Is it best to ask what someones likes or dislikes are before a meet? I was invited for a lovely threesome and during i was told that there was no kissing. Fine but i think its best to know before so as not to be told off ( lol) Also does one need to ask about other things during or just go with the flow and wait to see if she or he like it? |
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A bit if both. I don’t want to have to detail how or why I like each part of my body being touched, sex is different with each partner so I think some things should flow and allow you to work out each others bodies as you go. What I like with one person I’m not guaranteed to like with the next. However, if something is a hard no then definitely bring it up beforehand as that’s not likely to change. If someone doesn’t like kissing then we’re not compatible. I’m a smoocher. I couldn’t have sex without kissing but if someone really doesn’t like it once of us is going to have to make a sacrifice which does not sound like good sex for either of us |
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"Some smaller things are fine to find out during, that's part of exploring each other.
Bigger things and boundaries (which I'd class kissing as) I would deffo want to know beforehand."
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I think this pretty much sums it up.
Kissing, for me, is a given and intrinsic, and I would expect it instinctively unless told otherwise well in advance. (Although, personally, I would cancel any date if kissing was off the cards) |
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I'd like to know all of their dislikes and few of of the things they particularly enjoy. I want there to be a natural flow to the meet rather than have it feeling like a box-ticking exercise for each other's likes. |
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Boundries and dislikes are always discussed beforehand for me. Nuances can be discussed during and explored together. But something like a no kissing rule I would be unhappy at not being told about prior as it would probably put me off meeting. Kissing is a big turn on for me. |
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"A bit if both. I don’t want to have to detail how or why I like each part of my body being touched, sex is different with each partner so I think some things should flow and allow you to work out each others bodies as you go. What I like with one person I’m not guaranteed to like with the next. However, if something is a hard no then definitely bring it up beforehand as that’s not likely to change. If someone doesn’t like kissing then we’re not compatible. I’m a smoocher. I couldn’t have sex without kissing but if someone really doesn’t like it once of us is going to have to make a sacrifice which does not sound like good sex for either of us "
I totally agree i too am a smoocher and i adore kissing as it is electrifying when it is compatible and sensual x |
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"If we’d down to action and somebody said I can’t kiss them, I would say you can’t have my cock then. Now let’s see who caves in first, I won’t be me ! "
Damn right ! good idea for next time .. hopefully will have discussed things tho first |
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This is a difficult one as I don't like talking about really intimate things before I have even met someone. But I do discuss hard nos so I would have disclosed the no kissing. I couldn't imagine having sex with someone without kissing |
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"All boundaries and likes and dislikes should definitely be discussed beforehand. "
This pretty much.
I don’t mean going into the meet like you’re checking off a list of things you must include but having a good open discussion about what people do or don’t enjoy, means everyone is then playing within their boundaries |
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