a tiny bit of doubt to creep in. |
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"I'm a cynic but I find if a woman answers too enthusiasticly the next message will be one asking for cash.
I have not been proved wrong yet.
Nine years here and not a single request for cash or favours, never been stood up, never been catfished and never engaged with a fake profile.
At this stage I'm making the assumption that anyone finding any of the above to be a regular occurrence has no-one to blame but themselves."
I’ve always thought this to be honest. If people are gonna meet straight away or after a couple of messages then what do they expect really? Seems odd it happens to people time and time again and it’s never happened to me in all this time. |
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"I'm a cynic but I find if a woman answers too enthusiasticly the next message will be one asking for cash.
I have not been proved wrong yet.
Nine years here and not a single request for cash or favours, never been stood up, never been catfished and never engaged with a fake profile.
At this stage I'm making the assumption that anyone finding any of the above to be a regular occurrence has no-one to blame but themselves."
Think that’s a bit harsh to be honest … even some of the longstanding people on here have had issues
Well done you for managing to avoid the bad ‘uns but , maybe, don’t say that it’s everyone else’s fault if they do come across them |
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"I sometimes don't reply to winks/messages/ or requests to meet after a chat from people I find too attractive as I feel too intimidated/nervous and don't understand why they're into me 🫣 especially if it's an attractive woman, I think it must be a catfish 😂"
YES! When they say I'm hot/whatever, I'm just waiting for the "SYKE!" 🫣🤣 |
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By *ornycougaWoman 2 weeks ago
MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat |
"I'm sure many of us have seen those profiles and thought it.
However, have you ever gone for it and realised they weren't too good to be true?
Was it awesome or was it actually decidedly average? "
Only once for me. He actually exceeded expectations in every way 😈 |
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"If it seems to good to be true, it normally is (for guys anyway!). As someone else mentioned, a large majority of messages I get are asking for money unfortunately!"
LOT of that going about, or off-links to other sites etc.
I get a lot more response from other locations to be honest - I stay selective here but not out of choice. lol |
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By *utualMan 2 weeks ago
Bawtry |
I just play it absolutely straight. That way there is no hassle or drama and everybody knows where they stand. The only snag (which is a good thing) is that we are all different and so have different tastes, needs and wants.....if these align - then we find our 'too good to be true'
The fakes are far too many in number, and often quite obvious to spot. |
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"I'm a cynic but I find if a woman answers too enthusiasticly the next message will be one asking for cash.
I have not been proved wrong yet.
Nine years here and not a single request for cash or favours, never been stood up, never been catfished and never engaged with a fake profile.
At this stage I'm making the assumption that anyone finding any of the above to be a regular occurrence has no-one to blame but themselves.
Think that’s a bit harsh to be honest … even some of the longstanding people on here have had issues
Well done you for managing to avoid the bad ‘uns but , maybe, don’t say that it’s everyone else’s fault if they do come across them "
It's not harsh at all. If you keep doing the same thing over and over and expect a different outcome it's time you looked at the common denominator which is yourself and then look at how you vet the people you chat with.
Due diligence and common sense are great tools but only when you use them.
The fact I haven't had a no show or talked to a fake profile has nothing to do with luck. |
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"I'm a cynic but I find if a woman answers too enthusiastically the next message will be one asking for cash.
I have not been proved wrong yet. "
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I'm bemused at the type/grade of women you're engaging with if that's your experience.
In all my years I've never personally encountered any dubious or nefarious women who are asking / demanding / suggesting anything of such sorts. |
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By *zeroMan 2 weeks ago
Glasgow |
Once I refused to message back someone who I thought was an obvious fake. No profile photo and little information on the profile... I ended up bumping into her later in a club and she was annoyed at me for not responding |
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Once I get past the stage of going "well, I showed them my face and they still seem to like me", I'm generally excited to meet them and chat further and when we do meet, they've absolutely been worth the effort in every single way  |
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I haven’t met anyone via this website, but I used to be on conversational dating sites, and met quite a few women after a few back and forth messages, and I can honestly say that I have always felt disappointed. You get that sinking feeling inside when you first meet in real life, and it’s so true that you can never make a second, first impression. Why would someone use filters on old pictures to appear more attractive, only for the first impression to be one of disappointment? I remember arranging to meet one woman, who was absolutely lovely to chat to, but when she appeared, I genuinely thought that she had sent her mum to meet me. I’m sure that it seems terribly shallow of me to put so much emphasis on looks, but actually it’s about honesty and openness and sincerity, which is all lost if you don’t turn up as the person you portrayed yourself as. |
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By *WANDTGCouple 2 weeks ago
Borough of Greenwich |
We've had a few gym types in there 30s message us, all we think is, why ? Surely there are people there own age and body type out there that would swoon over them. We sort of feel it's a piss take, or one to tick of on their bucket list. So we've passed them by, without any regrets. |
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By *nnCeeWoman 2 weeks ago
East of Eden, West of Hell |
"I'm a cynic but I find if a woman answers too enthusiasticly the next message will be one asking for cash.
I have not been proved wrong yet.
This is so true
I must be doing something wrong. In all my 17 years here I've not been asked for so much as a Mars bar, or bag of haribos, either when I've sent a message or received one. 🤔🤷♂️"
Ooohhh... I didn't realise I could ask for sweeties!!
I wouldn't ask anyone for money though. I might have to actually pay people... 🤣 |
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By *nnCeeWoman 2 weeks ago
East of Eden, West of Hell |
"I sometimes don't reply to winks/messages/ or requests to meet after a chat from people I find too attractive as I feel too intimidated/nervous and don't understand why they're into me 🫣 especially if it's an attractive woman, I think it must be a catfish 😂"
Absolutely this. I never understand what anyone would see in me. But, to each their own. If you find someone attractive, you find someone attractive.
