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"How do you manage yours?" Same with any other emotion, tried and tested strategies Ive learnt over the years.  | |||
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"How do you manage yours?Same with any other emotion, tried and tested strategies Ive learnt over the years. "And then you go in for the kill?  | |||
"Years of learning self control." Is it expressed in any way? | |||
"How do you manage yours?" Having got rid of the ex I don't get angry.... | |||
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"How do you manage yours?Same with any other emotion, tried and tested strategies Ive learnt over the years.
And then you go in for the kill? "Exactly. | |||
"normally go for a walk or potter in the garden and tell myself to stop being silly.." Why is it silly to feel angry? | |||
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"Not very well it seems "Is it suppressed or expressed inappropriately? | |||
"normally go for a walk or potter in the garden and tell myself to stop being silly.. Why is it silly to feel angry?" depends on the issue.. | |||
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"I go silent ............... its deadly!!!! "For you or for others? | |||
"I go silent ............... its deadly!!!! "Errr.. yeah! | |||
"How do you manage yours?Same with any other emotion, tried and tested strategies Ive learnt over the years.
And then you go in for the kill? Exactly. "I know you so well! | |||
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"Hard bear stares" Thats just evil, Marmalade Sarnies as well?  | |||
"Anger is often a secondary emotion to being hurt and sad, but it is more acceptable in society to show anger than tears of sadness. Anger management does not mean anger suppression as the pent up anger can focus inward and then lead to depression." But hurting others isn't on either. | |||
"Hard bear stares" I thought you gave hard bare stairs. | |||
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"Anger is often a secondary emotion to being hurt and sad, but it is more acceptable in society to show anger than tears of sadness. Anger management does not mean anger suppression as the pent up anger can focus inward and then lead to depression. But hurting others isn't on either." No, of course not, it is not what I meant to say. Thanks for pointing out as I did not make it very clear. Anger needs to be expressed safely so it does not end up hurting others, whether this is physically or emotionally. Some people do have very short fuses and are struggling to follow a "count to 10" but even then there are techniques that can be taught/ learnt to allow them to vent their anger safely. | |||
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"havent been angry for ages..lifes too short" I have not either - if I am it is for a short while only and then I tend to ask myself if it is worth it for that reason. | |||
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"I go silent ............... its deadly!!!! Errr.. yeah! "and then I become succint and they get it double barrelled | |||
"havent been angry for ages..lifes too short I have not either - if I am it is for a short while only and then I tend to ask myself if it is worth it for that reason. "how do you address it when it occurs.. | |||
"I very rarely get angry, trivialities in life are not worth getting too upset about....." Do you get annoyed? | |||
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"Anger is often a secondary emotion to being hurt and sad, but it is more acceptable in society to show anger than tears of sadness. Anger management does not mean anger suppression as the pent up anger can focus inward and then lead to depression." Thought provoking. | |||
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"What did you call me? *foams at mouth*" You're supposed to spit out the excess toothpaste. Seriously, are you easy to anger? | |||
"Years of learning self control."
Not good for my stress levels or bp - so I have learned to control my temper a great deal. That's not to say I never lose it but it is far less often than it used to be. | |||
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"What did you call me? *foams at mouth* You're supposed to spit out the excess toothpaste. Seriously, are you easy to anger?" I'm usually a calm person however I do love a good swearing session when I'm alone and pissed off. | |||
"How do you manage yours?" WHAT HELL HAS IT GOT TO DO WITH YOU | |||
"How do you manage yours? WHAT HELL HAS IT GOT TO DO WITH YOU "Not a thing. That's the marvellous thing about these here fora - you post stuff and strangers answer. Or not. | |||
Not often I get very angry, but if I do I put some sounds on plug my earphones in and go for a long stroll | |||
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"How do you manage yours? WHAT HELL HAS IT GOT TO DO WITH YOU
Not a thing. That's the marvellous thing about these here fora - you post stuff and strangers answer. Or not. " | |||
"I very rarely get angry, trivialities in life are not worth getting too upset about..... Do you get annoyed?" Of course, things do annoy me all the time, but I think it's how you handle that feeling of being annoyed that is all important. | |||
"havent been angry for ages..lifes too short I have not either - if I am it is for a short while only and then I tend to ask myself if it is worth it for that reason.
