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By (user no longer on site) OP 2 weeks ago
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So she always drops little lies which I see straight through, do I call her out for it?
How can anyone be trusted?
How do you deal with liars? I'm really struggling here. |
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You either have to confront them, or accept that they're a liar and live with not being able to a believe a word they say.
I'd have to say something, as I can't stand being lied to & when someone lies to me, I never believe anything else they say.
Is she your partner op?. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 2 weeks ago
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"What would the consequences of calling her out be? Would you be happy with those consequences or at least happier than now?"
We'd no longer speak, I'd lose a friend. Well I guess a fake friend. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 2 weeks ago
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"You either have to confront them, or accept that they're a liar and live with not being able to a believe a word they say.
I'd have to say something, as I can't stand being lied to & when someone lies to me, I never believe anything else they say.
Is she your partner op?. "
Not my partner no, but still no need to lie right? If you're done with me just say that and we can move on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 2 weeks ago
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"If you don’t trust her to be honest then why bother investing any more time in her whatsoever? What do you hope to achieve by confronting her ?"
I'm a mug, I should stop communicating with her, I don't know why I do this to myself.
I don't know what I'd achieve my calling her out. |
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There's always a trade off in relationships. You're obviously getting something out of the relationship, so question is are you willing to confront and potentially lose, or just put up with it? Maybe have a chat and be open about each others expectations.....
Good luck though, hope it works out |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 2 weeks ago
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"There's always a trade off in relationships. You're obviously getting something out of the relationship, so question is are you willing to confront and potentially lose, or just put up with it? Maybe have a chat and be open about each others expectations.....
Good luck though, hope it works out"
We've gone back and forth with expectations but hers never seem to add up. I just don't wanna lose that connection. |
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By (user no longer on site) 2 weeks ago
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My housemate is a compulsive liar, which is frustrating because it's not like I don't know him lol. As with your friends, it's always small things, but otherwise he's a good lad.
I just don't indulge him or sometimes make a point of mentioning a topic related to the lie. A soft calling out, as you will.
Ultimately, I've known him for 25 years so it's not worth throwing away a friendship over small lies, none of which have consequences that would influence my life. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 2 weeks ago
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"My housemate is a compulsive liar, which is frustrating because it's not like I don't know him lol. As with your friends, it's always small things, but otherwise he's a good lad.
I just don't indulge him or sometimes make a point of mentioning a topic related to the lie. A soft calling out, as you will.
Ultimately, I've known him for 25 years so it's not worth throwing away a friendship over small lies, none of which have consequences that would influence my life."
It's definitely not worth throwing a friendship of 25 years over small lies.
I think I'll just let her carry on for now. |
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"If you don’t trust her to be honest then why bother investing any more time in her whatsoever? What do you hope to achieve by confronting her ?
I'm a mug, I should stop communicating with her, I don't know why I do this to myself.
I don't know what I'd achieve my calling her out. "
I could have a guess ! You might not like it
A combination of ego & anger ? Your ego tells you that you have a bunch of roles to act out in the drama called life, one of them is a role where you’re so good and pure this woman is compelled to tell you the truth. When she doesn’t play her part anger kicks in to protect the illusion of the ego…. I confronting her you hope that she will see her wickedness and apologise to you, validating the illusion of your ego. But she’s probably just as fucked up as you are. 😂 |
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By *r TriomanMan 2 weeks ago
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"So she always drops little lies which I see straight through, do I call her out for it?
How can anyone be trusted?
How do you deal with liars? I'm really struggling here. "
If everything else about your relationship with this person is positive and the lies are harmless then maybe you just tolerate them, if that not the case then it could be time to re-evaluate your relationship with them. |
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I call them out. Not in some grandiose: now I've got you, manner. I just ask them straight and calmly.
I can't be doing with liars, in my relationships. There's enough dishonesty and shitbaggery outside the front-door, without having it in my personal life too. Where there's lies, head-games are close behind. |
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