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Do some people deliberately set out to do this ? See a lot of post about single guys being rude but can honestly say in 10 years on and off this site as a couple and a single woman most have shown me nothing but respect . Had the odd one or 2 but it’s certainly isn’t a regular occurrence xx |
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There is a lot of complaining about single men for sure
The most complaints will often be about the most represented section of a group, which when I think about it is logical.
Often the answer lies in the complainants hands though |
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Think some couples see single males as a nuisance...vermin and a parasite looking to leech on a freeload...especially if the single male is hot. Its like...go find your own mate. But hey..luckily not all  |
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"Think some couples see single males as a nuisance...vermin and a parasite looking to leech on a freeload...especially if the single male is hot. It’s like...go find your own mate. But hey..luckily not all "
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"Think some couples see single males as a nuisance...vermin and a parasite looking to leech on a freeload...especially if the single male is hot. It’s like...go find your own mate. But hey..luckily not all hotter the better for me "
You see. Great minds always think alike 😌 |
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I have more couples (partnered female) literally grabbing me by the shoulder, the cock & balls or randomly kissing me as a hello.
Most I admit I liked the girl so was down for it but if the same happened in reverse. We all know the outcome
Feel you have to walk on eggshells hell me and my mates were threatened with being kicked out of Town house a few years ago because the owners found out we were friends and knew each other and said that was a massive problem..don't want men arriving in groups or knowing each other outside of the club.
The very same club came up to me when me and a wifey were chatting and about to go into a room. The owner or whatever came up to us asking.. Ms is this single male bothering you, we can get him removed..her reply was fuck off, I like him, I'm a grown woman don't need you, go away. Kinda killed the atmosphere but we still had fun |
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"Male bashing is just common in the swinging scene but if all guys disappear from the club scene, everyone would be complaining. This I hope, then some real change would happen "
being fair to clubs though they do hold events for just couples and single ladies though so it’s easy enough for couples who don’t want single guys to avoid them also it not really fair that single woman can attend clubs free while single guys pay a premium but that’s another subject x
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"Male bashing is just common in the swinging scene but if all guys disappear from the club scene, everyone would be complaining. This I hope, then some real change would happen being fair to clubs though they do hold events for just couples and single ladies though so it’s easy enough for couples who don’t want single guys to avoid them also it not really fair that single woman can attend clubs free while single guys pay a premium but that’s another subject x"
Yes I've introduced a few girls I know to this and they all say the same thing about the price differences.
You wouldn't get away with this in a normal club and outside of the possibility of sex, you get a worse experience for a night out.
I find more clubs have moved more to a try-hard night out vibe and less about the swapping and swinging. Pre COVID I found it more on it |
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It's a case of can't live with them, can't live without them.
If single guys are causing anyone a problem on fab it's easy enough to block them from contacting you by using mail filters but so many are reluctant to do this
I know that some of the threads started by single guys don't show them in a very good light but these are outweighed by the good ones.
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By *bi HaiveMan 4 weeks ago
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To me it's often used as an easy 'get out of jail free' card for those looking for a reason they're not getting what they want from the site.
Nobody affects my life on here and nothing I do impacts anyone else.
There's usually far more men complaining about the behaviour of other men than women and couples. Either using it as an 'I'm not like that' reason why they should be considered or in the common 'white knight' style of jumping to the defense of women and couples expressing any woes.
People can be dicks. Not men. Not women. Not couples.
People.
If you're not one of them you've nothing to apologise for, nor should you believe you're being in any way persecuted for the actions of others. 🤷♂️ |
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"I've had quite a few with major attitude problems and I'm actually quite nice to people!
Some actually quite nasty but I don't assume every single guy is the same because of it. "
see this is what I can’t get , very very rarely experience attitude while other woman seem to get loads that’s not a personal attack on you btw xx |
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"I've had quite a few with major attitude problems and I'm actually quite nice to people!
