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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman? "
I haven't...
But interestingly, do men EVER really get compliments? It's quite often discussed in and around men's mental health that men realise early on that they won't often (if ever) get compliments and is usually why most guys struggle to accept them without laughing them off.
If you've got a fella in your life that is a pretty good egg and you want to make his day (if not his whole week), give him a spontaneous compliment and a hug and watch how he reacts. |
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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman?
I haven't...
But interestingly, do men EVER really get compliments? It's quite often discussed in and around men's mental health that men realise early on that they won't often (if ever) get compliments and is usually why most guys struggle to accept them without laughing them off.
If you've got a fella in your life that is a pretty good egg and you want to make his day (if not his whole week), give him a spontaneous compliment and a hug and watch how he reacts."
I guess they don't in the way that women do. Women will compliment each other easily. Men and women complimenting each other is a more complicated issue I feel. |
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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman?
I haven't...
But interestingly, do men EVER really get compliments? It's quite often discussed in and around men's mental health that men realise early on that they won't often (if ever) get compliments and is usually why most guys struggle to accept them without laughing them off.
If you've got a fella in your life that is a pretty good egg and you want to make his day (if not his whole week), give him a spontaneous compliment and a hug and watch how he reacts.
I guess they don't in the way that women do. Women will compliment each other easily. Men and women complimenting each other is a more complicated issue I feel. "
Is it only more complicated because of perceptions, preconceptions and assumptions?
I hear women at work regularly compliment other women but when men do it it's perceived to have some sort of sexual agenda (unless he'd gay).
Is that because history has taught us that there is or because society has told us that there is?
But yes, it's more complex outside of relationships but that shouldn't be the case in relationships. In my experience, there has always been an imbalance there too. |
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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman?
I haven't...
But interestingly, do men EVER really get compliments? It's quite often discussed in and around men's mental health that men realise early on that they won't often (if ever) get compliments and is usually why most guys struggle to accept them without laughing them off.
If you've got a fella in your life that is a pretty good egg and you want to make his day (if not his whole week), give him a spontaneous compliment and a hug and watch how he reacts.
I guess they don't in the way that women do. Women will compliment each other easily. Men and women complimenting each other is a more complicated issue I feel.
Is it only more complicated because of perceptions, preconceptions and assumptions?
I hear women at work regularly compliment other women but when men do it it's perceived to have some sort of sexual agenda (unless he'd gay).
Is that because history has taught us that there is or because society has told us that there is?
But yes, it's more complex outside of relationships but that shouldn't be the case in relationships. In my experience, there has always been an imbalance there too."
I think perceptions and preconceptions are unavoidable and will always complicate matters.
I will always assume a man I don't know well has an agenda if he compliments me because experience has taught me that is the case 99% of the time.
I agree that in relationships we should tell people that we appreciate them, they look nice, etc etc |
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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman? "
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Yes, frequently. I ask them "which one?", for when you're a quintessential philanderer like me who has a paramour in every city and every port from Lake Geneva to the Finland whaling station, it's hard to keep up.
I may be lucky but rest assured they are luckier. 🧸 |
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By *essaMayWoman 4 weeks ago
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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman?
I haven't...
But interestingly, do men EVER really get compliments? It's quite often discussed in and around men's mental health that men realise early on that they won't often (if ever) get compliments and is usually why most guys struggle to accept them without laughing them off.
If you've got a fella in your life that is a pretty good egg and you want to make his day (if not his whole week), give him a spontaneous compliment and a hug and watch how he reacts."
Maybe if I had i wouldn't have lost him.
As they say. You don't know what you had until it is gone.
I believe many women are just as guilty as guys for taking their partners for granted. We have a stereotypical view of what out man should be, men in general.
Wish I could tell him all the things I should have, when we were together.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman?
I haven't...
But interestingly, do men EVER really get compliments? It's quite often discussed in and around men's mental health that men realise early on that they won't often (if ever) get compliments and is usually why most guys struggle to accept them without laughing them off.
If you've got a fella in your life that is a pretty good egg and you want to make his day (if not his whole week), give him a spontaneous compliment and a hug and watch how he reacts.
Maybe if I had i wouldn't have lost him.
As they say. You don't know what you had until it is gone.
I believe many women are just as guilty as guys for taking their partners for granted. We have a stereotypical view of what out man should be, men in general.
Wish I could tell him all the things I should have, when we were together. "
Sorry to hear that, and it'll be scanty consolation but I think most people have a similar story. Sometimes we learn the lesson too late.
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman?
I haven't...
But interestingly, do men EVER really get compliments? It's quite often discussed in and around men's mental health that men realise early on that they won't often (if ever) get compliments and is usually why most guys struggle to accept them without laughing them off.
If you've got a fella in your life that is a pretty good egg and you want to make his day (if not his whole week), give him a spontaneous compliment and a hug and watch how he reacts.
I guess they don't in the way that women do. Women will compliment each other easily. Men and women complimenting each other is a more complicated issue I feel.
Is it only more complicated because of perceptions, preconceptions and assumptions?
I hear women at work regularly compliment other women but when men do it it's perceived to have some sort of sexual agenda (unless he'd gay).
Is that because history has taught us that there is or because society has told us that there is?
But yes, it's more complex outside of relationships but that shouldn't be the case in relationships. In my experience, there has always been an imbalance there too.
I think perceptions and preconceptions are unavoidable and will always complicate matters.
I will always assume a man I don't know well has an agenda if he compliments me because experience has taught me that is the case 99% of the time.
