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Not my thing personally. I like to chat, build anticipation and go for a social when it comes to private meets.
But I'm intrigued as to how many people do genuinely enjoy the spontaneous "fuck now?" "you free?" "can you accommodate this morning?" kinds of meets, and what it is you enjoy about them?
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I’m not free now…
I’m expensive always
More to the topic, how would meet now differ from playing with someone in a club? I’d play in a club without much prior, but I would find it strange to meet now privately |
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It’s great to build a connection, flirting, teasing etc.
However, sometimes the raw desire of just meeting someone who is in reality a stranger to fuck is very primeval. Little chat just enjoying each other……
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"I’m not free now…
I’m expensive always
More to the topic, how would meet now differ from playing with someone in a club? I’d play in a club without much prior, but I would find it strange to meet now privately "
For me personally, even at clubs I tend to end up playing with people I either know from other events, or have chatted with online beforehand whether on here or an event chat prior. I have only ever played with someone I met the same night a couple of times after chatting in the bar a while.
But as a single women I find it safer to do that in a club environment than in a private meet. As a single woman I would never ever turn up at a strangers house after three messages and I would not feel comfortable inviting them to straight to mine or giving anyone my address. I always meet somewhere public first so I feel safe until I am comfortable in their company, and a club satisfies that. |
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I don't do spontaneous or impromptu meets, therefore it's a moot point.
I have, however, on a few rare occasions been offered to meet a (verified/genuine) couple in a hotel cocktail bar in Soho or Covent Garden, with the intention of ravishing the "Mrs". If I played on looks alone I would have been sorely tempted, but it's not really my thing. |
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We look after someone with dementia so time is limited. Organized meets have to be done like a month before so we can get cover. Sometimes we have an unexpected free night and would do a quick meet if offered. |
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I've done this a lot on my previous profile, I had some fantastic last minute meets and some not so great, however I've done the messaging back and forth and the flirting & banter was great but when in the bedroom it didn't live up to the hype. Pros and cons to both 🤷♂️ now I like a social first 🙂 |
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"In my younger days I used to get a thrill out of them. Then stopped getting a thrill so changed the way I went about things"
This is pretty much my answer too.
There was undoubtedly a thrill about meeting a complete stranger and immediately getting naked together. Knocking on the door and not quite knowing what the person on the other side of it is like. When it works … it can be sexy as hell. When it doesn’t? Uh-oh. Awkward. No chemistry = no sex.
I just don’t feel like taking that sort of risk any more. I get just as much of a ‘first meet’ thrill from getting together for a drink. If the chemistry’s there, then sex can follow in time. (Sometimes very short time. 10 minutes later, up against a wall in the nearest hotel room …) |
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As a fantasy I can see the appeal in some ways, but I would be too worried I would meet them and they:
a) looked nothing like their photos
b) there was zero chemistry
c) they don't know how to hold a conversation
I like my brain turned on as much as my body. |
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By *.T.Man 2 weeks ago
Belfast |
I'm always happy to arrange a last minute meet. The attraction to me is on many different levels.
Its Spontaneous! Not preplanned, you have no idea how long you will have or what you'll get up to.
It is exciting! You might not know anything about the person you meet.
It may lead to better things! Sometimes they or you take a chance and go outside of their preferences as a one off, find you click and plan another meet.
You can always walk away. Arguably if you feel the vibe is wrong, you can say "perhaps this wasn't a good idea" and haven't wasted days and weeks messaging and getting to know the person they want you to think they are. I've met one or two people in the past who came across as what I was looking for, but the reality was very different from how they portrayed themselves behind the comfort of the keyboard.
And finally...
Its like meeting a stranger in a club but without having to queue to wait your turn!
So yes, it is absolutely for me, doesn't mean I'm any less choosy |
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If I had invited a stranger to my house or hotel room without having met them, I don't know how comfortable I would feel to say "actually, this isn't going to work for me. Can you go?" I can't think of anything more awkward I don't like the element of expectation involved with someone I haven't met.
Absolutely no judgement from me about anyone's contributions btw I find it fascinating hearing people's opinions and differing approaches. |
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By *ripfillMan 2 weeks ago
Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant |
For me definitely a social meet first …
instant meets are / were impractical and were a let down as a whole .. hurried fidgety, and not quite the environment often to enjoy prolonged pleasures and repeated climaxes … and the older I am in the fab the more a social meet is needed first  plus it’s nice to shower together first and last … |
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By *batMan 2 weeks ago
Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales) |
It's a very long time since I had a one night stand with a stranger. But in days gone by, yeah, they were great.
See someone you fancy, chat to them and get the right signals. Fuck each other's brains out. What's not to enjoy?
But I do appreciate people having concerns around their safety!
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Sounds exciting but I can only imagine scary situations.
Club meets are much the same with not much socialising, but at least it’s safer.
An old fashioned meet over a meal and drinks in an afternoon is always lovely |
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I’ve never met anyone and had sex with them straight away. Before this lifestyle I hadn’t even had a one night stand, so it’s never been in my set up to have sex with random women.
