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"Code for.. “we only fuck hotties” "
For me, code for "we are full of shit and up our own arses"
Like said above, everyone is professional at what they do.
But absolutely no relevance here.
Kind, caring, respectful, discreet.
Now they are descriptions that deserve praise.
My opinion of course! |
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For me, code for "we are full of shit and up our own arses"
Kind, caring, respectful, discreet.
Now they are descriptions that deserve praise.
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I would add non-judgemental to your list ! 
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"Code for.. “we only fuck hotties”
For me, code for "we are full of shit and up our own arses"
Like said above, everyone is professional at what they do.
But absolutely no relevance here.
Kind, caring, respectful, discreet.
Now they are descriptions that deserve praise.
My opinion of course!"
Well exactly! We all work and have a profession so that’s rather irrelevant a point to make, some people really are up their own arse absolutely! |
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By *rettyflamingoWoman 9 weeks ago
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Not so much the professional comment that gets me, more the experienced. We are all different and have are own ways of how we like to be touched, kissed, licked and ducked so saying you are experienced doesn’t mean very much to me. It actually turns me off someone. |
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It makes a lot of people angry and some even think it's an insult directed at them.
In reality it's a way of describing yourself and means no more than saying you're a truck driver or in the uniformed services which a lot of people do.
Its relevant to the people who use it. If it's not relevant for you it means you're not compatible with the people who have it on their profile |
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It depends on the context but if someone describes themselves as professional they mean clean, tidy, well groomed, house trained, articulate, well mannered, etc.
Or they charge for their services. |
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It tells me more about the people who get angry about it rather than those who use it.
That people get so wound up about it's use and accusations that they are snobs etc, suggests to me they aren't that confident.
It describes someone with a certain kind of job, it's no different to a body type description.
Use it as a filter if you don't like it, kind of simple really. |
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By *r.XratedMan 9 weeks ago
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"It tells me more about the people who get angry about it rather than those who use it.
That people get so wound up about it's use and accusations that they are snobs etc, suggests to me they aren't that confident.
It describes someone with a certain kind of job, it's no different to a body type description.
Use it as a filter if you don't like it, kind of simple really. "
Well said miss |
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By *r.XratedMan 9 weeks ago
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It makes a lot of people angry and some even think it's an insult directed at them.
In reality it's a way of describing yourself and means no more than saying you're a truck driver or in the uniformed services which a lot of people do.
Its relevant to the people who use it. If it's not relevant for you it means you're not compatible with the people who have it on their profile "
Agreed |
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By *tu.xMan 9 weeks ago
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It makes a lot of people angry and some even think it's an insult directed at them.
In reality it's a way of describing yourself and means no more than saying you're a truck driver or in the uniformed services which a lot of people do.
Its relevant to the people who use it. If it's not relevant for you it means you're not compatible with the people who have it on their profile "
I don't see people getting angry i see people say oh get you lol |
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"Well, they say the oldest profession was prostitution, so draw your own conclusions!"
I always remember in my first job and on my first sales training course many years ago. The chap who ran it said that sales was the oldest profession … as she had to sell herself before she got the business!!
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It makes a lot of people angry and some even think it's an insult directed at them.
In reality it's a way of describing yourself and means no more than saying you're a truck driver or in the uniformed services which a lot of people do.
Its relevant to the people who use it. If it's not relevant for you it means you're not compatible with the people who have it on their profile I don't see people getting angry i see people say oh get you lol"
You should see some of the other threads. People feel it's ok to say nasty things about anyone who describes themselves as professional. That seems like anger to me, maybe it's something else. 🤷♀️ |
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My understanding of it is that somebody has a public facing, public service type job, and don't want it interfering(doctor, nurse, police etc etc). Or, they are worried about repercussions of being recognised by a colleague and it being the latest office gossip. That's my understanding anyway |
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By *tu.xMan 9 weeks ago
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It makes a lot of people angry and some even think it's an insult directed at them.
In reality it's a way of describing yourself and means no more than saying you're a truck driver or in the uniformed services which a lot of people do.
