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I’m currently on an aggressive cut and have lost a significant amount of weight but now the festive season is upon us I’m in a bit of a dilemma.
I have a few of nights out planned in the next few weeks on top of all the Christmas/New Year food and drink and I’m torn between saying “fuck it” and enjoying myself or taking it easy and avoiding undoing all my hard work.
I guess my question is… what do you do when breaking your diet is almost unavoidable? |
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"If it’s unavoidable……just say fuck it and embrace the carnage. Deal with the damage later. "
Usually that’s exactly what I’d do but my mindset this time around has been completely different. Other than about 3 haribos I haven’t ate or drank a single thing that wasn’t in my plan for around 3 months now and I need to try and keep that discipline going until I get where I want to be. |
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"Stick with it. When I fell off the plan, I found it difficult to get back on it. Set yourself very exact treat times (eg Christmas day) and don't stray from it. "
I think the only one where I’ve got no choice but to go overboard is my work night out, other than that I could relax the diet a bit rather than make a pig of myself. |
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By *agic.MMan 12 weeks ago
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If you think you can have a day or two of eating all the tasty Christmas food and than immediately jump back on your diet, it really wouldn't affect your progress that much. But if you think it will make you loose your discipline and motivation and make you spiral out of control with your diet, than best avoided  . |
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"If you think you can have a day or two of eating all the tasty Christmas food and than immediately jump back on your diet, it really wouldn't affect your progress that much. But if you think it will make you loose your discipline and motivation and make you spiral out of control with your diet, than best avoided . "
This is my problem. I’ll have a day off then think meh I’ve fucked it up now and eat everything in sight for 2 weeks 🤣. I need to get out of that mindset! |
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"If you think you can have a day or two of eating all the tasty Christmas food and than immediately jump back on your diet, it really wouldn't affect your progress that much. But if you think it will make you loose your discipline and motivation and make you spiral out of control with your diet, than best avoided . "
That’s the problem. I genuinely don’t know how I’ll be. I’ve never been this strict before so I have no idea what I’ll be like if I have a few days off plan. |
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"If you think you can have a day or two of eating all the tasty Christmas food and than immediately jump back on your diet, it really wouldn't affect your progress that much. But if you think it will make you loose your discipline and motivation and make you spiral out of control with your diet, than best avoided .
This is my problem. I’ll have a day off then think meh I’ve fucked it up now and eat everything in sight for 2 weeks 🤣. I need to get out of that mindset!"
When the cheat day turns into a cheat month. |
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First of all… well done on your weight loss … that’s an amazing achievement … fantastic xxx
I had a similar journey to you a few years ago … but sadly have let things slip of late … I need to get back on the bike physically, and metaphorically.
Darling, enjoy yourself, and let your hair down a bit … we all need it - just enjoy them for the treat they are … just do t mene a habit of it xx
R xxx |
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"I’m currently on an aggressive cut and have lost a significant amount of weight but now the festive season is upon us I’m in a bit of a dilemma.
I have a few of nights out planned in the next few weeks on top of all the Christmas/New Year food and drink and I’m torn between saying “fuck it” and enjoying myself or taking it easy and avoiding undoing all my hard work.
I guess my question is… what do you do when breaking your diet is almost unavoidable?"
I just recently had a friend who died, never really abused himself, my thoughts for a long time I’ve always been live your life because you’re going to die anyway, have a good Christmas and worry about it afterwards, I hope I’m not too morbid for this of the morning |
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"First of all… well done on your weight loss … that’s an amazing achievement … fantastic xxx
I had a similar journey to you a few years ago … but sadly have let things slip of late … I need to get back on the bike physically, and metaphorically.
Darling, enjoy yourself, and let your hair down a bit … we all need it - just enjoy them for the treat they are … just do t mene a habit of it xx
R xxx "
Thanks. The gym is only closed on Christmas Day so my training will still be consistent I’m just really worried about falling back into the habits that got me fat in the first place. |
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"I’m currently on an aggressive cut and have lost a significant amount of weight but now the festive season is upon us I’m in a bit of a dilemma.
