In a relationship are you the giver, the receiver or both
Not sexually
Are you the person who needs all the attention, the affirmation or are you the one who does all of this or is it mutual and when required
How do you feel about needy people, people who say negative things hoping for positive attention or needing that constant affirmation
How do you feel about people who constantly want to please, in some ways feel they can change you |
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The first time you need attention from your partner, there's something wrong. I think people use the word needy to deflect their lack of giving to a relationship to make it their partners issue. Time and attention is important in any relationship to some extent but it's essential to have an equal give and take of it. |
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I always seem to give 110%, and then I get hurt when people don't put in the same amount of effort. It's my own doing, I've tried different approaches but relationships always pan out the same 🤦♀️
One of the many reasons I'm done with all of that  |
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"I always seem to give 110%, and then I get hurt when people don't put in the same amount of effort. It's my own doing, I've tried different approaches but relationships always pan out the same 🤦♀️
One of the many reasons I'm done with all of that "
Maybe if you'd have given 120% and tried a bit more 🤷🏻♂️ just saying.... |
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"I always seem to give 110%, and then I get hurt when people don't put in the same amount of effort. It's my own doing, I've tried different approaches but relationships always pan out the same 🤦♀️
One of the many reasons I'm done with all of that
Maybe if you'd have given 120% and tried a bit more 🤷🏻♂️ just saying...."
Must try harder next time  |
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I don't like needy people. I don't like overly affectionate love bombing or excessive attention.
I tend to prefer relationships where it's pretty equal. Occasional meaningful expressions of feeling and the rest of the time just being who we are 💜 |
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As I don't seek the validation or affirmation of others I must be a giver. However, I don't panda to the need of others for external validation either. The reality is a balance. I warm to those that understand that no matter how independent a person is, they welcome support their way and if you truly love someone then you'll seek to understand their unspoken language and speak it. They will also do the same with you. |
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