Some actually quite nasty but I don't assume every single guy is the same because of it. see this is what I can’t get , very very rarely experience attitude while other woman seem to get loads that’s not a personal attack on you btw xx "
It is a very small percentage to be fair, I had a guy tell me that he was dying and said he wanted his ashes put into a jewellery to be seen into underwear.
When I responded with (under a lot of self restraint) "that's the most bizarre thing I've ever heard' he fully went off on one.
It's ok i didn't take it like that xx |
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"I've had quite a few with major attitude problems and I'm actually quite nice to people!
Some actually quite nasty but I don't assume every single guy is the same because of it. see this is what I can’t get , very very rarely experience attitude while other woman seem to get loads that’s not a personal attack on you btw xx
It is a very small percentage to be fair, I had a guy tell me that he was dying and said he wanted his ashes put into a jewellery to be seen into underwear.
When I responded with (under a lot of self restraint) "that's the most bizarre thing I've ever heard' he fully went off on one.
It's ok i didn't take it like that xx "
A jewel**
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"I've had quite a few with major attitude problems and I'm actually quite nice to people!
Some actually quite nasty but I don't assume every single guy is the same because of it. see this is what I can’t get , very very rarely experience attitude while other woman seem to get loads that’s not a personal attack on you btw xx
It is a very small percentage to be fair, I had a guy tell me that he was dying and said he wanted his ashes put into a jewellery to be seen into underwear.
When I responded with (under a lot of self restraint) "that's the most bizarre thing I've ever heard' he fully went off on one.
It's ok i didn't take it like that xx "
😳😳even I would be a little shocked by that that is truely bizarre |
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By *PMGMan 4 weeks ago
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What an excellent post Ms D. This intriguing site is without doubt a buyers marker. Men in my opinion anyway, are sellers but thats the forum! Plain and simple. It is frustrating tbh when lets say 90% of profile state 'Don't as me how I am', 'My week has been good' etc then a Gent makes a real effort, reads the profile and comes back with a polite honest jovial funny retort and makes the effort. Pics are included wihich as a Profession Gent, is a little 'Heart in Mouth' and 'Oh Christ I hope I'm not recognised' and then nothing back. I understand Couples and Ladies will have an inbox full of messages.
I don't think anyone wants to be unfair or unreasonable, there are obviously 'dicks' on here but I know in a reply if the person is honest open and actually a decent person. If I'm ignored, then thats life. I haven't done this and maybe I'm presuming Gents are making the effort as I am? Possibly not.....
It would be lovely to treat people how you desire to be treated yourself.
Apologies for the 'War and Peace' reply
My questions is do most people on here know what they want or desire. From my experience, not that many.
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"To me it's often used as an easy 'get out of jail free' card for those looking for a reason they're not getting what they want from the site.
Nobody affects my life on here and nothing I do impacts anyone else.
There's usually far more men complaining about the behaviour of other men than women and couples. Either using it as an 'I'm not like that' reason why they should be considered or in the common 'white knight' style of jumping to the defense of women and couples expressing any woes.
People can be dicks. Not men. Not women. Not couples.
People.
If you're not one of them you've nothing to apologise for, nor should you believe you're being in any way persecuted for the actions of others. 🤷♂️"
I agree with this.
I've had experience of women and couples here with bad attitudes and/or permanent victim complexes who tend to blame men for everything bad that has every happened to them.
Ironically, they don't seem to understand that they themselves are creating the situations by having a shitty attitude in the first place and making ridiculous demands.
If, as has happened on a number of occasions, a woman or couple sends me a message out of the blue telling me I need to shave off my beard, book them an hotel, stop being a coward and pretending to be straight and play bi with them or travel 8 hours to take them to a club and I don't respond positively, it's not my fault if they feel affronted or annoyed.
Start talking to other human beings as equals and you might find your all round fab experience improves immensely and you won't have to blame someone else for your own failings. |
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By *eliWoman 4 weeks ago
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My experience of men on here is very similar to yours OP. A decade on here, two unpleasant messages (and one was from a woman), one very unpleasant experience with a man/an awful thread as a result of saying no but... for the most part the men I've spoken to, met, dated etc... they've been lovely. Just people.
