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By *IXEN200 OP Woman 6 weeks ago
newcastle upon tyne |
Right debate time.
You've experienced being with someone who's kinky and given you some great experiences, and some amazing times.
You then get into a relationship where it's just vanilla sex.
How easy if at all can you forget about doing or even wanting the kinky stuff again.
Can you live with just vanilla sex? |
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By *IXEN200 OP Woman 6 weeks ago
newcastle upon tyne |
"Sounds like you mean in a monogamous relationship?
In which case I wouldn’t be able to cope with my sexual desires never being met again. "
Yeah in a monogamous relationship. Would you be able to talk about it with them, and what happens if they turn it down completely 🤔 |
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By (user no longer on site) 6 weeks ago
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Easy, if it matters to you. It's about the person, the connection and what it means to be in a relationship with them. Great sex doesn't have to be kinky unless both people enjoy it that way.
I was in a swinging/open relationship in my 20's and then spent the next 20 years in vanillaville with no issues. I thought about swinging and even discussed it with partners along the way but they weren't keen and it was important enough to me to pursue it as it was more about being with that person.
Every relationship requires a compromise in some way and what you desire/pursue opens and closes doors. |
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"Sounds like you mean in a monogamous relationship?
In which case I wouldn’t be able to cope with my sexual desires never being met again.
Yeah in a monogamous relationship. Would you be able to talk about it with them, and what happens if they turn it down completely 🤔 "
Ahh I’m not sure I could ever be monogamous. I am poly, I practice ENM. Moreover my kinky side is just as important as my vanilla side, and while having one satisfied would be great I wouldn’t be fulfilled without the other.
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It'll be different for me because I have no fetishes that are required for sexual pleasure. But if you do, then I'd for sure be talking to your partner about them. Especially if you're monogamous. I couldn't stomach the idea of being sexually unfulfilled just because I was too afraid to bring it up or end the relationship to find something that would fulfill me. |
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By *ack688Man 6 weeks ago
abruzzo Italy (and UK) |
To a certain degree I’m kinda like a kink chameleon, I can often enjoy things a partner enjoys without them necessarily being a thing I enjoy or need to look for without them, so if it’s vanilla and great and they are fun to have sex with then that’s all good! |
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By *oxy-RedWoman 6 weeks ago
pink panther territory |
It just wouldn't work for me,I need the kink in a sex life,all my past relationships have been vanilla and trying to get them to be even a little kinky was impossible infact an ex was terrified of me  |
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By *sWyldWoman 6 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
Personally I love vanilla and intimacy and romance. For me that's way more important than someone's ability to give me an orgasm in some other way.
I'm old and boring perhaps but I'm ok with that.
I no longer feel the need to chase my next thrill |
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From my own experience I was with someone who at the start was very kinky and sex was good.
Once I got In a relationship the sex became so boring and the juice was jot worth the squeeze in the end.
So sex is a massive part of who I am.
I have a dark side that need to be seen, for me to feel whole.
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