Its relevant to the people who use it. If it's not relevant for you it means you're not compatible with the people who have it on their profile I don't see people getting angry i see people say oh get you lol
You should see some of the other threads. People feel it's ok to say nasty things about anyone who describes themselves as professional. That seems like anger to me, maybe it's something else. 🤷♀️"
nasty comments are nasty comments doesn't mean they are angry maybe some are but maybe some just being judgmental |
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It makes a lot of people angry and some even think it's an insult directed at them.
In reality it's a way of describing yourself and means no more than saying you're a truck driver or in the uniformed services which a lot of people do.
Its relevant to the people who use it. If it's not relevant for you it means you're not compatible with the people who have it on their profile I don't see people getting angry i see people say oh get you lol
You should see some of the other threads. People feel it's ok to say nasty things about anyone who describes themselves as professional. That seems like anger to me, maybe it's something else. 🤷♀️nasty comments are nasty comments doesn't mean they are angry maybe some are but maybe some just being judgmental "
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"It tells me more about the people who get angry about it rather than those who use it.
That people get so wound up about it's use and accusations that they are snobs etc, suggests to me they aren't that confident.
It describes someone with a certain kind of job, it's no different to a body type description.
Use it as a filter if you don't like it, kind of simple really. "
To be fair the majority of people that have it on their profile won't even know why they are saying. It's just a said thing they think sounds... Well... Professional. It's a buzzword, nothing more.
Just like the "copyright" warning and Sydney Uni. It's done because they see it done. |
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professional
adjective
1.
relating to or belonging to a profession.
"young professional people"
Similar:
white-collar
executive
non-manual
Opposite:
manual
2.
engaged in a specified activity as one's main paid occupation rather than as a pastime.
"a professional boxer"
Similar:
paid
salaried
non-amateur
full-time
Opposite:
amateur
noun
1.
a person engaged or qualified in a profession.
"professionals such as lawyers and surveyors"
Similar:
white-collar worker
professional worker
office worker
2.
a person engaged in a specified activity, especially a sport, as a main paid occupation rather than as a pastime.
"his first season as a professional"
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"My understanding of it is that somebody has a public facing, public service type job, and don't want it interfering(doctor, nurse, police etc etc). Or, they are worried about repercussions of being recognised by a colleague and it being the latest office gossip. That's my understanding anyway"
And this right here is part of what I mean in my above comment. There is a huge divide over what it even means. I've even asked a few people with it on their profile and all of them either couldn't really tell me or their definition varied from others. |
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By *r.XratedMan 9 weeks ago
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It makes a lot of people angry and some even think it's an insult directed at them.
In reality it's a way of describing yourself and means no more than saying you're a truck driver or in the uniformed services which a lot of people do.
Its relevant to the people who use it. If it's not relevant for you it means you're not compatible with the people who have it on their profile I don't see people getting angry i see people say oh get you lol
You should see some of the other threads. People feel it's ok to say nasty things about anyone who describes themselves as professional. That seems like anger to me, maybe it's something else. 🤷♀️"
So true |
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It's baffling why people are getting so wound up by it. It's not a personal attack on your career.
Being somebody who isn't Exceptional (now what does THAT mean?) I tend to just chuckle, and move on. |
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"It tells me more about the people who get angry about it rather than those who use it.
That people get so wound up about it's use and accusations that they are snobs etc, suggests to me they aren't that confident.
It describes someone with a certain kind of job, it's no different to a body type description.
Use it as a filter if you don't like it, kind of simple really.
To be fair the majority of people that have it on their profile won't even know why they are saying. It's just a said thing they think sounds... Well... Professional. It's a buzzword, nothing more.
Just like the "copyright" warning and Sydney Uni. It's done because they see it done. "
But that still doesn't explain why some people get wound up about it. I find you can't change people, you can only change the way you react to them.
In this case people don't like the word because they have biased opinions on the word use. If they don't like it, just avoid those people or work on why it triggers them so much.