Everyone can be a bit of a throbber at times but that's not a gendered thing.
However - that's my experience. Other women do have negative experiences and I don't want to belittle that.
I think that people are more likely to talk about their negative experiences than their positive. Look at how quickly a thread fills when it's discussing bad "stuff" compared to the more positive. And people like the relative anonymity the forum offers them to rant about what's going on.
I like focusing on the good. It's easy to cut out the noise. |
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"Do some people deliberately set out to do this ? See a lot of post about single guys being rude but can honestly say in 10 years on and off this site as a couple and a single woman most have shown me nothing but respect . Had the odd one or 2 but it’s certainly isn’t a regular occurrence xx"
Our experience too. The vast majority are well mannered polite messages. Never received hate. Worst we’ve had is lazy meet now messages. |
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"I've had quite a few with major attitude problems and I'm actually quite nice to people!
Some actually quite nasty but I don't assume every single guy is the same because of it. see this is what I can’t get , very very rarely experience attitude while other woman seem to get loads that’s not a personal attack on you btw xx
It is a very small percentage to be fair, I had a guy tell me that he was dying and said he wanted his ashes put into a jewellery to be seen into underwear.
When I responded with (under a lot of self restraint) "that's the most bizarre thing I've ever heard' he fully went off on one.
It's ok i didn't take it like that xx "
Errrrr yeah that is just a strange thing to say to someone 😕 |
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It's actually nice to hear that the vast majority of guys are actually respectful and behave accordingly. Respect should always be the golden rule with everything that you do in life. Merry Christmas everyone! 🎄 |
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I’m always polite when messaging and have met some great couples over the years on here , some of whom have left but still keep in contact,
I have had some adverse remarks from couples , when a polite no would suffice
Other than that enjoy yourselves
And a merry Christmas |
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By *eyeYCouple 4 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
We agree with you OP.
The majority of 'contact' we've had with guy's has been respectful and polite.
There seems a minority who act like absolute aresholes however, utterly pointlessly trolling on forums, sending dick pics etc. Spoiling it for those who don't.
We frankly have single guy's blocked at the moment as it's not what we're looking for and the fact they are the predominant in numbers means our inbox gets overwhelming.. That's the only reason 👍 |
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By *eyeYCouple 4 weeks ago
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"I’m an absolute disgrace but I promise to shape up and do better if I can kiss those cute little white creases"
Yeah, you're absolutely shocking!! 🤣 We do wish there was a follow option on the forums as we love your posts! 👊😘 |
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Personally we love single guys fab would be a sad place without them we love to have flirty banter with em through fab and don’t experience any negatives from them on the whole if anything we find a few couples can be a little up their own asses and nasty I think just by reading a profile and reading veris you can get the measure of people  |
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My "dickometer" has assessed FABbers aroundabout the following.
Single men - dicks around 20% of the time. Of that 20%, 20% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 4% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Single women - dicks around 12% of the time. Of that 12%, 40% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 3.6% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Couples (MF) - dicks around 10% of the time. Of that 10%, 25% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 2.5% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Couples (MM or TS permutations) - dicks around 5% of the time. Of that 5%, 30% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 1.5% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
TV/TS - dicks around 3% of the time. Of that 3%, 30% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 0.9% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
So, there are more thoroughly unpleasant single men as a percentage of the entire male cohort, and they beat the percentage of thoroughly unpleasant single women from their cohort, although it is notable that single women are more likely to be thoroughly unpleasant than any other cohort if they've reached dick level to start with.
And TV/TS is the least likely to reach dick level of anyone, with the lowest thoroughly unpleasant dick level too.
I worked it all out on the back of a fag packet. |
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"I’m an absolute disgrace but I promise to shape up and do better if I can kiss those cute little white creases
Yeah, you're absolutely shocking!! 🤣 We do wish there was a follow option on the forums as we love your posts! 👊😘"
We (well I am) are all waiting for ‘that’ Christmas outfit from last year to make another appearance 😍😈
The “I’ve got a special present for you” view as you head upstairs but a 2024 version |
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"My "dickometer" has assessed FABbers aroundabout the following.
