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To keep in contact with friends. To discuss stuff on the forums. To change their profile to "looking" at times when they actually do fancy looking. To annoy people that think there's only one way to use fab. |
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To chat with friends, use the forums, keep up with events, socialise online etc.
Maybe they would rather choose who and when they meet via local meets. Perhaps it's easier to say not meeting than having to plough through loads of meet requests from people who are totally unsuitable and clearly think this site is 'instafuck'
Everyone has Thier own reason for being here.
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They may like me no longer be looking but want to stay in touch with people they have met along the way or people they have chatted to. And if say no longer looking on profile like mine if people reàd profiles then not wasting someones time  |
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For us it was a case of simply loosing our mojo but we wanted to keep in touch with friends and make potential friends.... we're kind of just easing ourselves back into things but we're definitely not fake as some people have suggested.....just ...we'll ...busy with everyday life |
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Right now I’m keeping in touch with friends, going to the socials and I enjoy the forums and I enjoy fab for the connections I have made. Just because we aren’t looking to make new connections doesn’t mean we aren’t seeing the ones we’ve already made.
It’s really not that deep |
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We're currently not looking, as one of us is away in Jan for 6 weeks. These last 2 weeks have been 'just us time' We don't play alone.
Later next year will be an 2/3 month break, due to operation recovery.
We post that we're not looking, to save time for those sending us messages. Only to get a no. And saves Fabmin for us, trolling through unwanted offers. |
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In all seriousness, family comes 1st and work, kids etc so yeah there's times we don't meet, because let's face it sex with others is low down on our list of priorities, we stay because we will meet again and we go to events which we find here.
There will always be periods we add not meeting because basically there's more to life than fab.
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"Why are people on fab but there status they say not looking or interested  why be on here then  "
The site has many different purposes.
Just because some people only use it to try and make one off no strings encounters happen, doesn't mean that anybody doing anything else here is in the wrong 💜 |
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Right now we are not meeting because I've had a knee replacement recently.
However it just keeps getting better and better, so will probably start looking to play end of Jan or beginning of Feb.
People choose not to play on here for a variety of reasons, each one as valid as the next, just find your type of fun and have loads of it.
Feeling in a good mood this morning, loving life, Mrs x |
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Why do some people think everyone’s goal on here has to be the same as there’s?
As has been said, there’s a whole host of reasons why people might not want to, or be able to meet for a while. Letting others know that seems like the smart thing to do. |
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"To get attention - to encourage people to message them
Why would you message someone who says they aren't meeting, that's a you problem.
Mrs "
I wouldn’t ask them for a meet - but I might message them unless they said they didn’t want to receive messages.
They aren’t going to meet you for coming fo their rescue, by the way
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"To get attention - to encourage people to message them
Why would you message someone who says they aren't meeting, that's a you problem.
Mrs
I wouldn’t ask them for a meet - but I might message them unless they said they didn’t want to receive messages.
They aren’t going to meet you for coming fo their rescue, by the way
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So why is that them asking for attention?
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"To get attention - to encourage people to message them
Why would you message someone who says they aren't meeting, that's a you problem.
Mrs
I wouldn’t ask them for a meet - but I might message them unless they said they didn’t want to receive messages.
They aren’t going to meet you for coming fo their rescue, by the way
So why is that them asking for attention?
Mrs "
Because they want people to ask why they’re not meeting etc
No one comes on here hoping not to get noticed |
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"To get attention - to encourage people to message them
Why would you message someone who says they aren't meeting, that's a you problem.
Mrs
I wouldn’t ask them for a meet - but I might message them unless they said they didn’t want to receive messages.
They aren’t going to meet you for coming fo their rescue, by the way
So why is that them asking for attention?
Mrs
Because they want people to ask why they’re not meeting etc
No one comes on here hoping not to get noticed "
I haven't met anyone new since January 2020 and it says in the first line of this profile and the couples profile that I/we are not currently meeting for personal reasons.
Personal reasons means it's nobody's business and I have zero interest in having conversations with anyone who wants to know my personal business. |
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"Because they want people to ask why they’re not meeting etc
No one comes on here hoping not to get noticed "
The way you use the site is not the way everyone else has to use the site. Just because you can't fathom the idea of not wanting attention doesn't mean it's untrue for other people.
When I say I'm not looking for additional partners or penii, that means I'm not interested in receiving messages from people looking to offer either. When I say I don't want dick pics in my inbox, that's not me begging for people to send me dick pics.
My kind of not looking isn't written to get more attention. It's written to try and save time on incompatible people messaging me with things I am simply not interested in 💜 |
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"If I don't want to meet/talk I just put filters on. Or leave.
Very sensible approach
I am so sensible
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I’m ticking off the days until I turn 99 so I can meet you "
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That's a long time to wait for an anticlimax. |
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"If I don't want to meet/talk I just put filters on. Or leave.