We regularly see these threads where people will say people who use these words are snobs etc. But if others used lazy cliché such as those who don't work are lazy (not my opinion btw, I have been out of work for significant periods of time in the past) there be uproar. It's just reverse snobbery in my opinion. |
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It's extremely relevant, OP.
I refuse to make love to any woman who isn't an air traffic controller, barrister, cardiovascular surgeon or an expert in embroidery. If she fails to produce a clutch of accreditations, certificates and attestations then all bets are off.
One has to strive for a certain level of discernment. |
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"It's extremely relevant, OP.
I refuse to make love to any woman who isn't an air traffic controller, barrister, cardiovascular surgeon or an expert in embroidery. If she fails to produce a clutch of accreditations, certificates and attestations then all bets are off.
One has to strive for a certain level of discernment."
So this is why you fancy Ailsa. It’s not the boobs, it’s the qualifications 👩🎓 |
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"It's extremely relevant, OP.
I refuse to make love to any woman who isn't an air traffic controller, barrister, cardiovascular surgeon or an expert in embroidery. If she fails to produce a clutch of accreditations, certificates and attestations then all bets are off.
One has to strive for a certain level of discernment.
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So this is why you fancy Ailsa. It’s not the boobs, it’s the qualifications 👩🎓"
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"It's extremely relevant, OP.
I refuse to make love to any woman who isn't an air traffic controller, barrister, cardiovascular surgeon or an expert in embroidery. If she fails to produce a clutch of accreditations, certificates and attestations then all bets are off.
One has to strive for a certain level of discernment.
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So this is why you fancy Ailsa. It’s not the boobs, it’s the qualifications 👩🎓
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Intellect is immensely attractive |
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"It tells me more about the people who get angry about it rather than those who use it.
That people get so wound up about it's use and accusations that they are snobs etc, suggests to me they aren't that confident.
It describes someone with a certain kind of job, it's no different to a body type description.
Use it as a filter if you don't like it, kind of simple really.
To be fair the majority of people that have it on their profile won't even know why they are saying. It's just a said thing they think sounds... Well... Professional. It's a buzzword, nothing more.
Just like the "copyright" warning and Sydney Uni. It's done because they see it done.
But that still doesn't explain why some people get wound up about it. I find you can't change people, you can only change the way you react to them.
In this case people don't like the word because they have biased opinions on the word use. If they don't like it, just avoid those people or work on why it triggers them so much.
We regularly see these threads where people will say people who use these words are snobs etc. But if others used lazy cliché such as those who don't work are lazy (not my opinion btw, I have been out of work for significant periods of time in the past) there be uproar. It's just reverse snobbery in my opinion. "
It applies to everything. There are people on here that have made assumptions on others and right now are being rather hilariously in their hypocrisy of assumptions and judgements of others. That's the nature of people as a whole. We judge and we look for some form of validation on some level from others.
I mean, and I don't mean it in a personal attack type of way aimed at you other than we are in the discussion of it, you (and everyone else) could have ignored the judgement of others and let them get on with it, let them air their dislike of something. Just let them be with their own views.
Obviously the OP asked a question and you are free to offer your opinion on it as are they. But you didn't take up the advice of letting people be, just offered your own opinion on those offering their opinion on the word it's use and the people that dislike it. Just as I am now.
That is just the nature of the beast and the endless cycle of we as people and the judgements we make.
We just can't help ourselves. |
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By *tu.xMan 9 weeks ago
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"It tells me more about the people who get angry about it rather than those who use it.
That people get so wound up about it's use and accusations that they are snobs etc, suggests to me they aren't that confident.
It describes someone with a certain kind of job, it's no different to a body type description.
Use it as a filter if you don't like it, kind of simple really.
To be fair the majority of people that have it on their profile won't even know why they are saying. It's just a said thing they think sounds... Well... Professional. It's a buzzword, nothing more.
Just like the "copyright" warning and Sydney Uni. It's done because they see it done.
But that still doesn't explain why some people get wound up about it. I find you can't change people, you can only change the way you react to them.