I’ve set up a few blindfold meets for C and she’s never spoken to them but I have for a while, to ensure they are ok.
We’ve had a couple of club visits where we’ve got chatting to a gent and we’ve played but there’s been no times where we’ve got down to having sex without chatting first.
Variety is the spice of life though
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By *ony MannMan 2 weeks ago
Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Anoover |
I did start to meet like that once, first sent to a car park then new message with a house address, then new message, door open come straight upstairs.
That was enough, by message was no thanks. I went on to visit a castle, which was reason for being in the town. |
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I would say 80% of my meets are Spontaneous.
I can't think of any worse than loads of chit chat and then finding out there no good at sex.
At clubs it's a case of I might get your name after and then forget it my the time I have left.
It's all about have a good time.
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I had a few on my old profile, some good some bad, one of the bed ones the female definitely was not shower fresh and the fella just sat at the end of the bed doing gear. I didn't hang around for too long, also got a great blowjob after checking who's near by after leaving a pub |
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"I’m not free now…
I’m expensive always
More to the topic, how would meet now differ from playing with someone in a club? I’d play in a club without much prior, but I would find it strange to meet now privately
For me personally, even at clubs I tend to end up playing with people I either know from other events, or have chatted with online beforehand whether on here or an event chat prior. I have only ever played with someone I met the same night a couple of times after chatting in the bar a while.
But as a single women I find it safer to do that in a club environment than in a private meet. As a single woman I would never ever turn up at a strangers house after three messages and I would not feel comfortable inviting them to straight to mine or giving anyone my address. I always meet somewhere public first so I feel safe until I am comfortable in their company, and a club satisfies that. "
If I was here as a single woman I’d probably feel the same however as part of a couple I feel somewhat safer organising last minute meets. Eg a few weeks ago we had an unexpected free night. The night before I messaged a few guys local to the area and managed to arrange a meet for the next evening. There was something really hot about the whole situation. I do enjoy a build up too though 
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Only if I knew the person and knew I was attracted to them..even at a social I'd have to have chatted a bit to someone beforehand. I couldn't just fuck a complete stranger because they were passing by 🤣
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I like spontaneous and regular meets - variety is the spice of life.
I have a wife or two that I enjoy meeting regularly - the sex always gets better when you get to know someone.
I also have the occasional spur of the moment meet when the stars line up. They are great fun as well. |
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We have met spontaneously more often than not at our home address as a couple however as others have said we would be less inclined individually.
What is the difference between a spontaneous meet through fab or just going to a dogging location for example? Between the two we prefer the former personally.
We don’t get to go to clubs as often as you like so it suits our schedule when we are free and interested in a meet. You’re saving money hosting a private meet by not having to pay admission as at a club there is no guarantee you will hit it off with someone.
There are times when you just want to cut to the chase and get down to it. We search who’s near and if we find a profile we like the look of we will chat and go from there. All our experiences have been good without any issues.
Our recent spontaneous meet was last week. We were just about to log off when we saw a guy we like who was staying in the area. It turned out to be the ideal meet. We nearly didn’t go through with it because he hadn’t got his own transport so I went to fetch him myself. We’re looking at meeting for a social next time he’s in the area. It’s a turn up for the book playing then arranging a social for a later date lol. |
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Being a very spontaneous person if I’ve ever got the chance I’d find a way of getting what I want when I want, the only times I’ve organised a meet is when I get my massage with H E
Just wish they were free not having to pay for them, so if there is anyone here………lol!!!!!!!
Saying that, I am organising a meet with a couple on my way to see family 200 miles away, they sound so cool and chat to them regular, so next month I should of met, hopefully!!! 🤞 |
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"We look after someone with dementia so time is limited. Organized meets have to be done like a month before so we can get cover. Sometimes we have an unexpected free night and would do a quick meet if offered. "
respect, hard work looking after a loved one with dementia xx
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"Not my thing personally. I like to chat, build anticipation and go for a social when it comes to private meets.
But I'm intrigued as to how many people do genuinely enjoy the spontaneous "fuck now?" "you free?" "can you accommodate this morning?" kinds of meets, and what it is you enjoy about them?
Satisfy my curiosity? "
I’m a very spontaneous woman and I love acting on impulse when I’m feeling sexy/horny/slutty |
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I had a spontaneous date over the weekend. Matched on an app. Decided we didn't want to meet in a busy pub on a Saturday night and the weather was shite so we had a date in my living room with a fire, cheese board and a few bottles of wine.
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"I mean, if it's just for sex.. I am quite spontaneous 
Prove it!
Umm did I tell you about my V8...
 damn it! Ball gags are great, right?  "
If you've got your balls stuffed in my mouth, how you gonna fuck me |
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I would usually steer clear of these meets, however I have done it 4 times now. Admittedly a bit d*unk. I think the it builds up the anticipation further. One of those meetings was my most enjoyable ever and I don't know his name. |
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"Is it any different to a one night stand or do they not exist anymore.
