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Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ?? |
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Not from my experience on here..
I’ve spoken to many, been involved with fun activities with some and met a few and I’m certainly not a model or anything, other than having more jelly than rowntrees.
End of the day though, single guys outgun single ladies by a fairly significant factor, and there’s only so much time to respond to messages, and I saw the other day someone local to me had 1,300 messages! So quite understandably they’ll only respond to those who peak their interest. |
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There's no issue with single guys, there's issues with compatibility, attraction and communication. If you don't have all three of those with someone, it's just not going to go anywhere. Men would be happier on here if they only messaged the people they truly thought would be a match for them. Spend more energy on building quality connections rather than moaning about the ones that aren't for you.
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"There's no issue with single guys, there's issues with compatibility, attraction and communication. If you don't have all three of those with someone, it's just not going to go anywhere. Men would be happier on here if they only messaged the people they truly thought would be a match for them. Spend more energy on building quality connections rather than moaning about the ones that aren't for you.
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This is pretty much spot on and you could close the thread here and not get better advice/opinion |
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And let me give you a snap shot of 24hrs
Our profile is open to men, but only for the forum. Sadly the site isn't sophisticated enough to then NOT show "interested in single men"
However. You will find no reference to wanting single men on our profile.
Examples of yesterday
Semi polite message from man. No thank you from me. "Why" comes back. Explain I'm not interested. "Ugly slag, etc etc" comes back.
Dozens of "hi, FAF, wot youse into"
Several "meet now"
Many "your missus is fit " (if you read the profile it's quite clear I write it as a female)
Lots of hundreds of miles away.
Several friends requests without even so much as a message
So that is what you are up against.
I speak to men regularly on here. I'm never going to meet them. But I enjoy the discourse with them.
People need to moderate their expectations; a message isn't a direct access pass into someone's knickers.
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"And let me give you a snap shot of 24hrs
Our profile is open to men, but only for the forum. Sadly the site isn't sophisticated enough to then NOT show "interested in single men"
However. You will find no reference to wanting single men on our profile.
Examples of yesterday
Semi polite message from man. No thank you from me. "Why" comes back. Explain I'm not interested. "Ugly slag, etc etc" comes back.
Dozens of "hi, FAF, wot youse into"
Several "meet now"
Many "your missus is fit " (if you read the profile it's quite clear I write it as a female)
Lots of hundreds of miles away.
Several friends requests without even so much as a message
So that is what you are up against.
I speak to men regularly on here. I'm never going to meet them. But I enjoy the discourse with them.
People need to moderate their expectations; a message isn't a direct access pass into someone's knickers.
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I'd say that the approach men and women have are very different.
Some just look at a profile pic and message without reading a bio....it's very clear when this happens.
Where as some men, and certainly most women actually fully read and profile and look for someone that sounds like they want the same.
And those messages we recieve saying "your Mrs is fit, I'd show her a good time"
Do people really think that's a good approach. |
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I think the actions of (unfortunately) the majority ruin it for the few.
Single male profiles outnumber women and couple profiles vastly. A lot of single males seem to assume this site is a bit like the swiping "dating" apps, where little effort but the sheer fact they have a penis and want to have sex is enough to get them into bed with the females local to their area. Then when they find out most on this site aren't into "meeting now" with barely any messagss/chatting etc, it decends into unpleasantness. This, combined with a lot of males having very little to no information on their profiles and a gallery full of cock shots, you get the idea....
When our profile was open to single males when we first joined the site, we'd get literally dozens of messages a day from profiles proclaiming how "I'm going to fuck the Mrs into the next century", unsolicited dick pics, unwelcome tributes, bragging about how much better at sex/looks/body they are than Mr, and blokes from literally Aberdeen to Penzance asking if we could meet. Like your're going to travel literally the length of the country for a shag?