In this case people don't like the word because they have biased opinions on the word use. If they don't like it, just avoid those people or work on why it triggers them so much.
We regularly see these threads where people will say people who use these words are snobs etc. But if others used lazy cliché such as those who don't work are lazy (not my opinion btw, I have been out of work for significant periods of time in the past) there be uproar. It's just reverse snobbery in my opinion.
It applies to everything. There are people on here that have made assumptions on others and right now are being rather hilariously in their hypocrisy of assumptions and judgements of others. That's the nature of people as a whole. We judge and we look for some form of validation on some level from others.
I mean, and I don't mean it in a personal attack type of way aimed at you other than we are in the discussion of it, you (and everyone else) could have ignored the judgement of others and let them get on with it, let them air their dislike of something. Just let them be with their own views.
Obviously the OP asked a question and you are free to offer your opinion on it as are they. But you didn't take up the advice of letting people be, just offered your own opinion on those offering their opinion on the word it's use and the people that dislike it. Just as I am now.
That is just the nature of the beast and the endless cycle of we as people and the judgements we make.
We just can't help ourselves."
hit the nail on the head its just opinions...question asked opinions given . |
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"It tells me more about the people who get angry about it rather than those who use it.
That people get so wound up about it's use and accusations that they are snobs etc, suggests to me they aren't that confident.
It describes someone with a certain kind of job, it's no different to a body type description.
Use it as a filter if you don't like it, kind of simple really.
To be fair the majority of people that have it on their profile won't even know why they are saying. It's just a said thing they think sounds... Well... Professional. It's a buzzword, nothing more.
Just like the "copyright" warning and Sydney Uni. It's done because they see it done.
But that still doesn't explain why some people get wound up about it. I find you can't change people, you can only change the way you react to them.
In this case people don't like the word because they have biased opinions on the word use. If they don't like it, just avoid those people or work on why it triggers them so much.
We regularly see these threads where people will say people who use these words are snobs etc. But if others used lazy cliché such as those who don't work are lazy (not my opinion btw, I have been out of work for significant periods of time in the past) there be uproar. It's just reverse snobbery in my opinion.
It applies to everything. There are people on here that have made assumptions on others and right now are being rather hilariously in their hypocrisy of assumptions and judgements of others. That's the nature of people as a whole. We judge and we look for some form of validation on some level from others.
I mean, and I don't mean it in a personal attack type of way aimed at you other than we are in the discussion of it, you (and everyone else) could have ignored the judgement of others and let them get on with it, let them air their dislike of something. Just let them be with their own views.
Obviously the OP asked a question and you are free to offer your opinion on it as are they. But you didn't take up the advice of letting people be, just offered your own opinion on those offering their opinion on the word it's use and the people that dislike it. Just as I am now.
That is just the nature of the beast and the endless cycle of we as people and the judgements we make.
We just can't help ourselves."
I totally agree with you, people like the sound of their own voices (or text same difference). People are judgemental idiots, all of us are. We all have our chips on our shoulders which we can't help vent now and again.
Mine is people assuming because of my background (and my rather epic accent) that I can't have a professional job if they are a certain class. And conversely those of the same background as me presuming I think I'm better than them. Can't bloody beat the good old fashioned British class system  |
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It’s all narrative. People need to construct an image of themselves in order understand their perceived place. I am a dad, a husband, a son, a friend, a professional, a slut, a cuckold, a yogi, a guru, an artist, a photographer, a writer, a woman, an astronaut… you get the idea. We make sense of the world around us by constructing narratives about who we are. Once upon a time this was easy, but as the world has become increasingly complex, and the different layers of society have lost distinction and bled into each other, and as our communities and even families have become fractured and dissolved, these narratives have become more complex. And the most simple narrative is a basic label: professional. Quite why somebody’s self-appointment label causes friction for other people is a mystery. We may as well get irate about people defining themselves as Mother, Footballer, entrepreneur. Whatever. Judging someone on the labels they choose to define themselves is bizarre. Nobody is just one thing. We are all a ridiculously complex mosaic of background, experience, culture, ambition, sexuality and so on. Labels help us make sense of this complexity, both to ourselves and others. But to judge someone on their self-appointed labels is to miss the complexity of the human experience.
