For us, a key point is to approach socially at first. If your view would be that you’ve wasted your time talking if it goes nowhere sexually, I would see it as you’re coming at it wrongly.
There’s nothing wrong with hope of course but any kind of expectation, or resentment if it’s only a social interaction, would not be how we’d want to be approached.
Won’t be the same for everyone but we like to make contacts not purely get stuck straight in. |
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"For us, a key point is to approach socially at first. If your view would be that you’ve wasted your time talking if it goes nowhere sexually, I would see it as you’re coming at it wrongly.
There’s nothing wrong with hope of course but any kind of expectation, or resentment if it’s only a social interaction, would not be how we’d want to be approached.
Won’t be the same for everyone but we like to make contacts not purely get stuck straight in. "
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"I suppose it’s pretty simple really.
Introduce yourself and ask if you can join them for a drink/chat. "
This! I don't need anyone to join me when I'm in a club as I normally go with either my partner or my FWB. So if anyone wants to join us, they need to make a little bit of effort and talk to me like a person when I am chilling in the social area, not when I'm already playing. Also, do spend more than 30 seconds interacting before running off to other parts of the club or expecting to play. |
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"I suppose it’s pretty simple really.
Introduce yourself and ask if you can join them for a drink/chat. "
^^ This, but also engage with both parties don't just speak to the female half. Be polite and friendly and don't have any expectations. If something happens it happens don't try and force something. |
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