I was just naturally attracted to women as much as i was men. Didn't think too much of it, i was still quite young. To me it was (and is) perfectly normal. It's just part of who I am. I didn't need to have my first experience to know I was Bi. |
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My first sexual experience was with another girl as a teenager but I didn't realise I was bi until I was in my 30s.
I was talking to a man friend who asked me about a fantasy of mine. It wasn't something he was into but we talked about exploring it, what it would feel like, what each of us would do. It was lovely and he was lovely.
So then I asked him what HIS fantasy was. And he said a FFM threesome. And I didn't think it was something I was interested in but he had taken such care to delve into my fantasy that he wasn't into that I wanted to give that back to him. We started talking about it and he asked me to close my eyes and think about the type of woman I would choose to part of this threesome with him and I. And I closed my eyes and immediately my best friend popped into my head. And I knew in that moment that I was hugely, incredibly sexually attracted to my best friend. And still am over ten years later  |
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My first kiss was with another girl. Did I fancy her? No, we were really young and it just happened. So young, that I didn't know bi was a thing, but always fancied both. And then I discovered Pink, and sexuality... and the rest is history.  |
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I watched the 1999 hit film the mummy and started to question everything!
Wasn't until I got to uni though and we were sat playing drinking games and one of the boys said "would you suck a cock for £1000" and all the others were urging no, no and all I could think was, I'd suck one for free if it was on offer. I realised I should probably go and explore those feelings a little |
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I’m only realising now in my late 50s that I’m so incredibly curious and excited to have my first experience with another man. Over the years it’s grown in me and I now find that a cock can be a beautiful thing. I can’t wait to suck my first… |
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I was a little confused about my feelings towards other women for a lot of my teenage years. I was attracted to one of my friends. I knew my feelings towards her weren’t “normal”. It was much more than just appreciating that she was good looking and I hid it for a long time. The people I was friends with, at the time, would have never understood and I just wanted to fit in with everyone else.
My first experience was awkward, just as it was the first time I had sex with a man. We both had no idea what we were doing 
I’d like to think my skills have improved a little over the years! |
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By *ruceyy OP Man 2 weeks ago
London |
"I was a little confused about my feelings towards other women for a lot of my teenage years. I was attracted to one of my friends. I knew my feelings towards her weren’t “normal”. It was much more than just appreciating that she was good looking and I hid it for a long time. The people I was friends with, at the time, would have never understood and I just wanted to fit in with everyone else.
My first experience was awkward, just as it was the first time I had sex with a man. We both had no idea what we were doing
I’d like to think my skills have improved a little over the years! "
Well let's go ahead and see! |
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"I was a little confused about my feelings towards other women for a lot of my teenage years. I was attracted to one of my friends. I knew my feelings towards her weren’t “normal”. It was much more than just appreciating that she was good looking and I hid it for a long time. The people I was friends with, at the time, would have never understood and I just wanted to fit in with everyone else.
My first experience was awkward, just as it was the first time I had sex with a man. We both had no idea what we were doing
I’d like to think my skills have improved a little over the years!
Well let's go ahead and see!"
The women on here don’t want me! |
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"I was a little confused about my feelings towards other women for a lot of my teenage years. I was attracted to one of my friends. I knew my feelings towards her weren’t “normal”. It was much more than just appreciating that she was good looking and I hid it for a long time. The people I was friends with, at the time, would have never understood and I just wanted to fit in with everyone else.
My first experience was awkward, just as it was the first time I had sex with a man. We both had no idea what we were doing
I’d like to think my skills have improved a little over the years!
Well let's go ahead and see!
The women on here don’t want me! "
I don’t believe that hun! You’re gorgeous! What the hell do they want?! |
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By *essaMayWoman 2 weeks ago
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Never considered myself Bi, Got into swinging by ex husband, few unpleasant meets. Was at a small party, yep another unpleasant experience i was in the en suite in tears. A lady who was quiet had't notice. Came to me asked how i was sat me on the bed, had a gown on which was just loosely wrapped around me. She whispered what i needed to hear and opened my gown. At first didn't care was numb and feeling like trash, not in great place, i needed something and she gave it to me, first of several certainly my ex hub hadn't nor any of the other guys. After that things didn't get any better with my Ex hub and I left with no money and small suitcase and cloths on my back |
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By *ruceyy OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"I was a little confused about my feelings towards other women for a lot of my teenage years. I was attracted to one of my friends. I knew my feelings towards her weren’t “normal”. It was much more than just appreciating that she was good looking and I hid it for a long time. The people I was friends with, at the time, would have never understood and I just wanted to fit in with everyone else.
My first experience was awkward, just as it was the first time I had sex with a man. We both had no idea what we were doing
I’d like to think my skills have improved a little over the years!
Well let's go ahead and see!
The women on here don’t want me! "
I relate to that...😂 |
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"I was a little confused about my feelings towards other women for a lot of my teenage years. I was attracted to one of my friends. I knew my feelings towards her weren’t “normal”. It was much more than just appreciating that she was good looking and I hid it for a long time. The people I was friends with, at the time, would have never understood and I just wanted to fit in with everyone else.
My first experience was awkward, just as it was the first time I had sex with a man. We both had no idea what we were doing
I’d like to think my skills have improved a little over the years!
Well let's go ahead and see!
The women on here don’t want me!
I relate to that...😂"
Same. Shall we start a support group? |
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"I was a little confused about my feelings towards other women for a lot of my teenage years. I was attracted to one of my friends. I knew my feelings towards her weren’t “normal”. It was much more than just appreciating that she was good looking and I hid it for a long time. The people I was friends with, at the time, would have never understood and I just wanted to fit in with everyone else.
