For a casual hook up distance is not too much of an issue.. as more than a one off hook up I think it’d become an issue, despite amazing chemistry… the usual schedule conflicts etc and then add in travel time just makes it more than it’s worth |
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By *oxy-Red OP Woman 3 days ago
pink panther territory |
"Is distance a barrier for you
Or would you say sod it if he/she had was already having a very sexual affect on you
My face is the barrier so I can’t give you any advice sorry 😁"
I doubt that  |
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"Is distance a barrier for you
Or would you say sod it if he/she had was already having a very sexual affect on you
My face is the barrier so I can’t give you any advice sorry 😁"
I'm in the same boat as my mate here 😂
Distance itself doesn't bother me, I travel all over the UK for work anyway 🤷 |
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By *ir tootMan 3 days ago
Burton-on-Trent |
"Nope unless they live on the other side of the pond I'll travel eventually!
Bloody trains I hate them though..
I'd jump on a plane for the right person  "
Id jump on a train for the right person.  |
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By *oxy-Red OP Woman 3 days ago
pink panther territory |
"Nope unless they live on the other side of the pond I'll travel eventually!
Bloody trains I hate them though..
I'd jump on a plane for the right person
Id jump on a train for the right person. "
Glad to hear it |
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Absolutely it is. I’ve met guys from further afield but they tend to be the exception.
I guess I’m sceptical when a guy says he’ll travel fairly far for a social with no guarantees, when I struggle so much getting local guys to show up. |
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By *ir tootMan 3 days ago
Burton-on-Trent |
"Absolutely it is. I’ve met guys from further afield but they tend to be the exception.
I guess I’m sceptical when a guy says he’ll travel fairly far for a social with no guarantees, when I struggle so much getting local guys to show up."
Me personally if I'm going to spend a stupid amount of money on a Train ticket you bet your bum I'm showing up.
Csnt stand being at home anyway so. 🤷♂️ |
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"Absolutely it is. I’ve met guys from further afield but they tend to be the exception.
I guess I’m sceptical when a guy says he’ll travel fairly far for a social with no guarantees, when I struggle so much getting local guys to show up."
Travelling for socials is worth it if you know others in the area already- so you can combine the social with hanging out with friends or other connections. And it means that it’s simply a social for you. |
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By *ir tootMan 3 days ago
Burton-on-Trent |
"Nope unless they live on the other side of the pond I'll travel eventually!
Bloody trains I hate them though..
I'd jump on a plane for the right person
Id jump on a train for the right person.
Glad to hear it "
Indeed.  |
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Distance can have an impact even with the right person.
When you have a connection with someone it's important to maintain that with regular contact. When that's not possible due to distance or opportunity then I think the connection is going to fade eventually  |
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By *oxy-Red OP Woman 3 days ago
pink panther territory |
"Nope unless they live on the other side of the pond I'll travel eventually!
Bloody trains I hate them though..
I'd jump on a plane for the right person
Id jump on a train for the right person.
Glad to hear it
Indeed. "
You best get that ticket bought then
Il sort the Baileys |
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By *ony MannMan 3 days ago
Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura |
Foxy, I have travelled 3 hours just to see a lady more than once.
The first time, I would never travel just for the lady, I would include her in other arrangements.
I do have a lady I travel 3 hours just to see her, she is half of BiFruityCouple, well worth the trip. |
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"Is distance a barrier for you
Or would you say sod it if he/she had was already having a very sexual affect on you"
Distance is no barrier for me to travel to meet genuine people. Meets are difficult to find, genuine people are in short supply, so I put the effort into getting to them. |
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By *oxy-Red OP Woman 3 days ago
pink panther territory |
"Foxy, I have travelled 3 hours just to see a lady more than once.
The first time, I would never travel just for the lady, I would include her in other arrangements.
I do have a lady I travel 3 hours just to see her, she is half of BiFruityCouple, well worth the trip."
That is really good to know |
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By *ir tootMan 3 days ago
Burton-on-Trent |
"Nope unless they live on the other side of the pond I'll travel eventually!
Bloody trains I hate them though..
I'd jump on a plane for the right person
Id jump on a train for the right person.
Glad to hear it
Indeed.
You best get that ticket bought then
Il sort the Baileys "
Will do. |
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It's a barrier I have to overcome because for whatever reason there just aren't huge numbers of people I vibe with where I live. If I want to see more than say two of my friends in a weekend, I have to drive 80 miles to Bristol.
If I'm using dating apps like Tinder etc, even if I set my radius relatively close (50 miles) it's like tumble round here, 99 percent of my matches are in Cardiff, Swansea, Newport etc - 50 miles as the crow flies, 150+ by car.
So yeah I am prepared to travel but by the same token, all my Welsh hotties have multiple options that don't have to drive two hours for a coffee and a vibe check/first date/multiple dates. So yeah, it's really one-sided. And I can't move elsewhere at the moment because the only reason I still live in Devon is because I have a dependent elderly parent who can't manage without me nearby. Not gonna lie it isn't how I saw this period of my life playing out at all.
So consider this an impassioned plea to those who are in contact with people that are a bit of a distance away to please give us a chance! 🙏 |
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I tend to travel around the country a lot for social events with friends I’ve made all over, so distance is no barrier with a bit of planning.
Obviously I’m not going to drive for 4-5 hours for a random hook up with a stranger, but would think nothing of doing that for someone I know |
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By *eliWoman 3 days ago
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It's rare someone has a sexual effect on me before I've actually met them. Like, really f*cking rare. If a friendship is there? Then yes, I'm happy to travel. I like mini adventures, meeting new people. Sometimes it can be difficult making things sync up, work, family commitments etc but if I really want to spend time with someone I find a way to make it happen. |
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It's definitely a barrier, but one that can be climbed over if the timing is right.
