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Hey all
Hope everyone thst reads this is well
Just thinking what’s the point on being in here? No one replies to my messages! No one looks at my profile .. am I doing something wrong ., not very confident and shy and I’m getting nowhere on or …off here..genuine decent fella too any help or advice welcome on confidence as is to getting a reply from here , even help with my profile .. really bothering me all this .
Thanks in advance and thanks for reading
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As you’ve asked for a little profile advice I’d say it’s not a terrible profile.
The only thing I’d maybe do is expand your bio a bit and add some more pics. They don’t have to be graphic, just show you in a way you want to be perceived.
If you’re gonna show up to a social in a shirt, take a pic like that etc.
As for the other bits. I was told ages ago to basically use fab to find events and use it as an add on to your activity not tge sole source of your meets. In practice we’ve met 90% of people through attending events and clubs rather than messaging on here! |
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By *tu.xMan 3 weeks ago
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Saying it really bothering you ...you've done ok in the time you've been on here got yourself a nice verification as for confidence you have more than enough if you can walk in a club takes some stones that fella |
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"Hey all
Hope everyone thst reads this is well
Just thinking what’s the point on being in here? No one replies to my messages! No one looks at my profile .. am I doing something wrong ., not very confident and shy and I’m getting nowhere on or …off here..genuine decent fella too any help or advice welcome on confidence as is to getting a reply from here , even help with my profile .. really bothering me all this .
Thanks in advance and thanks for reading
this message take care"
Hi Op
Your profile is very generic. It doesn’t really say much about you or show your personality
You say you’re shy and not very confident and for some that can be hard work to engage with someone but at least you’re truthful to yourself
You will receive, no doubt, all sorts of advice, the truth is it is not an easy place for anyone let alone a male. Engaging in forums or having a verification or going to clubs does not open a secret area of the site where people meet all the time
Use fab as a tool to meet not your only way of meeting.
With regards to the forums they make up a very very small percentage of site users |
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"As you’ve asked for a little profile advice I’d say it’s not a terrible profile.
The only thing I’d maybe do is expand your bio a bit and add some more pics. They don’t have to be graphic, just show you in a way you want to be perceived.
If you’re gonna show up to a social in a shirt, take a pic like that etc.
As for the other bits. I was told ages ago to basically use fab to find events and use it as an add on to your activity not tge sole source of your meets. In practice we’ve met 90% of people through attending events and clubs rather than messaging on here! "
This - and what Sally ^^ said too.
You have to show "what you've got" in order for others to think "I might want to know more about this guy."
That's a good veri, and you've had the balls to go to a club.
So plan another visit (same or different club) as well.
You've planted a seed, it's grown quite well so far.
Give the tree a few more chances to grow further - and show it on here. |
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"Hey all
Hope everyone thst reads this is well
Just thinking what’s the point on being in here? No one replies to my messages! No one looks at my profile .. am I doing something wrong ., not very confident and shy and I’m getting nowhere on or …off here..genuine decent fella too any help or advice welcome on confidence as is to getting a reply from here , even help with my profile .. really bothering me all this .
Thanks in advance and thanks for reading
this message take care
Hi Op
Your profile is very generic. It doesn’t really say much about you or show your personality
You say you’re shy and not very confident and for some that can be hard work to engage with someone but at least you’re truthful to yourself
You will receive, no doubt, all sorts of advice, the truth is it is not an easy place for anyone let alone a male. Engaging in forums or having a verification or going to clubs does not open a secret area of the site where people meet all the time
Use fab as a tool to meet not your only way of meeting.
With regards to the forums they make up a very very small percentage of site users "
Thanks for your reply Jack I appreciate it |
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"As you’ve asked for a little profile advice I’d say it’s not a terrible profile.
The only thing I’d maybe do is expand your bio a bit and add some more pics. They don’t have to be graphic, just show you in a way you want to be perceived.
If you’re gonna show up to a social in a shirt, take a pic like that etc
As for the other bits. I was told ages ago to basically use fab to find events and use it as an add on to your activity not tge sole source of your meets. In practice we’ve met 90% of people through attending events and clubs rather than messaging on here!