My first experience was awkward, just as it was the first time I had sex with a man. We both had no idea what we were doing
I’d like to think my skills have improved a little over the years!
Well let's go ahead and see!
The women on here don’t want me! "
Makes sense |
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Watching carry on films and being turned on by the women and not understanding why it freaked my sister out so much when the girl on girl scenes came up.
Watching eurotrash.
First experience was so different and exciting.
Much better than playing kiss chase with the boys 😈
Henriette x |
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I was playing with a what I thought was a straight mf couple. We’d had a drink and all was getting very steamy. The wife whispers in my ear that hubby likes been pegged. Would I take him. The rest of the night changed from that point. I took him and after seeing how much he enjoyed it. I ask the wife to wear her strap-on for me. Since then iv really enjoyed giving and receiving anal. Strap-on and cock. |
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"It was that bloody little mermaid, she had amazing boobs!!
Then I had a crush on Wednesday Adams, and well yeah.
Mrs "
Jasmine for me! And Wednesday... Still fancy the pants off of Christina Ricci  |
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By *ruceyy OP Man 2 weeks ago
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"Watching carry on films and being turned on by the women and not understanding why it freaked my sister out so much when the girl on girl scenes came up.
Watching eurotrash.
First experience was so different and exciting.
Much better than playing kiss chase with the boys 😈
Henriette x"
20/10 answer. There's girl on girl scenes in carry on films?! |
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Michelle Pfeiffer in Batman Returns stirred a feeling that made me realise other girls don't look at girls this way.
When I started doing the sex I didn't really worry about what genitalia someone had if I was interested in them as a whole 💜 |
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By *indergirlWoman 2 weeks ago
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Honestly couldn't say, I'd done the d*unken snogs and such but it wasn't til I was with an ex partner and we were talking about things that it actually clicked and I thought yeah maybe I am. And the rest is history |
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I've always been kinda spaghetti and had girl crushes, but one of the recent times we went to a club, I ended up face first in 3 gorgeous ladies. On the way home said to my husband "I don't think I'm curious anymore" 😂 |
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I realised I was sexually attracted to both genders as a teenager but I was really shy. Spent many d*unk nights out in the gay village in my early 20s where I would go into a mad panic when women would approach me even tho I thought they were hot. Had some d*unk snogs with girls when I was younger but it took me exploring swinging to give me the confidence to do more with women and realise not knowing what I was doing was okay with an understanding partner and we all have to start somewhere. I don't feel like I am 50/50 bisexual but there are definitely some women who can make me turn into a puddle. |
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When I first started to go out dressed I would get hit on by some blokes. As I was in a totally different headspace acting and feeling more relaxed, confident and feminine I’d enjoy the attention. The feeling of contentment, joy at being out with likeminded people and in some cases actually being desired did make me question my sexuality.
My first experience was at a dressing session with another TV, just a basic BJ and hand relief, both of us in lingerie romping around on a bed. Unlike heterosexual sex, same sex is you knowing what will definitely get the other person off, that knowledge helps make it more enjoyable and memorable.
Afterwards I knew I wanted more of the same, at first only with Tgirls but not long afterwards wanted to be the ‘girl’ in another encounter with a same sex partner, so started meeting guys.
Never looked back. 
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It was such a chore for me 
I've never fancied a guy (had a man crush, sure, but finding men sexy, nope).
However, I was curious as a 19 year old, because it was a thing that was verboten in my social circle. This was the late 80's, a very different time.
I've always been broad minded, with a rebellious streak, so I went to a drag queen masseur (not Drag Race levels of gorgeousness) and had a naked sensual massage. I was nervous AF and very inexperienced, and ended up getting horny and cumming by humping the table. Post-nut clarity had me out of there in a moment.
I wanted to try again and met a guy called John near Bath, had a naturist massage that turned sensual and had quite the time.
I still don't fancy men, I just enjoy sex and that gives me broader scope.
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For Flo, she's always known she was bi growing up and finding elements of 'media' more of a turn on than expected and her first experience as a teenager and from then on, she was never opposed to relationships with females.
For Ali, it was opportunistic and out of nowhere where he explored with a couple he'd built a safe relationship with. But if that hadn't had happened, he might never have tried aspects! |
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I'm not really sure. I just never ruled it out.. but when I was 16 or 17 a friend and I were sitting in his parents hot tub it became a dare to get naked and then he started getting hard... Then I started getting hard . And it went from taking turns giving oral to being bent over the side of the hot tub and I realized a dick feels great as opposed to the various objects I've used prior |
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Found some porn magazines in a carrier bag in a country lane layby. Took them to my secret den and looked at the photos. But everything was all female and I felt a incredibly miffed there was no male representation. About the same time of summer hols, I was laying in bed wondering how 2 classmates who were rumoured to be gay, actually "did stuff".
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Discovered the thought aroused me.
Somewhat confused, went to the public library (no internet in those days...I know, shocking right ?). Got various books on human sexuality and read them in a far corner of the library for a few hours. Quickly closing them if anyone came too close.
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Discovered the term bisexuality. Light bulb moment.
Hatched a plan for later at home.
Think of "Vicky" in class. Assess reaction. Boing. Deal with Boing.
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Later on, think of the 2 classmates I mentioned earlier. Boing. Deal with Boing.
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Wrote in secret diary (I was bit older than 13 3/4) : Tested. I am B.
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I consider myself exceedingly fortunate that I did not have the same mental anguish many other experience when questioning, and my heart goes out to those who did / do. |
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I will add, I also read a lot of books on very esoteric subjects.
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One quote by Aleister Crowley etched itself impermanently in my mind.
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""Lust, enjoy all things of sense and rapture: fear not that any God shall deny thee for this"
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It's my mantra, even today. |
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