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I have a dear friend who at this time of the year isn't always firing on all cylinders. She is caring, forever assisting, helping others and altruistic to the very core of her good-natured soul.
Of course she is a free spirit and of sound mind and doesn't need any form of duress to embark on a well-deserved voyage. The break would do her good, time to rest, to unwind, to channel all her energies into herself, some mindfulness and a break from the humdrum and normality of her daily life.
I was thinking of creating a thread about this but I'm now wondering if there are other methods to give her a kick up the arse and just hop on an aeroplane and turboprop herself to somewhere warm.
Any suggestions? |
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Absolutely what Mrs NC said. Comp the trip for her, make all the arrangements and call everyone in her life to let them know she will be unavailable.
You’re a good egg, Nero. Upgrade her flight too. Show her you care |
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"Buy her a ticket, pack her case and drive her to the airport?"
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Drive her, yes, but I'm not very good at packing for women. I get all muddled with the coordination of knickers and bras (unless I'm removing them, which is a doddle), the garish make up and colourful wigs etc.
(Is it just me or have I made my friend inadvertently sound like she's Lily Savage 😬 ) |
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The problem with breaks Nero is the organisation. If you're already at your limit another task might push you over the edge.
Sometimes being able to close the door safe in the knowledge that nobody will want anything from you is all that's needed along with permission to put responsibilities, especially self imposed, aside.
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"Buy her a ticket, pack her case and drive her to the airport?
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Drive her, yes, but I'm not very good at packing for women. I get all muddled with the coordination of knickers and bras (unless I'm removing them, which is a doddle), the garish make up and colourful wigs etc.
(Is it just me or have I made my friend inadvertently sound like she's Lily Savage 😬 )"
Yes.
It's you isn't it, your alter ego... |
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"Absolutely what Mrs NC said. Comp the trip for her, make all the arrangements and call everyone in her life to let them know she will be unavailable.
You’re a good egg, Nero. Upgrade her flight too. Show her you care "
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What am I? Judith Chalmers?? |
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"Absolutely what Mrs NC said. Comp the trip for her, make all the arrangements and call everyone in her life to let them know she will be unavailable.
You’re a good egg, Nero. Upgrade her flight too. Show her you care
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What am I? Judith Chalmers?? "
My dad's heart throb back in the day but I thought you were Lily Savage |
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"Absolutely what Mrs NC said. Comp the trip for her, make all the arrangements and call everyone in her life to let them know she will be unavailable.
You’re a good egg, Nero. Upgrade her flight too. Show her you care
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What am I? Judith Chalmers?? "
I have no idea who that is but you don’t look like a Judith. Maybe a Lilly or a Brucey |
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I’ve known people like this. I’ve been people like this. Still am a little bit people like this.
There is something in the way. Probably quite trivial. Probably navigating the airport. Or the transfer. Ask her. Stand with her at the airport and wave her off at the gate if you have to. Once she is on the mental plane she will get on the physical one. |
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"I have heard it said that going on holiday is the second most stressful thing after moving house. I don’t get it as I find both of those a lot of fun but I guess everyone’s different, "
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That's because you're an international jet setting playboy.👯 |
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By (user no longer on site) 8 weeks ago
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"Yeah, let her do what she wants.
Been told or advised to do something by someone else is infuriating.
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Sush, you...wench. Can't you ever ingratiate me for just once?? 🥲"
Plenty of others will be along to flutter eyelashes and agree with every word. |
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"I have a dear friend who at this time of the year isn't always firing on all cylinders. She is caring, forever assisting, helping others and altruistic to the very core of her good-natured soul.
Of course she is a free spirit and of sound mind and doesn't need any form of duress to embark on a well-deserved voyage. The break would do her good, time to rest, to unwind, to channel all her energies into herself, some mindfulness and a break from the humdrum and normality of her daily life.
I was thinking of creating a thread about this but I'm now wondering if there are other methods to give her a kick up the arse and just hop on an aeroplane and turboprop herself to somewhere warm.
Any suggestions?"
Maybe let her make her own decision on what she wantsinstead of presuming what she needs.
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"I’ve known people like this. I’ve been people like this. Still am a little bit people like this.
There is something in the way. Probably quite trivial. Probably navigating the airport. Or the transfer. Ask her. Stand with her at the airport and wave her off at the gate if you have to. Once she is on the mental plane she will get on the physical one. "
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Oh, she definitely wants to go but there is a slight niggle that's holding her back. |
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By *r TriomanMan 8 weeks ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
"Yeah, let her do what she wants.
Been told or advised to do something by someone else is infuriating.
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Sush, you...wench. Can't you ever ingratiate me for just once?? 🥲"
I got ingratiated once, it was a very enjoyable experience |
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"Yeah, let her do what she wants.
Been told or advised to do something by someone else is infuriating.
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Totally agree with this "
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I'm not telling her or advising her anything. I used the word "coaxing" on purpose, and "duress" to ensure there was no such thing. 😘 |
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"It's a lovely gesture.... Maybe sit her down... Tell her openly and honestly what your thinking. Maybe she'll jump at it.... "
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She'd sooner jump down my throat.  ...which is a form of kink for some people. |
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"Yeah, let her do what she wants.
Been told or advised to do something by someone else is infuriating.
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Totally agree with this
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I'm not telling her or advising her anything. I used the word "coaxing" on purpose, and "duress" to ensure there was no such thing. 😘"
Fair enough |
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By *mf123Man 8 weeks ago
with one foot out the door |
Not too sure trying to coax someone to do something is the right way about it seems a bit peer pressure like tbh as nice an idea it is need to have a propper chat to see if she would be comfortable otherwise you could risk a flip out moment |
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"Not too sure trying to coax someone to do something is the right way about it seems a bit peer pressure like tbh as nice an idea it is need to have a propper chat to see if she would be comfortable otherwise you could risk a flip out moment"
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I think you're taking this thread far too seriously, especially when Lily Savage was mentioned earlier.
Let's not even mention Judith Chalmers...  |
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By *mf123Man 8 weeks ago
with one foot out the door |
"Not too sure trying to coax someone to do something is the right way about it seems a bit peer pressure like tbh as nice an idea it is need to have a propper chat to see if she would be comfortable otherwise you could risk a flip out moment
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I think you're taking this thread far too seriously, especially when Lily Savage was mentioned earlier.
Let's not even mention Judith Chalmers... "
dude i didnt even read it i rarely do |
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"I'm already here. And have been since Friday last 
So what we're finding out that the OP would have helped out? Shocking 😳"
It alright. I'll be submitting an expenses claim upon my return.
Now, where's that bar menu gone? 🤔 |
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I was supposed to go away for my little weekend away to myself earlier this year. The more I needed it - the less able I was to plan it.
It was causing me so much stress to think where to go, which week, drive/fly. Hotel/air b&b
I abandoned the whole idea eventually.
I’m not sure anyone else would have coaxed me. But perhaps someone to talk it through. Listen to my obstacles, give me ways around them….
Stuck a pin in a map & said go there…. Here’s a nice hotel?
Dunno.
But you’re a good egg for wanting to help her xxx |
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