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Does anyone here still meets for a coffee or pint before sex? Or is it all a now or never? Accom or Park situation. Can still casual sex be courteous? Might be me but for me a prelude is a nice chat not just spit on your hand and rub it for 30 seconds. |
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By *eliWoman 2 weeks ago
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Yep. I much prefer to. And bar kissing/a bit of dryhumping, it's very rare (like one hand rare) that it goes any further on the day of the social.
I like getting to know someone, obviously we'd talk a lot beforehand but even then... I like pressure free, relaxed on both sides. Building that in person chemistry. |
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By *teff33TV/TS 2 weeks ago
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"Na..not always… as long as find them attractive and pref hung.. want to fuck em not marrry em   . #slag
Hah xx made me lol xx"
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Well to be fair it’s true, I’ve met guys in the past have been fit and great fuck but have the personality of a trainspotter  |
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I almost always have a social first. Sometimes everything seems great over messages but you meet up and there's nothing there.
I'd rather establish that when neither of us are feeling any pressure to have sex. |
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By *ornycougaWoman 2 weeks ago
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I usually meet someone for a drink and make it clear that that to suss each other out to see if there is chemistry. But if there is, I want to bang. I can't see the point in waiting if there is mutual attraction. |
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Yes I like a social first to get a vibe from that person. Endless messaging isn't for me, sometimes people are better at messaging than communicating in person. I like to meet and see what they're like face to face and take it from there. It breaks the ice and takes away any awkwardness or uncertainty there may be. |
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"I usually meet someone for a drink and make it clear that that to suss each other out to see if there is chemistry. But if there is, I want to bang. I can't see the point in waiting if there is mutual attraction. "
I get you, but it's getting trickier in Starbucks nowadays. |
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By *ornycougaWoman 2 weeks ago
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"I usually meet someone for a drink and make it clear that that to suss each other out to see if there is chemistry. But if there is, I want to bang. I can't see the point in waiting if there is mutual attraction.
I get you, but it's getting trickier in Starbucks nowadays."
Where there's a will and all that... |
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By *ripfillMan 2 weeks ago
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I really like a social meet first it’s important to me
Also it’s lovely to learn about someone in a bit of detail which is lovely to listen snd contribute
Definitely a meet first in my view
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"Does anyone here still meets for a coffee or pint before sex? Or is it all a now or never? Accom or Park situation. Can still casual sex be courteous? Might be me but for me a prelude is a nice chat not just spit on your hand and rub it for 30 seconds."
I'm still having socials first. |
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Swinging wise, only ever done a social before sex. Most of the time it's just been sex when we meet and either back at mine, hers or hotel/rented places.
For me the socials come after we have fucked |
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I’ve had good experiences meeting couples without a social first. But wouldn’t want to make a single female uncomfortable by even suggesting it. A nice public place for a coffee, or a popular pub if that is preferred.  |
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For me it's a social first, typically tea/coffee with cake in a quaint and quirky coffee shop, however most often it's a more elaborate affair: luncheons, a walk around an art gallery, museum or some other cultural emporium. If we wish to take things further then... • 𝕄𝕒𝕘𝕚𝕔 • happens in some joyously joyful way.
(Admittedly, there have been a couple of exceptions where there's been a preordained 'date' and a social on the same day, but this has been on the back of established chemistry and sexual frission through protracted messaging and phone calls over weeks or months) |
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"I’ve probably only done 2/3 social meets where is was soley a social.. every other time my knickers are round my ankles pretty quick 😂🙈
Damn, Jemma. Fancy a drink?  "
Make sure you get the full mechanics of what she means. As hot as she is, I wouldn't wish to walk down the street with her walking with her knickers round her ankles. It will look weird and you may get embarrassed.
I know exactly how hard the 3 legged race is. I came 3rd with my mate at primary school despite being hot favourites to win.
* I made up for it in the egg and spoon race. |
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"I think it's very wise for women meeting on their own to have a social somewhere first."
Although to be fair madam, your 23 October 2023 pic would mean I would piggy back with me naked save only for stilettos for 8 miles for a social. Uphill. |
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I prefer to meet socially first. It's actually surprising how many people that I talk to, works perfectly on paper, but just doesn't translate in real life. The chemistry and or attraction just isn't there. I'd hate for us to be building up to some fiery sex and to be left feeling meh about taking if further. A social, whether a quick coffee or a an hour or so over a beverage is important for me.
There's also the safety aspect. |
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Does anyone actually video chat for authenticity and see that as a half way house to a social?
Admittedly it can be a little awkward first time if you have a quiet personality.
*Or if drowned out by my incessant ramblings 😂 |
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"Does anyone actually video chat for authenticity and see that as a half way house to a social?
Admittedly it can be a little awkward first time if you have a quiet personality.
*Or if drowned out by my incessant ramblings 😂"
I've tried it but like online dating, it doesn't really work. I need to be on an actual date face to face to get a sense of the person. |
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"I usually meet someone for a drink and make it clear that that to suss each other out to see if there is chemistry. But if there is, I want to bang. I can't see the point in waiting if there is mutual attraction. "
That's exactly us, drink to suss out each other and tge nerves and then if there's a consensual spark it's hame v on, Mrs x
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