Just needs more organisation and enough time to make it worthwhile. I probably wouldn't travel (or expect anyone to travel) for a quickie lol. The longer the distance, the longer I would hope we get to spend together.
Not often I actually get to meet people from miles away though. |
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"It's rare someone has a sexual effect on me before I've actually met them. Like, really f*cking rare. If a friendship is there? Then yes, I'm happy to travel. I like mini adventures, meeting new people. Sometimes it can be difficult making things sync up, work, family commitments etc but if I really want to spend time with someone I find a way to make it happen. "
Some of my best times meeting new people in new surroundings and life adventures |
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Huge barrier for me. I won’t know until we’ve met if I fancy you. I don’t want the pressure. Also because of the hoops that have to be gotten through to establish attraction and chemistry, I’d like it more regularly than distance allows. |
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I had a rule of thumb of settling for 100 mile radius from Woking.
That's changed though after being let down countless of times. Nothing worse than getting ready, driving 90 mins to a meeting point only for the people you've been talking to fail to turn up and ghost you. There are too many fucking arseholes on this site.
So due to my experiences, I drive no further than 40 miles.
So yes,it is an issue for me |
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By *oxy-Red OP Woman 3 days ago
pink panther territory |
My youngest son met his fiance playing some game on the xbox,6months later she came all the way from Georgia in the US to visit her mate in York called to visit my son on her way back ......
2years down the line they live together over here |
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"My youngest son met his fiance playing some game on the xbox,6months later she came all the way from Georgia in the US to visit her mate in York called to visit my son on her way back ......
2years down the line they live together over here"
That's lovely
XX |
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By *oxy-Red OP Woman 3 days ago
pink panther territory |
"My youngest son met his fiance playing some game on the xbox,6months later she came all the way from Georgia in the US to visit her mate in York called to visit my son on her way back ......
2years down the line they live together over here
That's lovely
XX"
It is cos she's really lovely xx |
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Very much depends. If I meet someone at a club I have amazing chemistry with and we become friends I'm happy to travel when I can (within reason).
For new people on fab it's unlikely, if they want to travel to me I'd consider it.
The biggest barrier for me when it comes to distance is not being able to drive. |
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"Being claustrophobic and scared of being locked in a plane for hours is a barrier for me.
Also, money, as flights and hotels aren't cheap.
I also need to renew my passport.
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And airports on my own. |
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By *ony MannMan 3 days ago
Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura |
"What is annoying is spending hours getting ready, and travelling for hours, to find the other person just wanted a quick fuck and go.
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My two long distance ladies, I always stay over for a few nights |
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By *ripfillMan 3 days ago
Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant |
Distance is not an issue … it’s the person that matters
It’s the compatibility that counts …
Making the effort shows … and pays off !
Meets should not be “ cheap “ but valued and effort to travel and make it rewarding for both parties is paramount in my view
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It's a barrier paired with time constraints. But it doesn't make it impossible with those that you really want to meet.
It just takes a bit of understanding on both parts and a little organisation, nothing is forever.  |
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I guess it all depends on what you are after on fab. If it's spontaneous meets then it obviously will be a barrier but if all parties are looking for a bit more of a connection/fwb etc with a bit planning I personally wouldn't find it an issue. Mind I live in a small town and can't drive so most my meets would require a little planning so I may be a little bias |
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"Is distance a barrier for you
Or would you say sod it if he/she had was already having a very sexual affect on you"
distance isn't a barrier but I wouldn't travel over 60ish miles for potential sex, I can go into Donny and pull far easier |
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It's time constraints for me plus finances I'd drive 2 hours on somedays or train 2 hours but that only alloys 2 hours to social or play but I'd do it for someone I'd hope wasn't going to let me down, as said previously that's the sort of thing that would make me want to quit trying tbh and live like a monk cars aren't 2 bad maybe extra 20/30 in fuel |
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By *opeyXWoman 2 days ago
Dun Dee |
"Is distance a barrier for you
Or would you say sod it if he/she had was already having a very sexual affect on you"
Yeah I prefer local, its easier time wise, especially when your in the mood and its a fwb situation and your meeting regular.
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By *hoirCouple 2 days ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"Is distance a barrier for you
Or would you say sod it if he/she had was already having a very sexual affect on you"
In the past I have travelled massive distances for people.
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Conceptually it isn't an issue for me. But when you turn to practical realities, it is. I don't have many available evenings (c. 5 a month), so I don't have time (nor can I afford) to be travelling long distances. If I met someone to see repeatedly, and they always travelled to me, I think I'd probably feel uncomfortable about requiring that of them.
So overall yeah, it's an issue - because of my circumstances. |
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Distance is a very real barrier for one off / 1st meets
I tend to allow 90 min travel maximum and even that is a huge if ..
If I have met them before daycare club somewhere / had lots of video chats so know real , get along ish Then I’d be ok travelling around .
Otherwise I try keep within 45 min usually for randoms |
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Distance itself isn't so much a barrier but it is harder to meet those that involve a lot of travel just because of the amount of time it takes. Having said that, I'm most excited about those that involve that level of planning as the connection for me is normally stronger as you're both putting in extra effort to see each other, and you tend to make the most of the time spent together. Sometimes though, I just like a spontaneous quick drink or more. That also makes me smile. |
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It can be, yes, because of practical considerations.
I say on my profile I'm only looking for those on the island of Ireland, and even at that it would be difficult for me to meet those at either extreme.
My working hours are spread throughout the week including weekends and I work a few late nights. I also have other commitments 3 times a week, so I don't have the available time to travel long distances, and I definitely don't have enough disposable income to jump on a plane at whim to meet someone in GB.
I wouldn't be comfortable with someone else making the journey either for a one off social...I'd feel like there was an expectation that we'd hit it off in person
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