So whilst there are some decent, respectful men out there - and we have talked to a few - it does remain that unfortunately most get tarred with the same brush due to the actions of others, and standing out in a women's/couples inbox amongst a sea of messages is very hard indeed. |
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Join in with forum chat op and get noticed. Make friends and treat fab like a social club. Anything else is a bonus. Providing you are polite, respectful (without being a simp), you will have a good time. |
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By *oxy-RedWoman 3 weeks ago
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It's more to do with how single men approach us women on fab
A faf or ooh what I could do to you just arnt going to interest me
Loads of single men do great on fab
Like I said it's how the men approach us women |
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"Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ?? "
There are lots of single ladies on here, like myself. So I dont know why you're feeling like this as I welcome messages that match my preferences.
I haven't read your profile or received one of your messages so I dont know what your communucation style is like but some guys are quite rude or pushy or don't respect your preferences.
I personally love messages where men have obviously read my profile and their preferences are alligned with mine.
It's all about quality and not quantity on here so you only need to find a few interested people to have some great experiences. |
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"There's no issue with single guys, there's issues with compatibility, attraction and communication. If you don't have all three of those with someone, it's just not going to go anywhere. Men would be happier on here if they only messaged the people they truly thought would be a match for them. Spend more energy on building quality connections rather than moaning about the ones that aren't for you.
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Absolutely correct 100% |
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"It's more to do with how single men approach us women on fab
A faf or ooh what I could do to you just arnt going to interest me
Loads of single men do great on fab
Like I said it's how the men approach us women "
I gotta say, as a percentage of total for the demographic, I think I get more well thought out and actually interesting messages from single men than I do from women and couples.
I get a much higher percentage of one to three word half assed nothing messages from the other categories. |
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It's partly to do with numbers and partly to do with approach.
The vast majority of profiles on Fab are single men, therefore the vast majority of problems will be caused by them.
Also, women and couples tend not to send sexually aggressive messages (and men wouldn't complain if they did!). |
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By *ornycougaWoman 3 weeks ago
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"There's no issue with single guys, there's issues with compatibility, attraction and communication. If you don't have all three of those with someone, it's just not going to go anywhere. Men would be happier on here if they only messaged the people they truly thought would be a match for them. Spend more energy on building quality connections rather than moaning about the ones that aren't for you.
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Totally agree. I closed my filters due to volume and - as a bit of an experiment - systematically worked my way through well over 1400 messages over a sleepless night because I knew there were one or two gems in there. The 'hey' and 'wanna smash' messages - of which there were many but not as many as expected - were just deleted. Some of these were from couples as well as single guys tbf and I agree with Prey that statistically couples are worse than single guys in my experience. The ones that were looking for something which is specifically excluded, or there is no mention of, on my profile (Domme, bareback, FMF/FFM with a couple, camming etc) went in the bin. But guys who sent a nice message and had looked at my profile i responded to. Either a "thanks" if it was just a complimentary message or a cut and paste "thanks for the message but I'm not looking to chat or meet" to those looking for that. Almost without exception that generated a reply: when was I going to be meeting again/do you like my profile?/compliments/that's a shame/dick pics to try to get me to change my mind (  ) That's why women don't engage with single men. Most cannot read the profile, let alone read the room. So as others have said, they are wasting their time and ours. From what I see on here a lot of the most successful men on here are not Adonises. But they do have a good profile themselves, read a profile, consider if they are compatible before contacting, send a well crafted opening message without the addition of dick pics or fucking vids, can hold a conversation that doesn't revolve around what they want to do to the woman, and know when to take no for an answer. The moaning men could learn a lot from these guys. |
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I get treated like a piece of meat.
Wouldn't it be nice if men treated women how women treat men, and vice versa.
How many men would love to be treated like a piece of meat by hundreds of women, I wonder. |
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Women are lovely and beautiful and make it all happen.
And we are grateful.
Is a lot to offer, her life, body, intimacy.
Is a lot.
Is not like, hey, wanna share a bag of crisps?
Is nature, has a code, or it tics or it doesn't.
Frogs and birds deal with severe struggles to match, poor things.
They dknt have phones to go on fabs.
Or a pub to try to hang out.
All they can do is try they best.
And hope for it happen.
Men struggle to find pussy yes?
Ladies struggle to meet decent genuine guys.
Many men are treating our Woman in very bad ways.
If you care about a lady, she may turn out care about you.
Or not. At list you were nice or tried too.
