It's hard to know what will interest a full 50% of the population. We're vastly different.
I like thoughtfulness and evidence that someone has read and understood my full profile, but others want other things. |
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There are a multitude of varying answers. The general consensus is to read the profile and reference something from there, something of genuine interest or an ice-breaker that serves as an impetus to open up a chat. |
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"There are a multitude of varying answers. The general consensus is to read the profile and reference something from there, something of genuine interest or an ice-breaker that serves as an impetus to open up a chat."
ill keep trying
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By *inkShyWoman 8 weeks ago
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Reference my profile. We can spot a copy and paste a mile away.
If I fancy chatting, a basic hello can work tbh but I like something random like asking my top 3 cakes, fave movie, best holiday - normal chitchat you'd have with a friend, or d*unk in a pub! |
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You would go insane trying to find a one size fits all.
Some will want an essay personalised to every detail of their life. Some want it straight to the point. Some want funny. Some want serious.
What I found was that you are best making sure it is directed at them as a person but don't go jumping through hoops. What kind of message would you want to see if they messaged you? Go from there. |
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"There are a multitude of varying answers. The general consensus is to read the profile and reference something from there, something of genuine interest or an ice-breaker that serves as an impetus to open up a chat.
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ill keep trying"
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The other thing is that most women will look at the sender's profile before opening the message, if at all. If they find the profile appealing / enticing / interesting then they •may• be more amenable to engage with you. |
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"There are a multitude of varying answers. The general consensus is to read the profile and reference something from there, something of genuine interest or an ice-breaker that serves as an impetus to open up a chat.
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ill keep trying
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The other thing is that most women will look at the sender's profile before opening the message, if at all. If they find the profile appealing / enticing / interesting then they •may• be more amenable to engage with you."
just read yours it's a very good profile |
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"There are a multitude of varying answers. The general consensus is to read the profile and reference something from there, something of genuine interest or an ice-breaker that serves as an impetus to open up a chat.
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ill keep trying
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The other thing is that most women will look at the sender's profile before opening the message, if at all. If they find the profile appealing / enticing / interesting then they •may• be more amenable to engage with you. just read yours it's a very good profile"
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"Most seem to think at 58 your too old but have 99 as upper age but want 29. I'm lucky I don't look my age and told dont act it. They see age go no lol "
Whether for good or ill, preferences are sacrosanct and filters can't be evaded |
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Some might say a profile should "sell yourself". I personally disagree, because then you are fabricating a construct, and self-bias will always creep in.
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Since humour is subjective, I'd also recommend avoiding it as much as possible.
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Stick to the facts. Who you are, what you do, and what you are looking for.
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If in a particular situation, eg Open Marriage, then be upfront and clear.
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If certain activities interest you, be upfront about them too.
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The objective is to be as true to yourself as possible. So that if you do meet, the other person will be under no doubt that what it says is on the tin is IN the tin. |
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Pick something off her bio and start a conversation about an interesting piece of information that she’s shared about herself, and ask a genuine question about it. Or share your own thoughts about it too if you have your own experiences you can comment about it on. |
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