Very sensible approach
I am so sensible
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I’m ticking off the days until I turn 99 so I can meet you
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That's a long time to wait for an anticlimax."
Yeah - merry Christmas to you too
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"If I don't want to meet/talk I just put filters on. Or leave.
Very sensible approach
I am so sensible
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I’m ticking off the days until I turn 99 so I can meet you
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That's a long time to wait for an anticlimax."
I like to build up the disappointment |
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"If I don't want to meet/talk I just put filters on. Or leave.
Very sensible approach
I am so sensible
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I’m ticking off the days until I turn 99 so I can meet you
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That's a long time to wait for an anticlimax.
I like to build up the disappointment "
I’m sure the 40 odd years will fly by |
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"If I don't want to meet/talk I just put filters on. Or leave.
Very sensible approach
I am so sensible
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I’m ticking off the days until I turn 99 so I can meet you
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That's a long time to wait for an anticlimax.
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I like to build up the disappointment "
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Unrequited love for these hapless souls is like a corked vintage wine, JÅG. 🩶 |
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By *ustBoWoman 2 weeks ago
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Because I can be that is why. I use the forums and chat to friends on here at times. I have no interest in meeting anyone new at the moment. If that changes I will change it on my profile. Why I'm not meeting is no one business and if people ask I won't reply. It's on my profile in the first line and on my header if people still decide to message that's on them.
I don't owe anyone on here a meet,chat or sex if I don't what to. And those that seem to think that everyone on here should be fucking all around them in order to he on here are disillusioned and the ones who usually are the first moaning they can't get meets. |
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"Best ones are “not meeting anyone”?then a new verification turns up lol "
i get this on my singles a lot. People send me one when they rejoin... or see me socially x
Why can't people be on here if not looking for fun. My singles profile is for the forums, or when I'm organising an event |
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"To chat with friends, use the forums, keep up with events, socialise online etc.
Maybe they would rather choose who and when they meet via local meets. Perhaps it's easier to say not meeting than having to plough through loads of meet requests from people who are totally unsuitable and clearly think this site is 'instafuck'
Everyone has Thier own reason for being here.
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this |
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"To get attention - to encourage people to message them
Why would you message someone who says they aren't meeting, that's a you problem.
Mrs
I wouldn’t ask them for a meet - but I might message them unless they said they didn’t want to receive messages.
They aren’t going to meet you for coming fo their rescue, by the way
So why is that them asking for attention?
Mrs
Because they want people to ask why they’re not meeting etc
No one comes on here hoping not to get noticed "
On occasions when I'm not meeting and have indicated that on my profile, I've not had anyone message to ask me why I'm not. Exactly the result I wanted. |
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"To get attention - to encourage people to message them
Why would you message someone who says they aren't meeting, that's a you problem.
Mrs
I wouldn’t ask them for a meet - but I might message them unless they said they didn’t want to receive messages.
They aren’t going to meet you for coming fo their rescue, by the way
So why is that them asking for attention?
Mrs
Because they want people to ask why they’re not meeting etc
No one comes on here hoping not to get noticed "
I don't want people to ask why I'm not meeting and guess what, no one has 😂
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"Pile on
I have noticed that you seem to enjoy a self-fulfilling prophecy. Post something negative, wait for the replies, tell yourself you were right all along. "
Internet forums are always the same. People posting things for attention. |
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By (user no longer on site) 2 weeks ago
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For me personally it's about keeping up with friends & making new friends while I'm taking a little time to heal. Also who knows when I'll be ready? I certainly don't but I might see a party or something that takes my fancy & decide to try...
If I stay off here completely then I'll miss out on those & possibly being ready to meet & play again sooner than I think. |
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"For me personally it's about keeping up with friends & making new friends while I'm taking a little time to heal. Also who knows when I'll be ready? I certainly don't but I might see a party or something that takes my fancy & decide to try...
If I stay off here completely then I'll miss out on those & possibly being ready to meet & play again sooner than I think."
That’s understandable. I’ve been using the forums a bit more the last few weeks and it’s taken my mind off meeting someone. |
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"Pile on
I have noticed that you seem to enjoy a self-fulfilling prophecy. Post something negative, wait for the replies, tell yourself you were right all along. Internet forums are always the same. People posting things for attention. "
The who nature of the site is to get attention, I don't know why people make out it's a bad thing.
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"Pile on
I have noticed that you seem to enjoy a self-fulfilling prophecy. Post something negative, wait for the replies, tell yourself you were right all along. Internet forums are always the same. People posting things for attention.
The who nature of the site is to get attention, I don't know why people make out it's a bad thing.
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I meant looking for an argument. |
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"Why are people on fab but there status they say not looking or interested why be on here then "
I expect they are being nosey bastards trying to spot people they know.
