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Men not giving oral sex: Dealbreaker?
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Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨
So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?
For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? |
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Fucking love licking clit. Fuck him off 🤣 |
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Yes it is a dealbreaker for me.
Also, I'd never offer a man a blowjob until he'd been down on me. |
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Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess |
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Dealbreaker. Selfish men are not for me. |
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I love giving oral. Conversely I'm not that fussed about getting a BJ  |
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By *rT25Man 4 weeks ago
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I can't get enough of going down on a woman. Surprised some people don't like doing it?🤔 |
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N will clarify, I am a giver and thus have evolved gills so as not to come up for air lol  |
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"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess "
I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?". |
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It wouldn’t be a deal breaker unless it was for selfish reasons.
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"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess
I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?"."
The wet feeling on my face turns me on |
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I always thought it was a urban myth about Men not going down on Women, "I Do it sometimes" or "I'd rather do something else" but I'm still yet to hear any Man say he won't do it, |
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"Yes it is a dealbreaker for me.
Also, I'd never offer a man a blowjob until he'd been down on me. "
A man has gotta earn his turn in my opinion. I tend to find myselfe naturally giving oral first anyway, purely because it’s what I love to do |
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I'm here to see the poor excuses haha
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"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess
I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?"."
Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance? |
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It's not a deal breaker for me as long as they are not being selfish. |
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"I love giving oral. Conversely I'm not that fussed about getting a BJ "
haha I'm the same. Think that's rare |
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I love going down on a woman, it's such a turn on. I can't imagine not being interested in this.... |
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"Yes it is a dealbreaker for me.
Also, I'd never offer a man a blowjob until he'd been down on me.
A man has gotta earn his turn in my opinion. I tend to find myselfe naturally giving oral first anyway, purely because it’s what I love to do "
Earn your turn is exactly right. Me first then maybe you. |
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"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨
So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?
For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? "
I know guys who consider cunnilingus as "disgusting".
Myself I do perform it, because it's a bit rude to demand & not be willing to return the favour. When younger I didn't do it, but began in middle age.
Having realised that this is what gets a woman absolutely dripping wet, and willing to take almost anything afterwards. It's actually an Aphrodisiac, to get from hot kissing to her egging me on to penetrate her.
Gentleman take your positions. |
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It depends on why.
If he simply doesn’t enjoy it then that’s fine. I’d never expect someone to do something they’re not into… more than that I need them to WANT to do it.
If it’s out of laziness, selfishness or some weird fragile masculinity…. Then yeah that’s a dealbreaker. Then again I’d not be meeting that sort of fella in the first place.
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Whilst I'm really indifferent to it myself it would be interesting to know why they didn't like it.
If it was a yuk factor that would be a deal breaker for sure. |
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I much prefer to have my face between a women’s legs than have my cock in her mouth. Much more of a turn on and satisfying feeling her getting wet and hopefully cuming on my tongue and face |
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Sounds like my ideal man, seriously |
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Depends. I'm not a fan of receiving oral and will happily give.
If the lack of giving is because I've told him and he's understood, it's fine (even preferable). Straight up entitlement, even if it results in the same sexual activity, is a hard no |
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Depends on the reason. I'd be disappointed but I know someone for who it was a sensory issue, and I think that I could work with that as long as they were still willing to do other things to please me/arouse me/make me cum too. If it was a case of them just wanting their dick sucked, fuck me til they cum and then done I'd be telling him to do one. |
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No guy is going to admit to not liking giving oral on the forums 😜 The forums is awash with guys who can breathe through their ears 😋
It wouldn’t be a deal breaker if someone doesn’t give oral but kind of stops the natural flow. Much prefer when you don’t have to remember do’s and dont’s when playing!
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Unacceptable behaviour show him the door |
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I thought it was a given that foreplay always included going down on a woman.. if you're not going down then you ain't getting anything else.. |
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I'd rather have a guy not go down on me than do it reluctantly because he feels he has to. It feels entirely different when someone who is into it is doing it and I only enjoy it if they want to do it and and enjoy it. |
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Also, ladies seem to like a kiss when you've been down on them |
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"Because I’m Jamaican. "
Don't use that as an excuse to not give your partner oral pleasure. |
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"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨
So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?
For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? "
Once played with a lady at a party that didn’t care for it at all, I had a great time with her but it was a bit of letdown not getting to pleasure her pussy orally. Pretty much a rare occurrence and I’ve never been stopped from licking a pussy at any other time. You’ve never seen it all have you ? |
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Nope I don't like receiving so it's absolutely fine by me
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"It depends on why.