Single men - dicks around 20% of the time. Of that 20%, 20% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 4% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Single women - dicks around 12% of the time. Of that 12%, 40% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 3.6% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Couples (MF) - dicks around 10% of the time. Of that 10%, 25% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 2.5% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Couples (MM or TS permutations) - dicks around 5% of the time. Of that 5%, 30% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 1.5% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
TV/TS - dicks around 3% of the time. Of that 3%, 30% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 0.9% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
So, there are more thoroughly unpleasant single men as a percentage of the entire male cohort, and they beat the percentage of thoroughly unpleasant single women from their cohort, although it is notable that single women are more likely to be thoroughly unpleasant than any other cohort if they've reached dick level to start with.
And TV/TS is the least likely to reach dick level of anyone, with the lowest thoroughly unpleasant dick level too.
I worked it all out on the back of a fag packet."
Why are you picking on the ‘dicks’ as a derogatory term? WTF man?
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"Do some people deliberately set out to do this ? See a lot of post about single guys being rude but can honestly say in 10 years on and off this site as a couple and a single woman most have shown me nothing but respect . Had the odd one or 2 but it’s certainly isn’t a regular occurrence xx"
I think you've had a lucky escape OP. I know many ladies who have experienced lots of abuse, especially when they have been turned down. In one case, my friend left the site because someone was stalking her using different profiles and trying to triangulate where she lived using the 'miles from' feature. |
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By *PMGMan 4 weeks ago
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"My "dickometer" has assessed FABbers aroundabout the following.
Single men - dicks around 20% of the time. Of that 20%, 20% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 4% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Single women - dicks around 12% of the time. Of that 12%, 40% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 3.6% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Couples (MF) - dicks around 10% of the time. Of that 10%, 25% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 2.5% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Couples (MM or TS permutations) - dicks around 5% of the time. Of that 5%, 30% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 1.5% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
TV/TS - dicks around 3% of the time. Of that 3%, 30% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 0.9% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
So, there are more thoroughly unpleasant single men as a percentage of the entire male cohort, and they beat the percentage of thoroughly unpleasant single women from their cohort, although it is notable that single women are more likely to be thoroughly unpleasant than any other cohort if they've reached dick level to start with.
And TV/TS is the least likely to reach dick level of anyone, with the lowest thoroughly unpleasant dick level too.
I worked it all out on the back of a fag packet."
I'm glad that wasn't a question on the 1% club Nick, I'd need 30 mins to calculate that |
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"My "dickometer" has assessed FABbers aroundabout the following.
Single men - dicks around 20% of the time. Of that 20%, 20% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 4% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Single women - dicks around 12% of the time. Of that 12%, 40% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 3.6% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Couples (MF) - dicks around 10% of the time. Of that 10%, 25% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 2.5% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Couples (MM or TS permutations) - dicks around 5% of the time. Of that 5%, 30% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 1.5% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
TV/TS - dicks around 3% of the time. Of that 3%, 30% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 0.9% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
So, there are more thoroughly unpleasant single men as a percentage of the entire male cohort, and they beat the percentage of thoroughly unpleasant single women from their cohort, although it is notable that single women are more likely to be thoroughly unpleasant than any other cohort if they've reached dick level to start with.
And TV/TS is the least likely to reach dick level of anyone, with the lowest thoroughly unpleasant dick level too.
I worked it all out on the back of a fag packet.
Why are you picking on the ‘dicks’ as a derogatory term? WTF man?
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For the same reason Donald Trump is a cunt 😉.
These words mean more than the gender they're assumed to belong to.
So much more. |
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"My "dickometer" has assessed FABbers aroundabout the following.