how do you address it when it occurs.."It depends, of course, on whether or not I feel that somebody deliberately offended/ attacked ... or whether it is more about me being hypersensitive which may be rooted in other things. Dont get me wrong, looking at oneself is not comfortable sometimes, not an easy thing to look for a deficiency in yourself when actually you are quite angry at the time. But I have learnt that taking a moment, taking a deep breath and walking away from a situation before responding really helps as it takes away (some of) the heat of the moment. | |||
 That's my tip of te day....from a very relaxed and never angry man | |||
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"We often get angry because we are not in control of a certain situation. A good way to calm ourself down is to recognise what it is that has annoyed us and then what WE are in control of, to change he situation. " | |||
"havent been angry for ages..lifes too short I have not either - if I am it is for a short while only and then I tend to ask myself if it is worth it for that reason.
how do you address it when it occurs..It depends, of course, on whether or not I feel that somebody deliberately offended/ attacked ... or whether it is more about me being hypersensitive which may be rooted in other things.
Dont get me wrong, looking at oneself is not comfortable sometimes, not an easy thing to look for a deficiency in yourself when actually you are quite angry at the time.
But I have learnt that taking a moment, taking a deep breath and walking away from a situation before responding really helps as it takes away (some of) the heat of the moment."not that different to my own way, find by taking myself away just a short distance i can look at the issue for what it actually is rather than whilst a bit heated... its a good tool if albeit a tad uncomfortable at times to be able to look at ones self.. | |||
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" its a good tool if albeit a tad uncomfortable at times to be able to look at ones self.. " Totally! It is part of evolving as a person and developing one's own self awareness I think. | |||
" its a good tool if albeit a tad uncomfortable at times to be able to look at ones self.. Totally! It is part of evolving as a person and developing one's own self awareness I think. "agreed even if am not sure what that means... | |||
" its a good tool if albeit a tad uncomfortable at times to be able to look at ones self.. Totally! It is part of evolving as a person and developing one's own self awareness I think.
agreed even if am not sure what that means... "Me neither - just thought it sounded cool | |||
"How do you manage yours? Having got rid of the ex I don't get angry...." Well said, im the same | |||
" its a good tool if albeit a tad uncomfortable at times to be able to look at ones self.. Totally! It is part of evolving as a person and developing one's own self awareness I think.
agreed even if am not sure what that means... Me neither - just thought it sounded cool "would one have to wear a kaftan at all.. | |||
" its a good tool if albeit a tad uncomfortable at times to be able to look at ones self.. Totally! It is part of evolving as a person and developing one's own self awareness I think.
agreed even if am not sure what that means... Me neither - just thought it sounded cool
would one have to wear a kaftan at all.. "THink head gear would help;-) | |||
" its a good tool if albeit a tad uncomfortable at times to be able to look at ones self.. Totally! It is part of evolving as a person and developing one's own self awareness I think.
agreed even if am not sure what that means... Me neither - just thought it sounded cool
would one have to wear a kaftan at all.. THink head gear would help;-)"that'll do.. like your thinking.. | |||
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"would one have to wear a kaftan at all.. "B.A.Robertson had hits between 1979 and 1981 in the UK Singles Chart, the first of which – "Bang Bang" – reached number 2 in August 1979. Follow-up singles "Knocked It Off", "Kool In The Kaftan" *courtesy of the cut & paste department* | |||
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"Anger is often a secondary emotion to being hurt and sad, but it is more acceptable in society to show anger than tears of sadness. ." This! Without hurt or being hurt in any form anger doesn't come in, you get angry as a reaction. | |||
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