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Are cuddles inherently sexual?
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To set the scene, a hug is something you do to a mate as a greeting, or to console someone briefly.
A cuddle, however, is a prolonged and more intimate act that can be performed in a variety of positions including sitting and lying down. Examples include spooning for instance.
Even if there is no chance/intention for it to progress to a sexual act including deep kissing and touching of the usual erogenous zones, is the act of intimate cuddling as sexual act? |
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"If kissing or stroking while cuddling with someone I'm attracted to, then it can turn me on, and sex might happen, "
#This... I lost count of the amount of times I'd cuddle up with my ex who "wasn't in the mood" and after stroking her for 20 or 30 minutes without any expectation or prompting, she'd roll over and we'd start kissing. Next thing you know she's just had the best 60 seconds of her life! |
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"This reminds me of the foot massage dialogue in Pulp Fiction. 
A man would be unlikely to give a foot massage to the gender he's not attracted to - and it's the same with a cuddle. "
A foot massage is nothing like a cuddle. |
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"This reminds me of the foot massage dialogue in Pulp Fiction.
A man would be unlikely to give a foot massage to the gender he's not attracted to - and it's the same with a cuddle.
A foot massage is nothing like a cuddle."
It's the same vibe - intimate, borderline sexual undertones, and not something a straight man would give to another straight man. |
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"This reminds me of the foot massage dialogue in Pulp Fiction.
A man would be unlikely to give a foot massage to the gender he's not attracted to - and it's the same with a cuddle.
A foot massage is nothing like a cuddle.
It's the same vibe - intimate, borderline sexual undertones, and not something a straight man would give to another straight man."
I would be seen a manly man by most. I’m straight. I am not touching another man’s feet under an circumstances but I would happily cuddle another man. |
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"This reminds me of the foot massage dialogue in Pulp Fiction.
A man would be unlikely to give a foot massage to the gender he's not attracted to - and it's the same with a cuddle.
A foot massage is nothing like a cuddle.
It's the same vibe - intimate, borderline sexual undertones, and not something a straight man would give to another straight man.
I would be seen a manly man by most. I’m straight. I am not touching another man’s feet under an circumstances but I would happily cuddle another man. "
The fact that nobody has said "touchin' his lady's feet, and stickin' your tongue in her holiest of holies, ain't the same ballpark, ain't the same league, ain't even the same fuckin' sport" is very disappointing... I expected better off you lot. |
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By *aitonelMan 2 weeks ago
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"This reminds me of the foot massage dialogue in Pulp Fiction.
A man would be unlikely to give a foot massage to the gender he's not attracted to - and it's the same with a cuddle.
A foot massage is nothing like a cuddle.
It's the same vibe - intimate, borderline sexual undertones, and not something a straight man would give to another straight man."
That's just simple insecurity in embracing another man. There are straight male massage therapists that give foot massages all the time. Zero sexual undertones there.
A cuddle, is nothing more than an embrace and it's undertones are wrapped up in the intent.
How many people cuddle with their child? With their pets?
Honestly it's all about insecurity in touching another man and being viewed as anything but straight. |
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"This reminds me of the foot massage dialogue in Pulp Fiction.
A man would be unlikely to give a foot massage to the gender he's not attracted to - and it's the same with a cuddle.
A foot massage is nothing like a cuddle.
It's the same vibe - intimate, borderline sexual undertones, and not something a straight man would give to another straight man.
That's just simple insecurity in embracing another man. There are straight male massage therapists that give foot massages all the time. Zero sexual undertones there.
A cuddle, is nothing more than an embrace and it's undertones are wrapped up in the intent.
How many people cuddle with their child? With their pets?
Honestly it's all about insecurity in touching another man and being viewed as anything but straight."
Love it, but far too deep and profound for this site... |
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"Last time I made my point re this in a not so subtle way ... I got banned so I'm saying nothing 😂
Wuss! The censors have won!"
Well someone reported me because cuddles are more intimate than getting a facial from a guy.... apparently 🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻♂️ |
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" There are straight male massage therapists that give foot massages all the time. Zero sexual undertones there.That's transactional though."
There are transactional cuddle therapists too, with zero sexual undertones.
I ain't touching feet.
But if a friend of any gender asked me for a cuddle I wouldn't think twice about it. I've held friends while they sobbed and rubbed the aches out of shoulder muscles and none of it was sexual. But they're my friends. I can be intimate with my friends 💜 |
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I don’t really like cuddles. I’m happy to provide them if people close to me need them but it’s not something I seek for myself. I like my own personal space. I could never sleep tangled up with someone else. |
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"But if a friend of any gender asked me for a cuddle I wouldn't think twice about it. I've held friends while they sobbed and rubbed the aches out of shoulder muscles and none of it was sexual. But they're my friends. I can be intimate with my friends 💜"
I think (generally) men and women differ in this way - straight men are unlikely to hold hands or accompany each other to the toilets in a nightclub.  |
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"But if a friend of any gender asked me for a cuddle I wouldn't think twice about it. I've held friends while they sobbed and rubbed the aches out of shoulder muscles and none of it was sexual. But they're my friends. I can be intimate with my friends 💜I think (generally) men and women differ in this way - straight men are unlikely to hold hands or accompany each other to the toilets in a nightclub. "
Straight men should suck it up and realise that working so hard to look like real men is incredibly damaging to their own mental wellbeing with zero real benefit.
That said. I only hold hands with my partners and go to the bathroom alone on a night out 💜 |
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