Single men - dicks around 20% of the time. Of that 20%, 20% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 4% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Single women - dicks around 12% of the time. Of that 12%, 40% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 3.6% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Couples (MF) - dicks around 10% of the time. Of that 10%, 25% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 2.5% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Couples (MM or TS permutations) - dicks around 5% of the time. Of that 5%, 30% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 1.5% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
TV/TS - dicks around 3% of the time. Of that 3%, 30% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 0.9% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
So, there are more thoroughly unpleasant single men as a percentage of the entire male cohort, and they beat the percentage of thoroughly unpleasant single women from their cohort, although it is notable that single women are more likely to be thoroughly unpleasant than any other cohort if they've reached dick level to start with.
And TV/TS is the least likely to reach dick level of anyone, with the lowest thoroughly unpleasant dick level too.
I worked it all out on the back of a fag packet.
I'm glad that wasn't a question on the 1% club Nick, I'd need 30 mins to calculate that "
Plus, KPMG do very dodgy audits anyway . |
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I'd also add the following.
Although there's not much difference in overall percentage terms between throughly unpleasant male dicks and thoroughly unpleasant female dicks, should any of those thoroughly unpleasant dicks be prone to violence, a thoroughly unpleasant and violent male dick is about 10 times more worrying than a thoroughly unpleasant and violent female dick.
So that, alone, is a good reason why particular anxiety around male dicks SHOULD be taken seriously.
Men are a teeny bit more dickish than women, but men do more actual harm in the real world.
So that's a factor, and needs to be.
My gender has more to answer for than others, and needs to be held to account. |
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From what I’ve read and from having a few messages from guys they don’t read peoples profiles and message anyway. Usually straight in with dick pics or rudeness which don’t help. Hopefully we are all judged individually 🤞🏻 |
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By (user no longer on site) 4 weeks ago
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When I have filters open I never get horrible messages, I can't actually remember the last time I did. I get few just faf type ones, most reference my profile.
What people don't seem to realise is what you put out there on your profile, will make a difference to what you get back.
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There are some absolute gentlemen on here, I hope and try to fall into this category. Nothing wrong with being polite to others. That being said I have been called by a few women for being too gentlemanly and not man enough lol. Each to their own. |
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"Do some people deliberately set out to do this ? See a lot of post about single guys being rude but can honestly say in 10 years on and off this site as a couple and a single woman most have shown me nothing but respect . Had the odd one or 2 but it’s certainly isn’t a regular occurrence xx"
i think most single men are thought of bad because of the few who are unpleasant at times for me have just be polite and honest then not worry when send message can only see what then happens
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I think the issue is that some people here think that because they sit behind a keyboard it gives them the power to be abusive and disrespectful, maybe they get a power trip out of it,
Where's if everyone here acted the same as the would in a real bar club of any social setting I don't think any group here would give another the ammo to complain. |
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"My "dickometer" has assessed FABbers aroundabout the following.
Single men - dicks around 20% of the time. Of that 20%, 20% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 4% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Single women - dicks around 12% of the time. Of that 12%, 40% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 3.6% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Couples (MF) - dicks around 10% of the time. Of that 10%, 25% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 2.5% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
Couples (MM or TS permutations) - dicks around 5% of the time. Of that 5%, 30% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 1.5% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
TV/TS - dicks around 3% of the time. Of that 3%, 30% are thoroughly unpleasant dicks. Which makes a total of 0.9% thoroughly unpleasant from the entire cohort.
So, there are more thoroughly unpleasant single men as a percentage of the entire male cohort, and they beat the percentage of thoroughly unpleasant single women from their cohort, although it is notable that single women are more likely to be thoroughly unpleasant than any other cohort if they've reached dick level to start with.
And TV/TS is the least likely to reach dick level of anyone, with the lowest thoroughly unpleasant dick level too.
I worked it all out on the back of a fag packet."
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"I think the issue is that some people here think that because they sit behind a keyboard it gives them the power to be abusive and disrespectful, maybe they get a power trip out of it,
Where's if everyone here acted the same as the would in a real bar club of any social setting I don't think any group here would give another the ammo to complain."