If he simply doesn’t enjoy it then that’s fine. I’d never expect someone to do something they’re not into… more than that I need them to WANT to do it.
If it’s out of laziness, selfishness or some weird fragile masculinity…. Then yeah that’s a dealbreaker. Then again I’d not be meeting that sort of fella in the first place.
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Thing is do women enjoy giving blow jobs? All the ones I know who do it, do it for the guy. None actually enjoy doing it. I'm sure on fab some women will enjoy it. But the rest of you, do you enjoy doing it? |
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"I thought it was a given that foreplay always included going down on a woman.. if you're not going down then you ain't getting anything else.. "
Men do assume that. We've noted on our profile that I don't like it for that reason |
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"Because I’m Jamaican. "
So if she didn’t do it willingly, did Jamaica? |
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"It depends on why.
If he simply doesn’t enjoy it then that’s fine. I’d never expect someone to do something they’re not into… more than that I need them to WANT to do it.
If it’s out of laziness, selfishness or some weird fragile masculinity…. Then yeah that’s a dealbreaker. Then again I’d not be meeting that sort of fella in the first place.
Thing is do women enjoy giving blow jobs? All the ones I know who do it, do it for the guy. None actually enjoy doing it. I'm sure on fab some women will enjoy it. But the rest of you, do you enjoy doing it?"
I do (to a point - I get jaw cramps, and also I have sensory sensitivity about the texture of cum, so not in my mouth).
You can feel up close what you're doing to someone (hardening, twitches), drive them even wilder. It's intimate and vulnerable in all the right ways |
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I enjoy giving blowjobs very much, I've never done it because I feel I have to. If I don't want to do something I won't do it. It is usually me who instigates it. |
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"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess
I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".
Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance? "
I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.
I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me. |
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I think this works both ways.
I once (many years ago) had a partner who wouldn't let me go down on her, not even once. She never explained why but for me it was a deal breaker. |
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"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess
I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".
Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?
I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.
I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me."
The lack of communication and reciprocity would be a problem for me. |
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"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess
I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".
Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?
I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.
I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me."
I know the feeling... Mine used to... And loved it... Hasn't done for about 5 years now. Makes you feel shit doesnt it? |
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"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess
I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".
Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?
I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.
I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me."
He doesn't like doing it is my guess. You probably need to stop asking |
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"Yes it is a dealbreaker for me.
Also, I'd never offer a man a blowjob until he'd been down on me.
A man has gotta earn his turn in my opinion. I tend to find myselfe naturally giving oral first anyway, purely because it’s what I love to do
Earn your turn is exactly right. Me first then maybe you. "
Always been happy with that scenario. Plus the more turned on the woman is through good oral, surely that leads to more effort and a better bj back too? Win win |
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^^ because people's actions speak louder than their words |
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"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess
I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".
Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?
I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.
I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me."
Having checked out your profile, I'd do it for you 
DM me |
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By *end1Man 4 weeks ago
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If a man doesn't eat pussy he's no man! |
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"I'd rather have a guy not go down on me than do it reluctantly because he feels he has to. It feels entirely different when someone who is into it is doing it and I only enjoy it if they want to do it and and enjoy it. "
I know what you mean. I want him to want to do it. I can't and don't want to force it. Would just put my mind at rest knowing why he doesn't want to.
Right now it feels like I'm the problem. |
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"If a man doesn't eat pussy he's no man!"
That is a ridiculous statement |
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"If a man doesn't eat pussy he's no man!
That is a ridiculous statement "
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Depends on the dynamic. I certainly wouldn't want to go without! |
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"I'd rather have a guy not go down on me than do it reluctantly because he feels he has to. It feels entirely different when someone who is into it is doing it and I only enjoy it if they want to do it and and enjoy it.
I know what you mean. I want him to want to do it. I can't and don't want to force it. Would just put my mind at rest knowing why he doesn't want to.
Right now it feels like I'm the problem. "
Its difficult when they haven't given you a reason and you feel like it's something about you ❤️ sounds like it's probably just something he doesn't enjoy doing and you'll have to accept it or if it's something you can't get past and it is causing you heartache think about whether to carry on |
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Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on. |
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"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess
I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".
Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?
I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.
I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me.
He doesn't like doing it is my guess. You probably need to stop asking "
It's been well over a year since I last asked him about it. If he simply doesn't like it he should say instead of avoiding the question and making me feel like there's something wrong with me. |
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"If a man doesn't eat pussy he's no man!