I agree that in relationships we should tell people that we appreciate them, they look nice, etc etc "
I find that 99% affirmation interesting... I bet you can't back it up, and that's fine. We all do it so I'm not calling you out. Just highlights to me the habits we accept shape our world.
You mentioned to someone on a previous thread about not being able to help themselves being wrong (I think it was about cheating) and I agree. We choose our behaviours and habits.
And because it's happened often, doesn't mean it's nearly always the case due to confirmation bias. You may receive 100 compliments, 10 are with an agenda but you only "think" you've received 11 compliments.
And even if it's a majority of cases, is it fair to tar everyone with the same brush? What's the worst that could happen if you assume it's meant with friendly intent until proven wrong? As soon as they show their true colours, you can react accordingly to them.
Anyway, I just find it interesting how people think... |
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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman?
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Yes, frequently. I ask them "which one?", for when you're a quintessential philanderer like me who has a paramour in every city and every port from Lake Geneva to the Finland whaling station, it's hard to keep up.
I may be lucky but rest assured they are luckier. 🧸"
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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman?
I haven't...
But interestingly, do men EVER really get compliments? It's quite often discussed in and around men's mental health that men realise early on that they won't often (if ever) get compliments and is usually why most guys struggle to accept them without laughing them off.
If you've got a fella in your life that is a pretty good egg and you want to make his day (if not his whole week), give him a spontaneous compliment and a hug and watch how he reacts.
I guess they don't in the way that women do. Women will compliment each other easily. Men and women complimenting each other is a more complicated issue I feel.
Is it only more complicated because of perceptions, preconceptions and assumptions?
I hear women at work regularly compliment other women but when men do it it's perceived to have some sort of sexual agenda (unless he'd gay).
Is that because history has taught us that there is or because society has told us that there is?
But yes, it's more complex outside of relationships but that shouldn't be the case in relationships. In my experience, there has always been an imbalance there too.
I think perceptions and preconceptions are unavoidable and will always complicate matters.
I will always assume a man I don't know well has an agenda if he compliments me because experience has taught me that is the case 99% of the time.
I agree that in relationships we should tell people that we appreciate them, they look nice, etc etc
I find that 99% affirmation interesting... I bet you can't back it up, and that's fine. We all do it so I'm not calling you out. Just highlights to me the habits we accept shape our world.
You mentioned to someone on a previous thread about not being able to help themselves being wrong (I think it was about cheating) and I agree. We choose our behaviours and habits.
And because it's happened often, doesn't mean it's nearly always the case due to confirmation bias. You may receive 100 compliments, 10 are with an agenda but you only "think" you've received 11 compliments.
And even if it's a majority of cases, is it fair to tar everyone with the same brush? What's the worst that could happen if you assume it's meant with friendly intent until proven wrong? As soon as they show their true colours, you can react accordingly to them.
Anyway, I just find it interesting how people think... "
My experience has definitely been that 99% of men that I don't know well have an agenda if they compliment me. The pertinent phrase here is 'that I don't know well'.
Have you just told me that what I have experienced in my adult life isn't what I think I've experienced ? |
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"When I was in a threesum with a couple that I knew for years she said she liked my cock & I was better at licking her pussy, I don't know if he knew ?? "
I don't know if you have a wife but in a roundabout way she was saying she was lucky if you did |
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"When I was in a threesum with a couple that I knew for years she said she liked my cock & I was better at licking her pussy, I don't know if he knew ??
I don't know if you have a wife but in a roundabout way she was saying she was lucky if you did"
Yea I did a girlfriend who new we swung tried it but didn't want to carry on I carried on in 3sum as she had a high sex drive |
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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman?
No on that one
My wife passed away
Think I’m classed as widowed
Sorry to hear that "
It happens to lot of us unfortunately
Lose our wives and husband’s we cope try move on a lot time it’s hard but we try our best  |
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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman?
No on that one
My wife passed away
Think I’m classed as widowed
Sorry to hear that
It happens to lot of us unfortunately
Lose our wives and husband’s we cope try move on a lot time it’s hard but we try our best "
Yes it must be hard. My mum died nearly three years ago, her and my dad had been married 67 years. He's adjusting to living alone in his mid nineties and doing remarkably well. |
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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman?
No on that one
My wife passed away
Think I’m classed as widowed
Sorry to hear that
It happens to lot of us unfortunately
Lose our wives and husband’s we cope try move on a lot time it’s hard but we try our best
Yes it must be hard. My mum died nearly three years ago, her and my dad had been married 67 years. He's adjusting to living alone in his mid nineties and doing remarkably well. "
Good to hear he’s doing well  |
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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman? "
I used to get messages from both men and women to tell me I was punching with my ex and how lucky I was
It used to fuck me off tbh
It's hardly flattering- definite you're a munter, but your other half is hot" vibes |
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I'm my experience, the only compliments i ever receive are from people that only want or need something.
At least half of all men have never received a compliment. Especially from the opposite sex. |
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"ever get messages from women telling them their wife is a very lucky woman?
I used to get messages from both men and women to tell me I was punching with my ex and how lucky I was
It used to fuck me off tbh
It's hardly flattering- definite you're a munter, but your other half is hot" vibes"
Yeah. On our daughter's wedding day all her husband's friends were saying he was punching above his weight. I know they were trying to be complimentary but 🤷 |
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"I'm my experience, the only compliments i ever receive are from people that only want or need something.
At least half of all men have never received a compliment. Especially from the opposite sex."
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