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Can 'Veri's' be a problem/hurtful?
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I’ve never seen (or received so far!) a bad one. Although I’ve noticed quite perfunctory ones when browsing profiles - which I guess might feel deflating if you could take a steer on lack of chemistry from that.
I’ve heard of people feeling put out by glowing meet veris received by people they thought they were seeing exclusively, whether accurately or not. I guess that could feel hurtful!
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Not really because no one would ever show a veri that didn't paint them in the best light. What I would say is if people are going to display veris claiming they are the greatest gift to vaginas.. then they need to back it up in person, expectations can be harmful that way.
Also I've seen a few people get mad that a veri hasn't been left so guess it's harmful to their self-esteem. If they need me to tell the world we had a good time then cool but personally I don't need or want them. |
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I very rarely read veries to be honest, I've never asked for or actually given one. If I see too many I tend to steer clear of that profile. I'm more inclined to look at a profile if they have been photo verified by Admin. But not exclusively so. I'd much sooner video chat on WhatsApp before we meet than rely on veries. My first profile on here was closed by me but reappeared a few weeks later complete with veries and my old pics. |
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My friend had problems with a women that used to message men she had met and telling them not to meet her again as she had sti's and also messaged random men saying the same thing.
My friend never knew this girl she just took it apon herself to act that way |
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I value them for helping me to determine whether someone might be reliable. Sexual content is as bad as multiple people in a single man's profile pics.
They may be covert messages, if you can read between the lines. What's not been said may be vital but the covert author needs to use good, helpful code and the recipient oblivious to it, to subsequently display it |
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"I think it’s very weird in the forum, but for wider fab that dont do forum it’s very normal & part of what happens, and hardly ever an issue "
That can be said for a lot of things on here. Us forum folk are a weird bunch. |
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I don’t like how veris become kiss and tell, I really don’t want to read the graphic details of what they did in the bedroom. Veris are sure verification that someone is real and reassurance that they’re safe. |
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"I've never been put off anyone by a lack of them.
I have however been put off a lot by reading them.
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I get put off when I see they have like 50+ verifications. To me that just means more sexual partners = more potential risk of catching something. I do prefer seeing they have a small handful of verifications confirming the person is who they say they are. |
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By (user no longer on site) 2 weeks ago
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"I've never been put off anyone by a lack of them.
I have however been put off a lot by reading them.
I get put off when I see they have like 50+ verifications. To me that just means more sexual partners = more potential risk of catching something. I do prefer seeing they have a small handful of verifications confirming the person is who they say they are."
Just one which makes me 🤮 and I'm out.
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Veris are one person's perspective of how they experienced spending time with the other person. I've met people who proudly displayed lots of veris about what a great shag they are and I personally found them dull / not sexy / crap in bed. What floats my boat might not float someone else's, and vice versa.
I rarely display any veris as I don't like the whole "oooooh you played with so-and-so, my friend played with him too" etc. I meet new playmates in clubs so whether they are verified or not is irrelevant as I don't check their fab profile before hitting the playroom with them 😉 |
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Only problem I’ve had is them setting expectations that I’m going to be fireworks every time.
Some people might dig that but often it depends on the mood.
Think I prefer them when they’re written in a more classy manner than crass |
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I've had my time wasted by so many fantasists and arseholes on here, I tend to use veris as a way of determining if someone is real and likely to actually meet up instead of just wanting a quick wank and then disappear 🙄 if a single male profile with one photo and no veris messages me it's unlikely to get a response. |
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"I've never been put off anyone by a lack of them.
I have however been put off a lot by reading them.
I get put off when I see they have like 50+ verifications. To me that just means more sexual partners = more potential risk of catching something. I do prefer seeing they have a small handful of verifications confirming the person is who they say they are."
I have plenty of verifications, the majority of which are social verifications from people I've met and chatted with at club events, I've only had sex with about handful of people who have verified me most are just saying they've met me and I'm a nice person. Numbers count for nothing. |
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By *ripfillMan 2 weeks ago
Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant |
Verifications are incredibly important to me
It’s sort of badge, it’s important should anyone drop in on a profile to know that the person has been there /done it /not been a time waster. But had made a positive contribution and impression
Why hide it !? It’s one way another person using fab can reserch !
For males on this platform its even more important to have credibility and stature  |
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"I get put off when I see they have like 50+ verifications. To me that just means more sexual partners = more potential risk of catching something. I do prefer seeing they have a small handful of verifications confirming the person is who they say they are."
Oh I have over 50 meets on my verification summary.
A sum total of 8 people from them I've actually had sex with. The rest are all social and club veris. And those 8 are spread over several years. If 2-3 people a year is high risk to you, you may be looking on the wrong scene 💜 |
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Veris are cliche because most are put in a good light .. you’ll never really see a bad one …
Also a bit of a conversation is the way I’ll sense if they’re what they say they are etc ….
Too many veris is also something that puts me off personally … less is more ..
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Veris are only good in that they show someone has been seen and is the person in the photos, and maybe that someone met them and lived to tell the tale.
I’m not sure you can pay too much attention to what is written in them. I know I have left veris after a first meet when I’ve been flushed with admiration and then over time I’ve seen their true character emerge |
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"Good morning all,
Just an open ended discussion on people's opinions and experiences?"
Yes they can due to the nature of what we do, we are intimate with people inso doing we develop feelings some more than others and the veris can be callous in that regard . |
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Most of my verifications are from social events rather than sexual partners, I don't like verifications that read like trip advisor, but number of verifications doesn't mean anything it's the contents of them, they can actually be a pretty good filter for me. |
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I don't have any play related veries and wouldn't display them if I did.
As long as people know I'm real and turn up and that I'm a decent person they don't need to know anything else.
I've never yet seen a verification that would encourage me to meet someone and I make up my own mind about people just from chatting to them.
I don't care how many others they have shagged or how good they are in bed.
I'm more interested in the type of company they keep so while the content of their verifications is irrelevant, the authors are not.
I always follow the verification trail to avoid potential drama. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 2 weeks ago
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I find that many people I meet, even just chance meetings at socials or on a night out, don't want a verification from me, as it's often more trouble for them than it's worth.
Even when I make it plain that we just had a fantastic time chatting and got on like a house on fire and that nothing sexual occurred, often there is a worry that people will assume that Mr is Bi and it will hurt their chances with couples.
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"Personally I find looking at the profiles of the people that left the verification more of a deciding factor than the actual verification."
Glad I’m not the only one that does this.
Also interesting to see how discreet people are in the veris they leave. |
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"I get put off when I see they have like 50+ verifications. To me that just means more sexual partners = more potential risk of catching something. I do prefer seeing they have a small handful of verifications confirming the person is who they say they are.
Oh I have over 50 meets on my verification summary.
A sum total of 8 people from them I've actually had sex with. The rest are all social and club veris. And those 8 are spread over several years. If 2-3 people a year is high risk to you, you may be looking on the wrong scene 💜
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Exactly this. I'm told that I have more than most single chaps, but I've been on Fab for five years. Also, I'd guess that at least 5% to 10% are purely social, from clubs.
As for the Trip Advisor aspect, words like "respect" and "gentleman" mean much more to me than any comments about my alleged sexual talents.
The clue is in the name: Verification. It was created as a safety feature, to confirm the honesty of a profile, not as a rating system.
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