" is a big brumble, but there's always a black berry in the end, is worth it" Lekser  |
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"I get treated like a piece of meat.
Wouldn't it be nice if men treated women how women treat men, and vice versa.
How many men would love to be treated like a piece of meat by hundreds of women, I wonder."
I reckon that would depend on who you spoke to.  |
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"I get treated like a piece of meat.
Wouldn't it be nice if men treated women how women treat men, and vice versa.
How many men would love to be treated like a piece of meat by hundreds of women, I wonder."
I'm in. Use me, take me, pet me, say my name  |
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It’s this simple. I had a back and forth with someone trying to convince me they are what I was looking for, and to justify to them why I thought they were not. And they had already admitted to not looking at my profile
"There's no issue with single guys, there's issues with compatibility, attraction and communication. If you don't have all three of those with someone, it's just not going to go anywhere. Men would be happier on here if they only messaged the people they truly thought would be a match for them. Spend more energy on building quality connections rather than moaning about the ones that aren't for you.
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"There's no issue with single guys, there's issues with compatibility, attraction and communication. If you don't have all three of those with someone, it's just not going to go anywhere. Men would be happier on here if they only messaged the people they truly thought would be a match for them. Spend more energy on building quality connections rather than moaning about the ones that aren't for you.
Totally agree. I closed my filters due to volume and - as a bit of an experiment - systematically worked my way through well over 1400 messages over a sleepless night because I knew there were one or two gems in there. The 'hey' and 'wanna smash' messages - of which there were many but not as many as expected - were just deleted. Some of these were from couples as well as single guys tbf and I agree with Prey that statistically couples are worse than single guys in my experience. The ones that were looking for something which is specifically excluded, or there is no mention of, on my profile (Domme, bareback, FMF/FFM with a couple, camming etc) went in the bin. But guys who sent a nice message and had looked at my profile i responded to. Either a "thanks" if it was just a complimentary message or a cut and paste "thanks for the message but I'm not looking to chat or meet" to those looking for that. Almost without exception that generated a reply: when was I going to be meeting again/do you like my profile?/compliments/that's a shame/dick pics to try to get me to change my mind ( ) That's why women don't engage with single men. Most cannot read the profile, let alone read the room. So as others have said, they are wasting their time and ours. From what I see on here a lot of the most successful men on here are not Adonises. But they do have a good profile themselves, read a profile, consider if they are compatible before contacting, send a well crafted opening message without the addition of dick pics or fucking vids, can hold a conversation that doesn't revolve around what they want to do to the woman, and know when to take no for an answer. The moaning men could learn a lot from these guys. "
This and so many men don’t read profiles to begin with I’ve had a fair few message me that haven’t read my profile that I’m not looking for single men. I always respond to them to look at my profile |
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"There's no issue with single guys, there's issues with compatibility, attraction and communication. If you don't have all three of those with someone, it's just not going to go anywhere. Men would be happier on here if they only messaged the people they truly thought would be a match for them. Spend more energy on building quality connections rather than moaning about the ones that aren't for you.
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This is it 100%. |
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"I think the actions of (unfortunately) the majority ruin it for the few.
Single male profiles outnumber women and couple profiles vastly. A
So basically it’s someone else’s fault ?
Rubbish "
Is it? Rubbish? Ha. It is quite obvious (even in examples on this thread) that there are a lot of actions/interactions with single male profiles that put people off, or recieve so many messages it's extremely hard to sort wheat from chaff.
Couple that together with the majority of threads on different sections of the forums titled "tribute", "wank over your wife" "picture swap", "filthy wife chat" and similar, all started by single male profiles and predominantly commented on by other single male profiles (I am yet to see a single lady start a "finger yourself over my husband" thread!)..... you get the picture.
It does mean that for a lot of people, all single male profiles are tarred with the same brush and why a lot of people actively have them blocked from messaging, and if they decide to seek one, they will be the ones doing the seeking. |
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"Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ?? "
Explainable little further OP.
What is the issue with single guys?
Do you think women should fuck anyone, or people they find attractive??
I don't honestly see any. |
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There's a few things that contribute to the experience you seem to be alluding to that single guys are often blocked and/or bemoaned.