This - and what Sally ^^ said too.
You have to show "what you've got" in order for others to think "I might want to know more about this guy."
That's a good veri, and you've had the balls to go to a club.
So plan another visit (same or different club) as well.
You've planted a seed, it's grown quite well so far.
Give the tree a few more chances to grow further - and show it on here."
m thanks for your reply and advice nicky |
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And what Jack said is very, very true. The Forum is a tiny percentage of the site.
Pics, more on the bio, another good veri - they all increase the odds in your favour when you message people (just don't expect too many replies - women and couples have hundreds of messages to wade through. It's not much fun for them a lot of the time, so make it easier for them by having a few more good pics and a better insight into "you" as a potential meet), or if people find you from what you have on your profile (your "shop window"). |
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"As you’ve asked for a little profile advice I’d say it’s not a terrible profile.
The only thing I’d maybe do is expand your bio a bit and add some more pics. They don’t have to be graphic, just show you in a way you want to be perceived.
If you’re gonna show up to a social in a shirt, take a pic like that etc
As for the other bits. I was told ages ago to basically use fab to find events and use it as an add on to your activity not tge sole source of your meets. In practice we’ve met 90% of people through attending events and clubs rather than messaging on here!
This - and what Sally ^^ said too.
You have to show "what you've got" in order for others to think "I might want to know more about this guy."
That's a good veri, and you've had the balls to go to a club.
So plan another visit (same or different club) as well.
You've planted a seed, it's grown quite well so far.
Give the tree a few more chances to grow further - and show it on here.m thanks for your reply and advice nicky "
You're welcome - that is a very good veri you already have.
Build on a good start  . |
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"As you are gym going and sporty, how about a nice torso or back pic ?
I’ll get one just sent you a pm "
This also can put people off
Some people prefer messages kept to the forums, whilst some will message off the back of a comment , not all like it
It’s a minefield at times !! |
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"As you are gym going and sporty, how about a nice torso or back pic ?
I’ll get one just sent you a pm
This also can put people off
Some people prefer messages kept to the forums, whilst some will message off the back of a comment , not all like it
It’s a minefield at times !!"
Thanks for the advice I’ll take thst on board .. And you’re right it does seem like a minefield in here at times !! |
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"Hey all
Hope everyone thst reads this is well
Just thinking what’s the point on being in here? No one replies to my messages! No one looks at my profile .. am I doing something wrong ., not very confident and shy and I’m getting nowhere on or …off here..genuine decent fella too any help or advice welcome on confidence as is to getting a reply from here , even help with my profile .. really bothering me all this .
Thanks in advance and thanks for reading
this message take care"
Lots of clicks within the swinging world, also a very big percentage of people who are only here to chat with and equally percentage of chances, IMO clubs are the best place to meet, others options are available |
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"Hey all
Hope everyone thst reads this is well
Just thinking what’s the point on being in here? No one replies to my messages! No one looks at my profile .. am I doing something wrong ., not very confident and shy and I’m getting nowhere on or …off here..genuine decent fella too any help or advice welcome on confidence as is to getting a reply from here , even help with my profile .. really bothering me all this .
Thanks in advance and thanks for reading
this message take care Lots of clicks within the swinging world, also a very big percentage of people who are only here to chat with and equally percentage of chances, IMO clubs are the best place to meet, others options are available "
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By *ustBoWoman 3 weeks ago
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Like others said your profile is your shop window it's up to you to make it as appealing as possible to get people's interest. At the moment it is pretty generic.
A lot of people will look at a profile before they decide to answer a message, I know I do and if there is nothing that appeals to me then I won't answer usually. I'm sure a lot of the women you messaged have looked at your profile in ninja mode so this is why you don't see the fact they did.
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Hello O.P.
It isn't you - it's just part of life.
You say you are shy and not confident, so in real life situations it must be very difficult for you to make connections.
If it's difficult in real life , it goes without saying that it would be nigh on impossible here.
Fab isn't exactly full of sweethearts , male or female, it's full of beautiful people wishing to engage in sex with other people without jealousy.
It's full of 'not so beautiful' people on a self esteem boost in their delusional period.