I suggest it’s not power at cause. It’s something more deep rooted.
Online sites are an outlet for people (and it tends to be single men particularly) who last any real socialisation. Unable to successfully interact and build bonds in the real world they come online, and soon their frustration finds a scapegoat - other people. Whereas they would get abusive to someone on their local Wetherspoons (for fear of consequences, fear of reputation for being ‘that bloke’) there are no consequences online.
So not power, a felt lack of it, of ability to influence their world, is at the core of it.
Just my thoughts. |
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Hop and a catch we ever get rudeness of anybody tbh.
Most of the time it's when we haven't read a message they sent a few hours before and message again calling us ignorant because we haven't yet read it!
Think we have had more abuse from couples tbh.
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Unfortunately, actions of a few tarnish almost everybody, but what can I say that’s how it is.
I think people should just look past it and look at it individual and not everybody’s the same
But hey marry Christmas all |
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"Do some people deliberately set out to do this ? See a lot of post about single guys being rude but can honestly say in 10 years on and off this site as a couple and a single woman most have shown me nothing but respect . Had the odd one or 2 but it’s certainly isn’t a regular occurrence xx"
I treat everyone the same and treat them how I like to be treated. I’d never ask anything from anyone on here and I wouldn’t expect them to bend for me.
However, I think it’s human nature to complain about an odd occurrence rather than say when something has been good.
There’s an old customer service saying that says “a disgruntled customer will tell 100 people when they feel unfairly treated. A happy customer is likely to tell no one.” I think the same rings true in most of life. |
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By *oxy jWoman 4 weeks ago
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those guys who moan that other guys ruin it for them need to stop hiding behind that excuse those guys ruin it for themselves and themselves only lots of guys like to hide behind this as a excuse to them getting nowhere nope sorry guys your getting nowhere is 100% down to you and nobody else...
ive found that abuse is not as bad as it used to be in fact quite rare as ive changed how i deal with others im a massive pree blocker anyone who im not interested in is blocked anyone with ranty /abusive / ist / name n shame all get blocked too i no long reply to messages im not interested in or those i think are dreamers / fantasist so i dont open myself for abuse ...
the block button is my fab saver im not here to chat to men just for the sake of it im not looking for cyber friends or cyber sex /wanks/dreamers...im on here to meet and look at the forums ...
get abuse on the forums here n there for having a opinion also if anyone thinks this is just a guy problem then dream on there are several nasty women and couples ...
i only seek men via fab hence i replied as such |
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By *eyeYCouple 3 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"I hear a lot of complaints from men about women too. It's just not as relevant because we're in demand."
Very true! On both counts.. We've experienced some very entitled behaviour by women.
One's that spring to mind are, D found her unattractive and tried to avoid, she however kept turning up, trying to undress him on the dancefloor and later attempting to involve herself in our play..
Another getting abusive after we said no thanks here and a third, insisting we pay for a hotel to meet her (she lives 10 miles away).
But as you said, supply and demand.. 😳🙄 |
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By *eyeYCouple 3 weeks ago
Nr Leicester |
"I’m an absolute disgrace but I promise to shape up and do better if I can kiss those cute little white creases
Yeah, you're absolutely shocking!! 🤣 We do wish there was a follow option on the forums as we love your posts! 👊😘
We (well I am) are all waiting for ‘that’ Christmas outfit from last year to make another appearance 😍😈
The “I’ve got a special present for you” view as you head upstairs but a 2024 version "
Oh, a favourite?! I'll have to surprise him with that outfit again..
