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Right people I want to try this lifestyle with my partner she is she but it does come up when d*unk girl on girl and same room sex with another couple how can I bring this up sober and best way to start convo we started this page when we was d*unk now only I go on here |
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"Right people I want to try this lifestyle with my partner she is she but it does come up when d*unk girl on girl and same room sex with another couple how can I bring this up sober and best way to start convo we started this page when we was d*unk now only I go on here"
Work on your relationship, if you're in a place the relationship is breakiningndown then this lifestyle is certainly not for you |
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"Our relationship ain’t breaking it’s the best it’s been for 18 years that’s why I think now could be a good time to bring it up but struggling with how to start convo off"
“Hey do you remember when we got d*unk and you talked about watching another couple fuck? Fancy giving it a go?” |
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"Our relationship ain’t breaking it’s the best it’s been for 18 years that’s why I think now could be a good time to bring it up but struggling with how to start convo off"
Maybe update your bio op
You've written that your relationship broke down.
I'll give the same advice I give on all these same threads, talk to her openly, when you're both sober.
Ask her if she's genuinely interested in exploring the things you say you've discussed after a drink.Ask her what her fantasies are and how you can achieve those together & explain what yours are.
If she shows any interest you could let her have a look on here and then maybe set up a joint profile, so she can see what's on offer etc.
If she says no, it's just a fantasy you'll have to accept that. Swinging won't be for all and not all men/women like the actual reality of adding others into their relationship.
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By *bi HaiveMan 3 weeks ago
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"Our relationship ain’t breaking it’s the best it’s been for 18 years that’s why I think now could be a good time to bring it up but struggling with how to start convo off"
Is she aware you're on here and would you be happy showing her the profile as it stands now? |
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Next time you talk about it when you've had a drink agree on a day and time to discuss it sober. Tell your smart speaker to remind you and stick to it.
Be prepared for her to say it's not something she wants in the cold light of day |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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Or how about suggesting going to a club just to watch other let other watch you . Maybe suggest weekend away not near where you live. I had a ex that when well away from home behaved totaly different was more relax. |
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By (user no longer on site) 3 weeks ago
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I've no idea if you're in a good place or not but if you're unable to simply bring up the topic for conversation when sober then I'd have to say that your relationship needs a little work first. This lifestyle demands open and honest communication between couples so the fact you can't seem to be open and honest when sober means that you won't be able to speak about your feelings as you try things.
I've I've missed the mark and everything is 100% tickety boo then just mention a previous d*unken conversation and as if it's really something she'd like to try or not. D*unk me and sober me have very different ideas about life. |
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"Right people I want to try this lifestyle with my partner she is she but it does come up when d*unk girl on girl and same room sex with another couple how can I bring this up sober and best way to start convo we started this page when we was d*unk now only I go on here"
To be honest, were you pissed when you wrote this? |
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By *a LunaWoman 3 weeks ago
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Everything seems like a good idea when you’ve had a few drinks OP, be it a Kebab or a threesome.
But in the cold light of day (and when sober) reality sets in.
Prepare for it to be a no go - and then if she says yes it’s a pleasant surprise. But I wouldn’t force the issue if she says no. |
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I won’t force nothing if she don’t want to I have to live with it as a fantasy she means more to me than a fantasy but if we could fill it together would be amazing n she had been with a girl in house in front of me |
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"Our relationship ain’t breaking it’s the best it’s been for 18 years that’s why I think now could be a good time to bring it up but struggling with how to start convo off
“Hey do you remember when we got d*unk and you talked about watching another couple fuck? Fancy giving it a go?”"
Spot on |
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"Same situation how do I get her to take the plunge so want to see her with another man "
You don’t get someone to do something and it’s not about you wanting to see her, it’s about you jointly wanting to explore. |
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