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Do you ever think about people you just lost contact with. You never fell out, just communication faded, life got in the way, you stopped messaging first etc.
Would you ever pop up on Facebook or whatever and say ‘hey’ |
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By *sWyldWoman 2 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
I lost my best friend a few years ago. She just stopped communicating. I really don't know why or what I did wrong. I tried reaching out but to no avail.
It hurt a lot.
I seen her recently and I didn't feel going to say hello would be welcome, so I didn't and neither did she.
It made it hurt all over again.
Life happens though and people drift apart.
My door is always open but I'm not very good at putting myself out there first. |
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By *ags73Man 2 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"I lost my best friend a few years ago. She just stopped communicating. I really don't know why or what I did wrong. I tried reaching out but to no avail.
It hurt a lot.
I seen her recently and I didn't feel going to say hello would be welcome, so I didn't and neither did she.
It made it hurt all over again.
Life happens though and people drift apart.
My door is always open but I'm not very good at putting myself out there first. "
Lost friends a few years ago and it was me always doing the messages and it got a bit busy at my end and well, it all faded.
After things happened a few years back, well, a lot said and no one really came through.
But it’s is hard and I wish it was different but you find who’s there in tough times |
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By *IXEN200Woman 2 weeks ago
newcastle upon tyne |
"I lost my best friend a few years ago. She just stopped communicating. I really don't know why or what I did wrong. I tried reaching out but to no avail.
It hurt a lot.
I seen her recently and I didn't feel going to say hello would be welcome, so I didn't and neither did she.
It made it hurt all over again.
Life happens though and people drift apart.
My door is always open but I'm not very good at putting myself out there first. "
I totally understand this as my best friend and I drifted apart and I kept wondering what I had done wrong, she would pop in now and again when I had a really difficult time as if she knew then moved away and the contact completely stopped, I kept trying to reach out but it didn't work. As you say door is always open |
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It's just impossible to keep in touch with everyone. I have probably had hundreds of temporary friends over the years through work etc, and then you move on. I have kept the same core group since my teens, and some even earlier though. |
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I hadn't spoken to my one Brother since my Mum died 9 years ago, we never fell out, it's a complex situation.
I saw him the other day, he was driving past and saw me getting out of car and pulled over, I just burst into tears at seeing him, of course he called me silly and we chatted like nothing had happened
I guess I miss both my Brothers and thinking I need to reconnect. |
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"Do you ever think about people you just lost contact with. You never fell out, just communication faded, life got in the way, you stopped messaging first etc.
Would you ever pop up on Facebook or whatever and say ‘hey’"
Yeah I think about some of them and wonder why. Others - not so much. |
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One of my high school best friends and I got back in contact after years of none. No negativity, just life. We even live in the same small town and never bumped into eachother. I can't even remember how I found out she was still around, but I managed to get hold of her. We both ended up being guests at eachothers wedding's a few years after getting back in touch, and still friends now 🫶 |
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By *929Man 2 weeks ago
bedlington |
An ex of mine from 20 odd years ago came up in my suggested friends on Facebook so I said hello how’s things and sometimes things just better left in past she lost the plot now tells the most fantastical lies for no reason like with literally a minute between texts so no time for it to actually happen said her dryer had just caught fire so she picked it up ran through the house and threw it on her front lawn and has all these plans I never actually agreed too like going away for weekend ect I didn’t know how fast to stop communication haha |
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Sites like Facebook broke the natural process of losing touch with people - a sort of social exfoliant - and left us all with a scum of acquaintances and distant family that never really got washed off.
If I bump into someone from a past life by chance then yeh, sure, that is nice sometimes. But otherwise, I think it's healthier to truly lose touch with people. |
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By *mf123Man 2 weeks ago
with one foot out the door |
"Think about it quite often im open to a hello and a catchup but il never send one now the past has been and gone and im too old to believe in magic"
i dont do facemuck n social medias mind you so less likely  |
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No, I wouldn't say "hello" on Facebook. People drift apart for a multitude of reasons. It doesn't mean the friendship wasn't precious and authentic for the period it lasted. I just think about them, maybe wonder how they're doing, and hope that they're happy. |
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I remember travelling around Asia as a kid & you meet so many people in hostels there was no Internet then and you would write in each other’s diaries, exchange addresses and landline members of their parents house! and promise to stay friends forever.
I think we all stay in touch & become friends with the people we’re meant to. There’s no excuses these days either ,, everyone is just a couple of clicks away! |
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"My husband and I were friends and colleagues with a guy for nearly 30 years, but one day he just stopped all contact with us. "
I was friends and colleagues with a woman for around ten years who did the same.
I received a Christmas card from her out of the blue last year which mightily confused me. |
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Yes, I do. Thinking about it a bitore recently too - I've assumed that's just middle-aged melancholy - but there are some really good friends I've lost touch with over the years, and I miss them.
I sometimes think about dropping a message, but I think ships have sailed and it would just be weird.
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That happens to me a good bit...and the ones I reconnect with are the important ones and it's like we've never been out of touch. When people are special in your life I don't believe that you'll ever lose touch completely 🥰 |
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Friends drift in and out family however seems far more complex. Mine no longer seem to take the time to check in ever, the relationship over the last few years has always felt forced and my attempts to build bridges and find out what I may have done to upset them has come to no avail.
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I think about this quite a lot, I have lost touch with lots of friends from my younger years for various reasons. Most of them we never fell out, just either moved away, people got into relationships or had kids and didn't have time or their priorities changed, sometimes you just change as people. I have found this hard to deal with at times but as I've got older I've found it better for my mental health to let go of some connections then be the only one putting any effort into keeping them going. |
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