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"It’s all narrative. People need to construct an image of themselves in order understand their perceived place. I am a dad, a husband, a son, a friend, a professional, a slut, a cuckold, a yogi, a guru, an artist, a photographer, a writer, a woman, an astronaut… you get the idea. We make sense of the world around us by constructing narratives about who we are. Once upon a time this was easy, but as the world has become increasingly complex, and the different layers of society have lost distinction and bled into each other, and as our communities and even families have become fractured and dissolved, these narratives have become more complex. And the most simple narrative is a basic label: professional. Quite why somebody’s self-appointment label causes friction for other people is a mystery. We may as well get irate about people defining themselves as Mother, Footballer, entrepreneur. Whatever. Judging someone on the labels they choose to define themselves is bizarre. Nobody is just one thing. We are all a ridiculously complex mosaic of background, experience, culture, ambition, sexuality and so on. Labels help us make sense of this complexity, both to ourselves and others. But to judge someone on their self-appointed labels is to miss the complexity of the human experience.
Just some thoughts for a Tuesday morning x"
My dislike of it is more to do with it simply being a buzzword and used just to sound fancier than it is in reality.
We are all professional in some capacity through qualifications or paid job. Even cleaners are professionals in their field. Though I can imagine some (not all!) would take dislike to their fancy buzzword being used for such a "lowley" title. |
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By *r.XratedMan 9 weeks ago
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"It’s all narrative. People need to construct an image of themselves in order understand their perceived place. I am a dad, a husband, a son, a friend, a professional, a slut, a cuckold, a yogi, a guru, an artist, a photographer, a writer, a woman, an astronaut… you get the idea. We make sense of the world around us by constructing narratives about who we are. Once upon a time this was easy, but as the world has become increasingly complex, and the different layers of society have lost distinction and bled into each other, and as our communities and even families have become fractured and dissolved, these narratives have become more complex. And the most simple narrative is a basic label: professional. Quite why somebody’s self-appointment label causes friction for other people is a mystery. We may as well get irate about people defining themselves as Mother, Footballer, entrepreneur. Whatever. Judging someone on the labels they choose to define themselves is bizarre. Nobody is just one thing. We are all a ridiculously complex mosaic of background, experience, culture, ambition, sexuality and so on. Labels help us make sense of this complexity, both to ourselves and others. But to judge someone on their self-appointed labels is to miss the complexity of the human experience.
Just some thoughts for a Tuesday morning x
My dislike of it is more to do with it simply being a buzzword and used just to sound fancier than it is in reality.
We are all professional in some capacity through qualifications or paid job. Even cleaners are professionals in their field. Though I can imagine some (not all!) would take dislike to their fancy buzzword being used for such a "lowley" title. "
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It's really not that hard to work out what it means. Some people seem to like to pick holes in others profiles and choice of words though. There's plenty of profiles so just move on to one that does please you rather than police whta others choose to write. The context gives it away. It either means someone who wants payment or a hotel out of it or people who like to associate with similar people and who think professional helps that. If you don't understand it , they probably aren't for you. |
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"Code for.. “we only fuck hotties”
For me, code for "we are full of shit and up our own arses"
Like said above, everyone is professional at what they do.
But absolutely no relevance here.
Kind, caring, respectful, discreet.
Now they are descriptions that deserve praise.
My opinion of course!"
People's choice of words seems to touch a nerve. Might be worth reflecting on that. |
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Maybe some kind of ego thing. A badge of honour?
Or maybe people declaring it so as to allude to discretion because they have something meaningful to them they want to protect, and thus by way of declaration it acts as a kind of privacy assurance?
On balance though I’d say it’s more of a subliminal biological prowess. Like the peacock that has the brightest feathers gets all the mates.
It’s simply the guy/woman with a more advanced career maybe more alpha and can provide better
Humans are fickle but we are also still just animals!
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