That is a ridiculous statement
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Each to their own, but personally I’d be disappointed if I didn’t get to give a good amount of oral to a lady I was playing with, since I absolutely love to do so 🤷🏻♂️ |
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"Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on."
My ex said he didn't like it because his face would be near to where I pee. I said let me tell you about a man's penis... because he sure expected his regular blowjobs.  |
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"Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on.
My ex said he didn't like it because his face would be near to where I pee. I said let me tell you about a man's penis... because he sure expected his regular blowjobs. "
Did you draw him a diagram?! |
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I always find it a bit weird and unfair if one partner receives oral but the other one says they’re not going to because they find it gross. So it’s not gross to get head but it’s gross to give it?
I’ve also noticed it being a bit of a cultural thing. My Jamaican friends tell me if someone back home finds out they’ve been licking pussy, they get laughed at and insulted. |
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By *.hrisMan 4 weeks ago
Nearby |
I bloody love receiving a blow job 🤩
But I think I'm starting to enjoy going down on a women even more at the moment 😈 |
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"Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on.
My ex said he didn't like it because his face would be near to where I pee. I said let me tell you about a man's penis... because he sure expected his regular blowjobs.
Did you draw him a diagram?!"
I think my withering look when he said it was diagram enough. He is an ex for a reason! |
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"Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on.
My ex said he didn't like it because his face would be near to where I pee. I said let me tell you about a man's penis... because he sure expected his regular blowjobs. "
What??  |
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"Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on.
My ex said he didn't like it because his face would be near to where I pee. I said let me tell you about a man's penis... because he sure expected his regular blowjobs. "
He probably wouldn't have been keen on me doing 69 with my last woman, as my nose was right up rubbing her bum hole
I still got a stiffy |
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"Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on.
My ex said he didn't like it because his face would be near to where I pee. I said let me tell you about a man's penis... because he sure expected his regular blowjobs. "
🤣🤣🤣
If this turns out to be his reason he's definitely getting put in the bin! 🤣 |
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It's almost like Christmas, it's better to give than receive. Love going down on a women. Those chups don't know what they are missing. |
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We've never understood why not, defo best way of making a ladies legs shake like a shitting dog 😂 |
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By *ucka39Man 4 weeks ago
Newcastle |
Nothing a 69 can't fix and if you're not happy bite it 🤣 |
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"Yeah, it kind of is a dealbreaker. If they don't like doing it because they find a woman's vulva unpleasant then we're not compatible and I'd rather his penis didn't visit either. If they don't like doing it because they find it boring, then I'd rather find someone who does get turned on by turning me on.
My ex said he didn't like it because his face would be near to where I pee. I said let me tell you about a man's penis... because he sure expected his regular blowjobs.
Did you draw him a diagram?!
I think my withering look when he said it was diagram enough. He is an ex for a reason! "
Well rid |
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"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess
I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".
Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?
I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.
I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me.
He doesn't like doing it is my guess. You probably need to stop asking
It's been well over a year since I last asked him about it. If he simply doesn't like it he should say instead of avoiding the question and making me feel like there's something wrong with me. "
You're assuming it's because there's something wrong with you.
If he said he just doesn't like it would you then need to know why or would you be happy with that? |
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I always give oral.and love doing so |
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"Because I’m Jamaican.
Don't use that as an excuse to not give your partner oral pleasure. "
I ain’t no bowcat  |
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I don't see sex as a tit for tat activity, so in an ongoing sexual relationship, I wouldn't expect us both to receive oral every time.
I wouldn't want to get into a regular thing with a man who didn't want to go down there ever |
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"Because I’m Jamaican.
So if she didn’t do it willingly, did Jamaica? "
Also I could leave a bj happily. Very few are actually good at it. |
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"I always find it a bit weird and unfair if one partner receives oral but the other one says they’re not going to because they find it gross. So it’s not gross to get head but it’s gross to give it?
I’ve also noticed it being a bit of a cultural thing. My Jamaican friends tell me if someone back home finds out they’ve been licking pussy, they get laughed at and insulted."
Agreed! Bring up any anal activity though, Oral sex then becomes the lesser issue. Pmsl.
Sexual activity should be fair or at least discussed and agreed. If one side thinks its dirty etc then they shouldn't be expecting either. |
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OP just out of interest, have you ever received oral, I mean apart from your current partner? |
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"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess
I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".
Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?
I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.
I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me.