There are lots of single guys so couples and women can pick and choose.
I've seen many women comment that within a day of joining they have hundreds of messages, mostly from single guys.
There are a lot of single guys on here that lack the ability to approach people in a respectful way - entitled, obvious, overly direct, sexually aggressive, borderline rude, etc. I've experienced this myself.
For me, whilst I'm sure some single lads do get meets, I'm not bothering trying on this site. I'll prefer to pop to clubs on single guy friendly events. That way I'm not getting lost in the sea of noise. |
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"There's no issue with single guys, there's issues with compatibility, attraction and communication. If you don't have all three of those with someone, it's just not going to go anywhere. Men would be happier on here if they only messaged the people they truly thought would be a match for them. Spend more energy on building quality connections rather than moaning about the ones that aren't for you.
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Agree.
I've no issue with single guys. The majority of my personal interactions with them are positive. However I am only attracted to those I'm attracted to and I only reply to those with whom I'm potentially be compatible |
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I'm no model, I don't go to the gym or workout and I don't look like a god.
I'm almost 60 and didn't join until I was 52 and apart from a few issues when I first signed up and being dragged into someone else's drama, my fab experience has been positive.
The best part of it has been that I've never had to compromise or pretend to be someone or something I'm not.
I don't ride a white horse or blow smoke up people's arse and I often go against the grain in the forums.
For every woman who dislikes that and feels we aren't compatible is another who isn't shy about telling me how much they admire my no nonsense approach.
What I take from all that is that being genuine should come naturally and running with the hare and hunting with the hounds will get you nowhere. |
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"Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ?? "
Personal preference? |
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OP, do not apotheosize the opposite sex on here. They are not deserving of the ladyhood status; they are, quite simply, "women" and nothing more.
The sooner they are taken down a peg or two² the better. Long have they enjoyed cult status on here, drowning in testosterone and fuelled by the sycophants and white knights. They don't even know the meaning of the word "effort".
This place is a fool's paradise. |
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By *uzzleMan 3 weeks ago
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I completely agree with the OP.
Here on Fab the issue is amplified because of the high ratio of men to women.
I do think Fab mimicks real life i.e. if you're not great at talking to women in real life you won't be here and I fit into that category.
Fab can be quite depressing for single men, I like the forums and put in zero effort for a meet.
This is partially because I am one of lifes loners and a recluse. A lot of women on here want a social, I would dread that so avoid it at all costs.
Also, I am very average in the looks department, women expect me to be better looking when they see my pictures on here.
But the real off putting thing is I reside with parents because I have a minimum wage job. Women assume I am married, couple that with the aforementioned and there is no point in even trying to get a meet.
I'll stick to the forums!
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"And let me give you a snap shot of 24hrs
Our profile is open to men, but only for the forum. Sadly the site isn't sophisticated enough to then NOT show "interested in single men"
However. You will find no reference to wanting single men on our profile.
Examples of yesterday
Semi polite message from man. No thank you from me. "Why" comes back. Explain I'm not interested. "Ugly slag, etc etc" comes back.
Dozens of "hi, FAF, wot youse into"
Several "meet now"
Many "your missus is fit " (if you read the profile it's quite clear I write it as a female)
Lots of hundreds of miles away.
Several friends requests without even so much as a message
So that is what you are up against.
I speak to men regularly on here. I'm never going to meet them. But I enjoy the discourse with them.
People need to moderate their expectations; a message isn't a direct access pass into someone's knickers.
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This is an average day for most single women |
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By *abioMan 3 weeks ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ?? "
Nope… that’s a kop out… that’s already leaving yourself blameless
people here determine there own fates, whether they are single or couples, blokes or birds, black white yellow green fat thin tall short ect….
You do you…. What you is
think of fab as supplying you with a long piece of rope… at the ends you decide whether to just look at it, or string yourself up by the neck, or string yourself up by the balls |
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Just a thought , if some women are getting 100’s of requests it suggests their profiles aren’t filtering the types they are interested in . So as long as they are happy wasting their time reading messages and replying , or as it appears not replying , then that’s fine . I think a lot are just happy to elevate their egos by the number of messages they get. Get your profile fine tuned and respond to all your enquiries ladies. |
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Depends.