It was fun emptying his sack that night #mrsclaus 😈😘 |
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There’s bad apples in every basket, sometimes more than one, I’ve been in here on and off for ten years and I’ve met some wonderful people and one lady with a terrible mindset, but I’m sure she is happy doing what she is doing and no longer in my thoughts, some people are just tossers, and if there are more males on here then you are more likely to meet one |
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"Do some people deliberately set out to do this ? See a lot of post about single guys being rude but can honestly say in 10 years on and off this site as a couple and a single woman most have shown me nothing but respect . Had the odd one or 2 but it’s certainly isn’t a regular occurrence xx"
I don’t know if people deliberately set out to do this, but we agree OP, the vast majority of the messages we receive are polite and respectful. I also think the forums are much improved. The misandry on here a few years ago was eye-watering. This no longer seems to be the case, I’m glad to say. Xx |
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Some men, women and couples are idiots here. Just like in the real world.
I'm not sure if they intend to be or are even self aware. The morons make it easier to see the good people I think though. |
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With tight filters on to exclude newbies and non site supporters, that dissuades most from messing with me.
As going from the most beautiful girl in the world, to an ugly pig in 10 seconds after saying "no thank you" is so boring... |
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"I hear a lot of complaints from men about women too. It's just not as relevant because we're in demand."
I don’t think woman are in demand
That would say that men will settle and want to be with anyone
No one should be or think that they are in demand by anyone as that, for me, smacks of entitlement
Just my thoughts |
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"Do some people deliberately set out to do this ? See a lot of post about single guys being rude but can honestly say in 10 years on and off this site as a couple and a single woman most have shown me nothing but respect . Had the odd one or 2 but it’s certainly isn’t a regular occurrence xx"
I have had the same experience as you x
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By *HUSH-Man 3 weeks ago
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"Male bashing is just common in the swinging scene but if all guys disappear from the club scene, everyone would be complaining. This I hope, then some real change would happen "
It’s odd isn’t it.
The biggest complaint I hear from couples is that they struggle to meet single men, but we’re all desperate and will shag anything we can get ….. 🤔 |
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"I hear a lot of complaints from men about women too. It's just not as relevant because we're in demand.
I don’t think woman are in demand
That would say that men will settle and want to be with anyone
No one should be or think that they are in demand by anyone as that, for me, smacks of entitlement
Just my thoughts "
You don't think women are in demand? Are you serious?!?
I'm getting 300 messages a day. My best male friend on here gets 10 messages a day if he's lucky.
The ratios of men to women on here are absolutely horrific! |
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"I hear a lot of complaints from men about women too. It's just not as relevant because we're in demand.
I don’t think woman are in demand
That would say that men will settle and want to be with anyone
No one should be or think that they are in demand by anyone as that, for me, smacks of entitlement
Just my thoughts
You don't think women are in demand? Are you serious?!?
I'm getting 300 messages a day. My best male friend on here gets 10 messages a day if he's lucky.
The ratios of men to women on here are absolutely horrific!"
I see the ratio thing often touted about
Maybe someone can actually confirm the ratio. My fab says 35292 people on line but only says 300+ of men and woman and couples and TS
So where does the ratio figure actually come from?
This is a genuine question |
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We had a delightful little rat message us yesterday saying him and his mate are 8" and good looking, he looked like a moped thief so was immediately no, he then hurtled aload of abuse via the messages because we said no thank you.
It would seem that there are unicorn males as well as females because not one single guy has read our profile properly, few times we've been to a club on a night with guys all I can say is most but not all creep us out badly like vultures the minute anything happens they pounce cock in hand wanking away, definitely a real turn off.
We've block single guys again as the torrent of messages, e.g the classics hey guys, how are you and what you up to wanna fuck, I wanna cum on you even though it says the male deals with the profile, it's all been said before.
It's a shame as we have our kinks but vast majority are making it impossible fellas have very little decorum, it's just dick pic and cAn Iz bAnG yO whyF.
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Its not me/us it must be all the others.
If someone is having universally terrible experiences with all single men, (and whilst there may be some who are dicks) it might be worth reviewing your game plan because there are a lot of nice guys out there. |
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From a male perspective in all my years I've only had two unpalatable messages from women. Taking that aside they've all been polite and respectful. The same thing can be said for the men — whether it's on the back of a game, a forum challenge or just a message of solidarity in passing — they've been nothing but gracious and friendly. |
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