He doesn't like doing it is my guess. You probably need to stop asking
It's been well over a year since I last asked him about it. If he simply doesn't like it he should say instead of avoiding the question and making me feel like there's something wrong with me. "
I do think he should be honest and upfront about why he won’t. I actually don’t like receiving oral and there is reasons. I wouldn’t put them on a forum but I do make anyone I’m planning on having fun with aware and tell them why. |
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"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess
I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".
Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?
I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.
I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me.
He doesn't like doing it is my guess. You probably need to stop asking
It's been well over a year since I last asked him about it. If he simply doesn't like it he should say instead of avoiding the question and making me feel like there's something wrong with me.
You're assuming it's because there's something wrong with you.
If he said he just doesn't like it would you then need to know why or would you be happy with that? "
Maybe if he'd said that in the beginning I'd have accepted it and dropped it. |
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"Tbh I prefer to give than receive so it wouldn’t bother me too much. But if it was something I loved then fairs fair I guess
I've always been more of a giver too. But at a point now where it's like "ok, why haven't you?".
Have you asked? Maybe he's not confident and needs some guidance?
I've asked him many times in different ways. Never had a straight answer. He's never said he just doesn't like doing it. That would be fine. We all have our likes and dislikes.
I've even been vulnerable letting him know how it makes me feel. Like there must be something about me he finds repulsive. He's said I'm being silly and that's a ridiculous idea to have about myself. But still doesn't say why he doesn't seem to want to do that for me.
He doesn't like doing it is my guess. You probably need to stop asking
It's been well over a year since I last asked him about it. If he simply doesn't like it he should say instead of avoiding the question and making me feel like there's something wrong with me.
You're assuming it's because there's something wrong with you.
If he said he just doesn't like it would you then need to know why or would you be happy with that?
Maybe if he'd said that in the beginning I'd have accepted it and dropped it. "
Well I hope you sort it out it's clearly bothering you. |
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"I always find it a bit weird and unfair if one partner receives oral but the other one says they’re not going to because they find it gross. So it’s not gross to get head but it’s gross to give it?
I’ve also noticed it being a bit of a cultural thing. My Jamaican friends tell me if someone back home finds out they’ve been licking pussy, they get laughed at and insulted."
My friends called me a bowcat for ages when they found out I go down on women. |
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"OP just out of interest, have you ever received oral, I mean apart from your current partner?"
Of course I have. |
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"So, question for the men who ••don't•• give oral: Why don't you?"
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Is a question that still hasn't been answered on this thread other than by men who are exclaiming, contrariwise, that they love giving it. 🤷🏻 ...and then sugar coating it with men bashing remarks. |
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"So, question for the men who ••don't•• give oral: Why don't you?
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Is a question that still hasn't been answered on this thread other than by men who are exclaiming, contrariwise, that they love giving it. 🤷🏻 ...and then sugar coating it with men bashing remarks."
Someone quite rightly said it's doubtful any man who doesn't will openly admit it on a forum 🤷🏻♀️ |
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"So, question for the men who ••don't•• give oral: Why don't you?
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Is a question that still hasn't been answered on this thread other than by men who are exclaiming, contrariwise, that they love giving it. 🤷🏻 ...and then sugar coating it with men bashing remarks."
My guess Nero is that it's one of three reasons.
1. They don't like it.
2. The particular woman they're with has something that stops them doing it.
3. They are unsure of how to go about it so choose not to.
But as you say nobody has said outright so we will like the op, have to guess |
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Love licking pussy and don’t like coming up for air |
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"So, question for the men who ••don't•• give oral: Why don't you?
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Is a question that still hasn't been answered on this thread other than by men who are exclaiming, contrariwise, that they love giving it. 🤷🏻 ...and then sugar coating it with men bashing remarks.
Someone quite rightly said it's doubtful any man who doesn't will openly admit it on a forum 🤷🏻♀️"
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Totally with you. Very happy giving, not that many good bjs.
That said bunny is phenomenal and I do love it. But would hate to be without giving oral |
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Mr here I actually prefer giving oral more than anything else if I could only do one sexual act for the rest of my life it would be giving her oral |
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"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨
So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?
For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker?
I know guys who consider cunnilingus as "disgusting".
Myself I do perform it, because it's a bit rude to demand & not be willing to return the favour. When younger I didn't do it, but began in middle age.
Having realised that this is what gets a woman absolutely dripping wet, and willing to take almost anything afterwards. It's actually an Aphrodisiac, to get from hot kissing to her egging me on to penetrate her.
