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Is it better to keep a fantasy than make it a reality ?
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So far the reality has exceeded each time. Picking the right people and good communication plays a huge part in that. Tonight B and I are going to discover if a certain one would've been better staying in my head but there's only one way to find out! 😬😈 |
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The truth is the reality rarely lives up to the fantasy, but that doesn't mean we in some cases we shouldn't make our fantasies real.
The problem is sometimes people overthink it and don't try. |
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I don't have the option of fantasising and never have done so for me everything is the reality, hence the thinking behind the choice of profile name.
I live in the present and take each day as it comes and am therefore rarely disappointed. |
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Our first threesome was not long ago... did it go as expected? No.
I was very naive in thinking it would TBH, I was so so sure of myself of having zero jealousy yet there it was, I'm seriously as far from a jealous person as you could meet. It was only a small spike but it took me off guard. It was only at the start but it did hold me back a bit.
Alas it didn't hit that 'high' that I was expecting it to, however I still enjoyed it. I know now after speaking to many that it's rather common on firsts.
Would we do it again? For sure! We really want to and we are sure it will be explosive from the start this time.
Jay |
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"Just remember that the reality can be very different from a fantasy and can go very wrong."
I totally agree with you, and it is usually when people are out of their heads and thinking it’s a good idea at the time |
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"I've been someone's fantasy for 6 years and they've blown me out 4/5 times got a social coffee for various reasons.... I think at this stage reality would be a massive disappointment to them!"
Respectfully saying, they clearly don’t know what they were missing out on |
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"So far the reality has exceeded each time. Picking the right people and good communication plays a huge part in that. Tonight B and I are going to discover if a certain one would've been better staying in my head but there's only one way to find out! 😬😈"
So, this one wasn't. It was until we both forgot about my shitty shoulder and there was actual horrible pain rather than discomfort. Shows the importance of having safe signals as well as safe words. |
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"So far the reality has exceeded each time. Picking the right people and good communication plays a huge part in that. Tonight B and I are going to discover if a certain one would've been better staying in my head but there's only one way to find out! 😬😈
So, this one wasn't. It was until we both forgot about my shitty shoulder and there was actual horrible pain rather than discomfort. Shows the importance of having safe signals as well as safe words. "
My mind is boggling, what did you try! |
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"This is why I never meet anyone.
Why's that? Because you build a picture in your head and then end up disappointed at the real thing?
I'm the disappointment! 🤣
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Ouch. Why the low self esteem? If you were closer I would have seen that for myself. Not that I'm a catch or anything. |
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"So far the reality has exceeded each time. Picking the right people and good communication plays a huge part in that. Tonight B and I are going to discover if a certain one would've been better staying in my head but there's only one way to find out! 😬😈
So, this one wasn't. It was until we both forgot about my shitty shoulder and there was actual horrible pain rather than discomfort. Shows the importance of having safe signals as well as safe words.
My mind is boggling, what did you try!"
Messaged you. Not sure it's one for the forums 🫣 |
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