Some of the profiles I've seen on her I do think "well, they'd never want me!" But how do I know?! (Unless all their photos are with one particular type of person) |
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Underepresantion of one's goodness is the safest way so they then get a pleasant surprise. Never build up those expectaions so high that the reality can be seen as not quite up there. Some seem to have the tendancy to elevate themselves to god like figures  |
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Just rejoined recently so haven't had any profile that seems too good to be true but I would just treat it the same as any other by not getting hopes up or any kind of expectations and if it starts to feel a bit off then I'd just leave it be. |
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"I'm a cynic but I find if a woman answers too enthusiasticly the next message will be one asking for cash.
I have not been proved wrong yet.
When my filters are down I get a ridiculous amount of offers couched in terms too vague to report but the intention is clear. They just get deleted."
When I have the energy/ time, I bait them until they say something clear enough to be reported  |
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I definitely thought my last meeting was too good to be true, she was way out of my league. Even after a video call I was still cynical. I went to pick her up and couldn't believe my luck. We met every couple of weeks for a year after that. So it is possible. |
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My tastes will somewhat overlap with those of others but I've not seen someone who's too good to be true, though have found some using photos taken from others 
If I like someone, I'll explore whether there's _utual compatibility, especially when I like someone a lot. I sense when someone is going to be very popular and try to form realistic expectations. As well as remaining aware that not all claims are based on the truth. |
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"I'm a cynic but I find if a woman answers too enthusiasticly the next message will be one asking for cash.
I have not been proved wrong yet.
Nine years here and not a single request for cash or favours, never been stood up, never been catfished and never engaged with a fake profile.
At this stage I'm making the assumption that anyone finding any of the above to be a regular occurrence has no-one to blame but themselves."
You have the best single male profile we’ve seen on Fab, you can see what you get in tasteful well taken photos and a well worded bio gives a great insight into your personality and great veri’s. This is why you’ve not had the same experience as others on here. |
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"I'm sure many of us have seen those profiles and thought it.
However, have you ever gone for it and realised they weren't too good to be true?
Was it awesome or was it actually decidedly average? "
I’ve seen quite a few profiles that I felt were amazing, wanted to meet me and I have. Often they’ve been great and wonderful people.
There’s a basic confidence in approaching others that you might feel are too good to be true and rolling with the punches if they turn out not to be |
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Met someone on here that was "too good to be true" real photos of him as a fire fighter and cage fighter. Clear face photos and a straight forward profile that was not cocky or arrogant. I messaged him first and asked if I booked a hotel for a certain date would he join me. He said yes, he turned up on time and he exceeded all expectations. There are some hidden gems on here if you're prepared to rummage through the rubble. |
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Around about ten years ago I found a hottie on here, and we got on incredibly well. I was beginning to think he must be a catfish.
But no, he turned up at the hotel and we are still in touch now, despite life's twists and turns. And are planning to meet up again this year |
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I once chanced a meet with a guy who had a few wank videos on xtube (I don't think that even exists any more)
I never, in a month of Sundays thought he'd show up, but show up he did, was absolutely drop dead gorgeous and came round every few weeks for a couple of years after
Of all my 'meet experiences' over the years that always sends me to happy thoughts places |
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A couple messaged us and we couldn't understand why they did. We were quite suspicious at first as they were young, attractive and really engaging and chatty in their messages.
We met up with them within the month and we all had such a wonderful evening with them.
Good surprises can happen. |
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"A couple messaged us and we couldn't understand why they did. We were quite suspicious at first as they were young, attractive and really engaging and chatty in their messages.
We met up with them within the month and we all had such a wonderful evening with them.
Good surprises can happen."
You've met me and said that was unforgettable.  |
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"Someone I’d fancied for ages. Hot pictures. Lovely bloke.
Then met him face to face. Even hotter. Even nicer.
I didn’t know quite what to do 🤣🤣
Eeeeeeek moment "
I probably looked stupid or rude. Just stared for a minute.
I’m such a dick 🙈 |
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"Someone I’d fancied for ages. Hot pictures. Lovely bloke.
Then met him face to face. Even hotter. Even nicer.
I didn’t know quite what to do 🤣🤣
Eeeeeeek moment
I probably looked stupid or rude. Just stared for a minute.
I’m such a dick 🙈"
Was you drooling?  |
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"Someone I’d fancied for ages. Hot pictures. Lovely bloke.
Then met him face to face. Even hotter. Even nicer.
I didn’t know quite what to do 🤣🤣"
Happened to me. I went for staring. Maybe should have licked his face instead.
Mrs TMN x |
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"Someone I’d fancied for ages. Hot pictures. Lovely bloke.
Then met him face to face. Even hotter. Even nicer.
I didn’t know quite what to do 🤣🤣
Eeeeeeek moment
I probably looked stupid or rude. Just stared for a minute.
I’m such a dick 🙈
Was you drooling? "
Not quite |
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"Someone I’d fancied for ages. Hot pictures. Lovely bloke.
Then met him face to face. Even hotter. Even nicer.
I didn’t know quite what to do 🤣🤣
Happened to me. I went for staring. Maybe should have licked his face instead.
Mrs TMN x"
Doesn’t help matters
Trust me 🤣 |
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"Someone I’d fancied for ages. Hot pictures. Lovely bloke.
Then met him face to face. Even hotter. Even nicer.
I didn’t know quite what to do 🤣🤣
Happened to me. I went for staring. Maybe should have licked his face instead.
Mrs TMN x
Doesn’t help matters
Trust me 🤣"
It worked out ok  |
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