For me I find the idea exciting, in reality if offered not sure. "
Personally I don't enjoy one night stands, but even so it's the same concept as a swinger club meet in that you spend time together in public place initially and you can gauge attraction and chemistry before deciding to go home with them. Just inviting someone you've never met to your house or a hotel I feel is a little different. |
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"I mean, if it's just for sex.. I am quite spontaneous
Prove it!
Umm did I tell you about my V8...
damn it! Ball gags are great, right?
If you've got your balls stuffed in my mouth, how you gonna fuck me "
Who says they're staying there?   |
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"I mean, if it's just for sex.. I am quite spontaneous
Prove it!
Umm did I tell you about my V8...
damn it! Ball gags are great, right?
If you've got your balls stuffed in my mouth, how you gonna fuck me
Who says they're staying there? "
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Nope, it's not for me.
Even with extensive and highly enjoyable chatting, I still had to tell my fwb before we first met that I couldn't tell if I'd fancy him in person based solely on pretty pictures and online chemistry. Yes, I get that I'm a bit odd  |
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"Nope, it's not for me.
Even with extensive and highly enjoyable chatting, I still had to tell my fwb before we first met that I couldn't tell if I'd fancy him in person based solely on pretty pictures and online chemistry. Yes, I get that I'm a bit odd "
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"Nope, it's not for me.
Even with extensive and highly enjoyable chatting, I still had to tell my fwb before we first met that I couldn't tell if I'd fancy him in person based solely on pretty pictures and online chemistry. Yes, I get that I'm a bit odd "
You're not odd, I'm the same. |
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"Nope, it's not for me.
Even with extensive and highly enjoyable chatting, I still had to tell my fwb before we first met that I couldn't tell if I'd fancy him in person based solely on pretty pictures and online chemistry. Yes, I get that I'm a bit odd
You're not odd, I'm the same. "
Not odd at all |
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In my experience, clubs are parties are the best as you meet in person and can go from there, online is tricky as only so much you tell .
The last minute meets, are hut & miss ..gotta be in the right place & right time but still online can work if you put in the work |
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"Nope, it's not for me.
Even with extensive and highly enjoyable chatting, I still had to tell my fwb before we first met that I couldn't tell if I'd fancy him in person based solely on pretty pictures and online chemistry. Yes, I get that I'm a bit odd
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"In my younger days I used to get a thrill out of them. Then stopped getting a thrill so changed the way I went about things"
This. Looking back on my antics now, I was so lucky not to have got into a dangerous situation. So now I get my stranger kicks in clubs, where security are never that far away |
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By *ornycougaWoman 2 weeks ago
MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat |
I've met guys the same day after only exchanging two or three messages. But we have always had a drink and a chat/flirt before getting down to business. I've only done a "fuck now" meet with someone I have met previously on more than one occasion |
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"I've met guys the same day after only exchanging two or three messages. But we have always had a drink and a chat/flirt before getting down to business. I've only done a "fuck now" meet with someone I have met previously on more than one occasion "
Same here |
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By *edSirenWoman 2 weeks ago
Leighton Buzzard |
I’d say it depends on my sexual mood. On the whole I love the tease, the anticipation of not knowing what will happen that can only come with a build up. To me those interactions can be as hot as the act itself.
However. There have been a few occasions where the devil comes out to play 😈 In those moments, I’m not interested in knowing anything about them. I don’t even need to know their name. It’s purely based on physical lust and a very animalistic based need to feel and fuck.
I don’t see why one can’t enjoy both sides of the spectrum. Variety is the spice of life and all that… 😉
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"I’d say it depends on my sexual mood. On the whole I love the tease, the anticipation of not knowing what will happen that can only come with a build up. To me those interactions can be as hot as the act itself.
However. There have been a few occasions where the devil comes out to play 😈 In those moments, I’m not interested in knowing anything about them. I don’t even need to know their name. It’s purely based on physical lust and a very animalistic based need to feel and fuck.
I don’t see why one can’t enjoy both sides of the spectrum. Variety is the spice of life and all that… 😉
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Its definitely an “in the right mood” kind of thing |
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"I’d say it depends on my sexual mood. On the whole I love the tease, the anticipation of not knowing what will happen that can only come with a build up. To me those interactions can be as hot as the act itself.
However. There have been a few occasions where the devil comes out to play 😈 In those moments, I’m not interested in knowing anything about them. I don’t even need to know their name. It’s purely based on physical lust and a very animalistic based need to feel and fuck.
I don’t see why one can’t enjoy both sides of the spectrum. Variety is the spice of life and all that… 😉
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Yeah, just ignore the username. Pretend it doesn't exist. Hi, how's it going? 😏 |
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I've had a fair few spontaneous, last minute arranged, I'm gagging for it meets which have been thrilling, fun & scratched my itch!
I do prefer a social beforehand tho to check the vibe & build up the sexual tension tho. |
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