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Approached a guy you fancy somewhere public like a bar or shop and asked him to come home with you?
If so what was your pick up line?
Guys - if this happened - would you go?
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By *bi HaiveMan 3 weeks ago
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Happened to me once a decade or so ago in Spoons in Plymouth.
I was away with work drinking a bottle of wine. She came and sat at my table and asked if I minded her sitting there for a bit as an annoying ex was in the pub and she wanted to look like she had company. We finished the bottle and she asked if I wanted to go for a drink somewhere else. We did. Ended up back at the hotel and she left next morning.
The one and only time it's ever happened in my life.
Was fun. I'd do it again. 🤷♂️ |
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If so what was your pick up line?
Just guessing. Might it be "would you like to come home with me" ?"
I was hoping for more effort… something funny or witty or flirty.. but seeing as youve asked- Absolutely yes!!  |
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"No I haven't, I definitely wouldn't feel confident enough to confront someone in a public place like a bar."
Always surprises me how I even in this age of supposed equality in general women don’t feel empowered to take that initiative you know when you walk into a bar every guy there will check you out… xx |
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"No, I’m too socially awkward to attempt that. "
I find it interesting that you can be so sexually liberated with someone you hardly know from here but find that daunting - not just you i mean people here in general - I expect them to be super confident xx |
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"No. I've never fancied anyone just based on their looks so I wouldn't feel any desire in that scenario. Plus, they might be a murderer."
Im gorgeous and not a murderer… you should definitely ask me!! |
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"No, I’m too socially awkward to attempt that.
I find it interesting that you can be so sexually liberated with someone you hardly know from here but find that daunting - not just you i mean people here in general - I expect them to be super confident xx"
One generally has a big bit of a build up (for some) while the other is an in the moment thing.
Some just do better at getting more familiar than grabbing the first warm body they see. |
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"No, I’m too socially awkward to attempt that.
I find it interesting that you can be so sexually liberated with someone you hardly know from here but find that daunting - not just you i mean people here in general - I expect them to be super confident xx
One generally has a big bit of a build up (for some) while the other is an in the moment thing.
Some just do better at getting more familiar than grabbing the first warm body they see. "
Sounds like way too much thinking for me |
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"No, I'm too insecure for that. I remember back as a teenager, telling a guy I liked him and his mates all laughed and he said "Ew"... So... Yeah.. "
Well hes a knob and you’re a bit lovely you are x  |
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"Approached a guy you fancy somewhere public like a bar or shop and asked him to come home with you?
If so what was your pick up line?
Guys - if this happened - would you go?
Answers in strictest confidence… "
Never in my life 😅 |
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"No, I'm too insecure for that. I remember back as a teenager, telling a guy I liked him and his mates all laughed and he said "Ew"... So... Yeah.. "
I felt this in my soul 😭. I bet those same lads are kicking themselves now. |
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Had three women approach me between pubs in Warrington, one asked me to go back with them.
I’ve also got lucky ‘on the pull’ in my youth.
L ended up having it in a train toilet on the way home from a wales game. And I know someone who got lucky with her in the pub before I got with her, left pub and they went straight back to his for sex. |
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"No, I’m too socially awkward to attempt that.
I find it interesting that you can be so sexually liberated with someone you hardly know from here but find that daunting - not just you i mean people here in general - I expect them to be super confident xx"
The people I talk to on here are aware of the weirdness. I’d hate to spring that on some poor stranger trying to enjoy a drink. |
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I didn’t go with all three btw. Ended up snogging one in a taxi, when we got back to a house, another one took me to bed, ripped my shirt off and we had passionate sex before I embarrassingly fell asleep! |
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I have no idea if this has ever happened to me.
I'm so rubbish at picking up signals I'd have totally missed them!
I'm so bad if a woman asked me to go home with her I'd probably reply with
"nah your all right, you live in the opposite direction to me"
Then years later just as I'm falling asleep the penny would drop lol |
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I have a couple of times, when I was younger.
Once with a gorgeous road worker who was away from home. We spent the night in his hotel room.
Another time with a pair of guys who were out celebrating the birth of a friends little one.
I wouldn’t do it now though. |
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Some really great posts here - thanks for being so open & honest Its happened more often in my past when i was a gigging musician - after a gig - a variety of offers - which i never took up as I was in a relationship then  |
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A married female friend (who had discussed swinging with myself and Mrs DS before, as had her husband with us too) wanted to come back to ours one evening. She was out on her own and hubby was at home. Since it would be our "first" engagement, and it was without her husband, I felt uncomfortable without his explicit consent. I asked her to call him so I could speak with him. She "calmed down" a little and nothing happened.
We all met together a few weeks later, but I am glad the advance offer was turned down.
So the only time I've ever been approached, I cooled things down (but it was the right thing to do  |
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Wouldn't have the balls these days 