And it's full of deranged sociopaths who are playing mind games, at least when they find their mind.
There are a few normals.
If only fab membership demanded that you have to shag a person from a different group once per month everyone would be laughing.
Don't blame fab tho ......people are who they are.
Or do you see yourself in the 'genuine guy' group , What even does that mean ? |
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"Hello O.P.
It isn't you - it's just part of life.
You say you are shy and not confident, so in real life situations it must be very difficult for you to make connections.
If it's difficult in real life , it goes without saying that it would be nigh on impossible here.
Fab isn't exactly full of sweethearts , male or female, it's full of beautiful people wishing to engage in sex with other people without jealousy.
It's full of 'not so beautiful' people on a self esteem boost in their delusional period.
And it's full of deranged sociopaths who are playing mind games, at least when they find their mind.
There are a few normals.
If only fab membership demanded that you have to shag a person from a different group once per month everyone would be laughing.
Don't blame fab tho ......people are who they are.
Or do you see yourself in the 'genuine guy' group , What even does that mean ?"
Im geniune in the fact that I treat people how I would like to be treated . I’ care maybe too much I don’t know ..? Live by the motto it’s nice to be nice .. I don’t have an agenda |
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"Like others said your profile is your shop window it's up to you to make it as appealing as possible to get people's interest. At the moment it is pretty generic.
A lot of people will look at a profile before they decide to answer a message, I know I do and if there is nothing that appeals to me then I won't answer usually. I'm sure a lot of the women you messaged have looked at your profile in ninja mode so this is why you don't see the fact they did.
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OP, you already got loads of good advice. My tip would be, explain why you cannot accommodate, as despite you saying you're a "single male", the "cannot accommodate" would be a red flag for people. As it often means the person is married/attached (regardless of what they say in profile). |
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"OP, you already got loads of good advice. My tip would be, explain why you cannot accommodate, as despite you saying you're a "single male", the "cannot accommodate" would be a red flag for people. As it often means the person is married/attached (regardless of what they say in profile). "
Thank you I’ll do that.., |
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"Hey all
Hope everyone thst reads this is well
Just thinking what’s the point on being in here? No one replies to my messages! No one looks at my profile .. am I doing something wrong ., not very confident and shy and I’m getting nowhere on or …off here..genuine decent fella too any help or advice welcome on confidence as is to getting a reply from here , even help with my profile .. really bothering me all this .
Thanks in advance and thanks for reading
this message take care"
I think it’s just a car of lowering your expectations and having a it is what it is attitude.
Don’t put your life on hold for fab, get out to pubs and clubs and pull the old skool way, and if you don’t pull you’ve still had a great night.
Your verifications said you’ve met at a club so do that more
If it’s getting you down maybe take a break
Good luck |
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"Hey all
Hope everyone thst reads this is well
Just thinking what’s the point on being in here? No one replies to my messages! No one looks at my profile .. am I doing something wrong ., not very confident and shy and I’m getting nowhere on or …off here..genuine decent fella too any help or advice welcome on confidence as is to getting a reply from here , even help with my profile .. really bothering me all this .
Thanks in advance and thanks for reading
this message take care
I think it’s just a car of lowering your expectations and having a it is what it is attitude.
Don’t put your life on hold for fab, get out to pubs and clubs and pull the old skool way, and if you don’t pull you’ve still had a great night.
Your verifications said you’ve met at a club so do that more
If it’s getting you down maybe take a break
Good luck"
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"Hey all
Hope everyone thst reads this is well
Just thinking what’s the point on being in here? No one replies to my messages! No one looks at my profile .. am I doing something wrong ., not very confident and shy and I’m getting nowhere on or …off here..genuine decent fella too any help or advice welcome on confidence as is to getting a reply from here , even help with my profile .. really bothering me all this .
Thanks in advance and thanks for reading
this message take care
I think it’s just a car of lowering your expectations and having a it is what it is attitude.
Don’t put your life on hold for fab, get out to pubs and clubs and pull the old skool way, and if you don’t pull you’ve still had a great night.
Your verifications said you’ve met at a club so do that more
If it’s getting you down maybe take a break
Good luck"
Thank you for your reply I’ll do that |
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