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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't. But a lot of people do. That's why you will always find me suggesting single guys who can't accommodate put a short, simple explanation - it 'heads off' the chance that someone reading will hit the 'Next!' button and not jump to conclusions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What difference does it make for first couple of meets? Best to be on neutral territory anyway til you get to know each other better....if thats what you want |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Two reasons we don't accom -
1. Kids
2. Psychos
We also feel that hotel meets far more relaxing and enjoyable as you are away from the pressures of home.
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"Why do we always assume those thar can't accommodate ate hiding something or are married"
I assume someone is attached if I see a number of things.
a) cannot accommodate
b) asks for absolute discretion
c) only meets midweek
d) only meets daytimes
If I see a combination of 2 or 3 of these I assume they are attached. Rightly or wrongly that is my filtering process. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do we always assume those thar can't accommodate ate hiding something or are married"
No apologies for thinking "single " men who can't accommodate are married. Useful if their profile includes an explanation why if they can't . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer hotel meets anyway."
me too, I don't like going to peoples homes, I feel more relaxed in a hotel as I can walk around and do as I please, where as you cant make yourself at home in someone elses house |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I choose not to accomodate after some bad experiences in the past, i find nowadays that hotel meets are more fun and adds to the escapism from home and a break from my 19 yr old nosey son....lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do we always assume those thar can't accommodate ate hiding something or are married
I assume someone is attached if I see a number of things.
a) cannot accommodate
b) asks for absolute discretion
c) only meets midweek
d) only meets daytimes
If I see a combination of 2 or 3 of these I assume they are attached. Rightly or wrongly that is my filtering process."
I tick all 4 of those, what do I win? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I prefer hotel meets anyway.
me too, I don't like going to peoples homes, I feel more relaxed in a hotel as I can walk around and do as I please, where as you cant make yourself at home in someone elses house"
Yep, and if its a decent hotel you get breakfast cooked for you too.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do we always assume those thar can't accommodate ate hiding something or are married
I am hiding something...my address  "
Ha! I know where you live.... Does this mean I can pop in?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it's only a select few who get to step over my threshold
As others have said it's a combination of things, mainly because I have children, and I state that on my profile, if people read that far |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do we always assume those thar can't accommodate ate hiding something or are married
I assume someone is attached if I see a number of things.
a) cannot accommodate
b) asks for absolute discretion
c) only meets midweek
d) only meets daytimes
If I see a combination of 2 or 3 of these I assume they are attached. Rightly or wrongly that is my filtering process."
Your process is flawed because
A) as others have posted, I also rent out part of my house for some of the year and I wouldnt feel comfortable playing with them there.
2) I always ask for discretion as I don't want the world and their dog knowing what I get up to, which is why I'm always discreet if I visit someone else
3) I work about 75% weekends, entertaining you 9-5ers
4) I also work a lot of weekday nights, entertaining you 9-5ers- so week daytimes are when I have most freetime.
5) I once met a certified by doctors crazy woman while swinging who got way too attached- if she knew where I lived I'd never have got rid of her |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Why do we always assume those thar can't accommodate ate hiding something or are married
I assume someone is attached if I see a number of things.
a) cannot accommodate
b) asks for absolute discretion
c) only meets midweek
d) only meets daytimes
If I see a combination of 2 or 3 of these I assume they are attached. Rightly or wrongly that is my filtering process.
Your process is flawed because
A) as others have posted, I also rent out part of my house for some of the year and I wouldnt feel comfortable playing with them there.
2) I always ask for discretion as I don't want the world and their dog knowing what I get up to, which is why I'm always discreet if I visit someone else
3) I work about 75% weekends, entertaining you 9-5ers
4) I also work a lot of weekday nights, entertaining you 9-5ers- so week daytimes are when I have most freetime.
5) I once met a certified by doctors crazy woman while swinging who got way too attached- if she knew where I lived I'd never have got rid of her"
And I did say 'rightly or wrongly'. It's what I do and I find it suits me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its not always cant.....but simply wont..."
I could if I wanted to, there are times when my house is empty, when the kids are at school, uni, work etc but I simply choose not to, but I never ask anyone to accommodate me, i'm more than happy to share a hotel or meet in a club so I feel i'm within my rights not to accommodate them
What I hate are people who cant accommodate but expect other to accommodate them, I would never expect from others what I cant offer myself |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why do we always assume those thar can't accommodate ate hiding something or are married
Speaking for me are you? Strange as I don't know you from Adam!  "
No I was not speaking for you or anyone else |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Its not always cant.....but simply wont...
I could if I wanted to, there are times when my house is empty, when the kids are at school, uni, work etc but I simply choose not to, but I never ask anyone to accommodate me, i'm more than happy to share a hotel or meet in a club so I feel i'm within my rights not to accommodate them
What I hate are people who cant accommodate but expect other to accommodate them, I would never expect from others what I cant offer myself "
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I don't meet men that can't accommodate after one meet told me he'd never meet swingers in his house, it's not a knocking shop. He was in my bed at the time. Told him to get up and get the fuck out of my house.
I don't give a shit what the reason is really, I can't go to yours...you're not coming to mine! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People make assumptions about lots of things.
Enjoys giving lots of oral - isn't very good at penetrative sex
Has no male pics on profile - male is ugly
All of these assumptions are daft but you won't stop people coming to conclusions.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can, and do accommodate, but i don't just assume the worst if i see someone can't! Theres a multitude of reasons for not being able to. Kids being the classic one as i'm looking for a female, lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Two reasons we don't accom -
1. Kids
2. Psychos
We also feel that hotel meets far more relaxing and enjoyable as you are away from the pressures of home.
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