Gentleman take your positions."
I know women who think the same about bjs. |
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"So, question for the men who ••don't•• give oral: Why don't you?
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Is a question that still hasn't been answered on this thread other than by men who are exclaiming, contrariwise, that they love giving it. 🤷🏻 ...and then sugar coating it with men bashing remarks.
Someone quite rightly said it's doubtful any man who doesn't will openly admit it on a forum 🤷🏻♀️"
I wouldn't say that I love doing it admittedly, but I do it to get her going. That turns me on, when she's turned on. I don't enjoy per se, it's a means to an end |
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I will eat a nice pussy and suck a clean cock without a shadow of doubt 🤪 |
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"Dealbreaker. Selfish men are not for me."
This. A selfish lover of any gender is not acceptable. |
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If I never received oral again for the rest of my life I wouldn't care but I won't put up with selfishness |
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I love going down on a woman. my favourite thing to do |
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Ricky loves licking,sucking pussy.... |
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I love going down on a pussy so much I have learnt to breath through my ears |
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I like doing it on most women
If she likes it then I will always do it - I like to give |
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Double standards! I wouldn't have that if I were you. If he don't eat pussy then he can't expect a blowjob.
Although that's easy for me to say because I love going down |
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By *ripfillMan 4 weeks ago
Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant |
"Yes it is a dealbreaker for me.
Also, I'd never offer a man a blowjob until he'd been down on me. "
Quite right too … absolutely, love giving oral it’s so satisfying and having that connection is so powerful but being able to ‘orally‘ give is delicious |
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It would be extremely rude not to give a lady oral sex before receiving a Bj surely |
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Don't mind me, I'm just here to read the pandering comments, and the extreme comments void of context consideration. |
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Love licking pussy |
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"It depends on why.
If he simply doesn’t enjoy it then that’s fine. I’d never expect someone to do something they’re not into… more than that I need them to WANT to do it.
If it’s out of laziness, selfishness or some weird fragile masculinity…. Then yeah that’s a dealbreaker. Then again I’d not be meeting that sort of fella in the first place.
Thing is do women enjoy giving blow jobs? All the ones I know who do it, do it for the guy. None actually enjoy doing it. I'm sure on fab some women will enjoy it. But the rest of you, do you enjoy doing it?"
Fucking love it I do! |
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By *osseffMan 4 weeks ago
All over devon, I love a road trip! |
My aim is that they're to exhausted from my efforts to return the favour |
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"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨
So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?
For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? "
Is this still a thing in 2025?  |
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"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨
So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?
For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? "
Seriously that’s the best part for me love good eating 👅👅👅💦💦💦💦💦 |
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Seriously love giving woman oral  |
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Love giving oral.
Heaven is 69WASS |
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I prefer to give oral than receive, although i definitely won't refuse it either. |
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I’ve never had this happen but as I chat for bloody ages before I meet someone I’m sure it would come up in conversation at some stage so unlikely to happen. |
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It's not a deal breaker,but I've decided to not be a convenient cock sucker for men who "Only do it to women they trust/know/in a relationship with" but expect me to give them oral.
It's my preference. |
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Much prefer to give than receive 😉 |
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Personally I love giving, and have had mixed experiences in receiving (some good, some not so). I enjoy giving as part of foreplay but wouldn’t expect reciprocation at all.
My question is, for the lady’s that don’t enjoy it, What is it about it that’s not for you? |
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Personally I love swirling my tongue through a woman and it's all part of the foreplay, culminating in face riding. I maintain it's the best way to warm up, for both partners that is. I haven't met a woman who doesn't enjoy it yet, and it equally arouses me too. So on that basis everyone is a winner! |
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"Personally I love giving, and have had mixed experiences in receiving (some good, some not so). I enjoy giving as part of foreplay but wouldn’t expect reciprocation at all.
My question is, for the lady’s that don’t enjoy it, What is it about it that’s not for you? "
I always find that a bit of a strange question. I just don't like the sensation that much. |
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This "no cunnilingus" mindset is alien to me.
I'm like a bulldog eating hot chips given half a chance. |
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Receiving oral is nice but has yet to make me cross that finish line so I'm not fussed to be honest.
I'm more interested in both of us being comfortable and happy, not forcing people to do things, just cos I did, or I like it. Pleasure has to be for both, or what's the point |
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"Personally I love giving, and have had mixed experiences in receiving (some good, some not so). I enjoy giving as part of foreplay but wouldn’t expect reciprocation at all.