I have a few of nights out planned in the next few weeks on top of all the Christmas/New Year food and drink and I’m torn between saying “fuck it” and enjoying myself or taking it easy and avoiding undoing all my hard work.
I guess my question is… what do you do when breaking your diet is almost unavoidable?
I just recently had a friend who died, never really abused himself, my thoughts for a long time I’ve always been live your life because you’re going to die anyway, have a good Christmas and worry about it afterwards, I hope I’m not too morbid for this of the morning"
I’m sorry for your loss and I get that perspective but I feel I’d enjoy my life a lot more if I was healthier and looked better. |
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By *vaRose43Woman 12 weeks ago
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Is there a happy medium?
You mentioned in your OP about sticking to plan until you hit your target weight… that sounds really restrictive, what are you going to do when you get there? If there is a way to enjoy the foods you love while still being active, healthy and losing weight I’d look at that. |
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"In preparation for our first trip out in this new lifestyle (went to BGHS) we cut out booze for 8 weeks. The weight loss was OK, the inches loss was phenomenal."
I’ve lost a decent amount of weight and a good 6 inches from my waist. I haven’t had a drop to drink since September. |
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Don’t measure your progress over a day - do it over a longer period like a week.
If you are measuring daily and you have a bad couple of days then it is easy to just give up - you feel like you have “failed” and getting back into the habit is hard. If you measure what you eat over a week then a couple of days is just a blip - that week might be slightly higher than normal but you know you can make the following week work. Consistency is key. |
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"Is there a happy medium?
You mentioned in your OP about sticking to plan until you hit your target weight… that sounds really restrictive, what are you going to do when you get there? If there is a way to enjoy the foods you love while still being active, healthy and losing weight I’d look at that. "
I chose an aggressive cut to get where I need to be in the shortest possible time so most of the foods I enjoy have been cut out completely. Once I get there I’ll relax it a bit and eat at maintenance for a month or two and then bulk to build muscle so I can enjoy a bit more freedom then. |
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"Don’t measure your progress over a day - do it over a longer period like a week.
If you are measuring daily and you have a bad couple of days then it is easy to just give up - you feel like you have “failed” and getting back into the habit is hard. If you measure what you eat over a week then a couple of days is just a blip - that week might be slightly higher than normal but you know you can make the following week work. Consistency is key."
I do track daily but that’s just so I can see what causes fluctuations in weight so I don’t beat myself up in future if my weight is up. It might be beneficial to track weekly over the Christmas period so I don’t completely lose my shit when I’m inevitably a couple of kg up after one or two days off plan. |
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"Stay strict until Christmas eve, eat what you want Christmas day feel like shit the next day and it will make you want to get back on the diet asap! "
That’s not a bad shout. The sugar rush, alcohol and food coma will make me wish I’d stayed on plan. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 12 weeks ago
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My diet is whatever is in the cupboard/fridge/freezer when I'm hungry.
I've never really been a healthy eater and have always had one of those metabolisms where I can eat stuff and not put loads of weight on.
I find not having to focus on a specific diet to be very stress relieving. 🤷♂️ |
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By *HUSH-Man 12 weeks ago
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"If you think you can have a day or two of eating all the tasty Christmas food and than immediately jump back on your diet, it really wouldn't affect your progress that much. But if you think it will make you loose your discipline and motivation and make you spiral out of control with your diet, than best avoided . "
This.
I enjoy Christmas eve, Christmas Day and Boxing Day. I then sling what ever junk I have left in the work cafeteria and be done with it. |
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"My diet is whatever is in the cupboard/fridge/freezer when I'm hungry.
I've never really been a healthy eater and have always had one of those metabolisms where I can eat stuff and not put loads of weight on.