I honestly think if you have a decent profile and an iota of an idea how to comport yourself in a message the pushback should be fairly limited.
Same with clubs and social events.
As for the forums well there's all sorts here. Most of the shit guys get in the forum is from other guys. If you are new and you ask a question I could give you a short list of the profiles that are going to gaslight you and jeer for the craic.
One way or the other you'll always read more complaints than success stories in a forum like this.
The worst interactions I've had have been with entitled couples who would like to treat me like a stunt cock and the occasional inebriated husband at a social event who thinks I should fuck off and stop talking to his wife. Which of course I do, gladly. They get short shrift from me and even that doesn't happen often. |
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"think of fab as supplying you with a long piece of rope… at the ends you decide whether to just look at it, or string yourself up by the neck, or string yourself up by the balls"
Perhaps make a lasso and see if they can catch some of these pesky ladies? I'm sure some of them would be into that. 😆 |
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By *enk15Man 3 weeks ago
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Forget other males, forget the ratios and preconceptions.
Just be you, be proactive in communicating and meeting people (messages, forums, socials, clubs)
People will see and interact with the real you and judge you on your own merits.
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"Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ?? "
This is the classic (and regularly posted) rant by guys who assumed they were joining instashag. OP, I see you're blaming us women of FAB for your lack of success on the site. The simple fact is the only person you can blame for the lack of interest in you is you.
Us women are not obliged to come running to you simply because you send us a message. And we're not obliged to send you a message simply because we see your profile. That's the hard truth of the matter. On top of this forum posts such as this won't help your success rate. In fact it may get you added to a few block lists further diminishing your chance of finding a meet. |
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By *an8iMan 3 weeks ago
Bilston |
I'm always polite and respectful when messaging and always send a face pic if asked to in the profile aswell, 90% of the time there not read or I don't get a reply if they are which is fine because they probably receive hundreds a day, I've found it's better to look for a forum post and join in on the thread |
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By *jonesMan 3 weeks ago
Plymouth |
Most single guys in real life, in clubs , socials etc are pleasant charming chatty and good blokes.
It's just the online world that brings out the nutters.
I would say that most of the single guys have better interpersonal skills and come across better than most guys in couples ..from having had a couples profile with a lady and meeting couples. Certainly there is a wider range of choice.. |
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It’s a reductionist argument that frequents this thread regularly. Yes single men outnumber women on here, yes that probably plays into it to an extent.
I meet single men, ones who send me more nuanced messages than asking if I FAF, tell me in explicit detail what they want to do to me in their first message (because I love being treated like a sexual object 🙄), tell me they’re nearby today (ok well done?), or my personal nonfavourite - send me an unsolicited picture of their unimpressive dick, usually while sat on the toilet (which is illegal).
All of this to say, there are some very badly behaved men on this site (and couples and single ladies - don’t come for me). Message filters can only go so far to solve the problem |
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From the perspective of a man "shopping" available guys for his wife.
50% are clueless how to maturely make an approach, 25% we aren't into, of the other 25% we would love to give a chance but let's say within a month that's 50 guys. Due to work schedules we get 2-4 nights a month for this.
5% stand out for one reason or another but even then we already have relations we are building that we try to prioritize.
Sorry for the long post, all this to say what has already been said numbers are not in your favor but, couples like us greatly appreciate the men here and when we find one that everything clicks, man it can't be beat. |
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"I get treated like a piece of meat.
Wouldn't it be nice if men treated women how women treat men, and vice versa.
How many men would love to be treated like a piece of meat by hundreds of women, I wonder.
I reckon that would depend on who you spoke to. "
I certainly don’t want to be treated like a piece of meat & It does feel way occasionally.
I can sex pretty much whenever I want from multiple partners so why would I accept being treated badly ? I expect it’s the same for most women & a lot of guys who’ve been here for a while.
There’s just a bunch of complete pricks & it’s mostly men.when they can’t get laid they also try it on with & abuse guys who reject them!