My question is, for the lady’s that don’t enjoy it, What is it about it that’s not for you?
I always find that a bit of a strange question. I just don't like the sensation that much. "
Just curiosity! But obviously I’m not familiar with the sensation at all so it’s more intrigue than anything. 100% understandable! |
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I love giving oral but it's gotta look appetising. The same must apply to anyone give a BJ |
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"Receiving oral is nice but has yet to make me cross that finish line so I'm not fussed to be honest.
I'm more interested in both of us being comfortable and happy, not forcing people to do things, just cos I did, or I like it. Pleasure has to be for both, or what's the point "
Agreed. But what's making me uncomfortable is not knowing why he doesn't want to with me when I know he's done it with others. Even after asking, I never get a straight answer. |
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"Receiving oral is nice but has yet to make me cross that finish line so I'm not fussed to be honest.
I'm more interested in both of us being comfortable and happy, not forcing people to do things, just cos I did, or I like it. Pleasure has to be for both, or what's the point
Agreed. But what's making me uncomfortable is not knowing why he doesn't want to with me when I know he's done it with others. Even after asking, I never get a straight answer. "
Maybe it's because he doesn't like your smell. I love giving oral to women but there are some I won't because their smell isn't to my liking but I know other men will dive in there. I don't tell these women why I'm not going down on them, they just assume it's something I don't like. |
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"Dealbreaker. Selfish men are not for me."
💯💯 love being eaten out.... |
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"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨
So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?
For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? "
Maybe give it a quick rince before you meet him the next time🤣 |
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Yes it's a deal-breaker, unfortunately I've had a couple of meets on my previous profile where the guys don't like giving oral. One guy gave 2 licks then he was done. I'd rather not have oral than receive bad oral. At least be open and tell me at the social meet oral is a no go for him, then I wouldn't go any further. Fortunately for me I have a fwb now that loves it |
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"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨
So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?
For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker?
Maybe give it a quick rince before you meet him the next time🤣"
Pleasant 🙄 |
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I don't provide oral and dont expect to receive it. Of the things that would make a guy unattractive I think an unwillingness to provide oral sex is right at the bottom of that list. Facial appearance? Body? Confidence? Would you rather meet an ugly guy who gives head or a handsome one who doesn't? Wouls you rather meet an obese guy who loves licking pussy or an athletic guy who doesn't?
Straighten out your priorities, and you'll have more fun swinging. |
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By *hongmanMan 4 weeks ago
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For me it's the best thing giving women oral.i love the taste the smell everything about it. In fact it turns me on turning the women on. It's not about me at all it's all about the women. |
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You could have stopped at expecting, instant turn off.
If I want to give someone oral then it isn't about what I will get in return |
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By *ags73Man 4 weeks ago
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"Yes it is a dealbreaker for me.
Also, I'd never offer a man a blowjob until he'd been down on me.
A man has gotta earn his turn in my opinion. I tend to find myselfe naturally giving oral first anyway, purely because it’s what I love to do
Earn your turn is exactly right. Me first then maybe you. "
Jeez, I didn't realise sex was a competition between two people to see who gets their way first. Here I thought we were both there because we found each other hot enough to have sex with 🤨 |
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By *ags73Man 4 weeks ago
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Was just saying that if you expect to get it you gotta give it.
Personally love having a lick and finger at a pussy but can’t quite understand where the man the OPs mentioned is coming from. |
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"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨
So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?
For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? "
nope.. I'm happy to just give.. in fact in most play situations I prefer it with guys |
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By *ony MannMan 4 weeks ago
Lagos, Portugal/ Ilfracombe Devon/ Andover |
I nearly always give oral first, no taste of condom and |
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By *ags73Man 4 weeks ago
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"I nearly always give oral first, no taste of condom and "
Actually that’s a point and I’ve unknowingly done that |
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i couldn't imagine not going down |
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"😂"
Allow the people. They’re horny. |
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Not a deal breaker, but I would expect it of a guy. |
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"Not a deal breaker, but I would expect it of a guy."
I might be in the minority… but I love giving oral to a lady x |
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As the good book says, it is always better to give than to receive.
Either that or I read it on a bog door.
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I love it also, i would happily do it with nothing in return, lick an go service available, |
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I don’t because it’s long been reported that oral sex is the leading cause of mouth and throat cancers and I don’t want to get anything like that. ……Ahh no wait, I don’t care
I certainly don’t give to receive though, I’m with the contingent that can take a bj or leave it, I can count the amount of great ones I’ve had in my life on one hand probably.