I find not having to focus on a specific diet to be very stress relieving. 🤷♂️"
I wish it was that easy for me. I just look at food and put half a stone on. I’ll have to eat pretty strict for the rest of my life if I want to avoid being fat and having the health problems that come with it. |
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"If you think you can have a day or two of eating all the tasty Christmas food and than immediately jump back on your diet, it really wouldn't affect your progress that much. But if you think it will make you loose your discipline and motivation and make you spiral out of control with your diet, than best avoided .
This.
I enjoy Christmas eve, Christmas Day and Boxing Day. I then sling what ever junk I have left in the work cafeteria and be done with it."
This is probably the best solution. Plan certain days to eat a bit more and stay on plan for the rest of the festive season. |
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By *aizyWoman 12 weeks ago
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"If you think you can have a day or two of eating all the tasty Christmas food and than immediately jump back on your diet, it really wouldn't affect your progress that much. But if you think it will make you loose your discipline and motivation and make you spiral out of control with your diet, than best avoided .
This.
I enjoy Christmas eve, Christmas Day and Boxing Day. I then sling what ever junk I have left in the work cafeteria and be done with it.
This is probably the best solution. Plan certain days to eat a bit more and stay on plan for the rest of the festive season."
Yes, give yourself a couple of days off, enjoy yourself. |
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By *929Man 12 weeks ago
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Just tell yourself you are having a mini bulk for 2 weeks same way people do mini cuts during bulking up to re-sensitise the body and enjoy your Christmas mate. You can probably loss whatever you gain in over Christmas in a few weeks and be right back on track
Other than that I can be of no help I eat kebabs an Chinese and whatever else I desire every week and still keep abs |
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Go and have fun, just not to excess.
If you're out for a meal, pick leaner or lower carb options.
If you're drinking and trying to keep the weight off vodka lime and soda (but get a pint) the soda will bloat you, but that's only temporary, and vodka is pretty low in carbs and calories. Stay clear of cocktails as a lot of them will have sugar syrup in them. |
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"If you think you can have a day or two of eating all the tasty Christmas food and than immediately jump back on your diet, it really wouldn't affect your progress that much. But if you think it will make you loose your discipline and motivation and make you spiral out of control with your diet, than best avoided .
This.
I enjoy Christmas eve, Christmas Day and Boxing Day. I then sling what ever junk I have left in the work cafeteria and be done with it.
This is probably the best solution. Plan certain days to eat a bit more and stay on plan for the rest of the festive season.
Yes, give yourself a couple of days off, enjoy yourself."
Straight back on it the day after Boxing Day until New Year’s Eve and then again on New Year’s Day. |
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"Go and have fun, just not to excess.
If you're out for a meal, pick leaner or lower carb options.
If you're drinking and trying to keep the weight off vodka lime and soda (but get a pint) the soda will bloat you, but that's only temporary, and vodka is pretty low in carbs and calories. Stay clear of cocktails as a lot of them will have sugar syrup in them."
Solid advice, thanks. |
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"Just tell yourself you are having a mini bulk for 2 weeks same way people do mini cuts during bulking up to re-sensitise the body and enjoy your Christmas mate. You can probably loss whatever you gain in over Christmas in a few weeks and be right back on track
Other than that I can be of no help I eat kebabs an Chinese and whatever else I desire every week and still keep abs "
I can’t go too overboard as I plan to be where I want to be by the end of March and start a bulk then. I think I need another 10kg off to be there or there abouts. |
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By *HUSH-Man 12 weeks ago
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"Just tell yourself you are having a mini bulk for 2 weeks same way people do mini cuts during bulking up to re-sensitise the body and enjoy your Christmas mate. You can probably loss whatever you gain in over Christmas in a few weeks and be right back on track
Other than that I can be of no help I eat kebabs an Chinese and whatever else I desire every week and still keep abs
I can’t go too overboard as I plan to be where I want to be by the end of March and start a bulk then. I think I need another 10kg off to be there or there abouts."