I generally just block those profiles. |
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I would say most are still on keeping in contact with friends they have met or to use the forums,cans etc and maybe browse incase someone catches there eye. Others may use it as a deterrent to help reduce there inboxes as a lot ( especially women ) are inundated with winks and messages and then some may be here just to see if they know people etc. all just a part of fab. |
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I always wonder why people get so bothered about how others use this site. Just like any other site what does it matter
I joined on a friend's recommendation, been on off here years, still come back as I enjoy the forums, chat yo people etc and attend socials.
I'm not meeting, have no interest whatsoever in meeting, will that change probably not.
But I don't see why I shouldn't still.use the site for what I want |
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By *ykoCouple 2 weeks ago
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It says on our profile not meeting but have reasons for this we got a message from a bloke saying if not looking for single males why don't you block them it's our profile and we will manage it how we want to not by someone telling us how to. |
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I am one of the people you describe in your post, OP. I am not interested in meeting anyone new off here, and I'm just staying in touch with my partner and my friends through here as well as reading/posting on forums.
If I'm in a club and someone does pique my interest there (doesn't happen often), I may end up with a new veri.
Also, who said this site is just for people looking to meet? |
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By (user no longer on site) 2 weeks ago
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To try and discourage the triers?
If you have a life partner, and a great group of trusted friends, and not enough time to even see them, it isn't desirable to initiate new friendships??
Love a quick chat in the forum while waiting for the bus or struggling with sleep.
I'm glad there is enough room for everone and we can use the site as we wish. |
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"Pile on
I have noticed that you seem to enjoy a self-fulfilling prophecy. Post something negative, wait for the replies, tell yourself you were right all along. "
Well done - although supposed negativity is a subjective thing. I offered my view - you see it as negative. I don’t see it that way. It amuses me how quick people are to jump on others on here.
Also I post all kinds of things - most are ignored on this forum. So I never wait for replies. |
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"Pile on
I have noticed that you seem to enjoy a self-fulfilling prophecy. Post something negative, wait for the replies, tell yourself you were right all along. Internet forums are always the same. People posting things for attention. "
Correct |
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"Pile on
I have noticed that you seem to enjoy a self-fulfilling prophecy. Post something negative, wait for the replies, tell yourself you were right all along.
Well done - although supposed negativity is a subjective thing. I offered my view - you see it as negative. I don’t see it that way. It amuses me how quick people are to jump on others on here.
Also I post all kinds of things - most are ignored on this forum. So I never wait for replies. "
Negative wasn't the right word so apologies for that. Something that you know people will disagree with is closer. |
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"Pile on
I have noticed that you seem to enjoy a self-fulfilling prophecy. Post something negative, wait for the replies, tell yourself you were right all along.
Well done - although supposed negativity is a subjective thing. I offered my view - you see it as negative. I don’t see it that way. It amuses me how quick people are to jump on others on here.
Also I post all kinds of things - most are ignored on this forum. So I never wait for replies.
Negative wasn't the right word so apologies for that. Something that you know people will disagree with is closer. "
Yes, maybe I should post anodyne messages instead.
I just post my thoughts at the time - I’m not trying to get a reaction. |
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Because they want to be.
People join for a variety of reasons, and stay for a variety of other reasons.
Personally, I think it's crap as a dating site and I'm only here for the shots and giggles in the forum. It's unlikely I'll meet anyone off here through here. I'll either meet in a club or with and upside down pineapple on aisle 13. |
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"If I don't want to meet/talk I just put filters on. Or leave.
Very sensible approach
I am so sensible
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I’m ticking off the days until I turn 99 so I can meet you
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That's a long time to wait for an anticlimax.
Yeah - merry Christmas to you too
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See, here Nero clearly made a joke, a reference to how Raven refers to herself as much as anything. An opportunity to join in, laugh a little. You can't say the forum is cliquey when you reject every invitation to join in. I'm done. |
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By *oro75Man 2 weeks ago
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"Pile on
I have noticed that you seem to enjoy a self-fulfilling prophecy. Post something negative, wait for the replies, tell yourself you were right all along.
Well done - although supposed negativity is a subjective thing. I offered my view - you see it as negative. I don’t see it that way. It amuses me how quick people are to jump on others on here.
Also I post all kinds of things - most are ignored on this forum. So I never wait for replies.
Negative wasn't the right word so apologies for that. Something that you know people will disagree with is closer.
Yes, maybe I should post anodyne messages instead.
I just post my thoughts at the time - I’m not trying to get a reaction. "
Oh yes you are |
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"Pile on
I have noticed that you seem to enjoy a self-fulfilling prophecy. Post something negative, wait for the replies, tell yourself you were right all along.
Well done - although supposed negativity is a subjective thing. I offered my view - you see it as negative. I don’t see it that way. It amuses me how quick people are to jump on others on here.
Also I post all kinds of things - most are ignored on this forum. So I never wait for replies.
Negative wasn't the right word so apologies for that. Something that you know people will disagree with is closer.
Yes, maybe I should post anodyne messages instead.
I just post my thoughts at the time - I’m not trying to get a reaction.
Oh yes you are "
Are you in panto? |
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