Can the ladies that don’t care for receiving explain to me why though (I realise everyone’s reasons may be different) but understanding more about a certain subject might ultimately help make me even better at it. I can’t breath through my ears though, nobody can |
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What's good for the goose is good for the gander |
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Wife doesn't like it so I don't do it but my ex loved it and I love doing it |
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Love eating pussy
Must be clean! That puts guys off
My cock is always clean! Like a peach |
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Yes I give oral first it's all about the woman at the time.and if she didn't give me oral back so be it not the end of the world |
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I always like to discuss what like or not in advance of a meet. I find end results so much better. I like going down and receiving |
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I’ve not had any meets in a loooooooong while now, but ai am thinking if I do have ones in future, I won’t be giving BJs. I just can’t be arsed 😂😂😂😂😂 |
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"I’ve not had any meets in a loooooooong while now, but ai am thinking if I do have ones in future, I won’t be giving BJs. I just can’t be arsed 😂😂😂😂😂"
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My darling, "BJs" involve the phallus, not the anus. This is where we went wrong last time. 💙 |
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If a guy is not willing to put his face on my bottom lips then I’m not interested |
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I can't imagine having sex without plenty of oral action first. |
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"I don’t because it’s long been reported that oral sex is the leading cause of mouth and throat cancers and I don’t want to get anything like that. ……Ahh no wait, I don’t care
I certainly don’t give to receive though, I’m with the contingent that can take a bj or leave it, I can count the amount of great ones I’ve had in my life on one hand probably.
Can the ladies that don’t care for receiving explain to me why though (I realise everyone’s reasons may be different) but understanding more about a certain subject might ultimately help make me even better at it. I can’t breath through my ears though, nobody can "
Not sure how explaining why someone doesn't like something will make you better at it but I just don't like the sensation much. Its not that I actually hate it but there are things I'd much rather do and get more pleasure from.
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I've always found this topic really fucking weird tbh.
If a man doesn't want to give oral sex, that seems fine? If a woman wants to receive oral sex, that also seems fine? You're just not sexually compatible. |
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"I've always found this topic really fucking weird tbh.
If a man doesn't want to give oral sex, that seems fine? If a woman wants to receive oral sex, that also seems fine? You're just not sexually compatible."
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By *ornycougaWoman 4 weeks ago
MADERIA Wherever I lay my hat |
I don't give to receive. I just bloody love oral sex - both ways (and am scrupulous about my personal hygiene because of this). So yes it is a deal breaker. I have turned down a guy for a second meet solely on the basis that he didn't go down on me first time around. |
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I don't know when I last read so many tone deaf replies.
OP, if it's been a year and he's avoiding the question still then I would say there's a communication problem. I found it difficult and mortifying to talk honestly about sex for the longest time. The weird thing is, the more you talk openly it becomes so much easier.
Is it possible that at the start you maybe had thrush or BV and that put him off without him or you realising why? If the relationship means enough to you then you need to sort things out. If I were in your position, it would not be the lack of oral but the lack of honesty that's the deal breaker. |
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By *usie pTV/TS 4 weeks ago
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Yes that about sums it up, this guy may get to regret his reluctance when this lady has to go and find what she desires. |
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By *ickawitchCouple 4 weeks ago
Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you) |
"Won't go down on you but expects you to give him blowjobs as standard 🤨
So, question for the men who don't give oral: Why don't you?
For my fellow ladies: Is not getting oral a dealbreaker? "
It should definitely be a deal breaker. Any man who expects oral but isn’t man enough to give it isn’t a real man . He needs to grow the fuck up and be a man . |
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Is this a thing?
Getting to taste pussy is pretty much a must for me |
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"I don't know when I last read so many tone deaf replies.
OP, if it's been a year and he's avoiding the question still then I would say there's a communication problem. I found it difficult and mortifying to talk honestly about sex for the longest time. The weird thing is, the more you talk openly it becomes so much easier.
Is it possible that at the start you maybe had thrush or BV and that put him off without him or you realising why? If the relationship means enough to you then you need to sort things out. If I were in your position, it would not be the lack of oral but the lack of honesty that's the deal breaker. "
Can happily and confidently confirm I've never had thrush, BV or any kind of health problem while I've been seeing this guy. So I know it's nothing to do with that.
It's definitely communication that's the problem. If it's something he didn't like doing I don't know why he couldn't get say that in the beginning. That fact that he's danced around the question giving me false hope (maybe one day babe) makes me think it's another issue. |
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"I don't know when I last read so many tone deaf replies.
