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"Guessing people would avoid speaking to you or approaching you
Wouldn’t that be actually the opposite though? "
May be on the odd occasion, but generally it's the perceived 'out of your league' and feelings of intimidation |
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"Guessing people would avoid speaking to you or approaching you
Wouldn’t that be actually the opposite though?
May be on the odd occasion, but generally it's the perceived 'out of your league' and feelings of intimidation "
I see, makes sense when you put it that way. |
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I'm average before I start.
I have been in the situations (away from Fab) where I have been chatting to some incredibly good looking ladies in a pub/club and the same theme comes up time and again. They don't really get chatted up as much as their (less attractive) mates. They don't know why. I suspect they are being modest and guys are intimidated by their looks.
*For the record, I am usually intimidated by their looks. One of their mates will usually talk to me first, usually to ask why I have a resting bitch face and to cheer up. |
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People assuming you're vacuous, self centred and obsessed with looking good.
People assuming that anything you do you're only doing it for the attention of others.
"Out of my league."
People who are a non threatening kind of pretty are automatically assumed good. People over a certain line are automatically assumed villains.
Oh they have good looks? Well at least I'm smart / funny / interesting. As if people who look good can't have any other redeeming features.
Jobs given only because the hiring person wants to sleep with you. Jobs missed out on because you're perceived as a threat to their own position because someone higher up is perceived as the kind of sleaze who'd do the former. |
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"Guessing people would avoid speaking to you or approaching you
Wouldn’t that be actually the opposite though?
May be on the odd occasion, but generally it's the perceived 'out of your league' and feelings of intimidation "
I agree with this. Ive been told I'm intimation, cause I'm tall and so called attractive. If wearing heels, im close to 6ft. Men hardly ever approached me when I'm out. |
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It’s a nightmare, Dee. A living nightmare.
“Are you a model? Seriously, you should be. You probably win.”
“Are you the Angel Gabriel?”
“Can I have a selfie?”
Never stops. Luckily I’m humble about it. |
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By *oxy jWoman 11 weeks ago
somerset |
"I’m a book ,don’t judge me by my cover x"
but thats how life is your eyes are the first port of call you have to clear that barrier to open the book ie if you admit it or not looks are important but by far not the only thing |
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"People assuming you're vacuous, self centred and obsessed with looking good.
People assuming that anything you do you're only doing it for the attention of others.
"Out of my league."
People who are a non threatening kind of pretty are automatically assumed good. People over a certain line are automatically assumed villains.
Oh they have good looks? Well at least I'm smart / funny / interesting. As if people who look good can't have any other redeeming features.
Jobs given only because the hiring person wants to sleep with you. Jobs missed out on because you're perceived as a threat to their own position because someone higher up is perceived as the kind of sleaze who'd do the former."
Yes, I was thinking probably something along those lines. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 11 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"What are the disadvantages you can think of from being perceived good looking as per conventional beauty standards, and are there any in a first place?
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Pops in thread.
Exits rapidly...........🤦♂️ |
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"I’d like to give a detailed and insightful answer- but I’ll wait for the ugly fucker version of this  "
I know from personal experience the ugly fucker version already so was curious about this one. |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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Wow, it must be wonderful for people to find you so attractive they can't talk to you.
I seem to have the sort of face that attracts people who want to talk. Not necessarily to me but to talk endlessly or a bit too openly. |
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People assume you have no personality or are 'ugly on the inside'. They think you're arrogant unless you're embarrassingly self deprecating. If someone compliments you someone else will say "yeah but he/she/they have got greasy hair/a hairy back/can't reverse park".
People assume you have 'pretty privilege' and any of your achievements were made easy because of this.
These aren't problems I have but I have noticed that good looking people experience the above. |
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"What are the disadvantages you can think of from being perceived good looking as per conventional beauty standards, and are there any in a first place?
