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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just out of curiosity and I'm interested in what people think,, if you were seeing someone regular, is it possible that bonds form and connections are made with that person the more times you sleep with them,,, bearing in mind you only started meeting up with that person for sex only and that was it???
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just out of curiosity and I'm interested in what people think,, if you were seeing someone regular, is it possible that bonds form and connections are made with that person the more times you sleep with them,,, bearing in mind you only started meeting up with that person for sex only and that was it???
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Isn't that when your fuck buddy comes a partner
Any person that starts liking either me or Paula and forming a bond is politely that they won't be coming back |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would think it's a natural progression if you are seeing the same person over a period of time, you will become fond of each other. Doesn't make it a bad thing though, if it's something you don't want then move on....if your both happy to go with it then fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it can go one of 3 ways.
1. You start formimg an emotional relationship and maybe start following your instincts to make it a relationship.
2. You have a strong sexual attraction and you like the person, so it stays as fuck buddies.
3. The sex becomes dull. You find another fuck buddy.
I have experienced all 3 scenarios |
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"Yeah something like that, is it possible,, does it happen alot??? Curious really, thought it would seem like a big problem where sex is concerned"
You can bond with someone and still only have sex with them.....
Id imagine it would make the sex much better...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first meet I was seeing a lot of, so developed a emotional bond towards him, which made him back off and stopped seeing me and contacting me. He got in touch again this year, we met up, he said he would text me, still waiting, I text him but no response, hes been online, he is busy at the moment but it doesnt take much to say hi. Im assuming its done with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me ,I prefer to have friends with benefits with whom I see more than once . Bonds are made but not emotional dependency ....
Saying that , I am only emotionally dependant during those few hours spent with someone , afterwards they are a free spirit like myself  )
Indeed a couple of my male friends do care for me , we chat by text etc and have vanilla times also , but we are not emotionally dependant on each other .
I have only a handful of chaps who I have fun with as quality is better than quantity , and also being able to trust that person during the times I am totally vulnerable  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is any kind of 'friendship' not an emotional connection ?
Whether that's a FB, FWB - or just someone you enjoy banter with?
Doesn't mean there's going to be any progression to another form of relationship!
And if you find yourself in a situation where one wants more than the other it will usually end one of two ways.
Well - or badly!!! |
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I think if you sleep with someone regularly for a long period of time then its fairly inevitable that you like the actual person as well as the sex and that feelings are going to be involved or at least that's my experience anyway with a long term buddy.
I think it's also more prevalent to single swingers than couples as they've already got that emotional attachment to another person and it also really depends what your looking for. I think there's many people on here who are looking for more than just sex whereas some do simply want NSA. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me having feeling for them both times
1) 3 years ago I met a guy reg (at least 2x a week ) for about 6 mths . I got in some trubble at uni and was sat on the steps out side crying and so I rang him and sobed for about an hour , when I hung up I new I had started to have feelings and could have very easily fallen in love . I rang him back that night and told him how I was feeling and we agreed to stop seeing each other
2) the other guy was last year and I rang him to arrange a meet and he said he was taking some other girl off here out to the pics ( he and I had only ever had sex never done any thing social ) and I felt jealous . I talk to him about it and he said he really liked me to and we could be more than FWB but I am not really in a place were I am ready for any thing more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I seldom have repeat meets with the same person, if and when I do, there is usually a long gap between meets.
Hence I have yet to form any emotional attachment with anyone.
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I've bonded with somebody that I met from another site, way before I joined fab.
Yes we both have emotional feelings towards each other, I am very fond of him and he's good at cheering me up when I'm low.
It wont go any further, we have discussed it in great detail several times, I'm not one for having a relationship, but its good that we have become friends and the sex is a bonus, the bond makes the sex better. |
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"I've bonded with somebody that I met from another site, way before I joined fab.
Yes we both have emotional feelings towards each other, I am very fond of him and he's good at cheering me up when I'm low.
It wont go any further, we have discussed it in great detail several times, I'm not one for having a relationship, but its good that we have become friends and the sex is a bonus, the bond makes the sex better."
Similar too I met a woman through another site 6 years ago and we have become great friends and lovers . We have helped each other through difficult times and gone to vanilla events socially. However I could never see this relationship being more than it is now for many reason.
I have met for one off meets in the past and always hope to remain friends even if the meets were not to continue as the sexual contact sometimes has been intense and personal.
A long term open commitment is very unique as there are lots of feelings and emotions present with both individuals more than just a swinging relationship yet not as restricted as more than just two people (unlike a vanilla partnerships) . Issues such as trusting and knowing each others thoughts and feelings play a part more than one off meets. There must be total and complete trust of each other and without jealousy on either side.
The difference is where the attachment becomes overpowering in a destructive way or just one sided |
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Emotional attachment doesn't mean falling in love with someone.
I had regular meets who I used to chat with daily and would see very often but I wasn't in love with them. I understood that they would see other people due to the nature of the site etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've bonded with somebody that I met from another site, way before I joined fab.
Yes we both have emotional feelings towards each other, I am very fond of him and he's good at cheering me up when I'm low.
It wont go any further, we have discussed it in great detail several times, I'm not one for having a relationship, but its good that we have become friends and the sex is a bonus, the bond makes the sex better.
Similar too I met a woman through another site 6 years ago and we have become great friends and lovers . We have helped each other through difficult times and gone to vanilla events socially. However I could never see this relationship being more than it is now for many reason.
I have met for one off meets in the past and always hope to remain friends even if the meets were not to continue as the sexual contact sometimes has been intense and personal.
A long term open commitment is very unique as there are lots of feelings and emotions present with both individuals more than just a swinging relationship yet not as restricted as more than just two people (unlike a vanilla partnerships) . Issues such as trusting and knowing each others thoughts and feelings play a part more than one off meets. There must be total and complete trust of each other and without jealousy on either side.
The difference is where the attachment becomes overpowering in a destructive way or just one sided"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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when im with one of my veris i totally love him, the sex is great and i have to stop myself from going overboard with the lovey stuff. but once ive left its ok, its back to friends only, odd text etc. not sure if this makes me a bad person lol. but i do believe if i was with him more then i might just say stuff that scares him lol...or maybe not, best not to ever find out? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you can but I think people look into it to much...also many mistake lust for love... Thing is you can have feelings for friends your not sleeping with.. they just can get mixed up when sex is added..
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A couple I had a threesome with many moons ago have become my best friends. I live with them, in a lodger with benefits kind of way, not in a poly way. Many people don't understand our relationship. It's quite simple, we started out with sex, talked in between, became good friends, and along with a little sex occasionally, it is the friendship that is the strong bond between us all. I have never felt jealous of their relationship, I know their marriage comes first, and wouldn't expect any different.
With single men, I tend to only see them once, think I'm scared of falling for them, I value my independence too much to fall in love!!
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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I have an fb I have been seeing for nearly 2 years. I consider him to be a genuine friend. We have great sex and a lot of fun with each other. But, we both know that that is all it is or ever will be. Neither of us wants a relationship. It is important, I think, to try not to be exclusive. We both like the freedom to play with whomever we like and often chat about people we have met or are about to meet. There is no jealousy or crap involved which is very refreshing.
I think when people start being exclusive then that is when feelings can start taking over. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I have been meeting my regular friend for over 2 years now and no, there is no jealously, 1 he is married and loves his wife and yes she knows about me, and 2 in the bdsm scene trust is a must so repeat meets are essential it's when people start to think it is more than nsa it can and will become a problem!  |
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both my last to FWB I have ended up having quit strong feelings for 