Just filter them out / ignore them - it’s not difficult. |
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I've had a lovely time on here as a single guy, met some awesome singles and couples.
Do messages go unread, absolutely. Do I care, absolutely not.
This site should be about community and exploring or enhancing your sex life.
Fab should never define it in it's entirety.
I'd much rather find out about the person/people first anyway, because I'm NEVER and repeat, NEVER, going to sleep with anyone who doesn't like 80's/90's classics movies.
Oh, what's that, you hate Jurassic Park?... I'm out.
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"And let me give you a snap shot of 24hrs
Our profile is open to men, but only for the forum. Sadly the site isn't sophisticated enough to then NOT show "interested in single men"
However. You will find no reference to wanting single men on our profile.
Examples of yesterday
Semi polite message from man. No thank you from me. "Why" comes back. Explain I'm not interested. "Ugly slag, etc etc" comes back.
Dozens of "hi, FAF, wot youse into"
Several "meet now"
Many "your missus is fit " (if you read the profile it's quite clear I write it as a female)
Lots of hundreds of miles away.
Several friends requests without even so much as a message
So that is what you are up against.
I speak to men regularly on here. I'm never going to meet them. But I enjoy the discourse with them.
People need to moderate their expectations; a message isn't a direct access pass into someone's knickers.
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This is quite it, we've had most be polite but a lot do become rude when you do not reply instantly or say sorry because of mileage or compatibility or i just don't feel a connection.
We will answer to as many as we have time to sit on here with work/family commitments as per most do and obs. Those who tick our boxes first 
We have found out a few 'single' men are not and cheating (prior to us having a physical meet) and we do not go into that type and that's MY choice. |
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"I keep hoping Micheal J Fox can somehow play Marty again. "
I love him, those movies, and the sound track. Everything about them is perfect film!
Also the reason why I love chuck berry, and guitar music. |
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"I keep hoping Micheal J Fox can somehow play Marty again.
I love him, those movies, and the sound track. Everything about them is perfect film!
Also the reason why I love chuck berry, and guitar music. "
I have to be honest. I'll give you the BTF, after that I'll take Teen Wolfe. |
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"And let me give you a snap shot of 24hrs
Our profile is open to men, but only for the forum. Sadly the site isn't sophisticated enough to then NOT show "interested in single men"
However. You will find no reference to wanting single men on our profile.
Examples of yesterday
Semi polite message from man. No thank you from me. "Why" comes back. Explain I'm not interested. "Ugly slag, etc etc" comes back.
Dozens of "hi, FAF, wot youse into"
Several "meet now"
Many "your missus is fit " (if you read the profile it's quite clear I write it as a female)
Lots of hundreds of miles away.
Several friends requests without even so much as a message
So that is what you are up against.
I speak to men regularly on here. I'm never going to meet them. But I enjoy the discourse with them.
People need to moderate their expectations; a message isn't a direct access pass into someone's knickers.
This is quite it, we've had most be polite but a lot do become rude when you do not reply instantly or say sorry because of mileage or compatibility or i just don't feel a connection.
We will answer to as many as we have time to sit on here with work/family commitments as per most do and obs. Those who tick our boxes first
We have found out a few 'single' men are not and cheating (prior to us having a physical meet) and we do not go into that type and that's MY choice."
I have to be honest we haven't dealt with rude responses. Is it because I'm rude and if we aren't interested or available i usually just don't respond? |
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I don’t know where all this anti couples stuff is coming from. Some of my best experiences have been made while visiting couples. None of them seem to be about anymore. Makes sense that they were older than I was back then, they run out of road.
I try these days, not much success at 58 years old, but I don’t blame anyone else for that. |
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"Dick is abundant and of low value
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And yet no less mediocre than the average woman's quim, and still of higher value than most below-average couples."
Getting dick is easy, and therefore low value. Other groups are in shorter supply and therefore higher demand. You only have to go to any swingers club to see that women and couples are in much higher demand than men. |
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"Dick is abundant and of low value
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And yet no less mediocre than the average woman's quim, and still of higher value than most below-average couples.