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Believe me the life of a fanny magnet isn’t all it cut out to be  |
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It is so subjective. What is not beautiful to one is exactly what someone else is looking for. It's often those little things that nobody else notices that might attract you to someone imo anyway.  |
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"Personally I find physical attractive people to be big heads, arrogant or insecure misfits lacking confidence for some reason "
That's a great generalisation! I've met plenty of very arrogant "non attractive" people! |
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By *avexxMan 11 weeks ago
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"It is so subjective. What is not beautiful to one is exactly what someone else is looking for. It's often those little things that nobody else notices that might attract you to someone imo anyway. "
,,,this |
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Speaking from (indirect) experience, people mauling you without so much as an introduction
I'm talking out in general public, not in a club environment
An ex of mine was stunningly handsome, like chiselled features, perfume advert kinda handsome
He was a 6 day a week gym goer - he is Portuguese as well, so has the touch of exotic about him
The amount of attention he received was debilitating for him - to the degree it made him not want to go out to bars and clubs
We had complete strangers come up and ask what he saw in me / what was he doing with me
He had issues with women at work making his professional life difficult because he rebuked their advances
He had one colleague tell him he was 'disgusting' because he fancied chubby people and not physically fit people like her
He was 'let go' albeit with a decent pay off shortly afterwards for some trumped up, unjustified error he'd apparently made
It just never added up, but work became so toxic, he just took the money and did one |
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"I feel like I want to clarify because funny how some people assumed I was asking for myself 
I hope you do consider yourself good looking "
Although I’m comfortable with how I look, I certainly don’t fit into conventional beauty standards but I’m not depreciating myself either. |
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"Personally I find physical attractive people to be big heads, arrogant or insecure misfits lacking confidence for some reason
That's a great generalisation! I've met plenty of very arrogant "non attractive" people!"
And plenty of less attractive insecure misfits too.
But that's the thing. Beautiful people have to be flawed somehow, otherwise it's not fair 💜 |
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"Personally I find physical attractive people to be big heads, arrogant or insecure misfits lacking confidence for some reason
That's a great generalisation! I've met plenty of very arrogant "non attractive" people!
And plenty of less attractive insecure misfits too.
But that's the thing. Beautiful people have to be flawed somehow, otherwise it's not fair 💜"
Yep. I'm only attractive to people who find me attractive. It's a subjective thing entirely. Loads of people rave about the likes of Jason Mamoa and co. but I don't find him (or many other "celebs") attractive, for example.
Generalisations are nonsense. |
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By (user no longer on site) 11 weeks ago
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"What are the disadvantages you can think of from being perceived good looking as per conventional beauty standards, and are there any in a first place?
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People not approaching you, or saying you'd not be interested in them because of how they see you. (I don't think I'm good looking, average as fcuk. But get that reply a fair bit] |
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By *ony MannMan 11 weeks ago
Lagos, Portugal// Andover |
"Shallow relationships , identify crisis & low self esteem (especially with age) . harassment, jealousy…… I’ve also heard that in women lack of developing skills to overcome challenges ! "
I've been told the, but I would not know, I'm just average. |
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"Blimey and people claim not to judge on looks 🤔. I guess they mean they don't judge on less attractive looks. Funny that. "
Indeed. However it doesn't really matter because "good looking people" (subjective) are just as judgy about other shit towards others in other ways (including other good looking people) so it all balances out and karma equality is restored. |
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"Blimey and people claim not to judge on looks 🤔. I guess they mean they don't judge on less attractive looks. Funny that.
Indeed. However it doesn't really matter because "good looking people" (subjective) are just as judgy about other shit towards others in other ways (including other good looking people) so it all balances out and karma equality is restored. "
Everyone is judgey I find |
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By *HUSH-Man 11 weeks ago
London |
Being banned by the Communist Party of China from entering the country because you constantly stop traffic in Beijing.
Unable to sit on your own in Church for prayer. People will fight to sit next to you because it brings them closer to God.
Cold callers flirting with you and trying to ask you out when you’re just trying to buy a life insurance policy you’ll never need.
A Harem of women trying to carry you around on a giant silk pillow like a Sphynx cat when you just want to get your 10,000 steps in.
It’s a daily struggle.
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"Blimey and people claim not to judge on looks 🤔. I guess they mean they don't judge on less attractive looks. Funny that.
Indeed. However it doesn't really matter because "good looking people" (subjective) are just as judgy about other shit towards others in other ways (including other good looking people) so it all balances out and karma equality is restored.
Everyone is judgey I find "
Some are judgy about being Judy, those people are the worst! |
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"Blimey and people claim not to judge on looks 🤔. I guess they mean they don't judge on less attractive looks. Funny that.
Indeed. However it doesn't really matter because "good looking people" (subjective) are just as judgy about other shit towards others in other ways (including other good looking people) so it all balances out and karma equality is restored.
Everyone is judgey I find
Some are judgy about being Judy, those people are the worst!"
Poor Judy.
I judge, I can't help it. I saw a woman yesterday with shorts on. I judged her to be cold and a very independent dresser |
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