OP, if it's been a year and he's avoiding the question still then I would say there's a communication problem. I found it difficult and mortifying to talk honestly about sex for the longest time. The weird thing is, the more you talk openly it becomes so much easier.
Is it possible that at the start you maybe had thrush or BV and that put him off without him or you realising why? If the relationship means enough to you then you need to sort things out. If I were in your position, it would not be the lack of oral but the lack of honesty that's the deal breaker.
Can happily and confidently confirm I've never had thrush, BV or any kind of health problem while I've been seeing this guy. So I know it's nothing to do with that.
It's definitely communication that's the problem. If it's something he didn't like doing I don't know why he couldn't get say that in the beginning. That fact that he's danced around the question giving me false hope (maybe one day babe) makes me think it's another issue."
OP, whatever the reason it doesn't seem likely to change, or if he did give you oral it doesn't sound like it would be with much enthusiasm. I think you should make your relationship decisions on that basis rather than posing a question that may never be honesty answered. 🤷♂️ |
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What will you do op?
Quite often men are advised to dump their partner if they aren't getting the sex they want. Is it a deal breaker for you or is the lack of an answer the straw that's breaking he camels back? Is he reluctant to communicate on any topic or just this one, is this a symptom of a bigger issue? |
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"I don't know when I last read so many tone deaf replies.
OP, if it's been a year and he's avoiding the question still then I would say there's a communication problem. I found it difficult and mortifying to talk honestly about sex for the longest time. The weird thing is, the more you talk openly it becomes so much easier.
Is it possible that at the start you maybe had thrush or BV and that put him off without him or you realising why? If the relationship means enough to you then you need to sort things out. If I were in your position, it would not be the lack of oral but the lack of honesty that's the deal breaker.
Can happily and confidently confirm I've never had thrush, BV or any kind of health problem while I've been seeing this guy. So I know it's nothing to do with that.
It's definitely communication that's the problem. If it's something he didn't like doing I don't know why he couldn't get say that in the beginning. That fact that he's danced around the question giving me false hope (maybe one day babe) makes me think it's another issue.
OP, whatever the reason it doesn't seem likely to change, or if he did give you oral it doesn't sound like it would be with much enthusiasm. I think you should make your relationship decisions on that basis rather than posing a question that may never be honesty answered. 🤷♂️"
I haven't been bothered by it in such a long time. It just happened to come up in conversation, I was expecting a different answer this time, and I've been triggered. Hate that damn word, but it is what it is 🤷🏻♀️
Putting a question to a forum of strangers without them knowing the full background this guys and my relationship was clearly a bad idea. |
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I enjoy giveing oral more than anything else in the world. |
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"What will you do op?
Quite often men are advised to dump their partner if they aren't getting the sex they want. Is it a deal breaker for you or is the lack of an answer the straw that's breaking he camels back? Is he reluctant to communicate on any topic or just this one, is this a symptom of a bigger issue? "
There's lots of things he doesn't want to talk about. This oral issue is just today's problem. The sex is too good and there are other things stopping me from walking away from him. |
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Licking pussy is a good way to make ladies smile |
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". Can happily and confidently confirm I've never had thrush, BV or any kind of health problem while I've been seeing this guy. So I know it's nothing to do with that.
It's definitely communication that's the problem. If it's something he didn't like doing I don't know why he couldn't get say that in the beginning. That fact that he's danced around the question giving me false hope (maybe one day babe) makes me think it's another issue."
I don't know exactly what your relationship is. If he's a FB/FWB and there's no expectation of exclusivity then if the rest of the sex was spectacular I would personally be ok with that. I could find other partners who do enjoy oral.
I wouldn't be able to cope if I was romantically involved. I need honest answers (even if I might not like them). I can totally understand why this has left you feeling insecure.
Feel free to DM if you want as this thread will fill soon. I'll wink you so you can message as my filters are on. |
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If you want to receive oral sex then find a partner who is into it. There's probably not anything wrong with you (there probably isn't anything "wrong").
If you want the relationship more then make peace with it.
If you can't just accept no for an answer, however non-committal, then that does seem like a you problem. |
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I love giving oral and consider it important to demonstrate I want to give my lady pleasure. It’s also like an aphrodisiac to me in that feeling her responses to my tongue turn me on. The best feelings come when she’s holding your head in position yet appears to be twisting her legs sideways to get it to stop. Kissing afterwards is a big turn on, as is immediate penetration. That’s a hot night. |
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