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Getting dick is easy, and therefore low value. Other groups are in shorter supply and therefore higher demand. You only have to go to any swingers club to see that women and couples are in much higher demand than men."
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Volumetrics, demand, numbers...has no bearing on quality or value. If we go by your descriptive then this place is awash with couples. Ergo they must all be lacklustre and offering mediocrity. |
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"There's no issue with single guys, there's issues with compatibility, attraction and communication. If you don't have all three of those with someone, it's just not going to go anywhere. Men would be happier on here if they only messaged the people they truly thought would be a match for them. Spend more energy on building quality connections rather than moaning about the ones that aren't for you."
I mostly agree with this apart from that last little bit about guys messaging people they think would be a match for them. Sometimes it's tough to know whose type you are which can make guys hesitant to make contact and when they do, the lack of response can be disappointing and it can feel like out of the already small pool of people, even they don't want to chat. The self doubt of whether you're good enough or can truly provide what women want can be a tough thing to handle... |
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Easiest way to work out your ‘competition’ so to speak is turn on your who is local nearby then have a look, it’s 90 percent men 9 percent couples and one lady, now that lady should have filters set in place when in reality the best way for a lady to use this site is to spend the majority of the time on here with profile hidden. Only popping up now and again to allow the site to work for her benefit, this place is a tool in which people use to facilitate conversation and happenings, some tools are better than others OP, gods speed and a fair wind |
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"Mostvguys on here are not single, and a lot of women have issues with cheating scumbags, also they havevabout 75,060,341 messages everyday so chances of them reading or responding are quite slim"
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That's interesting. Most of the women I met in 2024 weren't single, and they messaged first. Perhaps the moral compass of most women requires realignment. |
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"Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ?? "
Are you one of those guys who think we're all here for the same thing?...
Seeing that from a lot of guys and it annoys me tbh. We're not all here for the same thing at all |
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"Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ??
Are you one of those guys who think we're all here for the same thing?...
Seeing that from a lot of guys and it annoys me tbh. We're not all here for the same thing at all "
All women like a bit of a bad boy though don't they? |
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"Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ??
Are you one of those guys who think we're all here for the same thing?...
Seeing that from a lot of guys and it annoys me tbh. We're not all here for the same thing at all
All women like a bit of a bad boy though don't they?"
I doubt ALL women do  |
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"You'll see quite a lot of single man bashing in the forum which might well lead you to believe that they're not too highly thought of.
Have you had many positive interactions?"
Hi I’ve chatted to literally a handful of people, I have read quite a few other guys profiles and to be honest I got the impression early on that the ratio of men was massively higher than females and I totally agree there is quite a few disrespectful pushy guys that ruin it for the genuine ones, I wrote on the forum to get feedback and clarity however a few seemed to get the impression I was moaning. Thank you you for taking the time to read and reply. Paul |
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"And let me give you a snap shot of 24hrs
Our profile is open to men, but only for the forum. Sadly the site isn't sophisticated enough to then NOT show "interested in single men"
However. You will find no reference to wanting single men on our profile.
Examples of yesterday
Semi polite message from man. No thank you from me. "Why" comes back. Explain I'm not interested. "Ugly slag, etc etc" comes back.
Dozens of "hi, FAF, wot youse into"
Several "meet now"
Many "your missus is fit " (if you read the profile it's quite clear I write it as a female)
Lots of hundreds of miles away.
Several friends requests without even so much as a message
So that is what you are up against.
I speak to men regularly on here. I'm never going to meet them. But I enjoy the discourse with them.
People need to moderate their expectations; a message isn't a direct access pass into someone's knickers.
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I've done this on a few sites years ago. Set up a female profile on here. No picture. Put bare minimum details in, average height, nothing stand out.
Wait ten minutes. Not that you need to. You probably already have a few messages by the time your profile had the minimum details in. They have no idea what you look like. Barely know anything about You. You will likely have had more messages sent to you first than you ever had before and your profile will get loads of messages through the day. I left fake accounts up for a day and had more messages sent to me than I had ever had in my life as a guy. Some were fine but boring. Hi how are you. Nice pics. Some were straight into kink with no idea if I'm into it from profile. I had guys asking to breed me. Guys asking if they could be my cuck boyfriend. Twenty 50 shades wannabes. It's a part time job getting through that inbox. If I put a picture up and some kinks I'd probably get significantly more.