I would say be an absolute savage and have Christmas Day off and that’s it. Go on Geordie hit your goal! That’s going to be so much more satisfying 💪 you can celebrate with a kebab after. |
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"Stay strict until Christmas eve, eat what you want Christmas day feel like shit the next day and it will make you want to get back on the diet asap! "
I can't see a couple of slices of smoked salmon making me put on weight over Christmas.
That is effectively all my friend and I have while keeping each other company for a few hours on this grossly over hyped day of the year... |
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By *hagTonightMan 12 weeks ago
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What I do during the festive periods if I am on a cut, is to use calorie cycling, so after few days with high calories. I use 3 or 4 low days then at the end of the week the total calories would still match the line for weight loss too  |
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It's important to let yourself go every now and again and enjoy yourself.
Look at me. I used to be fairly athletic and happy. Now I am a fat cunt and really happy.
One day I'll get back on the wagon and become miserable again watching what I eat. Probably after Christmas.
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"If it’s unavoidable……just say fuck it and embrace the carnage. Deal with the damage later.
Usually that’s exactly what I’d do but my mindset this time around has been completely different. Other than about 3 haribos I haven’t ate or drank a single thing that wasn’t in my plan for around 3 months now and I need to try and keep that discipline going until I get where I want to be."
Apologies if this has already been said but...didn't you just answer your own question? |
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"Just tell yourself you are having a mini bulk for 2 weeks same way people do mini cuts during bulking up to re-sensitise the body and enjoy your Christmas mate. You can probably loss whatever you gain in over Christmas in a few weeks and be right back on track
Other than that I can be of no help I eat kebabs an Chinese and whatever else I desire every week and still keep abs
I can’t go too overboard as I plan to be where I want to be by the end of March and start a bulk then. I think I need another 10kg off to be there or there abouts.
I would say be an absolute savage and have Christmas Day off and that’s it. Go on Geordie hit your goal! That’s going to be so much more satisfying 💪 you can celebrate with a kebab after."
Thanks for the motivation 💪🏾 |
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"If it's unavoidable, I make a recovery plan and live life as it should be lived"
I know a couple of days won’t make me put on much weight at all it’s the getting back on plan that I’m worried about. |
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"If it's a short lapse it won't have much effect in my experience. Changing it up a bit is quite good for weight loss. "
Cheat meals have helped in the past when I’ve hit a wall but the weight is still coming off relatively fast so that’s why I’m reluctant to eat over maintenance for more than a day or two. |
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"What I do during the festive periods if I am on a cut, is to use calorie cycling, so after few days with high calories. I use 3 or 4 low days then at the end of the week the total calories would still match the line for weight loss too "
This is probably the most logical answer and I can’t believe I didn’t think of it. As long as I’m not over maintenance over the course of the week my weight shouldn’t go up at all. I don’t necessarily need to be in a deficit. |
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"If it’s unavoidable……just say fuck it and embrace the carnage. Deal with the damage later.
Usually that’s exactly what I’d do but my mindset this time around has been completely different. Other than about 3 haribos I haven’t ate or drank a single thing that wasn’t in my plan for around 3 months now and I need to try and keep that discipline going until I get where I want to be.
Apologies if this has already been said but...didn't you just answer your own question? "
I guess I did. |
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By *hiversMan 12 weeks ago
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A day or two is fine, you won't do much damage. Just hop back on the diet afterwards. Only advice would be to not over correct with additional cardio or an aggressive deficit - it's not needed and can trigger bad habits... |
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"The irony is that many of the threads about 'Ah poor me I'm not having any sex' appear to feature profiles showing an obsession with cultivating 'abs'!"
Luckily I have no problems in the getting sex department. I’m doing this for me and me only. A few things have happened in my life recently that made me want to be healthier and I’ve already surpassed my initial target so I decided to keep going. |
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"A day or two is fine, you won't do much damage. Just hop back on the diet afterwards. Only advice would be to not over correct with additional cardio or an aggressive deficit - it's not needed and can trigger bad habits..."
I agree with that. I don’t punish myself if my weight is slightly up. I just stick to what I’m doing because it’s working well so far. |
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