So what's wrong with single men? Some of them. Nothing at all. Most won't have much interest or replies because unlike us their inbox is full of people and quickly only the most interesting to meet are the ones that get attention. Lots of guys aren't great at communicating,and communicate in a way they wished women would communicate with them. So unsolicited dick pics. Right in with what they want to do to you, not looking at your profile and not trying to find something on it you can use as an ice breaker or make the message relevant. All of it is off putting. On my profile with my gf we put no single guys to message first, we will find them. Know how many guys listen to that? Not many
on here or making their profile interesting enough to read. So you get ignored.
It's not that there is an issue with single guys it's just there are so many
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"Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ??
Are you one of those guys who think we're all here for the same thing?...
Seeing that from a lot of guys and it annoys me tbh. We're not all here for the same thing at all
All women like a bit of a bad boy though don't they?"
No they don't! |
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"Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ?? "
Ive heard horror stories from ladies on here about the messages they receive and behaviours of a significant hopefully minority of guys ehich would really open your eyes. It certainly did mine - I considered myself quite broad minded and well travelled - but some of the messages sound like they have been written by convicted offenders in a secure institution - the complete depersonalisation of a woman to an object that they expect to happily satisfy their basest desires… im not white knighting here some on here are properly certifiable. So women naturally are very cautious but also the ratios between women & men o here make it very difficult to stand out from the herd. Establish yourself as one of the good ones and you might find you’re not actually a leper just new |
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"Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ?? "
Not my experience at all.
If that were true I'd have left after 17 minutes. I've been here 17 years.
Still waiting for that Calvin contract to drop through the letterbox too. 🤷♂️ |
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"Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ??
Not my experience at all.
If that were true I'd have left after 17 minutes. I've been here 17 years.
Still waiting for that Calvin contract to drop through the letterbox too. 🤷♂️"
Im holding out for ferrero rocher & lager!! |
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"And let me give you a snap shot of 24hrs
Our profile is open to men, but only for the forum. Sadly the site isn't sophisticated enough to then NOT show "interested in single men"
However. You will find no reference to wanting single men on our profile.
Examples of yesterday
Semi polite message from man. No thank you from me. "Why" comes back. Explain I'm not interested. "Ugly slag, etc etc" comes back.
Dozens of "hi, FAF, wot youse into"
Several "meet now"
Many "your missus is fit " (if you read the profile it's quite clear I write it as a female)
Lots of hundreds of miles away.
Several friends requests without even so much as a message
So that is what you are up against.
I speak to men regularly on here. I'm never going to meet them. But I enjoy the discourse with them.
People need to moderate their expectations; a message isn't a direct access pass into someone's knickers.
This! "
Excatly this and the amount of single men who ask if the lady will meet alone |
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"Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ?? "
Interesting OP. I actually am built very athletically, hence my username. Although ironically even though polite I have been accused of being fake, photoshopped and catfishing or even making the other person overwhelmed. No I don’t have my pics on display as people know me professionally in my area. So I see your point but it’s not always about being a single guy. |
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"Hi everyone, can someone please enlighten me on what is the big issue about being here on fab and being a single guy I mean if a single lady was to present herself here she would be welcomed with open arms by all yet a single fella seems to be somewhat of a lepper and people are extremely reluctant to either interact let alone meet unless we are all shaped like a god or the looks of a Calvin klein model or both ??
Interesting OP. I actually am built very athletically, hence my username. Although ironically even though polite I have been accused of being fake, photoshopped and catfishing or even making the other person overwhelmed. No I don’t have my pics on display as people know me professionally in my area. So I see your point but it’s not always about being a single guy. "
I totally agree with pretty much most of what people have said here, I’m always polite, I will always read people profiles and I would never impose myself on people that are just not interested in single guys, I thought my profile was a reflection of myself however I took it personal and after hearing the comments that’s on me. I wasn’t moaning and I certainly wasn’t aiming my assumptions on any females. Thanks to all that posted my apologies if I may of offended anyone |
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